Comments on: Regrets

By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 10:17:11 +0000

@Sel – I hope your time back at home has been filled with good moments, and that regret is something that has not crept in.

@x – Thanks much for stopping by.

By: x

Tue, 16 Feb 2010 06:56:32 +0000

Intelligent blog man i wish you well.

By: sel

sel — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 09:50:56 +0000

I am scared that i will regret going back home (AU) to live after spending so much time in the US.
I’m scared of not knowing if i have made a mistake. But i guess you have to live there in order to make such a judgement.
Im flying out next week wish me luck people.
Thank you…………

By: Lance

Lance — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 02:12:09 +0000

Jenny – It does take time, but letting go of regrets and moving on can be very freeing. And in freeing ourselves from these regrets, we open ourselves up to new possibilities that lie in front of us.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 19:36:19 +0000

So many regrets, so little time. I believe that is how the world is living right now, people are too busy rushing from here to there that when things come up, they abstain from them and later are kicking themselves for not doing it. I've done this countless times and of course I have a lot of regrets, especially when it comes to past friendships and other relationships. Things have failed miserably and I have come to regret a lot of things. I know I need to work on letting go and I am, but it takes time. Jennys last blog post..Moments

By: Lance

Lance — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 13:02:26 +0000

Grace, Wonderment – that’s a nice way to look at it. Because we can never know what would have happened had we chose some different path.

By: Grace

Grace — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 23:48:59 +0000

With any fork in the road always comes relinquishment. We cannot go both directions simultaneously, and even if we backtrack at a future date, that other fork has also changed with time. With me it is not so much regret as wonderment. What would have happened if I'd zigged instead of zagged? Not a better or a worse path, but just an entrance into a different reality. Thanks for getting me to think! G. Graces last blog post..The 5 minute shift that saves brain cells

By: Lance

Lance — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 21:36:09 +0000

@Dave – Thanks for sharing that great Rocky quote – it rings true with this. We will not have a perfect life – and it’s in how we handle the mistakes, regrets, low points that can define how we view our present and future…

@Chris – “In the end it’s about moving forward not looking back.” – very wise words Chris! We can’t change the past. We can learn from it and move forward.

@Zandria – That’s really a great attitude to have, focusing on the positives. By doing that, we keep ourselves positive. And, by acknowledging our negatives, we can learn and move on from them.

@FitMom – Yes! If we can all do that, then even when we make mistakes along the way (we will) – we just know that it’s a learning point for us in the life we desire!

@Bamboo Forest – I think part of it just comes from the wording. What I call regrets, someone else might call mistakes. We all have made mistakes. And some we wish we hadn’t. That might be called regret by some. Others, just see it as a mistake. In either case, you’re right – we acknowledge, learn, and move on. And there is much good that can come from going through this process…

@Sharon – There is much power in the “now”. It is all we can be sure we have. The past is behind us, and the future is not guaranteed. And, it would be a much better world, if we all took a belief that we don’t know how much time we have left on this earth – because we would likely focus more on what truly matters – what you touched upon – treating others with more respect and love.

By: sharon

sharon — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 18:39:42 +0000

You nailed it here Lance! What you have shared resonates with me, and I also wrote about the same thing in a post titled The Power of Now. The past is history and the future is guaranteed to none of us. Someone once said ‘live each day as if it were your last’. If we did that, not only would we treat each moment as special, we would be at our peak perfomance. We would aim to do the best to our neighbours, kids and ultimately make the world a better place. Thanks for sharing, great post!

By: Bamboo Forest

Bamboo Forest — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 17:19:07 +0000

The notion that one should have no regrets, to me, is simply an act of being delusional. Particularly regrets in the realm of things that hurt others. In my opinion, it isn't noble to try to believe in the notion of no regrets. Nobility instead, would be acknowledging what was done foolishly in the past, regretting it and then moving on. To regret doesn't mean to be stuck in the past. It just means you acknowledge a better choice could have been made. Dwelling on the past, alternatively, is living in the past. Bamboo Forests last blog post..7 Things That Happen in Movies - But Probably Not to You

By: FitMom

FitMom — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 16:37:32 +0000

Focusing on living passionately daily. Finding the things in life that truly make me happy and keep me smiling is what I'm after. FitMoms last blog post..Lean up with these healthy tips

By: Zandria

Zandria — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 16:35:30 +0000

Great post, Lance. You're absolutely right -- it's okay to have regrets about certain things. I try to look at the positives that have happened in my life even when I wish I'd made a different decision, but it makes sense that recognizing the negatives will maybe help me avoid that same situation in the future. Zandrias last blog post..I’m Going to BlogHer DC

By: chris

chris — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 14:22:24 +0000

I've regret not pursuing my tennis career more passionately but because of the choices that I made, I ended up with a great family. I guess everything is relative. In the end it's about moving forward not looking back. chriss last blog post..GUT CHECK!

By: Dave Jones, CPA

Dave Jones, CPA — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 13:42:54 +0000

Regrets, guilt, etc. are all negative emotions that cause stress in our lives. Yes, we are all human and are going to have many regrets as we go through life. Even now at 43, I have things I look back on and regret from just last year. The funny thing about life, I bet at 63, I'll have things that I look back on and regret from the time as was 43 to 63. Regrets, mistakes, whatever we call them have happened and will happen in the future, the key is being able to learn from them and let go. "......its not how hard you hit, its how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward....." - Rocky Balboa Dave Jones, CPAs last blog post..Dave’s Top Ten Quotes

By: Lance

Lance — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 09:57:05 +0000

@Sharon – We have unlimited capability, but limited time and resources — yes, very true Sharon. We can only do so much. That’s a good point to remember. And, so then – it’s important that we choose what matters most to us.

@Mike – You said that so well Mike – don’t limit ourselves by our past. Our present and our future do NOT need to be predicated by what has occurred in our past. Whatever that may include…

@Leanne – Yes, it can be very freeing to just let go of any regrets you have – see them as learning experiences – and move on. The past is gone. While it was integral in creating who we are today, our past does not need to become our present or our future… I hope you’re feeling better quickly Leanne.