Puddle Splashing
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"The world is mud-luscious and puddle-wonderful." ~ e. e. cummings


by Lance Ekum on November 24, 2009 · 81 comments


“Outside show is a poor substitute for inner worth.” ~ Aesop

The human body is our vessel to carry us throughout our days.  Are we more than that, though?

Recently, I was asked by a good friend, Carla Birnberg (aka MizFit around here) to join in an appreciation of the whole human body – our wholeness is what makes us who we are. 

This all began when Mish, from Eating Journey, wrote about loving who we are…today.  (Mish:  You are a brave woman, and that is a wonderful thing to see!)

So, this is me – exposed.

That's the outer me.  Just like each of you, though, I am much more than what you see here.

I AM my legs.  They are used for walking, for running, for kicking, and for playing.  

I AM my smile.    That feeling of joy from just tipping my cheek bones up, from the corners of my lips pointed skyward.

I AM my eyes.  To see the beautiful sunsets.  To see those I love – my wife, my kids, friends.

I AM my heart.  Love.  Connection.  Feeling.  Truth.

I AM me. 

Life is funny.  This is me, recently.  It is not me today, though.  Perhaps I'm a couple of pounds more today.  Perhaps I'm also a little more deeply grounded, too, though.  Perhaps I'm not comfortable showing the real outside appearance today.  Perhaps I'm not always comfortable showing the inside me, too.  Perhaps I see that this picture represents me at my best.  Perhaps "best" is relative. 

None of us are perfect. 

We are not fast enough, or smart enough.  We don't have enough friends.  We have too much weight around our midsection.  We are too emotional.  We don't show enough emotion.  We look the other way when bad things happen.  We yell at our children.  We are mean to our spouse.  We sometimes just don't care.

Been there?

And all of us are perfect.

We are who we are, today.  In this moment, this is us.  We are living and breathing.  We are human.  We are perfectly human.  With all the challenges that go with that, and all the joys.  We are our body, our mind, our spirit.  It is us…each of us, at this moment.  It is what we have.  All of it. 

"I find that when we really love, accept and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, then everything in life works." ~ Louise Hay

Celebrate YOU! 

Love YOU!

Each of you are amazing!  In so many beautiful ways, you are all shining examples of living beings.  Human life, living here on earth.  Wow! 

And that is so much more that just skin deep. 

Celebrate LIFE!

Special Note:  Celebrate the success of several others who have exposed their bodies, and see the beauty that is there.  YOU are all brave and amazing!

Mish, MizFit, Roni, Kate, Heather, Ron, AJ, Manic Mama, Mary, KatieP, Cynthia, Hilda

Spring Converse
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 If I had my life to live over, I'd dare to make more mistakes next time. I'd relax, I would limber up. I would be sillier than I have been this trip. I would take fewer things seriously. I would take more chances. I would climb more mountains and swim more rivers. I would eat more ice cream and less beans. I would perhaps have more actual troubles, but I'd have fewer imaginary ones.

You see, I'm one of those people who lived sensibly and sanely, hour after hour, day after day. Oh, I've had my moments, and if I had to do it over again, I'd have more of them. In fact, I'd try to have nothing else. Just moments, one after another, instead of living so many years ahead of each day. I've been one of those persons who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, a raincoat and a parachute. If I had to do it again, I would travel lighter than I have.

If I had my life to live over, I would start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way later in the fall. I would go to more dances. I would ride more merry-go-rounds. I would pick more daisies.

~ Nadine Stair (age 85 at time of quote)

A very special thank you to Dr. Holly Latty-Mann for sharing this quote.

While I'm out of town for a few days, I have Evita Ochel here sharing some of her beautiful writing.  Evita is very wonderful friend and the author of three blogs, including:

Evolving Beings
Evolving Wellness
Evolving Scenes

I've known Evita since early on when I started this site.  In that time, I've come to love and appreciate her deeply thoughtful and introspective soul.  And she's about the kindest and most caring person I know – her heart is filled with a deep and caring compassion.   Much of what she writes about is about getting to our own truths, and connecting with that core within us.  And she does this in a way that feels right and okay, no matter what path our life is on. 

Really, I see this as a special gift she has, in how she can draw upon her experiences, and have her readers take something from that which is deeply meaningful to them.  Evita has a beautiful way of helping us to connect more personally with our own souls.  And that is a great place to visit!

You can keep up with Evita by subscribing to her blog, and following her on Twitter.

Please enjoy the wonderful writing Evita shares in…

Following The Blissful Brick Road


California Wildflowers
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“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls. “ ~ Joseph Campbell
It is not uncommon for any of us to know someone who is doing something that they are not happy doing. In fact, often that someone is us.
Millions of people today around the world are doing things that they do not enjoy whether it be job related, relationship related, material related or other.
But why do we do it?
Why do we do things, and so often, and for so long, that do not bring us joy?
Most of us I imagine would say because “we have to” or because “we have no choice”.
But think about this for a moment do you really?
Do you really think that this magnificent being that you are, who was gifted with free will has no choice?
If we step back for a moment and think of ourselves as the physical beings we are right now, and think for a moment what we “really” have to do, it only includes a very small number of things. You have to drink water and eat. You don't even have to breathe, as your system automatically does that for you.
Eventually you may want to move, you may want to create. However, if we really dissect life and what we have to do, one can even argue that unlike popular belief, we don't even have to make money. There are numerous people in this world that dedicate themselves to a completely non-materialistic life. Mother Theresa was only one example.
So we come back to our question – why do so many of us, do so many things throughout life that do not bring us happiness?
Numerous spiritual teachers, such as Neale Donald Walsch or Abraham Hicks over and over tell us that life is supposed to be based on joy, and if it doesn't feel good, don't do it. Yet we do.
Could it be that most of us have somehow convinced ourselves that there are things we must do?
Could it be that somehow, collectively all of us have spun an illusory web of “musts” that now we hold each other to in society?
And could it be that perhaps the things that we most wanted, somehow down the road we end up turning into unpleasant chores?
Let's think about it:
Your job – you chose it. No matter your education or your financial situation – when you signed that contract, that was you exercising your free will and saying yes. If it stopped bringing you happiness, choose again. There is a sea of choices out there, just allow yourself to look and see them. For those who really feel that they “can't leave” – you still can choose to change your perspective and create your own happiness.
Your Mate – you chose them. Unless perhaps you had a pre-arranged marriage, which even then someone can argue there is still choice, you chose your mate. If things changed over the moths or years, you still have choices at every step of the way in how you want to proceed. No one has to be stuck in a relationship that does not bring them happiness, not for money, not for family, not for anything.
Your Kids – you chose to have them. Even if they were unplanned, you chose to engage in behavior where the result could have been them. Many of us say we have to do this or that for our kids, but is it really a “have to” or a “want to”? Aren't kids, no matter the age, the most precious gifts we ever chose to give to ourselves? If you stopped seeing that for whatever reason, look at your children again.
No matter what, at every step of the way, and every single day we have our free will to choose joy, happiness and bliss, or not.
It starts with how you look at things, how you choose to see things, how you communicate, how much love you have for yourself, for your life, others and so much more!
I know many of us have fears that hold us back from doing or being what we love, but when we overcome those fears, not even the sky is the limit. In other words your happiness is limitless.
I can tell you from personal experience, that the Universe truly does open doors, where we thought there were only walls, when we follow our bliss, trust and learn to let go. I see this in my life on almost a daily basis. Do what you love.
There is not a moment to waste. Look at your life today, examine your choices, what are you doing that doesn't bring you happiness? Ask yourself, why are you doing it? How can you change it? How can you start to see it differently?
Life is precious. Some would even say “life is short”. Live it with no regrets. The people around you are precious. Don't wait any longer to live a life of bliss.
Any situation, even the most grim can be turned around to be a positive one. There are numerous examples of people around us to show us that there is another way – a way to choose bliss no matter what. Take Dan Caro as an example. At the age of 2, Dan was pretty much burned alive. Today with no hands, he is an exceptional drum player who is a triumphant example of how excuses do not have to hold us back from anything and we can choose bliss no matter what!
Every day when you wake up, you can choose to step on the road of bliss, live it and spread more to others as you go!
What do you choose?

Sunday Thought For The Day

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