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Sunday Thought For The Day

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“Life isn’t about find­ing your­self. Life is about cre­at­ing your­self.” ~ George Bernard Shaw

Today, I have a guest post up with singer/songwriter/blogger Chris­tine Kane

A lit­tle his­tory:  At the start of 2009, I joined Chris­tine in defin­ing one word to be my guide for the year.  The premise behind this con­cept is to really focus, at a deeper level, with what truly matters…at much more of a “being” level.  I loved the con­cept, and joined in last year, writ­ing a post about it at the same time. 

Today, I again join Chris­tine, on her site this time, dis­cussing what this year has meant hav­ing one word as a focal point.

Please join me as I dis­cuss the word I chose, and what that really has meant over this past year. 

Chris­tine authors a deeply life-affirming blog.  As well, she has writ­ten and recorded many songs, includ­ing her lat­est set on CDWide Awake

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What Does All Of This Mean?

Blogging Research Wordle
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“A can­dle loses none of its light by light­ing another can­dle.” ~ Anony­mous

Note:  This post is a col­lab­o­ra­tive effort between myself and Lisis, from Quest for Bal­ance.  Lisis’ con­tri­bu­tions appear in the shaded boxes.

I recently had a con­ver­sa­tion with Lisis, who has become a won­der­ful blog­ging friend this past year.  In the course of that con­ver­sa­tion, she said some­thing that was deeply touch­ing to me.

“When I started blog­ging, I wanted to be just like Seth Godin (reach­ing the masses, and hav­ing them think each and every word I wrote was bril­liant). Now, almost a year later, I want to be more like YOU. It’s not ABOUT hav­ing peo­ple admire my writ­ing. What mat­ters is that peo­ple want to feel heard, and appreciated.”

I let those words soak into my soul.  And I started to think about what this all really does mean to me.  Today I share these words from Lisis with you, as she and I talk about what this blog­ging expe­ri­ence has come to mean to each of us.


I think back to when this jour­ney here begin for me, to the spring of 2008.  Blogging…an out­let to write.  And so I did.  And I did this under a veil of anonymity.  No pic­tures of me.  No full name or loca­tion dis­clo­sures.  And I wrote with this idea that maybe some­one might find some mean­ing in my words.  What I didn’t think about at the time was how deeply con­nect­ing the shar­ing of words, the writ­ing of sto­ries, could be.

Blog­ging is a way for me to share my heart with oth­ers, to reach out to peo­ple, and help them find their way through dif­fi­cult situations.

So, I see life as a jour­ney, one that is filled with many bends along the way.  Part of this jour­ney has become this site, and all of you who come here and read these words.  Maybe they do touch upon some­thing for you.  See, that’s some­thing I’ll never know for sure, the full impact of what I have writ­ten.  Maybe you read these words, and find some mean­ing as you go about your day, your week, your life.  Per­haps there’s some­thing here that touches some­thing deeper for you. 

The only writ­ing I’ve ever done is in my per­sonal jour­nals, and the rea­son they are now online is because some­one else may find com­fort in them. Blog­ging is my announce­ment to the world that says, “I’m here, I care, and I’m a really good lis­tener… you are not alone.”  If I can get that mes­sage across, and make a dif­fer­ence in someone’s life, then I’ve accom­plished what I set out to do.

What began as just some anony­mous writ­ing, has become much more about that deeper con­nec­tion with what mat­ters in life, about that desire I believe that we all have to feel con­nected, appre­ci­ated, cared for, loved. If I can some­how leave you with any of this, that is success. 

There are so many blogs that cater to read­ers who are basi­cally get­ting by in life, and aim­ing to become hugely suc­cess­ful. Quest for Bal­ance is my way of reach­ing out to read­ers who are just try­ing to get by at all, strug­gling to get through each day, because their real (or imag­ined) chal­lenges are a bur­den too great to bear alone. When I find peo­ple who feel they are in total dark­ness, I try to pro­vide a glim­mer of hope, a tiny light that shows them there IS a way out. Some­times, that’s all it takes to find the strength to move in a whole new direction.

Blog­ging has evolved to be a very per­sonal and con­nect­ing expe­ri­ence for me.  If I have some­how, touched another soul, through these writ­ten words, that is enough.  It mat­ters not how many sub­scribers I have…if the words I share have not touched upon some­thing deeper and more mean­ing­ful.  If this mes­sage is one that some­one has expe­ri­enced in some per­sonal way, then hav­ing cre­ated this blog has been good. 

One of the great­est ben­e­fits of blog­ging, which I never could have antic­i­pated, is meet­ing so many won­der­ful, lov­ing, car­ing, com­pas­sion­ate peo­ple from around the world. If I had the means, I’d go visit every one of them to thank them for their uplift­ing pres­ence in my life. In my effort to reach out to oth­ers, all sorts of new friends in dis­tant places have in turn embraced me, and made my world infi­nitely brighter.

This is what blog­ging has come to mean to both Lisis and I.  There is no one right way,  and this is only one expe­ri­ence, of many.  


A very spe­cial thank you to Lisis, for spark­ing the idea for this post, and shar­ing her own per­sonal and mean­ing­ful thoughts.  Lisis writes from her heart and con­nects very deeply with her read­ers.  Keep up with her by sub­scrib­ing to her blog and fol­low­ing her on Twit­ter.

Sunday Thought For The Day

and then there was light.
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These Are My Wishes For You

May you find seren­ity and tran­quil­ity
in a world you may not always understand.

May the pain you have known
and the con­flict you have expe­ri­enced
give you the strength to walk through life
fac­ing each new sit­u­a­tion with courage and optimism.

Always know that there are those
whose love and under­stand­ing will always be there,
even when you feel most alone.

May a kind word,
a reas­sur­ing touch,
and a warm smile
be yours every day of your life,
and may you give these gifts
as well as receive them.

May the teach­ings of those you admire
become part of you,
so that you may call upon them.

Remem­ber, those whose lives you have touched
and who have touched yours
are always a part of you,
even if the encoun­ters were less than you would have wished.
It is the con­tent of the encounter
that is more impor­tant than its form.

May you not become too con­cerned with mate­r­ial mat­ters,
but instead place immea­sur­able value
on the good­ness in your heart.
Find time in each day to see beauty and love
in the world around you.

Real­ize that what you feel you lack in one regard
you may be more than com­pen­sated for in another.
What you feel you lack in the present
may become one of your strengths in the future.
May you see your future as one filled with promise and pos­si­bil­ity.
Learn to view every­thing as a worth­while experience.

May you find enough inner strength
to deter­mine your own worth by your­self,
and not be depen­dent
on another’s judg­ment of your accomplishments.

May you always feel loved.

~ San­dra Sturtz Hauss

The Upside of Life (And Holiday Celebration!)

**  Decem­ber 25, 2009:  Win­ners from the Hol­i­day Prize Pack­age Give Away Announced  **

•    1st Place:  Stacey Ship­man and Nadia — Happy Lotus  (there was a tie, so two win­ners were awarded the prize pack­age)
•    2nd Place: 
Sami — Life, Laughs, and Lem­mings
•    3rd Place: 
Mind­ful Mimi and Eve­lyn Lim
(there was a tie, so two win­ners were awarded the prize pack­age)
•    Newslet­ter Signup Win­ner:  Nadia — Happy Lotus
**
On behalf of both Lisa Marie and myself, I would like to extend our thanks to every­one who com­mented, every­one to signed up for Lisa Marie’s newslet­ter, and every­one who read these words.  Your time here is deeply appreciated.

LisaMarie

“The degree of health, hap­pi­ness, suc­cess, and mean­ing in your per­sonal and pro­fes­sional life is a mat­ter of choice, com­mit­ment, and dis­ci­pline, not chance or cir­cum­stance. You are Where You Choose to Be. As you stand at the thresh­old of unpar­al­leled suc­cess, remem­ber, a whole, clear, glo­ri­ous life lies before you. Are you where you want to be?” ~ Lisa Marie Platske

See­ing the pos­si­bil­i­ties in life!  Today I have Lisa Marie Platske with us.  Lisa Marie runs a lead­er­ship devel­op­ment com­pany, Upside Think­ing, focused on her speak­ing engage­ments, con­sult­ing ser­vices, and per­son­al­ized coaching. 

Lisa Marie is some­one I “met” online about a year ago.  We spoke sev­eral times after first con­nect­ing, and she was there to give me a real belief in what IS pos­si­ble.  Since those first begin­nings, I have used Lisa Marie’s coach­ing ser­vices, and have had the oppor­tu­nity to con­nect both per­son­ally and pro­fes­sion­ally with her.

Today, I sit down with Lisa Marie, and we talk about life and where she is at today. 

Hol­i­day Cheer Prize Pack­age 1

Through a very gen­er­ous offer from Lisa Marie, there are sev­eral prize pack­ages avail­able:
Please answer the fol­low­ing ques­tion in the com­ments:  What does “design­ing your des­tiny” mean to you?
•    1st Place:  One ticket to attend Lisa Marie’s Lead­er­ship Suc­cess Sum­mit in Jan­u­ary AND one hour of one-on-one coach­ing with Lisa Marie + a copy of her book “Design­ing Your Des­tiny
•    2nd Place:  Choice of one ticket to attend Lisa Marie’s Lead­er­ship Suc­cess Sum­mit in Jan­u­ary OR one hour of one-on-one coach­ing with Lisa Marie + a copy of her book “Design­ing Your Des­tiny”
•    3rd Place:  One copy of Lisa Marie’s book “Design­ing Your Des­tiny”
**
NOTE:  Win­ners to be cho­sen based answers in the com­ments sec­tion — by Jo Della Penna, small busi­ness expert at The Busi­ness of You, and Lisa Marie.
**
Win­ners to be cho­sen from all received entries on Sat­ur­day, Decem­ber 19th, 2009.

Hol­i­day Cheer Prize Pack­age 2
                                      
As well, for any­one who signs up for Lisa Marie’s newslet­ter, one ran­dom win­ner will be cho­sen, receiv­ing all of the fol­low­ing:
•    One ticket to attend Lisa Marie’s Lead­er­ship Suc­cess Sum­mit in Jan­u­ary OR one hour of one-on-one coach­ing with Lisa Marie
•    One copy of her book “Design­ing Your Des­tiny”
•    One Star­bucks gift­card val­ued at $20
**
NOTE The sign up for the newslet­ter can be found at the bot­tom por­tion of the Upside Think­ing web­site.  Win­ner cho­sen from all entries through Sat­ur­day, Decem­ber 19th, 2009.

Please join me in wel­com­ing Lisa Marie here.

1. Tell us a lit­tle bit about who “you” are (fam­ily, career, any spe­cial life expe­ri­ences you’d like to share, etc.)
I’m hap­pily mar­ried to a sup­port­ive and lov­ing man who brings out the best in me. We were both work­ing as Fed­eral law enforce­ment offi­cers when we met and I resigned 2 months before we mar­ried. (On a side not, we met sit­ting next to each other in a lead­er­ship train­ing class as my maiden name was “Palan­sky”. After we mar­ried, if I would’ve hyphen­ated, I’d be Lisa Marie Palansky-Platske. LOL ~ Say that fast, 3 times in row.)

Lance’s Com­men­tary:  That IS a tongue twister!  And hav­ing had the oppor­tu­nity to meet both you and your hus­band, I know how much you both deeply sup­port and love each other.  What a great life con­nec­tion you two have!

2. How long have you had your busi­ness, Upside Think­ing?  And what led you to go in this direc­tion?
I formed Upside Think­ing, Inc. after get­ting mar­ried. I remem­ber sit­ting at my desk 6 months into the ven­ture and think­ing, “Lisa Marie, you just moved to a new state, 3000 miles away from any fam­ily or friends to sup­port you, and you’ve opened a busi­ness. What do you know about busi­ness? You don’t have a busi­ness degree or busi­ness back­ground. What were you think­ing?!?” But here I am, almost five years later, look­ing back and real­iz­ing it was one of the best deci­sions of my life. As I tell my clients, “A jour­ney of 1000 miles starts with a sin­gle step.” Most peo­ple, how­ever, are afraid to take the first step.
Inter­est­ingly, I never had a desire to start my own busi­ness. I formed Upside Think­ing, Inc. because as I looked at my unique tal­ents, skills, and abil­i­ties in devel­op­ing lead­ers through my work in the Fed­eral gov­ern­ment, com­bined with my desire for the free­dom to spend time with the peo­ple I love, it seemed like start­ing a busi­ness made the most sense. Ulti­mately, I decided to take a leap and trust that a net would appear. I had no idea what I was get­ting myself into, oth­er­wise I may not have taken the first step. And, I think it is also why I’m pas­sion­ate about help­ing aspir­ing and devel­op­ing entre­pre­neurs become savvy in their businesses.

Lance’s Com­men­tary:  Lao-Tzu really was onto some­thing with that quote!  It’s tak­ing that first step that is going to get us mov­ing in the direc­tion of our dreams.  With­out the steps, our dreams remain just that — dreams.  And Lisa Marie, I know you sup­port oth­ers in deeply lov­ing ways, myself included.  That pas­sion for see­ing oth­ers achieve their dreams shines through so brightly in all you do!

3.  I’ve had the won­der­ful oppor­tu­nity to use your coach­ing ser­vices you offer through Upside Think­ing (they’re great!).  Tell us a lit­tle about this ser­vice, and is there any­thing else you offer?

Gosh, Lance, you’re mak­ing me blush. Thank you.
While I am an inspi­ra­tional speaker, write a killer newslet­ter — the Upside Thinker, and am the author of Design­ing Your Des­tiny, I also offer group and one-on-one lead­er­ship coach­ing ser­vices.
There are tens of thou­sands of coaches out there. What makes me dif­fer­ent is that I truly do care about the well-being and suc­cess of my clients some­times even more than they do. There­fore, I only accept work from up to 10 incred­i­bly com­mit­ted indi­vid­u­als per year.
When I work with a client, we enter a part­ner­ship that enables them to make pro­found shifts in their thought processes which in turn pro­duce mea­sur­able results in their per­sonal and pro­fes­sional lives. I teach my clients how to clar­ify their vision, beliefs, and val­ues, as well as iden­tify and over­come the inter­nal and exter­nal obsta­cles that have kept them from reach­ing their full poten­tial, so they can ben­e­fit from a larger sphere of influ­ence, spend more time with their loved ones, and increase their wealth build­ing capacity.

Lance’s Com­men­tary:  Your words spo­ken here are words that I have been per­son­ally touched by.  Your care and love shine through, Lisa Marie.  I think back to our first few tele­phone calls…conversations that you offered out of the deep good­ness of your heart.  I still go back to those days, now a year ago, and how your belief in me was so touch­ing.  And from that we have forged not only a pro­fes­sional con­nec­tion, but also a very mean­ing­ful per­sonal con­nec­tion as well.  I am hon­ored to know you, and to call you friend.

4. You have a con­fer­ence you host in Jan­u­ary.  Could you tell us a lit­tle bit about that that’s all about?
Oh, this is my baby so for­give me…and stop me….if I ram­ble. I LOVE this event for so many rea­sons and I cre­ated this event for those same rea­sons.
The annual Lead­er­ship Suc­cess Sum­mit: Get­ting Results in Chang­ing Times is for savvy, entre­pre­neur­ial women in busi­ness or strong busi­ness­men who under­stand the value of col­lab­o­rat­ing with smart businesswomen.

The two-day event is com­plete with INSPIRATIONAL speak­ers who will share their SECRETS of suc­cess. This year the line-up includes:
• Rene Reyes, Inter­na­tional Poet Lau­re­ate, Legal Prac­ti­tioner, Author and Radio Host
• Eve Yen, Founder of Multi-Million Dol­lar Ven­ture, Dia­mond Wipes Inter­na­tional
• Nancy Mar­molejo, One of the Top 50 Most Influ­en­tial and Pow­er­ful Women in Social Media
• Lisa Marie Platske, Award-winning Entre­pre­neur and Lead­er­ship Expert
Jo Della Penna, Small Busi­ness Coach and Life Bal­ance Expert
• Lau­ren Solomon, Image Expert for Career TV and the Real­ity Makeover TV show, ReMake My Life
• Chel­lie Camp­bell, Author of The Wealthy Spirit and Zero to Zil­lion­aire
• Mary Can­tando, Men­tored thou­sands of Women in Busi­ness to Reach the Mil­lion Dol­lar Level
• And more…….

What’s dif­fer­ent is that this event brings busi­ness build­ing tools, con­nec­tion oppor­tu­ni­ties, and empow­er­ment strate­gies together.  And, the speak­ers actu­ally hang around to con­nect with the atten­dees rather than shar­ing and bolt­ing like many of the con­fer­ences I’ve attended.

In a day in which we face unprece­dented changes — locally, nation­ally and glob­ally — far too many lead­ers are stand­ing in the shad­ows. This is YOUR oppor­tu­nity to LEAD!

Here’s some of what you’ll learn by attending –

* The “Miss­ing Ele­ment” that most entre­pre­neurs FAIL TO EMPLOY in their businesses!

* EASILY get amaz­ing results in sell­ing your prod­ucts and ser­vices in a way that feels fun for you and the prospect!

* Learn the SECRETS to expe­ri­ence mas­sive suc­cess in start­ing or expand­ing your busi­ness using uni­ver­sal prin­ci­ples that get results!

* IGNITE a pow­er­ful process to MAGNETIZE the resources or peo­ple you want to bet­ter lever­age your time!

* Need cash FAST? Learn how to CREATE a Wealthy Spirit that will turn you into a cre­ative money generator!

* FEEL a greater sense of peace about finances and learn how to nav­i­gate the eco­nomic bumps so you can attract those that want what you have and will PAY you gladly for it!

* LEARN the con­cept of energy man­age­ment and how it can help you get more done in less time and have more fun in the process!

* Find out how vibra­tional out­put can SOLVE any busi­ness or per­sonal prob­lem fast! Learn a process that takes less than 5 min­utes a day to imple­ment and you will see and feel the changes in one week!

This event will not only trans­form and uplift atten­dees, but will pro­vide incred­i­ble new ideas and con­nec­tions. Most peo­ple leave with a new friend, lots of con­tacts, and words of wis­dom, encour­age­ment and enlight­en­ment that moti­vate action. Atten­dees should come open to trans­for­ma­tion both per­son­ally and professionally.

Ohhhhhhh.….and right now I have a 50% off HOLIDAY SPECIAL.…..Only $297 or save $100 and bring a client or a friend — 2 tick­ets for only $497!!!! (Offer expires Decem­ber 30, 2010.)

For more infor­ma­tion and to SIGN UP TODAY, please visit www.UpsideThinking.com.

5.  You’ve recently moved across the coun­try – from one side of the United States, to the other.  Touch upon what the chal­lenges and joys in this have been.
I’ve moved a few times in my life and so this wasn’t new to me. I find the biggest chal­lenge to any move is leav­ing the cir­cle of sup­port­ive friends that you have. How­ever, the biggest joy has come from leav­ing that cir­cle of friends as every move forces you out of your com­fort zone. In my case, this move allowed me to con­tinue cre­at­ing a big­ger ver­sion of myself and my business.

Lance’s Com­men­tary:  I love this thought, and how it really applies to all of us — and not only to phys­i­cal moves, but also to mov­ing through all phases of our life.  When we are doing this with a con­nec­tion to some­thing greater, that really is about cre­at­ing a big­ger ver­sion of our­selves.  And that’s pretty great all around!

6. Tell us one unex­pected thing that has hap­pened to you in the last year.
That’s a tough one. Life is full of sur­prises and I think my whole life is one “unex­pected” adven­ture. For exam­ple, over the past few months, I won con­tracts I didn’t think I’d get and lost con­tracts I thought were a sure thing. I was fea­tured as an expert on a tele­vi­sion show (never thought that would hap­pen) and then the fol­low­ing month the pro­gram­mers per­ma­nently deleted the file of my inter­view (major bum­mer). I trav­eled to Argentina in Sep­tem­ber but didn’t take a trip back to PA in Octo­ber for the first time in 20 years. One unex­pected thing? Heck, from my per­spec­tive, my list is never end­ing as every day brings the unexpected .

Lance’s Com­men­tary:  The truth is, we never know exactly what is going to hap­pen in the moments of our life.  We can plan, but still there are moments that will waver in both direc­tions from what we have planned and expect.  Lisa Marie, I very much appre­ci­ate your hon­esty with this answer.  Things don’t always go as planned, for any of us — some of it’s in a very good way, and some not so good.  Or maybe…it’s our per­spec­tive on this too.  When things don’t go as planned, this is really another oppor­tu­nity for us to grow and chal­lenge our­selves.  You do!  Always…

7. If you had to pick one thing as your great­est achieve­ment, what would it be (and why)?
Becom­ing an upside thinker. Because I didn’t always see the best in oth­ers or myself, this trans­for­ma­tion has cre­ated real and tan­gi­ble results in my life. Upside isn’t the same as pos­i­tive. Upside is about see­ing, and act­ing upon the unlim­ited pos­si­bil­i­ties in your life. It’s about tak­ing respon­si­bil­ity for your choices and hav­ing the com­mit­ment and dis­ci­pline to cre­ate a life full of hap­pi­ness, suc­cess, and mean­ing. It’s also about real­iz­ing that whether or not it is clear to you, every­thing in the Uni­verse is unfold­ing as it should.

Lance’s Com­men­tary:  I love your def­i­n­i­tion of “upside”!  Kind of gives new mean­ing to the term “upside down”!!

8. Let’s say you’re vis­it­ing Wis­con­sin, and get stranded because of a major snow­storm (it hap­pens!).  There’s no tele­vi­sion and no phones.  What do you do while you wait out the storm?
Well, I don’t have a tele­vi­sion at home so that wouldn’t be any dif­fer­ent. And, while I do love my cell phone, I also appre­ci­ate life-long learn­ing. I imag­ine I’d seize the oppor­tu­nity to read a good book or two and, since I’m incred­i­bly social, I’d make a friend or two.
I’ve been stranded at an air­port before so that isn’t a stres­sor. How­ever, being phys­i­cally stranded in the snow­storm brings visions of the movie New in Town to my thoughts ~ LOL!

Lance’s Com­men­tary:  In a day and age where tele­vi­sions are as promi­nent as they are, I applaud you on choos­ing to skip this.  There are a myr­iad of oth­ers ways to actu­ally engage our minds, and I know you ARE doing this!  And the movie “New In Town” sure does seem to fit here!!  Might I also sug­gest snow angels and sled­ding?  Lots of fun!

9.  Define love – what does that mean to you?

Well, this ques­tion sure caught me off guard as it has baf­fled philoso­phers for cen­turies. To me, love is as love does. Peo­ple who love each other are capa­ble of bring­ing out the best in one another. Choos­ing love and choos­ing to love are deci­sions. I also know that you need to love your­self wholly and com­pletely before choos­ing to love another.

Lance’s Com­men­tary:  So, what I’m read­ing here is that love is a verb!  I love that!  It’s more than just pay­ing lip ser­vice to the word “love”, it’s acts that we do with love behind them that really IS love.  Wow!!

10.  Deep down, what makes you uniquely “you”? 
My com­pas­sion, upsid­ed­ness, and energy are the three things that make me uniquely, “me”. I have expe­ri­enced my share of heartache, dis­ap­point­ment, and pain and through it all have devel­oped a com­pas­sion­ate heart for peo­ple. I’ve also learned how to live an incred­i­bly upside life as I men­tioned ear­lier. And, my energy enables me to change the feel in a room just by my pres­ence. I don’t know how or why, I just know that I’ve been told that again and again through­out my life.

Lance’s Com­men­tary:  Lisa Marie, I have per­son­ally been the recip­i­ent of that com­pas­sion from you, and so I know what a gift this is that you have.  Your heart is so big, and you give so deeply when you con­nect.  What a light you are unto the world!  What a light you have been in MY world!

Clos­ing Com­ments:  It’s been great hav­ing you here today Lisa Marie!  Just like all of our emails, phone calls, and meet­ing in per­son — every time we con­nect, I’m drawn into the amaz­ing love you give of your­self.  Today is no excep­tion, and it is an honor to have you here. All that you say here, I know to be YOU.  You have opened your home to my fam­ily and I, you have been our tour guides (the sun dial still amazes me!), you coach from your heart, and you care deeply about those you know.  That’s a recipe for a beau­ti­ful life!

Lisa Marie, your pres­ence and gen­eros­ity here today are deeply appre­ci­ated.  More than that, though, know­ing you are there, always, as a friend, is a real gift!  As you go forth, know that I wish you only the best as you con­tinue down this amaz­ing path you are on!

What does “design­ing your des­tiny” mean to you?

Answer this ques­tion in the com­ments, and sign up for Lisa Marie’s newslet­ter here — for entry into some won­der­ful gifts (see above).

Sunday Thought For The Day

Frank and Me: A Legacy of Mentoring (Giveaway Post)

jan2Today, I have Jan­ice Lynne Lundy here, shar­ing a story of beauty and love.

Jan is an author, speaker, retreat leader, and spir­i­tual direc­tor.  She also writes deeply mean­ing­ful arti­cles at her two blogs, Awake Is Good and Awak­ened Liv­ing.  When I first con­nected with Jan, I was drawn into the hon­est and car­ing space she has cre­ated in her writ­ing.  Stop by for a visit, and you too will feel the warmth of being in her presence. 

As Jan and I talked over the last cou­ple of months, she indi­cated she had a spe­cial story she would like to share.  Today, that story is a gift I am hon­ored to share here.

Jan will be tak­ing us back to an ear­lier time in her life, and how a very spe­cial gen­tle­man gave her a beau­ti­ful gift — the gift of his time and car­ing.  This is a won­der­ful story of how we can all touch another person’s life through our car­ing and love.  Please read along, as Jan shares:
 

Frank and Me:  A Legacy of Men­tor­ing
  

  “I’ve learned that peo­ple will for­get what you said, peo­ple will for­get what you did, but peo­ple will never for­get how you made them feel.” ~ Maya Angelou

It was the early 1990s and I was the mother of three small chil­dren, earn­ing a part-time liv­ing as a rep for a direct sales com­pany. I enjoyed my work, shar­ing an excep­tional line of self-esteem based prod­ucts to par­ents, teach­ers, and counselors.

It was at our annual con­ven­tion in Salt Lake City that I met Frank, the men­tor who would change my life. This is his story—and mine—and how I came to know the impor­tance of reach­ing out and help­ing oth­ers through mentoring.

Actu­ally, I never met Frank at the con­ven­tion that year. I saw him from a dis­tance, an ener­getic and affa­ble con­sul­tant they’d brought in to fire up the sales reps. Rumor had it that he was a retired multi-millionaire, hav­ing started, or bought and sold ten com­pa­nies. He didn’t need this gig as a con­sul­tant; he was doing it for the pure plea­sure of it, and as a favor to the owners.

I also heard he was cherry pick­ing reps, work­ing with them one-on-one to improve their sales. The thought ter­ri­fied me. With three kids, a mul­ti­tude of house­hold and vol­un­teer duties, I sure didn’t want some­one breath­ing down my neck to urge me to do more than I was already doing.

I remem­ber the day all that changed. The phone rang, I answered it, and a voice boomed, “Hi, Jan, it’s Frank ____, from the con­ven­tion. Have you got a minute?”

I was imme­di­ately struck with feel­ings of ter­ror. I did not want to talk to this man; I did not want to per­form bet­ter or achieve sales goals. But for what­ever reason—now it’s known to be Divine Prov­i­dence — I said, sure, I had a minute.

“I’d like to men­tor you,” he announced. He went on to explain how he would do this and what would be involved on my part. Actu­ally, it all sounded pretty good, more sup­port­ive than scary, but I was still puz­zled. Why had he honed in on me? So, I asked him.

“Jan,” he replied, “I see some­thing in you that you don’t even see in your­self. I’d like to help make that pic­ture a real­ity.” I was intrigued so I agreed, hes­i­tantly, and we were off. Thus, began the men­tor­ing rela­tion­ship that changed my life, a rela­tion­ship that, in time, steered my own life path toward mentoring.

Frank called me every week for one year, on his dime. He told me what books to read, what tapes to lis­ten to (no CDs then!). We started with Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich, and my eyes were opened. What sem­i­nars to attend—Tony Rob­bins, Dan Kennedy, Denis Wait­ley, and my world shifted a bit more. Frank taught me how to moti­vate myself; to set daily, weekly and monthly goals in all areas of my life, though we focused pri­mar­ily on income, work per­for­mance, and another of his pas­sions, health. He taught me how to visu­al­ize and manifest.

Soon, my goals were being met, income was ris­ing, and my self-esteem was off the charts. At the next annual con­ven­tion, my efforts were rec­og­nized. I’d made it into the Top 10 in the nation in sales. And, within months, Frank had me train­ing other reps at regional con­ven­tions. Before I knew it, I was a full fledged per­sonal and pro­fes­sional growth speaker and trainer.

And then the day came, a day I will never for­get. Frank called me for our usual weekly phone con­fer­ence, but this time, his tone was dif­fer­ent. Seri­ous, quiet.

“Jan,” he said, “this is the last time you’ll be hear­ing from me. Our time together is done. You’ve done a great job and I couldn’t be prouder.” My heart sank. Tears filled my eyes. I had come to deeply love this man. As a men­tor, he’d accepted me as me, some­thing I’d rarely expe­ri­enced with oth­ers. He gave of him­self in such unselfish ways. When I failed or expe­ri­enced self-doubt, he was there to encour­age. He looked for the light within me and helped fan it to flame. I had grown by leaps and bounds under Frank’s tutelage.

I couldn’t believe our rela­tion­ship was over. Surely, we’d be in touch? “Nope,” he said, “but I will be in touch one way, because I know, beyond a doubt, that some­day I will be lis­ten­ing to your tapes and read­ing your books. (With that pro­nounce­ment, I remem­ber think­ing to myself, ‘Ridiculous.’)

“Now, I need you to do some­thing for me. I need you to do the same thing for oth­ers as I’ve done with you. That’s what life is all about, you see.” With that invi­ta­tion, Frank said good­bye. I never heard from him again.

Though I did try to con­tact him, I never imag­ined myself an author, so when I did write my first book in 1998, I sent Frank a copy. No response. I sent him a let­ter, just want­ing to touch bases; to thank him for all that he’d done for me. Noth­ing. It was true, he was not reach­able. All I had were mem­o­ries, and Frank’s voice echo­ing in my head remind­ing me to do for oth­ers what he had done for me.

And so I have. In 2000, I ded­i­cated myself to men­tor­ing oth­ers, though the form was dif­fer­ent than Frank’s. It was focused on the spir­i­tual. Via a for­mal, three-year train­ing pro­gram, I found my way beyond Zig, Tony, and Og to Meis­ter Eck­hart, Rumi, and Teresa of Avila; to Jesus and Bud­dha and beyond.

To men­tor, to offer myself in sup­port of the life path of another has been a pro­found expe­ri­ence, even beyond teach­ing or writ­ing. To see a spark of the Divine in each per­son and help fan it to flame; to encour­age him or her to see their innate beauty and light, what joy!

This, I believe, is what we all must do for one another, espe­cially now, with the world being what it is. In this piv­otal time when so many are suf­fer­ing or con­fused; anx­ious or depressed; weary or over­whelmed, we can men­tor. Offer an out­stretched hand, a lis­ten­ing ear, an affirm­ing blog response, a phone call or hand­writ­ten note of encour­age­ment. In what­ever way you do it best, bear wit­ness to another’s heart and lend a piece of your own. Be a sup­port­ive presence.

I pass the baton, today, from Frank, through me to you. Men­tor. Men­tor with all your heart. Will you accept?

Who crossed your path today? To whom can you give a kind word, a gen­tle touch, pock­ets of your time? Every­one wants to be val­i­dated, val­ued, and under­stood. Will you accept my invi­ta­tion and men­tor some­one? Frank would be really happy. I will be, too.


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Spe­cial Note:  Jan has gra­ciously offered to give away one copy of her recent book, Your Truest Self: Embrac­ing the Woman You Are Meant to Be, to one lucky win­ner.  Alter­na­tively, if you would rather have one of her ear­lier books, they are avail­able also:  Awak­en­ing the Spirit Within or Per­fect Love.

Win­ner will be cho­sen at ran­dom, from the com­ments below, on Sat­ur­day, Decem­ber 12th.  (Edit Decem­ber 12, 2009:  Win­ner is Erin Prais-Hintz.  Con­grat­u­la­tions Erin!)

Learn more about Jan Lundy, her pro­grams, books, and spir­i­tual men­tor­ing at her web­site: awakenedliving.com. She blogs there, and at awakeisgood.com.

Sunday Thought For The Day

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Creative Commons License photo credit: ilkin.

Two roads diverged in a yel­low wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one trav­eler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair
And hav­ing per­haps the bet­ter claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that, the pass­ing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morn­ing equally lay
In leaves no step had trod­den black
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet know­ing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Some­where ages and ages hence:
two roads diverged in a wood, and I -
I took the one less trav­eled by,
And that has made all the difference.

~ Robert Frost, “The Road Not Taken”

RAOKA: Beauty

RAOKA

 

Beauty

 

“Though we travel the world over to find the beau­ti­ful,  we must carry it with us or we find it not.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emer­son

Pref­ace:  Ran­dom Acts of Kick Arse is a move­ment to bring more of {monthly theme} into our lives, and the lives of those around us. 

Octo­ber Theme:  Beauty.  Find ways to incorporate/see more beauty in the world.

The Results:  Beauty.  What would it look like?  How could I both see more beauty in my world, and pos­si­bly even bring a lit­tle more at the same time?  Would I be more aware of what and who I was sur­rounded by?  Beauty, it seemed, was per­plex­ing for me.  And then I hap­pened to hear an old Bea­t­les song:

…speak­ing words of wis­dom, let it be.”

And so I did…I just “let it be”.

Novem­ber unfolded beau­ti­fully.  There was much beauty in the whole month.  I expe­ri­enced this daily, and my life was touched in some won­der­ful ways.  Today, I’ll high­light one of those.

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Strangers.  To friends. 

Deep beauty in what can really develop in such a short period of time.

I spent a week of my Novem­ber at a lead­er­ship and self-awareness work­shop in North Car­olina.  Myself and six strangers com­ing together, to grow in ways we weren’t really sure about — and all led by our won­der­ful leader Holly (not pictured). 

Pic­ture with me walk­ing into a small room and not know­ing any­one.  Then tran­si­tion that with leav­ing that same room, feel­ing com­pletely com­fort­able telling this same group of peo­ple any­thing.  And trust­ing them to be there, to sup­port you on your jour­ney.  Five days.  Late nights.  Lots of cof­fee (or tea!).  And desserts!  A devel­op­ing bond, a con­nec­tion that touched upon the soul…the soul of every­one there.  A shar­ing of thoughts freely and openly.  Coura­geous steps for every­one, and con­stant love and sup­port along the way. 

I arrived back from this work­shop with new life.  Beliefs in what CAN be.  A belief that all is pos­si­ble, and that there are peo­ple out there who care deeply.  Peo­ple who were strangers to me just three short weeks ago.  So, to each of you there with me that week, if you are read­ing this…thank you.  Thank you for shin­ing your beauty into my life.

And to all of you read­ing here…there is so much beauty just in your pres­ence.  You…taking the time from your busy sched­ule to read these words here.

There can be beauty in so many moments of our life, if we can carry that beauty within us first…

Beauty.

You.  Me.  Our world.


What is Ran­dom Acts of Kick Arse (RAOKA)?  With the idea that there are so many ways we can do small things to change the world for good, Sami, from Life, Laughs, and Lem­mings took an idea she had and cre­ated this move­ment.  The move­ment:  A new theme to focus on each month, bring­ing a lit­tle more good to the world.  The move­ment started in Octo­ber 2009, with a core group of participants:

Melissa from Oper­a­tion NICE
Lori from Jane Be Nim­ble
Dani from Pos­i­tively Present
Brandi from Joy Rebel
Zeenat from Pos­i­tive Provo­ca­tions
Sami from Life, Laughs, and Lemmings

Each month a topic will be cho­sen to focus on, and then at the start of the next month, the par­tic­i­pants will write about their expe­ri­ences from the pre­vi­ous month.

Inter­ested in join­ing the move­ment?  Con­tact Sami for details.


Decem­ber Theme:  Wack­i­ness (as cho­sen by me!)


Logo cour­tesy of Melissa from Oper­a­tion NICE

Cheetos, Llamas, and Wine…Oh My!

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“Don’t take life too seri­ously, you’ll never get out of it alive.” ~ Elbert Hub­bard

Chee­tos?
Lla­mas?
Wine?

What’s the con­nec­tion here?

The answers (and ques­tions) are shocking! 

And…to find out, you’ll just have to hop on over to the Jan­nie Fun­ster Blog. Jan­nie her­self, is inter­view­ing me (wow!) — with ques­tions that range from deep and thought-provoking to off-the-wall and just plain “Jannie-ish”.  So if you have never vis­ited Jan­nie, you are in for a treat!  She is a wealth of fun and light-heartedness…all wrapped up with a smile and tons of warmth!

She sings.

She writes.

She mis­spells words.

She is a fam­ily gal.

And…today she plays the part of ace reporter (along with a lit­tle help from some of her crew)!

Keep up with this amaz­ing woman, and all she’s up to by sub­scrib­ing to her blog.  You won’t be disappointed!

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