Dating has transformed quite a lot over the past few decades, but one thing has remained the same – the nerves. For many of us going on a date with someone for the first time can be an anxiety-inducing affair regardless of whether you've known your prospective significant other for a while or you just matched with him or her on Tinder.

There are few things in life that are more attractive than confidence, so how can you make sure you stay self-assured throughout your dating life?



1. Make Sure You Feel Comfortable

When it comes to dating there should always be a healthy dose of compromise, but this doesn't mean that you should put up with anything that makes you feel so uncomfortable that it knocks your confidence. Wear what you want to wear, put on your favourite fragrance and ensure the date takes place somewhere you're happy to go.

2. Take Control

If you feel more comfortable when you have control of the situation, why not take your date into your own hands. Even if you don't feel particularly confident about your dating finesse, there's nothing more attractive for some people than a person who can completely take control.

3. Watch Out For Body Language

Some people just aren't good with words but your partner's silence could hurt your confidence, so it's a good idea to watch your date's body language. Some gestures are obvious, like a hand on a leg or leaning in closely, whilst others are a little subtler. It has been suggested that anything from the lifting of an eyebrow to the direction of your significant other's feet could be tell-tale signs they like you. Once you begin to notice a positive reaction, you're sure to gain more confidence.

4. Live in The Moment

If you're feeling insecure whilst on a date then chances are you won't be paying full attention to what is actually happening. This can be a particular problem before or after a date when we let ourselves relive all of our perceived mistakes and make ourselves feel unreasonably nervous. Worse still, not only are we susceptible to thinking the worst is going to occur, we can also set ourselves up for disappointment by placing high expectations on our date. Instead of focusing on all of the possibilities, focus on what is real in the moment. This does take a lot of practice but once you get used to it you'll be able to cultivate confidence in the situation almost instantly.

5. Keep A Date Journal

If after everything you're still not a confident dater, it might be time to start addressing the root causes. Begin a journal that explores why the dating environment makes you feel apprehensive and attempt to provide yourself with little goals on each date. This could be as small as asking a question you would usually be too nervous to ask or as large as doing a dance on a table, it's entirely up to you!

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Online crime and identity theft is nothing new – but what is shocking is the increasingly young age of alleged hackers accused of tapping into some of the world's highest-profile online organisations.

A 15-year-old youth has been arrested in connection with a recent cyber-attack on UK communications giant TalkTalk, which saw almost 157,000 customers' personal details accessed and more than 15,000 bank account details stolen. The alleged hacker, from Northern Ireland, was one of four people detained under the Computer Misuse Act. He was released on bail after being interviewed on suspicion of offences against the telephone and broadband provider.

A similar scenario has erupted in the United States following allegations that the email account of Central Intelligence Agency director John Brennan was hacked by a 13-year-old high school student. The FBI is investigating after it was alleged the teenager accessed emails containing personal information, including Social Security numbers, of more than a dozen high-ranking American intelligence officials. It was claimed some of the hacked information was posted on social networking site Twitter.

With incidents of hi-tech crimes allegedly perpetrated by young offenders hitting the headlines, the question arises of how to deal with those who carry out such a serious criminal offence.

In the UK, the Youth Offending Team (YOT) – set up under the 1998 Crime and Disorder Act – deals with young offenders aged under 18 years. A multi-agency team, co-ordinated by a local authority and overseen by the Youth Justice Board, it attempts to prevent incarceration. YOTs supervise young people who are serving community sentences and sometimes organises meetings between offenders and their victims, encouraging an apology and reparation.

The YOT also arranges for an appropriate adult to accompany to the police station those youths aged under 17 years who have been arrested to advise the young person.

A common punishment meted out to young offenders in the UK is an Anti-Social Behaviour Order or ASBO, a civil order designed to protect the public from harassment, distress or alarm. Anyone aged over ten years can be subject to an ASBO, which prohibits them from doing certain things, such as spending time with known trouble-makers, or going to certain places. Breaking an ASBO is a criminal offence.

YOT jobs, especially in today's climate, are challenging and mean taking a non-judgmental approach to young offenders. It also means adapting to changes in the type of youth crime in the 21st century, as young people have the power to bring down national companies – and even the government – by hacking. In February 2015, the APPG Inquiry into Anti-Semitism asked the Crown Prosecution Service to look into Internet ASBOs, which would ban offenders from social networking sites and hiding behind fake identities. The inquiry was aimed at combating online racist abuse of Jewish people, but with an increase in hacking, the CPS may have to examine whether prevention orders could be further imposed to combat hi-tech crimes.

Many entrepreneurs, secretly or otherwise, wish to become venture capitalists (VC) because it's considered a stimulating job. Most VCs control substantial amounts of money and have great autonomy about how they invest it. They may not be tied down to a nine-to-five job, and the best part is they get to bestow financial gifts on worthy entrepreneurs. Successful venture capitalists such as Wes Edens and others can share in the success of many different financial endeavors.

What is a Venture Capitalist?

A VC is a private investor who provides the money to business ventures that he or she believes have great potential to make a profit. In some cases, they demand 50 percent or more ownership, so they can exercise control of the company. This is to offset any risk they may face. They may also provide management expertise and an opening into the industry with business connections the company would otherwise not had. Venture capitalists plan to bring the company to its initial public offering (IPO), so the VC can sell his or her shares at a huge profit and get out of the company.

How to Become a Venture Capitalist

To become a VC, it's important to have the operational experience required to take a company from its start-up phase through to the point where it has its first IPO. Today, many VCs are former entrepreneurs who are sometimes involved in many start-ups. Called serial entrepreneurs, they have the experience and expertise to assess the company's value proposition and the accessibility and size of the company's market opportunity.

A venture capitalist must have:

  • Education – VCs must have an understanding of elementary business skills. They will need to judge if a company is a fruitful opportunity. This means they need knowledge of the basics of accounting, business plans and risk management.
  • Experience – VCs also need a favorable resume that shows real time experience working with start-ups.
  • Making money – VCs must know how to make money. Usually through management fees and return on investment.
  • Networking – VCs need to have a network of contacts with other VCs. This may take time, but is essential, and the VC will gradually build up a productive network of associates.

The Advantages of Venture Capitalist Financing

The main advantage of venture capital is the financing that allows the company to expand. The company may not be able to get this kind of money from a bank loan or other source. This is especially important for start-ups because they don't have a history of success, but do have a lot of up-front expenses. Because they believe in the possible success of the company, venture capitalists also shoulder a lot if the company's obligations and risks, unlike a bank loan.

Along with the money, VCs give financial and industry advice and expertise. In many cases, the VC is appointed as a member of the company's board, so the VC firm has intimate involvement in the workings of the company.

Loss of control of the company is perceived as the greatest disadvantage of venture capitalist financing. The VC will have restrictions and stipulations about the company's management team, salaries and other things. The VC will constantly scrutinize all of the business operations. These oversights may vary depending on the terms of the venture capitalist deal. However, some people consider the so-called disadvantages as just another advantage.

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