10 Ideas to Stay Connected to Your Partner

by Kelly Sajonia on · 8 comments


"I miss you, sweetie."

This was a comment my fiancé made today. He doesn't mean he misses seeing me, but rather he is feeling disconnected. It has been a hectic week so far and, as he put it, this week feels like we are just passing in a hall, but not connecting.

He's right; it's how I feel as well. Chores, tending to our kids, dinner prep, and work, all attributed to this. Arriving home from teaching at 10:30 last night after working an 11-hour day didn't help either. I am not worried though because the fiancé and I know the formula for success to keep our relationship healthy. It's simple, actually:

Do the work necessary to keep the relationship on track.

Last weekend, for example, we had a kid-free, relaxed weekend to reenergize our relationship after the busy workweek last week. We were slow to get up in the morning, went to two movies, had interruption-free conversations (hard with four kids at home), ate out at great restaurants, enjoyed cooking together, and watched hockey. To us, it was perfect.

Realistically, it's not always possible to carve out that much alone time for most busy couples.

Here are some quick, easy ways to do the work to stay connected when life gets busy:

  1. Place a love note in a briefcase or coat pocket.
  2. Reach out in the middle of the day with an I-love-you text or email. Better yet, a quick call.
  3. Do something unexpected.
  4. Establish a weekly in-home date night. It could be watching a video, seeing your favorite TV show, or having a later dinner without the kids.
  5. When you have that moment to connect, give all of your attention to your partner (i.e., no electronic devices)
  6. Wake up ten minutes earlier to snuggle before the day begins.
  7. Email a link to a YouTube video of a special song you both love.
  8. Slow dance in the middle of the living room.
  9. Get up early enough to see the sun rise together before going to work.
  10. Ask about the other's day, and listen attentively.

Please share: what are the small ways you work to keep your relationship fresh and healthy?

by Kelly Sajonia

Kelly Sajonia is a writer for many sites, but spends most of her time writing for her award-winning blog Naked Girl in a Dress. Her inspirational blog celebrates rediscovering life and love at any age. Kelly also has a full service social media marketing business, runs a social media site for writers, teaches blogging, and occasionally takes a professional photography gig.
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Jordan January 25, 2013 at 12:28 pm

Yeah, good post. Even small things matter! Thanks 🙂


Kelly Sajonia January 28, 2013 at 11:26 am

They do, Jordan. Thank you for the kind words on my post this month.
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Jordan January 28, 2013 at 12:47 pm

Absolutely Kelly!


Lance January 28, 2013 at 12:15 pm

I’m married so 5, 6, and 10 are right on every time.

I’m low maintenance on the big stuff. But the small things I need for her to give me as much as she can. The important thing to show, not just say, your sig other is your best friend. My wife likes to say, “one day these kids will be gone and I want you to want it to be just you and me”. So many couples don’t look ahead to when noses don’t have to wiped or ballgames don’t have to be team parented or whatever.

good write, Kelly.
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Kelly Sajonia January 28, 2013 at 1:02 pm

Thank you, Lance! When I was dating again, I would think about each man I would go on a date with and think, will I be happy with him in retirement years? Will he be fun, dependable, interesting? It’s important to marry your best friend.

Thanks for sharing your wise words in your comment.
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Kyndl January 28, 2013 at 4:40 pm

I enjoyed this Kelly. My wife loves it when I talk to her in my baby voice. It’s silly but so is listening to her talk back in the same way. When your married, it’s always tough having to practice that one flesh mentality. I really love how we work hard to get to that place and then we’re rewarded in so many ways. I liked #9.


Kelly Sajonia January 29, 2013 at 10:55 am

Thank you, Kyndl. I am so happy you and your wife are in a great place in the relationship. Enjoy the rewards from doing the work together!
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