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Think Different

“Here’s to the crazy ones, the mis­fits, the rebels, the trou­ble­mak­ers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things dif­fer­ently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, dis­agree with them, glo­rify or vil­ify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race for­ward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” ~ Steve Jobs

The oppor­tu­nity to think different.

The Willy Street Fair:  Madi­son, Wisconsin

On a brisk sunny Sep­tem­ber morn­ing, I travel to Madi­son, Wis­con­sin (just a short drive away) with two of my kids.  Our plan:

Think dif­fer­ent. 

Be it.  Do it.

The Willy Street Fair.

The whole con­cept of this fair, a neigh­bor­hood cel­e­bra­tion of diver­sity and united-ness, is dif­fer­ent than any I’ve expe­ri­enced before.  See, we went know­ing we would be dress­ing dif­fer­ent than nor­mal, that we’d be walk­ing in the parade and doing different. 

And.…

Dif­fer­ent was the norm on this day.

This parade, this fair, this cel­e­bra­tion of diver­sity shined the beauty of what dif­fer­ent can be!  More than that, though — this was dif­fer­ent with full accep­tance.  A cel­e­bra­tion of the unique!  A belief in all that IS pos­si­ble!  Fun!  Life affirming!


What if…

What if every day was like that.  Where dif­fer­ent was fully accepted.  Where dif­fer­ent was encour­aged.  Where dif­fer­ent was cel­e­brated.  Where dif­fer­ent brought deeper connection.

How do we get there?  How do we get to where dif­fer­ent is okay.  (because it is!!)

We have to do it!  When each of us takes those steps…those steps into the unknown that dif­fer­ent can bring — we allow oth­ers to do that, too.

Small steps.  Big steps.  In between steps.

What can YOU do?  Today.

Think dif­fer­ent.

Be it.  Do it.

Life Happiness Lessons: What I Learned From a Duck

This arti­cle is from Evita Ochel, writer at the Evolv­ing Beings web­site.  Evita writes very deeply from a place of mean­ing and pur­pose.  Today she shares her words and insights here.

Life Hap­pi­ness Lessons: What I Learned From a Duck

“The pur­pose of learn­ing is growth, and our minds, unlike our bod­ies, can con­tinue grow­ing as we con­tinue to live.” ~ Mor­timer Adler

Liv­ing on a water­front, in a more nat­ural envi­ron­ment, I have the plea­sure to observe and inter­act with nature in many ways. Whether it is the sun, the wind, the water or any of nature’s immac­u­late liv­ing species — Nature is an amaz­ing teacher. If we allow our­selves to fully see, hear and expe­ri­ence what she presents, we open our­selves up to a wise and infi­nite teacher.

In doing so, we open our­selves up to learn­ing about our­selves, our envi­ron­ment and all that is in it. We invite into our­selves learn­ing oppor­tu­ni­ties that can nour­ish our being and soul, and move us for­ward along the path of our per­sonal growth and evolution. 

One of my most recent teach­ers has been a lit­tle vis­i­tor to our prop­erty, whom in allow­ing myself to observe, I learned more from, than per­haps any book or guru. I named our lit­tle vis­i­tor Ethel — and Ethel is a duck. I warmly share with you here today, in Lance’s won­der­ful space, four things that I learned from Ethel for liv­ing out a happy life.

1. Enjoy the Full­ness of Each Moment
It only takes a few min­utes of watch­ing Ethel, to tap into a com­pletely dif­fer­ent space and time. A space in fact, where time does not exist — where there is sim­ply — now — this moment.

Ethel knows how to enjoy her being, her life and her envi­ron­ment. She is never in a rush to do the “next” thing. She is fully immersed in being. She fully takes in each moment.  With Ethel, there is no multi-tasking. When she is swim­ming, she is in the moment of swim­ming. When she is groom­ing, she is fully focused on groom­ing. The same goes for her rest and feeding.  

May you always remem­ber, to enjoy the full­ness of each moment of your life. Each moment is pre­cious and holds a gift for us, in what it can allow us to be, feel and experience.

2. Be Open To Receiv­ing
On a few occa­sions, I allowed myself to offer Ethel some food. It was a per­sonal expe­ri­ence that I felt was right for me, and allowed me to inter­act and con­nect with Ethel on a dif­fer­ent dimen­sion. Each time, Ethel received passionately.

How many times are you open to receiv­ing, when another being is offer­ing you their help, kind­ness, hos­pi­tal­ity or any other pos­i­tive ges­ture? How open is your heart to wel­come in their per­sonal expres­sion of love?

May you always remem­ber that ‘in giv­ing, you receive’ — and ‘in receiv­ing, you give’. It is only when we allow for this bal­ance within our hearts, that we allow our­selves and oth­ers around us the fullest expres­sion of love.

3. Have a Per­sonal Enough

In those few times that I fed Ethel, one of the most remark­able things was watch­ing Ethel know when she had enough. Ethel may not know when or where her next meal will come from, but she knows that fill­ing up too much at one time, is not going to help her.

Do you have your own “enough”?  Whether it is hav­ing “enough” food, or drink or of an activ­ity, a healthy bal­ance is one of the surest way for a happy life. In our soci­ety, we are not always so good at our per­sonal bound­aries of “enough”. We overindulge in var­i­ous things.

Whether it be some­thing phys­i­cal, emo­tional or spir­i­tual, may you find that sacred space within of know­ing when you have had “enough” — as over­fill­ing on any­thing leads us out of bal­ance, and away from liv­ing out the hap­pi­est life ever.

4. Know When To Move On
As of a few days ago, I stopped see­ing Ethel, but I caught glimpse above head of the ducks fly­ing off in groups. Ethel knew that it would not serve her to stay here forever. 

Although a long flight to a warmer cli­mate is going to take time and effort, and the jour­ney holds a lot of unknowns, Ethel knew that ulti­mately this would be for her high­est good. She knew when her present envi­ron­ment no longer served her, and when it was time to move on.

In the same way, we can look at our own per­sonal rela­tion­ships and places where we reside. Are we open to change and know­ing when it is time to move on?  Are we will­ing to embrace a bit of the unknown, to ben­e­fit our high­est good?

Whether it is a rela­tion­ship with some­one, a work­place, a neigh­bor­hood or a per­sonal ven­ture, may you always know when it is time to move on for your high­est good. Trust that in let­ting go and mov­ing on, you too, will find ‘bet­ter cli­mates’.

“Those who con­tem­plate the beauty of the earth find reserves of strength that will endure as long as life lasts.” ~ Rachel Carson


You can keep up with Evita by sub­scrib­ing to her blog, and fol­low­ing her on Twit­ter.

Sunday Thought For The Day

I need you !!
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“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intel­li­gent peo­ple and the affec­tion of chil­dren … to leave the world a bet­ter place … to know even one life has breathed eas­ier because you have lived.  This is to have suc­ceeded.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Apples And Pies And Barbara Oh My!

Pie-Making - finished pie, apple
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“I meant what I said and I said what I meant.” ~ Dr. Seuss

Apples!!

Pies!!

Bar­bara Swafford!!

I have an apple with me today.  (yum!)  I want some apple pie. (dou­ble yum!)  And I am hon­ored to know Bar­bara Swaf­ford and have been touched by her pres­ence!! (triple YUM!!)

Let me set the apple aside and stop dream­ing of that apple pie (grudgingly…it tastes soooo good in this dream of mine!) for a moment…

Bar­bara!!

Thank you!  (it hardly seems enough…)

As I think back to when I started down this jour­ney with the Jun­gle of Life, I recall those early days when I was a bit unsure of myself out here in this new world online.  And then, mag­i­cally, I found Bar­bara and her won­der­ful site — Blog­ging With­out A Blog.  What a amaz­ing and wise woman…sharing so many ideas!

It didn’t stop there, though.

There was this thing — the New Blog of The Week (NBOTW) that she was doing back then…featuring new blog­gers and help­ing to give them a start, a boost, a con­nec­tion with others.

I knew so few out there in this big and unknown online world.  And then Barbara…well…she opened her heart…and con­nected me with her car­ing and amaz­ing followers!!

Barbara…thank YOU!!!  Thank you for ALL of this!!

It’s been over two years since that time…and what you gave me was truly a boost in con­fi­dence, an appre­ci­a­tion for car­ing souls, a deeper belief in my own abil­i­ties, and an online class­room in which to learn and grow!

Barbara…may your life be filled with mag­i­cal moments…moments like you have given me and so many others!!

And for every­one read­ing this…know that each of you offer amaz­ing gifts to this world! 

…and…

Enjoy some sweet apple pie!!!!  (…or an apple…) (…or what­ever it is that warms your belly!!)

Barbara…you are a STAR!!  (…shin­ing so brightly into so many lives!!!)

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Life: Do It Now

Swinging like crazy
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“Enjoy life. This is not a dress rehearsal.” ~ Anony­mous

The year was 1969.  I entered this world and life in human form began.  A life that was full of moments.…of being truly in the present.

Do you remem­ber learn­ing to walk?  Or talk?  Or eat? 

And what about laugh­ter — didn’t it just hap­pen spontaneously?

Okay, so maybe recall­ing these early life mem­o­ries isn’t fully pos­si­ble.  We see it, though, when we see a baby — today — doing these things. 

Things each one of us did, too.

Life began — for all of us — with moments where we just tried things.  We just went “out there” and did it. 

Did we fall?  Did our words come out jum­bled?  Did we get food on our face?

YES!

And you know what — none of that stopped us!  We would just keep on doing it — and get­ting bet­ter each time.

Oh…and laughing…I’m pretty sure we all did lots of that!!  Even if life seemed hard or challenging…laughter was still there.

How about today?

Our life is now.

NOW.

Do you fully grasp that?  Do I fully grasp that?

As a baby in this world…this con­cept was so nat­ural to all of us.

As we have grown older, do we always remem­ber that?

Yarmouth Clam Fes­ti­val:  Yarmouth, Maine ~ July 2010

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This video, cre­ated in con­junc­tion with The Lev­ity Project, epit­o­mizes truly liv­ing in the moment.

Note:  I’m in there, on one of those big blue bouncy hip­pity hop balls!

Every­one involved in this — every­one! — went into this event with some unknow­ing of exactly how this would all hap­pen.  And yet, all of these amaz­ing peo­ple — from all walks of life — came together to cre­ate this moment…a moment of joy for all those await­ing the start of the Yarmouth Clam Fes­ti­val parade. 

There were moments of con­fu­sion.  There were moments of chaos.  There were moments of “last minute change”. 

…just like that baby we all were…learning to walk, to talk, to live…

“Joy is increased by spread­ing it to oth­ers” ~ Robert Mur­ray McCheyne

And then, it came together! 

Joy! 

Cel­e­bra­tion!

Laugh­ter!

Liv­ing!

As I reflect back on this moment, I’m reminded of the words of Abra­ham Lincoln…

“And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count.  It’s the life in your years.” ~ Abra­ham Lin­coln

Today is YOUR day! 

This moment is YOUR moment!

How will you live it?

Sunday Thought For The Day

Contemplating the Waterfall, Phnom Kulen
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The Four Agree­ments

Be impec­ca­ble with your word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against your­self or to gos­sip about oth­ers. Use the power of your word in the direc­tion of truth and love.

Don’t take any­thing per­son­ally

Noth­ing oth­ers do is because of you. What oth­ers say and do is a pro­jec­tion of their own real­ity, their own dream. When you are immune to the opin­ions and actions of oth­ers, you won’t be the vic­tim of need­less suffering.

Don’t make assump­tions
Find the courage to ask ques­tions and to express what you really want. Com­mu­ni­cate with oth­ers as clearly as you can to avoid mis­un­der­stand­ings, sad­ness, and drama. With just this one agree­ment, you can com­pletely trans­form your life.

Always do your best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be dif­fer­ent when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any cir­cum­stance, sim­ply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

~ don Miguel Ruiz

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Progress Is Not Linear

Visual Complexity
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“We all want progress, but if you’re on the wrong road, progress means doing an about-turn and walk­ing back to the right road; in that case, the man who turns back soon­est is the most pro­gres­sive.” ~ C.S. Lewis

Note:  Please help me wel­come Eduard Ezeanu, from Peo­ple Skills Decoded, here today, as our guest writer.

We all want to progress, although some more than oth­ers. I believe that the atti­tudes and per­cep­tions we have about progress deter­mine to a large degree how effec­tive we are in mak­ing progress and how much we enjoy it.

Here is one per­cep­tion which a lot of us have engrained and it sab­o­tages our lives: the per­cep­tion that progress is lin­ear. This means that con­sciously or not, we see progress like a straight road, which goes directly and smoothly to our destination.

So we expect to con­stantly make progress, and to make progress in the same degree in equal peri­ods of time. In a way, apply­ing this per­cep­tion, we see a 10 year old per­son as twice what a 5 year old is and a 20 year old as twice what a 10 year old is.

I think this is a very stiff and unre­al­is­tic view of progress. Not even a tree grows like that, in a lin­ear way. Why should we expect a human being to do so? If we want to truly embrace progress and have fun with it, we need to real­ize that progress is not lin­ear. Progress is organic.

This mean that we may go through long peri­ods with lit­tle progress, fol­lowed by peri­ods of light­ing fast progress, or peri­ods when we regress, in order to cre­ate a con­text which allows even big­ger progress than the pre­vi­ous one.

Here is one exam­ple I meet often in my coach­ing prac­tice: peo­ple who advance in a cer­tain pro­fes­sional field, until they reach a point when they no longer feel ful­filled in that field. Often, what they need to do is find a field which would be even more ful­fill­ing for them, get in that field and grow in it.

The thing is, mov­ing from a pro­fes­sional field in which you are at a very high level to a field which is new for you rep­re­sents ini­tially a form of regres­sion. But it is this regres­sion which allows you to make after­wards progress in this new field and reach heights you couldn’t have reached in the pre­vi­ous one.

In other words, you need to regress before you can progress again and max­i­mize the use of your poten­tial. It still amazes me how few peo­ple under­stand this at a deep level and are will­ing to do it.

Our lin­ear views of progress often keep us stuck in a fear of regress, fear of change which in the end sab­o­tages our progress instead of help­ing us. We try to grow con­stantly and smoothly, but we end up get­ting stuck and feel­ing sorry for our­selves. Unfor­tu­nately, this is the story of many peo­ple in this world.

I believe it’s fun­da­men­tal for us to have a more plas­tic and real­is­tic view of progress. To under­stand that it’s a tan­gled road rather than a straight one; that we some­times need to dis­tance our­selves from our des­ti­na­tion before we can get even closer to it.

It is only with this kind of a view that we can learn to walk the tan­gled road of life, get to where we want and enjoy the jour­ney as well.


Eduard Ezeanu is a com­mu­ni­ca­tion coach with an attitude-based approach. He helps oth­ers to improve peo­ple skills they find rel­e­vant and get top notch results. He also writes on his blog, Peo­ple Skills Decoded, and you can fol­low him on Twit­ter at @EduardSays.

Sunday Thought For The Day

Sun Breaking Through
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“Per­haps it will seem to you that the sun­shine is brighter and that every­thing has a new charm. At least, I believe this is always the result of a deep love, and it is a beau­ti­ful thing. And I believe peo­ple who think love pre­vents one from think­ing clearly are wrong; for then one thinks very clearly and is more active than before. And love is some­thing eter­nal — the aspect may change, but not the essence. There is the same dif­fer­ence in a per­son before and after he is in love as there is in an unlighted lamp and one that is burn­ing. The lamp was there and it was a good lamp, but now it is shed­ding light too, and that is its real func­tion. And love makes one calmer about many things, and in that way, one is more fit for one’s work.” ~ Vin­cent van Gogh

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Music For The Soul: Steer

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Missy Hig­gins: Steer

A spe­cial thank you to Mish, for the intro­duc­tion to this artist.

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Arghh! I Screwed Up!

CAER / Fashion Shoot BLANK Mag
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“Live life fully while you’re here. Expe­ri­ence every­thing. Take care of your­self and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You’re going to any­way, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the oppor­tu­nity to learn from your mis­takes: find the cause of your prob­lem and elim­i­nate it. Don’t try to be per­fect; just be an excel­lent exam­ple of being human.” ~ Anthony Robbins

“I screwed up.“
“I can’t believe I just did that.“
“What was I think­ing.“
“How could I not see that com­ing?“
“Dammit!”

Or any other myr­iad of thoughts/words that might come out (aloud, or in our head) when things don’t go quite as planned.

Has that ever hap­pened to you?  (of course it has…and for me, too)

How do you han­dle these moments?

Embar­rass­ment?    Did any­one else see that?  Laugh it off?  Make up excuses?  Etc, etc, etc…

This past week­end, I was out moun­tain bik­ing with my two sons.  There is this state park just a few miles from our home, and it’s a fun place to go and take on some of the trails…trails that are not overly com­pli­cated, yet still pro­vide for a fun ride and a great oppor­tu­nity to get out­doors.  This is a new activ­ity we have just dis­cov­ered over the sum­mer.  And this was also the first time on the trails for my younger son. 

As we were ascend­ing the first hill, he hap­pened to hit a rut. (hmmm…isn’t life some­times like that?)

CRASH!

And then…

He jumped right back up!  And back on that bike — unfazed by this fall.

Kids.  They really get it some­times.  There was no “jeez, I look like a fool”, or “what’s wrong with me”, or any of the other thoughts that can cross our minds when we ‘screw up’.  It was sim­ply some­thing that happened. 

…and then, back on that bike.

How about you?  How about me?

When you fall — which you cer­tainly have…which you cer­tainly will… (when I fall — which I cer­tainly have…which I cer­tainly will…) …

What do we do?

Think about that.

“Between stim­u­lus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our free­dom.” ~ Vik­tor E. Frankl

YOU…choose your response.


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What will it be?

In the grand scheme of things, our life here on earth truly is short.  That does not mean it isn’t mean­ing­ful, though (because it IS meaningful…for each and every one of us). 

Lis­ten to your heart.

Chase rain­bows.

Screw up.

Fall down.

Get back up.

Brush your­self off.

Reach for the stars!

And keep head­ing down that trail that is truly one of mean­ing for you…a jour­ney that is so worth it!

..and LIVE!