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Through The Eyes of Truth

“The only work that will ulti­mately bring any good to any of us is the work of con­tribut­ing to the heal­ing of the world.” ~ Mar­i­anne Williamson

One of those sub­jects that’s easy to push under the rug.  Pre­tend it doesn’t really hap­pen.  Pre­tend it doesn’t really hurt any­one.  Ignore.  Look the other way.

Not today.

As told by Jen, from are you there God? it’s me, gen­er­a­tion X

If you do noth­ing else today, view this short slideshow below. 

To view full screen click the “Fullscreen” icon in the lower cor­ner of the slideshow.

Note:  If you’re hav­ing trou­ble view­ing this, please click here.

This orig­i­nally appeared on Jen’s blog. I was deeply moved by her courage, and shar­ing of this story. In the short time I’ve known her, I’ve come to see that she speaks very much from her heart.  The words in this you’re see­ing today speak to some­thing that’s all too easy to ignore.

Will you run away?

For more infor­ma­tion on Jen, visit her blog and fol­low her on Twit­ter.

Sunday Thought For The Day

Rebirth of my hope
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Your pres­ence is a present to the world.
You’re unique and one of a kind.
Your life can be what you want it to be.
Take the days, just one at a time.

 Count your bless­ings, not your trou­bles.
You’ll make it through, what­ever comes along.
Within you are so many answers.
Under­stand, have courage, be strong.
 
Don’t put lim­its on your­self.
So many dreams are wait­ing to be real­ized.
Deci­sions are too impor­tant to leave to chance.
Reach for your peak, your goal and your prize.
 
Noth­ing wastes more energy than wor­ry­ing.
The longer one car­ries a prob­lem, the heav­ier it gets.
Don’t take things too seri­ously.
Live a life of seren­ity, not a life of regrets.

Remem­ber that a lit­tle love goes a long way.
Remem­ber that a lot … goes for­ever.
Remem­ber that friend­ship is a wise invest­ment.
Life’s trea­sures are peo­ple … together.
 
Real­ize that it’s never too late.
Do ordi­nary things in an extra­or­di­nary way.
Have health, hope and hap­pi­ness.
Take the time to wish upon a star.
And don’t ever for­get …
For even a day …
How very spe­cial you are.

~ Author Unknown

Sunday Thought For The Day

Don't wait for the world to change. Fix it.

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“Here’s to the crazy ones, the mis­fits, the rebels, the trou­ble­mak­ers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things dif­fer­ently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, dis­agree with them, glo­rify or vil­ify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race for­ward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” ~ Steve Jobs

 

 

Old Hat, New Hat

Old Hat New Hat
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“We tend to for­get that hap­pi­ness doesn’t come as a result of get­ting some­thing we don’t have, but rather of rec­og­niz­ing and appre­ci­at­ing what we do have.” ~ Fred­er­ick Keonig

“I need this.”

My thoughts last week, as I looked for a new bike. 

“I’m com­pet­ing in two triathlons.  I want a nice bike!”

July will bring two triathlons in which I’ll com­pete.  It sure seemed like a nice shiny new bike would be just the ticket to success.

Old Hat, New Hat

Grow­ing up, a favorite book of mine was Old Hat New Hat, by Jan and Stan Beren­stain.  For those not famil­iar with the book, it’s about a bear who has this old beat up hat.  And he thinks it’s time for a new one.  So he vis­its the hat store (do they still have those?) in search of that per­fect hat.  And he tries on many dif­fer­ent hats, hats of all dif­fer­ent shapes and styles.  And then he sees his hat — the beat up old hat he’s had.  And he puts that back on, and it fits just right.  Out he goes, no new hat.  Just the hat he came in with.

Back to that bike…

So, I tried out sev­eral bikes.  Oh, they all looked really nice!  And there weren’t any scratches on them.  All of the lat­est “tech­nol­ogy” there.  The first one, though, was dif­fi­cult to shift.  The sec­ond one was uncom­fort­able to ride.  The third one, to it’s credit, all felt good.  Although I didn’t feel like I was going faster.  Was it worth the cost?  It sure looked pretty…

How often do we get pulled into some­thing by the superficial?

Ever wanted to go out on a date with the hottest girl or guy you knew?  Maybe dreamed about it? 

Ever wanted that new car, the one fresh off the lot, sweet paint job, the one you’d look really good in?

Ever wanted that new pair of shoes, they’d look per­fect on “you”?

Ever wanted that new “hat”, when the “hat” you have is one you really like already?

Think about that for a minute.

Why do we buy the things we do?  You.  Me.  Everyone.

Neces­sity.

Wants.

That’s all okay.  Some things we need (like food, or trans­porta­tion).  Some things we want (like that new dig­i­tal camera). 

Do we tie our hap­pi­ness to these “things” in our life, though?  Will I be hap­pier when…

  • I have the newest car in the neighborhood
  • People’s heads turn when I walk by because of the body I’ve “bought”
  • I arrive at my class reunion in the lat­est designer clothes and impress everyone
  • Every­one runs over to see the lat­est “toy” I’ve bought
  • Etc.
  • Etc.

In short, when our self-worth is tied to mate­ri­al­is­tic items (and who hasn’t at some point in their life done this?), this isn’t going to bring about true and last­ing joy in our lives.  That true hap­pi­ness, the “real” joy — that comes from within.  From con­nect­ing with our inner beings.  And that isn’t the flashiest pair of sun­glasses, or a din­ner date at the hippest restau­rant in town.  Not if that’s to pro­vide some imme­di­ate joy as we show off our new shades, or dine with the movers and the shak­ers.  It won’t last, these moments of joy.  Not if that is the end all to our hap­pi­ness.  Now, if that same din­ner out is to also expe­ri­ence the ambiance and to enjoy some deli­ciously won­der­ful food in the com­pany of some­one we care deeply about, then this expe­ri­ence is very much a spoke in keep­ing that wheel of hap­pi­ness within our lives spin­ning.  The mean­ing behind these pur­chases matters.

Back to the bike once more…

I left the bike store…torn.  And then I came home.  And rode my “old” bike.  And as I rode it, I thought to myself that this was a com­fort­able ride, that it goes pretty fast, that the gear installed on it is top-notch, and that it really is a great bike.

I kept the “old hat”…

In no way does this mean that “new” is a bad choice.  In my case, where I’m at, and with what I already have — at this time it was really the more super­fi­cial I was look­ing at. 

So Where Does That Leave Us?

“Pos­ses­sions are usu­ally dimin­ished by pos­ses­sion.” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

The next time you’re going out to buy some­thing, ask your­self “why”. 

Why are you buy­ing this thing?

And if there’s no good rea­son other than you will super­fi­cially feel “good”, then it’s prob­a­bly time to put that some­thing down, and really spend some qual­ity time with your­self.  Away from the dis­trac­tions of life.  Away from the “noise” you’re nor­mally sur­rounded by.  Away from the hus­tle and bus­tle of daily living.

Get away and get con­nected.  To “you”.

And away doesn’t have to be a phys­i­cal loca­tion away from where you are (although it can be).  It can be as sim­ple as set­ting aside some time every day (or maybe a cou­ple of times a week) where you focus on “you”

True hap­pi­ness is there…

We just have to find it some­times, buried amongst all the piles of other things that clut­ter our lives.

Sunday Thought For The Day

 lizardsmouth sunset silhouette
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“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stum­bles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them bet­ter. The credit belongs to the man who is actu­ally in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort with­out error and short­com­ings; but who does actu­ally strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthu­si­asm, the great devo­tion, who spends him­self in a wor­thy cause, who at the best knows in the end the tri­umph of high achieve­ment and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while dar­ing greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know nei­ther vic­tory nor defeat.” ~ Theodore Roosevelt

The Sunset Of Our Soul

Lean On Me
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“Clouds come float­ing into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sun­set sky.” ~ Rabindranath Tagore

The sun going down.  Amongst a few clouds, the back­drop an array of col­ors. The sky afire with a golden glow.

Breath­tak­ing.

In the right place.  At the right time.

Have you expe­ri­enced a sun­set that mes­mer­ized you?  Pulled you right in and made you stop?  Turned the sky into a bril­liant dis­play of color?

For me, a sun­set is so con­nect­ing with a deeper part of myself, and with just how awe­some and amaz­ing our world we live in really is!  The bright hues, cou­pled with the com­fort­ing still­ness of the sur­round­ing sky makes for an image that shines beauty on every­thing it touches.  And there’s some­thing very calm­ing about the set­ting sun, as the day fades into night.  As I soak this in, mes­mer­ized by it’s beauty — I’m reminded of what a truly amaz­ing world we live in.

The Sun­set of Our Soul

What if…we have within us the light and breath­tak­ing beauty of the most gor­geous sunset?

We all do!  You.  Me.  Everyone!

There’s a sun­set within the soul of each of us.

Have you lis­tened to your heart and your soul?  Really lis­tened?

This sun­set within each of us…it’s there.  We just have to find it.  Maybe it’s over­cast in the world of you today.  Maybe it has been for a while.  Or maybe it’s a full-fledged storm.  In either case, when our sun­set within is blocked, we are not being com­pletely authen­tic and true to our­selves.  And we’re not liv­ing a life that is con­nect­ing with our deep­est being.

What keeps it hidden?

  • Doing what we’re told is the right thing to do
  • Pur­suit of the pay­check over the heart
  • Not lis­ten­ing to that voice inside
  • Going through the motions of life
  • Telling our­selves that some­day we’ll pur­sue our dreams (does some­day ever come?)

When we allow any on this list to be the pre­vail­ing force in our life, we sup­press that sun­set that is within.  And all of this is not to say that some­times we might have to do things for rea­sons our heart does not agree.  There will be unex­pected storms that come into our life — and it may mean doing some­thing that isn’t nec­es­sar­ily in line with what our heart speaks.

Life hap­pens.

Still, though, it doesn’t mean we have to be locked into these choices.  Even in the midst of an unex­pected storm, or for that mat­ter, a period of much cloudi­ness in our life — we can still  search for the sun­set within.

It’s there.

“Twenty years from now you will be more dis­ap­pointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bow­lines. Sail away from the safe har­bor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Dis­cover.” ~ Mark Twain

Take some time to really lis­ten to your heart.  Explore what mat­ters deeply to you.

Your Sun­set

We have this one life here on earth that we’re liv­ing.  How are you choos­ing to live that life out?

Don’t wait for some­day…it’s a day that may never come.

“Today is your day! Your moun­tain is wait­ing. So… get on your way.” ~ Dr. Seuss

What can you do, today, that will take you one step closer toward that amaz­ing sun­set within your soul?  And if you’re there already, what can you do to keep that sun­set shin­ing , illu­mi­nat­ing your life and all you do?

You are amaz­ing — each and every one of you!  And when you allow your heart-filled sun­set to shine onto the world, that light and all it’s mag­i­cal col­ors will fill the world around you with the pas­sion you have within the depths of your soul.

Sunday Thought For The Day

Mi(y)sty Morning Walk
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“Still, there are times I am bewil­dered by each mile I have trav­eled, each meal I have eaten, each per­son I have known, each room in which I have slept. As ordi­nary as it all appears, there are times when it is beyond my imag­i­na­tion.” ~ Jhumpa Lahiri  (Inter­preter of Maladies)

Flip It

Today, it is with much excite­ment that I present to you Marelisa Fábrega.  Marelisa has been a con­stant sup­porter and friend here at “The Jun­gle of Life” for the past year, and was one of my early vis­i­tors when I first started out.  Her arti­cles are always thought-provoking and with a real focus on each of us find­ing abun­dance, in all it’s forms, in our lives.

One area of inter­est for Marelisa is explor­ing ways to spark the cre­ativ­ity muse in all of us.  She has cre­ated a won­der­ful ebook, filled with nearly 100 pages of tech­niques to use when your cre­ative side could use a lit­tle spark.  This hand­book has some­thing for every­one, and is a tool you’ll come back to over and over. For more infor­ma­tion on this great resource, please check out:

How to Be More Cre­ative: A Hand­book for Alchemists

Marelisa is a con­stant source of such pos­i­tive and uplift­ing mate­r­ial.  You can keep up with her by vis­it­ing her blog, Abun­dance Blog at Marelisa Online.  For reg­u­lar updates, sub­scribe to her RSS feed and fol­low along with her on Twit­ter.

Today we’re flip­ping things around.  Read along, as Marelisa talks about…

Flip It

ungespitzt und verkehrt herum in den boden.
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“We are all cups, con­stantly and qui­etly being filled. The trick is, know­ing how to tip our­selves over and let the beau­ti­ful stuff out.” ~ Ray Bradbury

Ian Ayers—author of the best­seller “Super Crunchers”—and Barry Nale­buff, both Yale Pro­fes­sors, co-authored a book called “Why Not:  How to Use Every­day Inge­nu­ity to Solve Prob­lems Big and Small”, in which they insist that cre­ativ­ity is a skill that can be taught.  An inter­est­ing tech­nique that they pro­pose in their book for com­ing up with new ideas is to con­stantly ask the fol­low­ing ques­tion: “would flip­ping it work?” I found an excel­lent video in which Barry talks about the book, and presents some inter­est­ing exam­ples of how the con­cept of “flip­ping it” can lead to very cre­ative solu­tions.  Below you’ll find some  of these examples:

The Upside-Down Christ­mas Tree
Christ­mas is the favorite hol­i­day of the year for a lot of peo­ple, and dec­o­rat­ing the tree is a beloved Christ­mas tra­di­tion.  How­ever, hav­ing a tree dec­o­rated with orna­ments stand­ing in the mid­dle of one’s liv­ing room is not all fun and games; here are some of the prob­lems that are often encoun­tered with a tra­di­tional Christ­mas tree:
•    It takes up a lot of floor space.
•    Small chil­dren are always reach­ing for the tree orna­ments.
•    There’s never enough space under the tree for all of the presents.
•    Pets are con­stantly run­ning around the tree knock­ing off the orna­ments.
So how can these prob­lems be solved?  With an upside-down Christ­mas tree.  You can hang it from a bracket on the ceil­ing like a chan­de­lier, stand it upside-down on a tree stand, or mount it tip-down on the wall.  Some peo­ple even con­sider that you can bet­ter dis­play tree orna­ments with an upside-down Christ­mas tree, since it’s eas­ier to place the orna­ments at eye– level and they don’t get lost in the foliage.

Organ Dona­tion: Flip the Default to Opt-Out

Barry explains that there are over 90,000 peo­ple on the wait­ing list for organs in the United States.  Some of these peo­ple die before organs become avail­able.  Why does the US have such a long wait­ing list for organs?  Because there’s not enough peo­ple who are con­tribut­ing. The US uses an opt-in method for organ dona­tion: unless some­one signs a “Uni­form Organ Donor Card”, their organs can­not be used.  And not enough peo­ple sign these cards.
The flip of opt-in, of course, is opt-out; the pro­posal is to change the sys­tem so that people’s organs are donated unless they sign a form to opt-out.  Many coun­tries in Europe, includ­ing Spain, France, and Bel­gium, have opt-out organ dona­tion pro­grams. By chang­ing from an opt-in to an opt-out pro­gram, these Euro­pean coun­tries have elim­i­nated their organ wait­ing list.

Pen­sion Plans and Bananas
Although this isn’t one of the exam­ples used by Barry in his talk, in 2006 Con­gress passed “The Pen­sion Pro­tec­tion Act” which allows employ­ers to enroll new employ­ees in 401K plans auto­mat­i­cally, unless the employee chooses to opt-out.  That is, instead of ask­ing: “How can we over­come the iner­tia of employ­ees and get them to enroll in a 401K plan?”, they flipped the sit­u­a­tion by allow­ing employ­ers to cre­ate auto­matic opt-in plans.
For one last flip, Barry argues that the best way to peel a banana is hold it with the stem/handle point­ing down, pinch the tip, and then peel down­ward toward the stem. Although this is the oppo­site of how most peo­ple peel a banana, it’s how mon­keys do it (the experts), you don’t have to deal with banana strings, and you can con­ve­niently hold the banana by the stem as you eat it.

Con­clu­sion
As you can see from the four exam­ples explained above, flip­ping the prob­lem can be used to solve prob­lems both big—organ dona­tion and 401K plans—and small—Christmas trees and bananas.  In addi­tion, peo­ple have a ten­dency to get com­pla­cent and to do things in the way in which they’ve always been done, with­out stop­ping to think if there might be a bet­ter way to do them.  So, how are you going to use the “flip it” cre­ativ­ity tech­nique to solve your every­day prob­lems and help change the world?