The Destination

by Lance Ekum on April 29, 2009 · 71 comments


“All journeys have secret destinations of which the traveler is unaware.” ~ Martin Buber

I am recently back from several days away on a family vacation.  For us, this was a time to get away from the northern climate we live in, and enjoy some sun and warmth in more southern locales.  And this ended up being a wonderful few days away from our normal world as well.

Why Travel?

There are many reasons people travel to both distant and not-so-distant lands.

  • See new places
  • Experience other cultures
  • Relaxation
  • Adventure
  • Reconnect with family or friends
  • Challenge
  • Rest
  • …and many more

So, we often have a reason or a purpose for traveling, maybe one of those listed above (or several of those wrapped up into one).

And sometimes…travel elicits something unplanned.  Today I’ll be discussing something that came up for me, and was fully worth it.  We went on a family vacation to reconnect, to visit new places and cultures, to relax, and to mix some adventure in.  By all accounts, we did this and more – making our vacation a successful one.  However, this journey for me, personally, also brought an unplanned destination.  And that place in which I traveled was into my mind.

“The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled.” ~ Plutarch

The thing is, in our daily lives, it’s easy to get caught up in routine.  In doing the things we’ve always done.  Have you been there?  Can you relate?

Life can be busy.  And, it seems like sometimes we reach a point where we’re just going through the motions.  I’ll give you an example:  Get up in the morning.   Write a new article to post here.  Go to work.  Come home.  Do any evening family activities that are planned.  Go to bed.

Although it’s not exact, this  illustrates the point here.  Life can sometimes reach a point where we’re just DOING.  Doing things because we did them yesterday, the day before, last week, and last year.  We’re DOING, although along with that we’ve lost sight of what we’re BEING.

And that’s exactly where this trip took me on our recent vacation – an unplanned destination.  I didn’t go into this vacation with the idea that I would take some time to explore the ideas bouncing around in my brain.  And yet, that’s exactly where I was led.  And this is one of the real beauties of a vacation, or a sabbatical, or even just an hour break from normal activities.  When we stop DOING, we have the opportunity to BE.  And this can be a good time to look within, to see what our heart is saying.  And to really think about how well we’re listening to it.

So, where does that put me?  I’ve returned home refreshed and renewed.  And I’ve also returned home with many questions bouncing around in my head.  Questions that don’t have answers yet.  And that’s okay, answers or not.  For me, the real benefit was in kindling that fire within my mind.  Where this takes me and what this all means – and really if this means any change at all – is unknown right now.  What is known is that there are questions – that the fire is burning.  I stopped DOING, and in the process reached a state of BEING.  And this was a good place to visit.

Your Turn

Do you take time to stop DOING in your life, and examine what you are BEING?

Face to face
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An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life…

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.  “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.”

“One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego.”

“The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.”

“This same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old chief simply replied, “The one you feed.”

~ Author Unknown


by Lance Ekum on April 22, 2009

Business not as usual
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“Life, misfortunes, isolation, abandonment, poverty, are battlefields which have their heroes; obscure heroes, sometimes greater than the illustrious heroes.” ~ Victor Hugo

Have you ever felt abandoned in your life?  My good friend Audra, who authors a wonderful blog, Krellfish, is doing a series of posts on the topic of abandonment, and today I’m weighing in with my thoughts on all of this, and what it means for each of us.  Please stop by and check out Once Alone and Abandoned.

And while you’re there, check out some of the other pieces Audra has on this topic of abandonment.  A couple of great posts to get you started:

He Still Sticks Around

Men and Women of Steel

And while you’re there, be sure subscribe to her RSS feed, and follow her on Twitter.

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When there is light in the soul, there is beauty in the person,
When there is beauty in the person, there is harmony in the home,
When there is harmony in the home, there is order in the nation,
When there is order in the nation, there is peace in the world.
~ Ancient Chinese proverb ~

Note: Today’s Sunday Thought is provided courtesy of Stacey from Create A Balance.  Thank you Stacey!


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