Comments on: A Simple Holiday and Life Hack

By: Words of Wisdom and Peace | Principles for Peace

Words of Wisdom and Peace | Principles for Peace — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 17:38:46 +0000

[...] power to wound.” [learning the proper way to be assertive and applying it along with the "you" rule is [...]

By: Lance

Lance — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 21:53:52 +0000

Dot, that’s exactly it – the blaming that comes with this language use! If we avoid it, people become much less defensive…

By: Dot

Dot — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 20:19:21 +0000

@Stacey / Create a Balance already said what I had to say. Psychologists advise using that structure in relationships to avoid blaming and take responsibility for oneself. Dot´s last blog post..This and That

By: 6 Ways to Compliment Someone | Principles for Peace

6 Ways to Compliment Someone | Principles for Peace — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 22:14:54 +0000

[...] to great heights. The inspiration for this post came after writing a guest post about the “You Rule” for Lance at The Jungle of Life. (If you haven’t read it yet, the readers thought it [...]

By: Lance

Lance — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 01:30:06 +0000

@Meow – Thank you, and the credit for this article goes to Jennifer, who was my guest poster for the day. She did a great job, didn’t she! Check out Jennifer’s great stuff at http://www.principlesforpeace.com/ .

By: Meow

Meow — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 16:36:05 +0000

What an enlightening post, Lance!! You really made me sit back & introspect. There's so much I need to improve upon. Thanks for the kind reminder. I visited your blog for the first time today but I am going to come back to it daily(hopefully) from now on..Really loved it!! Blessed Be, Meow Meow´s last blog post..The Clock's Ticking

By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 03:56:32 +0000

@Liara – What a wonderful story to share, Liara. And what a truly wonderful gift for you to share! Savoring the “now” – that is such an important thing to remember – because, really, that’s all that’s guaranteed. Thank you, Liara, for sharing this today…

By: Liara Covert

Liara Covert — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 02:34:50 +0000

This festive season, I am assisting someone who is seriously ill. This redefines 'emotional pain' in the context of real-life experience. I feel blessed to know this person and also privileged to be by her side, come what may at this stage of her physical journey. The nature of telling her what to do never occurred to me. I choose to be where I am our of love, empathy and compassion. Holidays take a different tone when you sense it is tiring for someone to brush their teeth or do simple things other people take for granted. I encourage everyone to savor the now, whatever you are doing, thinking or feelings. It is valuable. Liara Covert´s last blog post..7 Ideas to make the most of where you are

By: Lance

Lance — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 02:56:22 +0000

@Avtcoach – Thank you! I’ve been realizing in the last few days (since Jennifer wrote this) how much I don’t realize the meaning behind the words I’m saying. That has been a real eye-opener for me. And a powerful lesson in the impact our words can have…

By: avtcoach

avtcoach — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 06:31:42 +0000

Lance, very nice choice for a guest post!! and Jennifer YOU hit it just right, our words are important. I have had to learn this in a variety of ways recently and the YOU does get us into trouble usually without meaning to. YOU make a great point and I will work hard to notice how many YOUs I USE this week!! Great post! avtcoach´s last blog post..Symbols of Christmas Past

By: Lance

Lance — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 00:25:32 +0000

@GroundedFitness – I realized, too, after reading this that I am really unaware of what I’m really saying. In fact, after reading Stacey Shipman’s commenta about the word “but” – I found myself wanting to use it (but being aware because of her comment I’d just read) – and it made me wonder – how often do I do this in spoken conversation – both the use of the word “but” and “you” in non-complimentary terms. You’re right, Kelly, it’s so easy to not even be aware of what we’re portraying in our spoken word….

@Cath – Like I mentioned to Kelly, above – I, too, have found myself being more aware of what I’m saying. Jennifer did good in making us be more conscious of what we’re really saying. And that’s a win-win!

@Stacey/Create A Balance – That’s great, and I think you’re at the place Jennifer is talking about getting to. And, isn’t that a great place to be – where you can openly share your feelings instead of just blaming others!

By: Stacey / Create a Balance

Stacey / Create a Balance — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 20:57:29 +0000

A long time ago I learned to structure sentences using "When you…I feel…because…". It can also be turned around to start w/ "I feel...when you....because". The point is to focus on your feelings versus the other person's behavior. Stacey / Create a Balance´s last blog post..Celebrate Your Life Friday!

By: Cath Lawson

Cath Lawson — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 18:13:21 +0000

Hi Jennifer – It’s nice to see you guest posting on here. I’ve been working on this, since you first mentioned it. It’s difficult – but your advice has made me more aware of the fact that I am saying these things. Now I just have to work on not doing it.

By: GroundedFitness

GroundedFitness — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 17:32:55 +0000

you know what? i honestly have no idea how often i say you in a non complimentary way. im going to be super conscious of it the next few days and see what a horrible person i am, lol.

Kelly Turner
http://www.groundedfitness.com

GroundedFitness´s last blog post..Technical Difficulties

By: Good Reads: the So Thankful for a Quiet Night Edition

Good Reads: the So Thankful for a Quiet Night Edition — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 06:13:44 +0000

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