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The Strange Familiar: Courage Is

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There are a lot of traits required to be successful at dating and being in a loving relationship, but one resonates the most:

Courage

It is needed in all stages of love relationships.

Without courage one cannot be successful in finding a partner and being a part of a loving, healthy relationship. So many express possessing a lack of courage to date again after a painful breakup, but at each stage in a relationship it is essential to have courage if being happy with the right person is the goal.

It takes courage to become vulnerable, to open oneself to the prospect of dating. Some refuse to date because of the rejection that comes from the process of finding a partner. This will be an impediment for many in meeting prospects and dating.

Others are able to take those initial steps to find a partner. The trial-and-error experience of meeting new people and first dates is not daunting. But once in a relationship that is comfortable, when both partners have settled in, there can be discomfort in expressing needs and desires to feel fulfilled. Maintaining harmony becomes paramount while rising discontent from not having needs met begins to settle in.

On another level, there are those who have little fear of the dating process and possess solid communication skills, but fall short in another area. Once comfortable in a relationship, it is hard to move forward if the relationship should end. There could have been a discovery of a non-negotiable trait the partner possesses or hurtful behavior that should not be tolerated, but the relationship is comfortable. It has become like a habit; not necessarily happy with it, but unable to break away.

There are times in a loving, successful relationship when one can become deeply hurt by the other. A partner could have been unfaithful, disconnected emotionally, chose not to be physically present, or withheld affection. Anger and resentment can set in. By shutting down and not being emotionally accessible, there is definitely a way to minimize the pain felt, but no way to be open to reconciliation.

Without courage one is robbed of great joy.

Be courageous in love.

It's worth the risk.


by Kelly Sajonia

Rarely do you see an act of courage and recognize it immediately for what it is.

There is seldom a rousing crescendo of music playing to bring our attention round to a courageous feat before us. It helps when someone points it out.

"I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It's when you know you're licked before you begin but you begin anyway and you see it through no matter what. You rarely win, but sometimes you do. Mrs Dubose won, all ninety-eight pounds of her. According to her views, she died beholden to nothing and nobody. She was the bravest person I ever knew." – spoken by Atticus Finch, by Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird

Courage often masquerades as something else. Or our judgment shrouds what we're witnessing and calls it something easier for us to digest.

Sometimes it looks like dogmatic stubbornness.

Sometimes it looks like bravery.

Sometimes it looks like martyrdom.

Sometimes it looks like doing the impossible.

Sometimes it looks like love: of self or others.

Sometimes it looks like naïveté.

Sometimes it looks like doing it alone.

Sometimes it looks like doing it together.

Sometimes it looks like elegance and poise.

Sometimes it looks like snot and tears and sweat.

Sometimes it looks like doing it "in spite of…"

Sometimes it looks like alienation.

Sometimes it looks like risk.

Sometimes it looks like tender vulnerability.

Sometimes it looks like breaking through.

Sometimes it looks like stoicism.

Sometimes it looks like pacifism.

Sometimes it looks like rebellion.

Sometimes it looks like relentless compassion.

Sometimes it looks like cutting something loose.

Sometimes it looks like forgiveness.

Sometimes it looks like admitting defeat.

Sometimes it looks like uncompromising integrity.

Sometimes it looks like stopping.

Sometimes it looks like starting.

Sometimes it looks like power.

Sometimes it looks like weakness.

Sometimes it looks like blind faith.

No matter what it looks like, its source is not to be refuted. TRUE courage comes from the heart. Etymologically and figuratively.

Whether it's in kicking your morphine habit before you die like Mrs Dubose, holding vigil for someone's worry so they can sleep, calling out a gang of teenagers on the subway to give up a seat to an elderly man, or loving fully and completely.

The trick is in trusting the irrevocable truth that lies in the heart. Hearing the call for courage and heeding it.

Tricky business, indeed.


by Tanya Geisler


Photo: Courtesy of The Wandering Angel

Do you want excellent health? Do you want to be physically fit? In order to live a full, vibrant life you need to be healthy. You don't want to be taking prescription drugs just to stay alive in the hospital when you reach your later years, do you?

Wouldn't you rather be able to play a round of golf, rock climb, go on five to ten hour hikes or chase your grand kids when you are in your 80s and 90s?

Yes!

If you were not born yesterday then you are well aware that the health of the world, particularly folks eating a typical Standard American Diet, is in a steady decline. We continue to get fatter and fatter. We continue to get sicker and sicker. We live a poor lifestyle and then expect drugs and antibiotics to come to the rescue.

What if you lived a preventative lifestyle? What does this take?

Courage.

You need to be different. Unique. You need to be brave and face your fears. In order to be healthy, you need to live a different lifestyle compared to the average person. The average person is NOT healthy. Average isn't so grand anymore.

You need to change.

You probably need to change your beliefs. Consider the following truths…

  • Saturated fat is heart healthy
     
  • Red meat will not kill you
     
  • Cholesterol is needed for countless bodily functions
     
  • Dietary cholesterol has little to no effect on your cholesterol numbers
     
  • Fat does not make you fat
     
  • Carbs don't make you fat either
     
  • Walking is the perfect cardio exercise
     
  • Bodyweight exercises will get you stronger then 99% of the population
     
  • Most diseases and cancers are preventable through lifestyle intervention
     
  • No one is destined to get fat

We have been lied to. Finding the truth is an incredible challenge. With 7 billion people in this world, someone will always disagree with you. Someone will also always agree with you.

You need courage to change your lifestyle habits. That's if you want to be healthy at least. Try the following…

  • Order a burger with no bun
     
  • Substitute fries for a vegetable or side salad
     
  • Ask for olive oil and vinegar for your dressing
     
  • Don't fear beef. Buy grass-fed as much as possible.
     
  • Eat as many eggs as you want. It's nature's perfect food. Pastured eggs from local farms are best.
     
  • Steam or lightly fry your veggies and enjoy with a fair amount of real butter.
     
  • Ditch any and all drinks that contain any amount of sugar. Even if it's one gram. This includes juice.
     
  • Never eat cereal again. Eggs and bacon are tastier and healthier.
     
  • Cook your own food.
     
  • Move more.

And, most importantly, ask questions. Experiment yourself. Go back to the basics. Pay attention to how you feel. Eat whole foods. Bread is not a whole food. Cereal is not a whole food. Ground beef is. Steak is. Eggs are. Fruit is.

Keep things simple and never stop educating yourself.

It will take courage to change. But, if you want to hang out with your grandkids and chase them around the house in your 80's then you are going to have to challenge the status quo. Believing the majority will get you sick.

Take a look around you.

Be brave. Be bold. Be you.


by Todd Dosenberry

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