“The world is mud-luscious and puddle-wonderful.” ~ e. e. cummings
Sunday Thought For The Day
Exposed
“Outside show is a poor substitute for inner worth.” ~ Aesop
The human body is our vessel to carry us throughout our days. Are we more than that, though?
Recently, I was asked by a good friend, Carla Birnberg (aka MizFit around here) to join in an appreciation of the whole human body — our wholeness is what makes us who we are.
This all began when Mish, from Eating Journey, wrote about loving who we are…today. (Mish: You are a brave woman, and that is a wonderful thing to see!)
So, this is me — exposed.
That’s the outer me. Just like each of you, though, I am much more than what you see here.
I AM my legs. They are used for walking, for running, for kicking, and for playing.
I AM my smile. That feeling of joy from just tipping my cheek bones up, from the corners of my lips pointed skyward.
I AM my eyes. To see the beautiful sunsets. To see those I love — my wife, my kids, friends.
I AM my heart. Love. Connection. Feeling. Truth.
I AM me.
Life is funny. This is me, recently. It is not me today, though. Perhaps I’m a couple of pounds more today. Perhaps I’m also a little more deeply grounded, too, though. Perhaps I’m not comfortable showing the real outside appearance today. Perhaps I’m not always comfortable showing the inside me, too. Perhaps I see that this picture represents me at my best. Perhaps “best” is relative.
None of us are perfect.
We are not fast enough, or smart enough. We don’t have enough friends. We have too much weight around our midsection. We are too emotional. We don’t show enough emotion. We look the other way when bad things happen. We yell at our children. We are mean to our spouse. We sometimes just don’t care.
Been there?
And all of us are perfect.
We are who we are, today. In this moment, this is us. We are living and breathing. We are human. We are perfectly human. With all the challenges that go with that, and all the joys. We are our body, our mind, our spirit. It is us…each of us, at this moment. It is what we have. All of it.
“I find that when we really love, accept and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, then everything in life works.” ~ Louise Hay
Celebrate YOU!
Love YOU!
Each of you are amazing! In so many beautiful ways, you are all shining examples of living beings. Human life, living here on earth. Wow!
And that is so much more that just skin deep.
Celebrate LIFE!
Special Note: Celebrate the success of several others who have exposed their bodies, and see the beauty that is there. YOU are all brave and amazing!
Mish, MizFit, Roni, Kate, Heather, Ron, AJ, Manic Mama, Mary, KatieP, Cynthia, Hilda
Sunday Thought For The Day
If I had my life to live over, I’d dare to make more mistakes next time. I’d relax, I would limber up. I would be sillier than I have been this trip. I would take fewer things seriously. I would take more chances. I would climb more mountains and swim more rivers. I would eat more ice cream and less beans. I would perhaps have more actual troubles, but I’d have fewer imaginary ones.
You see, I’m one of those people who lived sensibly and sanely, hour after hour, day after day. Oh, I’ve had my moments, and if I had to do it over again, I’d have more of them. In fact, I’d try to have nothing else. Just moments, one after another, instead of living so many years ahead of each day. I’ve been one of those persons who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, a raincoat and a parachute. If I had to do it again, I would travel lighter than I have.
If I had my life to live over, I would start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way later in the fall. I would go to more dances. I would ride more merry-go-rounds. I would pick more daisies.
~ Nadine Stair (age 85 at time of quote)
A very special thank you to Dr. Holly Latty-Mann for sharing this quote.
Following The Blissful Brick Road
While I’m out of town for a few days, I have Evita Ochel here sharing some of her beautiful writing. Evita is very wonderful friend and the author of three blogs, including:
Evolving Beings
Evolving Wellness
Evolving Scenes
I’ve known Evita since early on when I started this site. In that time, I’ve come to love and appreciate her deeply thoughtful and introspective soul. And she’s about the kindest and most caring person I know — her heart is filled with a deep and caring compassion. Much of what she writes about is about getting to our own truths, and connecting with that core within us. And she does this in a way that feels right and okay, no matter what path our life is on.
Really, I see this as a special gift she has, in how she can draw upon her experiences, and have her readers take something from that which is deeply meaningful to them. Evita has a beautiful way of helping us to connect more personally with our own souls. And that is a great place to visit!
You can keep up with Evita by subscribing to her blog, and following her on Twitter.
Please enjoy the wonderful writing Evita shares in…
Following The Blissful Brick Road

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“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls. “ ~ Joseph Campbell
Sunday Thought For The Day

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“Once the game is over, the King and the Pawn go back in the same box.” — Italian Proverb
How to Make a Difference Without a Whole Lot of Money
It’s an honor today to share an article written by John Anyasor, from HiLife2B. John is a regular visitor here, and authors his own blog while also attending college full-time. He has a real desire to help others, and much of what he writes focuses on personal growth. A recent example of his work include Should I or Should I Not? The Curse of Indecision.
John’s words will make you think more deeply, and lead you down your own road of self discovery. You can follow along with him by subscribing to his blog, and by following him on Twitter.
We can all make a difference, and today John shares:
How to Make a Difference Without a Whole Lot of Money

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“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” ~ Anne Frank
Have you got the itch? The itch for change? It’s that feeling you get when it seems like time is moving at no more than a snail’s pace. You’ve settled into the routine of simply living. As usual, there’s a war going on that nobody really wants to fight. Or there’s some disease that threatens our way of life. Same old, same old.
Everywhere we go, there are images of pain, fear, and hatred spread across some advertisement in bold letters. These images seem to ask us, “Is this the world you want to live in? Help these people fight the good fight! Help us find a cure! Help us make a difference! Do something!”
As a result, we say to ourselves, “Enough waiting around. It’s time for change. It’s time to make a difference.”
Okay, now you’re pumped and ready to make your mark on the world. First, maybe to begin your world-changing efforts, you make a commitment to donate to charity (the ones that give to poor third-world countries) at least once a month. That sounds reasonable, right?
Alright, it’s been a month, and to your surprise, on the news you hear of kids still starving in third world countries. You’re taken aback. “I thought people were donating money to this cause. And I thought I was giving enough. What’s going on?” you think to yourself.
Then, a great idea strikes you. “Maybe instead of being passive and paying money to some charity every week, I’ll hit it where it hurts. I’ll go to those starving countries and fix them myself!”
Fast forward a month later:
You realize you don’t have any money. You may or may not have kids to feed. You might be a little biased towards riding on planes, thanks to the media (you know how the terrorists hijack planes, don’t you?). You believe that it’ll take forever to save someone else’s plight, especially when they’re halfway around the world!
You also have a job that is under the control of your ever-so-grateful boss. You can go save the world on your own time.
With all of these things working against you, you finally resign to just paying your monthly charity check and hope things turn out for the best.
Just so you know, the person in the above scenario isn’t making a difference.
Now before we get to the meat of this article, this scenario is based on what I think usually happens. I’m not saying this is you. I’m just saying this is typically the scenario that plays out amongst the general population.
Society keeps telling you to change the world, and yet it forces you into jobs which rob you of the time needed to become skilled enough to do so. Society wants you to pay to save third world countries from hunger. Society wants you to keep living the way you are, while making you envious of a celebrities wealth at the same time.
Have you noticed something? (Because I sure have!) Society is training us to obsess over money.
Reality tv, gossip magazines, jobs, and internships: they all provide the carrot on the end of the stick — money. We’re supposed to have money, but God forbid we’re supposed to accrue enough to actually do anything with it!
We’re supposed to spend it trying to survive so that we can work more. We have to spend it paying off mortgages on houses we know we can’t afford.
Well, I for one am here to solve this problem.
There’s only one solution to this dilemma and there’s only one way to make a difference: we must give up our obsession with money.
Here’s the deal with money — use it or lose it
From now on, all the things you do now will be in preparation for the future. Put money into the things that have the most value. When you want to make a difference, there’s no purpose in investing in things that only give you instant gratification. Skip that fancy little red dress you’ll get bored of in two weeks, and use it to pay the phone bill. That big screen you’ve had your eye on can wait; spend the money on maintenance to prevent your car from breaking down (or better yet, save more money and take the bus!).
Work for yourself
Let’s face facts — you can’t make a difference by sitting in your office doing your boss’s work. You can use what you make to fund an online venture, but you can’t keep your job and run a profitable online business at the same time. Something has to give. My advice — as soon as it becomes more profitable to work for yourself than to work for your boss…quit.
Start an online venture
You don’t need thousands of dollars to start something that’ll make a difference. Gone are the days when you had to buy land and built a store to sell things. These days, making the switch to online is better, more accessible, and faster than offline ventures. Start a blog to get the word out of your attempt to make a difference. Sell merchandise or services — maybe both. If you have a Ma and Pop store, make the switch to MaandPop.com.
Manifest goodness within others by helping them
At this point, you’ve reclaimed your time and are earning your own living. Now you are ready to save those millions hoping and hurting across the world. But don’t make the same mistake twice by just donating money — actually go to those countries. Witness their plight. Experience the pain. And when you can’t take it anymore, find a solution. Actually teach people to improve their lives. Don’t depend on their country’s government to save them, but teach them to save themselves.
You can’t do this alone, of course. But with your newly acquired resources, you can gather like-minded individuals who’ll gladly help them on your quest.
There are people today who’ve already made the decision to save the world. Tim Ferriss is seeking to built schools in Vietnam. Steve Pavlina is empowering the masses by providing workshops to help people reach their full potential. Even Lance here is spreading awareness about breast cancer and motivating as many people as he can.
Think you can’t do it?
So did they once. They once thought they had no chance in making a difference. But that didn’t stop them from trying. And once they saw results, they tried again, and again, and again until…
Well you know the rest.
Just know that your chance to change the world hasn’t left yet. You can take action right now to fight for what you believe in or spread a passion that you have for something.
Go out right now, and think about how you’ve made a difference. And then quadruple your efforts.
“There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference n this world: Those who are afraid to try themselves, and those who are afraid that you will succeed.” — Ray Goforth
Deeper Connections

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“We don’t accomplish anything in this world alone … and whatever happens is the result of the whole tapestry of one’s life and all the weavings of individual threads from one to another that creates something.” ~ Sandra Day O’Connor
Connections.
How do you view them? What matters?
This weekend I had the opportunity to connect and strengthen some of those relationships with several people I’ve met through online connections.
Katie West, founder of The Levity Project, was in Chicago on Saturday to bring a laughter event to the city. It was an amazing day, and a great way to bring a little extra joy into the world. As great as that was, that’s not the focus of this article today. Instead, today I’m looking at the powerful and meaningful ways that deeper connections are formed.
I had the opportunity to connect with several people on that deeper and more personal level:
- Kim Kotecki from Escape Adulthood (thanks for being my riding buddy on our little road trip…and for great GPS skills when I got us lost!!)
- Stacey Hoffer Weckstein from Create A Balance for Moms (whoa…we really met! How cool!)
- John Anyasor from HiLife2B (what a fun event, huh!)
- Ina Lukas (hey sparkly gazer…don’t move!!!)
- Katie West from The Levity Project (YOU…buddy…are simply awesome!)

Kim, Stacey, Katie, myself, and Ina after the event

Katie, John, and myself in downtown Chicago
When you think about the Internet, what are your thoughts? Does it seem like this is a warm and welcoming place, or does it seem cold and rigid?
In it’s barest form, what I’m typing here and sharing can be broken down into a series of 1’s and 0’s (binary code). Just a bunch of numbers being sent back and forth. The raw data would look very technical, cold, and not welcoming at all. I find that so interesting. This series of 1001001100111100011000111001111 (I have no idea what that says…) data becomes so much more. It becomes the catalyst to something great. Great in terms of whatever it is we’re here doing.
Today, that’s about connection. People I never would have met, were it not for these 1’s and 0’s and the connecting ability they hold.
When those connections can be made even greater — email, phone conversations, and in person meetings — wow! The Internet has provided such a great tool for connecting people from all over the world. And when there are opportunities to take those connections to a new level, to deepen that connection — it is so worth it.
This all takes me back several months, to last spring — when I had my first opportunity to connect “in person” with someone I had met only online. Stacey Shipman and I found ourselves with a unique opportunity where our paths crossed while both of us were on vacation — giving us a wonderful chance to meet. It has made for a developing friendship between us. I know this is what it is today because we met “in person”, and really had an opportunity to connect at a different, more personal level.
Our own personal world is greatly impacted by the connections we have with others around us. When we can take those connections to a deeper level, and make the connection more personal and real — that relationship is strengthened, and our life is improved. Especially when those connections are in line with our more inner being.
Your Turn
How do you view the Internet? Have you made deeper connections with others because of your presence on the Internet (email, blog, social media, website, etc)? Do you find the world to be a smaller place?
Sunday Thought For The Day

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“When I was 5 years old, my mom always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy”. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment and I told them they didn’t understand life.” ~ Author Unknown
RAOKA: Kindness
Kindness
“Kindness, like a boomerang, always returns.” ~ Author Unknown
Preface: Random Acts of Kick Arse is a movement to bring more of {monthly theme} into our lives, and the lives of those around us.
October Theme: Kindness. Find ways to incorporate more kindness into the world.
The Results: Kindness. I suppose it could really be an endless list of ways to bring some “good” to someone else. Kindness is a pretty broad term. How to really focus on this? Hmmm… It seems easy, and then…well…daily life kicks in. What I found was that is was easy to “forget” this focal point for the month. Caught up in my own daily life, this idea of kindness took a backseat. Then I’d remember it. And I’d be more purposeful, more deliberate…until, well…I wasn’t. If I were in school I’d give myself a B, or maybe a C. There’s room for improvement, and the biggest improvement for me is in making each monthly theme more of a focal point. Lesson Learned: Without focus, it’s all too easy to do what I’ve always done.
I still hope that I’ve stepped out of October and into November having left a little more kindness in the world. What I do know is that throughout the month, I experienced great kindness from others, and I think that’s an important point to think about too. How often do we really appreciate the kindness shown to us? Do we sometimes miss it?
With that in mind, this month I highlight just a couple of the many moments where I witnessed beautiful kindness.
Moment #1
Through the month of October, I had the privilege of working with Joanna Sutter, from Fitness and Spice, on creating an e-book to raise money for breast cancer research (we’ve raised almost $1000!!). Joanna shined in so many amazing and kind ways all month. It began with her enthusiasm, and that kindness rolled into her doing the lion’s share of putting the e-book into a completed format. I know it was a lot of work, and she did it all without complaint (and making my life so much easier!) — and put up with my calls from early morning into the late evenings. Joanna — you are a kindness superstar!
Moment #2
Through her writing, I witnessed deep kindness from friend Angelia Sims, of Living, Loving, Laughing… Everything from participating and raising money to fight diabetes, to volunteering to help women at a homeless shelter. True examples from Angelia of kindness in action, and in ways that directly help people — out there on the front lines of kindness! And all of it done from the heart. Angelia — you are a kindness superstar!
Moment #3
A coworker, Rebecca, with whom I’ve worked on a project the last several months. Rebecca worked tirelessly to see this project come together — highlighted by culmination into a final product in October. This was Rebecca’s “baby”, and I was involved to support making it happen all through the process. At the completion, I suggested lunch to celebrate. She insisted upon paying (after I asked her out to lunch!). A small act (of many throughout the project). Spoken from a sincere and caring heart. And something not at all required. Rebecca — you are a kindness superstar!
Moment #4
My wife, Lora. October became a crazy month, and it consumed me. Through it all, Lora was there to pick up the pieces, make sure everything happened at home — and there to listen when I started to “whine”… That included when I was ready to throw in the towel on some volunteer activities, and she stepped in to get it all organized. And that made all the difference in the world. Lora — you are a kindness superstar!
What is Random Acts of Kick Arse (RAOKA)? With the idea that there are so many ways we can do small things to change the world for good, Sami, from Life, Laughs, and Lemmings took an idea she had and created this movement. The movement: A new theme to focus on each month, bringing a little more good to the world. The movement started in October 2009, with a core group of participants:
Melissa from Operation NICE
Lori from Jane Be Nimble
Dani from Positively Present
Brandi from Joy Rebel
Sami from Life, Laughs, and Lemmings
Each month a topic will be chosen to focus on, and then at the start of the next month, the participants will write about their experiences from the previous month.
Interested in joining the movement? Contact Sami for details.
November Theme: Beauty (as chosen by Brandi from Joy Rebel)
Logo courtesy of Melissa from Operation NICE
The Practice of Saying Ha Ha!
Laughter can be so connecting. I’m sure you’ve had those moments…moments where you’ve started to laugh, and it’s taken you to a very good place. It’s like you can feel the stress leaving your body, like everything seems a little bit lighter, like at at that moment all is good and right in the world.
Today I have a special guest and personal friend here with us — Katie West, from The Levity Project. Katie’s life mission is all about bringing more joy and levity into our world. She does this in a number of ways — everything from coaching clients on incorporating laughter into daily activities to public events of bringing laughter and lightness out into the world.
Is laughter easy for you? Perhaps sometimes it’s not. Maybe it feels awkward to laugh in some situations. It’s one thing to laugh behind closed doors. And it can be another altogether to laugh in a public place. What will people think?
Below, Katie shares a part of the journey she has been on to get to where she is today. And today that is a place that is very much laughter-filled! Was it always this way for her, though? Continue reading, as Katie shares.…
The Practice of Saying Ha Ha!

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“I will not play tug o’ war. I’d rather play hug o’ war. Where everyone hugs instead of tugs, Where everyone giggles and rolls on the rug, Where everyone kisses, and everyone grins, and everyone cuddles, and everyone wins.” ~ Shel Silverstein
More than three years ago, I invited my husband to come with me to a laughter class as a date. We had never heard of it. Upon arriving at the class, the leader, Jen, explained how laughter yoga was the practice of laughing for no reason and that it was a body-mind wellness approach. Jen told us that our brain does not know the difference between real laughter and fake laughter, so by just saying, “Ha, Ha, Ha” we feels as good as if we have really been cracking up over a joke or with a good friend.
Immediately, I loved the concept.
But halfway through class, when we began the laughter yoga exercises, I was wide eyed with discomfort. Having always shied away from the stage or doing anything in which I looked “foolish”, I found myself quietly going through the exercises hoping no one would see me. People all around me were having a grand time, some really laughing and some just practicing saying “Ha Ha Ho Ho.” I was still trapped behind a forced smile of awkwardness.
Then, a petite woman came up to me and started doing “humming laughter”. It was if she could read the discomfort in my eyes and was encouraging me to have fun as she hummed exuberantly. Her easy presence made me burst out laughing. She was not caught up in what I thought of her or what anyone else thought. She was caught up in simply having a good time for no reason at all.
I marveled at this freedom. Then, moments later, a man came up to me and shook my hand excitedly as part of another exercise. Only, he did not let go when I tried to and just kept shaking and shaking until I was laughing so hard, I could barely stand up! It was as if he was helping me to shake away any nervousness or self-judgment. Finally, I began to relax into the joy of it all!
By the end of class I was rolling on the floor with everyone else in hysterics over NOTHING! The laughter was real and felt so freeing to just laugh without thinking something was funny, yet at the same time everything felt funny.
I still remember vividly the energetic shift in my body as my husband and I re-entered the cold, winter air that night. It was a buzz that lasted long into the spring. That was the first winter I loved living in a cold climate…I kept laughing to stay warm!
In the years since that class, I have watched time and time again, how laughter frees me up from worrying what I “should” do to what feels right deep within me to do. I find that practicing laughter allows us to connect to ourselves deep within so we no longer put the same emphasis on what others are thinking or saying or doing.
Instead, we have the unique opportunity to live within our hearts in this very moment. And I believe when we are able to do that, we have all that we need to approach each moment of our lives from an open and grounded place.
By bringing more laughter into our lives, even in the challenging times, we are inviting abounding joy to enter our experience. From here, we can celebrate the good that is present so much more easily.
I love looking back to that blustery laughter-filled winter night as a great shift in my life in which I stopped living the life I felt comfortable living and started living the life I knew I deeply wanted and had always dreamt of living.
A Special Event
Saturday, November 7th: Katie and The Levity Project movement are coming to Chicago! Get all the details right here! This will be a day filled with laughter and joy, and one I’m excited to be taking part in, too!! If you are near the Chicago area, check this out — for the cost of getting to downtown Chicago, you can be part of a very special day!
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