Dating has transformed quite a lot over the past few decades, but one thing has remained the same – the nerves. For many of us going on a date with someone for the first time can be an anxiety-inducing affair regardless of whether you've known your prospective significant other for a while or you just matched with him or her on Tinder.
There are few things in life that are more attractive than confidence, so how can you make sure you stay self-assured throughout your dating life?
1. Make Sure You Feel Comfortable
When it comes to dating there should always be a healthy dose of compromise, but this doesn't mean that you should put up with anything that makes you feel so uncomfortable that it knocks your confidence. Wear what you want to wear, put on your favourite fragrance and ensure the date takes place somewhere you're happy to go.
2. Take Control
If you feel more comfortable when you have control of the situation, why not take your date into your own hands. Even if you don't feel particularly confident about your dating finesse, there's nothing more attractive for some people than a person who can completely take control.
3. Watch Out For Body Language
Some people just aren't good with words but your partner's silence could hurt your confidence, so it's a good idea to watch your date's body language. Some gestures are obvious, like a hand on a leg or leaning in closely, whilst others are a little subtler. It has been suggested that anything from the lifting of an eyebrow to the direction of your significant other's feet could be tell-tale signs they like you. Once you begin to notice a positive reaction, you're sure to gain more confidence.
4. Live in The Moment
If you're feeling insecure whilst on a date then chances are you won't be paying full attention to what is actually happening. This can be a particular problem before or after a date when we let ourselves relive all of our perceived mistakes and make ourselves feel unreasonably nervous. Worse still, not only are we susceptible to thinking the worst is going to occur, we can also set ourselves up for disappointment by placing high expectations on our date. Instead of focusing on all of the possibilities, focus on what is real in the moment. This does take a lot of practice but once you get used to it you'll be able to cultivate confidence in the situation almost instantly.
5. Keep A Date Journal
If after everything you're still not a confident dater, it might be time to start addressing the root causes. Begin a journal that explores why the dating environment makes you feel apprehensive and attempt to provide yourself with little goals on each date. This could be as small as asking a question you would usually be too nervous to ask or as large as doing a dance on a table, it's entirely up to you!