What Is Love, Really

by Lance Ekum on September 29, 2009 · 92 comments


"Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so." ~ David Grayson


That strong emotion we all have.  It comes from a spot deep within our soul.

Lying in the grass and looking at the sky.

Flying a kite with your child.

A campfire.

A walk with your sweetheart.

The smell of freshly baked apple pie.

Love can encompass a whole number of different things.

How often do we really recognize what it is in our lives that we love?

The #Lovelist Project

This is the crazy-wonderful idea dreamt up by Kristin Tennant, writer at Halfway to Normal.  Kristin writes very much about subjects that have a deep personal connection for her, and she speaks with love and honesty that is real and refreshing.  Recently, Kristin wrote about this idea she's penned The Lovelist Project, and what this was.  Check out that post, it's filled with so much goodness and ways you can be a part of this project.  And there are a number of ways to participate, some very active, and some much more passive.  In the end, it's all about helping you to recognize that which you love in your life – in a deeply connecting way.

In My Words

The Lovelist Project is really you, identifying those things in your life that evoke this feeling of love.  That's a feeling we all have, and it's one I believe is at the core of who each of us are.  The thing is, none of us are the same.  And what we love is not the same.  So, there isnt' some "standard" list out there.  This list is a very personal list for each of us. 

And think about this – let's say we identify something we love:

Why is it that we love that thing?  Not just "on the surface love", that deeper more meaningful love. 

So this concept by Kristin is all about identifying those things in your life that you love.  Simple things.  Complex things.  All of it.  And then to think about the deeper meaning why.  Why is it that these things have deep meaning for you?  What is it that you're connecting with?  And through this whole mini-journey into the many loves in our life, we're getting closer to the core of who we each are.

What it's not:  It's not just sitting down for a half hour and cranking out a list (that doesn't sound too love-filled).  It's about deliberately being aware of those things in your life that really evoke that feeling of love.  And then identifying them and why you love them…in the moments of your day.

That List

I'll go first.

I love chocolate chip pancakes on a lazy Saturday morning
I love getting into a sun-warmed car on a cool fall day, and letting the warmth work it's way through my body.
I love seeing fog  develop, right before my eyes, on a crisp autumn evening

Your Turn

What does love mean to you?  What might be on your lovelist?  Feel free to share on Kristin's site, here, or on Twitter (using the hashtag #lovelist).  And follow Kristin's blog, where she's highlighting #lovelist entries each Friday, and encouraging others to add their own at that time too. 

Note:  At the same time, what we love can be deeply personal, and not something we're ready or want to share.  That's perfectly okay, too.  Sometimes it's just thinking about what it is that we love, that helps to connect us to a deeper part of our soul.  And then sometimes it's just plain silly stuff that just lightens our spirit.  It's all good, and it's all real. 

Keep up with Kristin by subscribing to her blog right here, and following her on Twitter.

Sunday Thought For The Day

by Lance Ekum on September 27, 2009 · 68 comments

8/365 - Holy jumping shots Batman!
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Draw a crazy picture,
Write a nutty poem,
Sing a mumble-gumble song,
Whistle through your comb.
Do a loony-goony dance
‘Cross the kitchen floor,
Put something silly in the world
That ain’t been there before.

~ Shel Silverstein

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 “I am a zizzer zazzer zuzz as you can plainly see.” ~ Dr. Seuss

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Maybe this should have been titled – "Does Twitter Really Have a Purpose?"  (you be the judge of that…)

It all began nearly a month ago, in an attempt to be both funny and healthy – Josie asking me on Twitter if I'd like a salmon donut.  (I'm sure I did nothing to pre-empt that comment!)

One thing led to another, and pretty soon we'd devised a challenge, complete with video! (what were we thinking, anyway??)

TIMEOUT:  Who is this Josie character? 

I wondered that same thing (okay, maybe I had at least a clue…).  Josie is a friend (granted…a weird friend!), and proud owner of the often funny and sometimes just plain wacky Yum Yucky website.  She's all about finding balance between fitness and your greedy side (this today probably veers a bit more toward the greedy side).  Honestly, she is a wealth of information when if comes to both healthy eating and fitness.  Healthy and fun – sounds like a winning combination to me!

TIME IN:  Back to the challenge.

These two videos represent the results of that challenge.  And in the end, the loser was to publicly admit defeat, and make a donation to their local food pantry.

Both videos are included up above.  You be the judge…who won? (and remember the rules – they're presented in each video)

Is there a definite winner?  It's not as easy as it looks to tell if there is or not. 

We declared it a tie – or better yet – that we're both winners.  Hey, as Josie can attest to, it all tasted delicious!  So…we both are winners…and we'll both make a donation to our local food pantries.  It's a win-win!! 

Curious?  To find out Josie's take on this whole thing (complete with the same videos), check out Greedy for a Cause: Josie vs. Lance (the video!)

Warning:  Do NOT try this at home.  It can be dangerous to your health and well-being.

Final Note:  (Hmmm…maybe venturing into video is the wrong direction for me…)  And Josie – you were a great sport in all of this!  I'm laughing WITH you! 

Decisions Decisions
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“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” ~ J.K. Rowling

 Today I have a guest post up with great friend Sami, author of the blog Life, Laughs, and Lemmings.  Sami writes with a wonderful mix of wit and seriousness mixed together.  And the result is material that one day might make you laugh, and the next day have you really pondering life.  And I think that’s a great mix, and a great way to view life!

In those moments when she’s not writing, Sami has a thing for the Flashdance!  When that day comes that we meet, maybe we’ll have a contest – my wife can be the impartial judge.  (Sami…does that thought scare you?? )

Today, I’m over at her site writing about a time I recently chose to show up.  It’s a piece that I think mixes several of Sami’s wonderful writing angles together into one. 

Sami has a deep and caring heart, and a sense of humor that makes life fun and exciting.  One of the many great things about Sami is her sharing of the Daisy List she created.  Not sure what a Daisy List is?  Check out her site, and maybe you’ll be creating one too!

Keep up with Sami and her fantastic site, by subscribing to her blog. 

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by Lance Ekum

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The Evolution of Our Heart’s Desire

by Lance Ekum

Today I am honored to have as our guest, Megan Bord, from It’s All About Joy.  Megan writes deep and meaningful pieces that touch very much upon that spot deep within us all, that connects us to our soul.  And in that spot, she seeks to explore the joy we all have within us. Read […]

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Sunday Thought For The Day

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