There is a secret we all should know. The secret is that everyone has far more potential than they ever reach. We are all held back by forces we don't recognize or can't control. On a systemic level we call these forces macro-inhibitors and on a personal level we call them micro-inhibitors.

Macro-inhibitors are structural and systemic forces that constrain human potential such as nationalism, racism and toxic ideologies. They are part of the world we have inadvertently created.

We can't change the macro-inhibitors alone – they are too large for one person to change. But we can change the inhibitors that diminish us on a personal level; the micro-inhibitors.

Although we call them micro-inhibitors, they aren't small. They are huge in our individual lives. They will limit everything in our lives forever if we don't identify, understand and fight them.

Fortunately, we can identify them, we can understand them and we can reduce or eliminate them. We just need the tools to do it. Potentialism can supply those tools.

These micro-inhibitors that hold us back have many sources and together constitute a form of psychological baggage.

Of course, the sources of these micro-inhibitors are different for each of us. Clinical psychologists sometimes spend years trying to help people find the sources of their problems, and that is valuable help. But many micro-inhibitors are readily knowable and can be discovered on our own. Moreover, they can be faced and diminished.

Our inhibitors may stem from traumatic events or conditions in our childhood. We are all bruised and scarred to some extend during childhood. We may not be as attractive as others, or we may come from poor families, or we may be bullied, or we may be lacking in social skills. Regardless of the specifics of our lives, we all carry psychological baggage from childhood. In addition, as adults we acquire even more psychological baggage. Eventually, we come to believe that we can't do as much as others or we can't do what we want to do.

Fortunately, this isn't true. We can do more. We can be more. We all have a great power that is just unrealized. The trick is to understand that we all have psychological baggage, identify as much of our own baggage as possible, and then change the environment that perpetuates it. That is how we diminish it.

Research at major universities has shown that to reach our potential we must have a positive environment. In fact, to reach our potential we need about a 7 to 1 positive to constructive ratio in our environment. That means we need people around us that support us and help us. Unfortunately, most of us don't have such a positive support environment.

Potentialism was created to support you. It was created to support everyone. The third book in the Potentialism Series, The Future of Potentialism , is specifically about the micro-inhibitors that plague us all.

In addition, we created GlobalHouse, a California non-profit organization designed to provide everyone who wants it with a life-long positive support network. Too often the people around us – even family and friends – can't provide the 7 to 1 positive feedback ratio we all need to overcome our micro-inhibitors. We know that this is true. But until now, we didn't really have anywhere else to turn for help.

GlobalHouse provides a virtual support network for anyone who wants it. Moreover, little GlobalHouses are growing around the country and even in foreign countries. We are here to help you if you decide to take the journey, free your potential and find out who you can become.

About the Authors: Humanitarian leaders Theresa Ruby and Ross Anthony Gray are authors, consultants and creators of Potentialism, a new socioeconomic model they used to help end a 10-year civil war in Nepal. They are founders of GlobalHouse, a California-based 501(c)3 nonprofit dedicated to positive change through human potential, and authors of the Potentialism series of books. Visit www.GlobalHouse.org for more information.

Bike tours are a fun way to get exercise and potentially see a new and exciting location. If you're heading on one of these trips with a loved one, then you should consider the following trips for an audacious bicycle trip that you two will remember forever.

1) Thailand and Southeast Asia

Thailand is full of incredible bike paths along majestic beaches and lush rainforests. If you are up for an adventure that will make you feel as though you are in a universe made of beauty, then bike through Thailand. You can take your own bike or rent one from a local shop. You will be able to explore the country easily with a bike. Plus, it will be much more green than renting a car, which is especially important in Asia.


2) Tuscany, Italy

Tuscany is one of the top biking destinations in the world. Thanks to its rolling hills, quaint towns, and ease of travel, it is easy to understand why. Anyone can simply bike through fields of sunflowers for days without need of worrying about safety. This is a great way to experience the countryside of Italy without being overly touristic.


3) Provence, France

Provence is another great place to ride your bike. The famed Tour de France will go through at least one part of Provence every year. You can ride from Avignon to Arles to see ancient Gallic ruins. You can even ride along the famous roads along the Cote d'Azure. Southern France is a great place to visit due to its breathtaking beauty and mild climate that is perfect for a bike tour.


4) San Francisco, California

San Francisco is full of incredible hills that are just waiting to be climbed! This is a very bike friendly city. However, you will need some serious muscles if you plan on making it to the top of the steepest hills. If not, then you can always ride along the wharf and across the Golden Gate Bridge to Sausalito. There is plenty to see and do while on a bike in the bay area. Take the plunge, and experience a bit of city life while on a fun bike trip.


5) London, England

London may be an unusual choice for a bike lover's trip, but there is plenty to see and explore while cycling. London is a pretty flat city, and easy to ride. Plus, you can take your bike out on one of the many trails that wind throughout the suburbs of the city. A bike is also a great and easy mode of transportation in a city that is quite spread out. Consider taking a bike tour in city like London that is both historic and cosmopolitan. This is one trip you will never forget.


As you can see, there are many bike trips you can take that will be perfect for a little vacation away. Just use your imagination, and you can go anywhere!

Author Pam Johnson is a nurse who bikes regularly to promote her health, as well as recommending biking to her patients as a way to stay healthy. She obtained her degree from one of many Online Accelerated Nursing Degree programs.


Don't Let Haters Keep You From Being Your Best

Listen. There are haters everywhere. And by haters, I'm referring to people who get jealous of your success, do not want to see you rise, and who are intimidated by your greatness.

The truth is, your greatness is a constant reminder of what they are not doing in their lives. You can either shrink and crawl into your dark hole when you are amidst jealous folks, or you can stand in your power and keep shining on.

It can be scary at first to shine 100 percent despite what people are saying or thinking about you (which by the way you have absolutely no control over). But I promise you this: you standing strong in all of your awesomeness will create a space for others to do the same in THEIR lives.

Three things to remember:

  1. Not everyone will like you or be happy for you. This took a long time for me to understand. As someone that just wants love and affection (as we all do), I never quite understood why some people didn't dig me, or want to be my friend. I now get it. And I also know that it's neither my job nor my soul purpose to get everyone to love me. All I can do is BE the love – wherever I go and with whomever I meet.
  2. Don't brag about your success. There is a huge difference between acknowledging your accomplishments and being humble versus rattling off a list of all your accomplishments every time someone asks you, "Hey how are you doing?" Be proud of the work that you have put in. Be proud of honoring and cherishing your gifts to make a difference in the world. And, remember that you are still awesome in spite of it.
  3. Keep on keepin' on. No matter who or what crosses your path, positive or negative, your only job is to keep it moving. Remember you have a purpose here on this planet. And, if you're going to let haters, evil eyes, jealousy, and all the baggage that comes along with people feeling inferior or insecure stop you, then you need to reconnect with why you are here, who you know yourself to be, and keep it moving.

You are loved. You always have been. Cherish the people who support, love, and honor you. And never forget just how amazing you are.

About the Author: Licensed master social worker Vasavi Kumar coaches people to "get past their past" to take charge of their future. A certified life coach, she holds dual master's degrees in social work and special education. Vasavi is co-author of the best-selling book Succeeding in Spite of Everything and appears regularly on Kansas City Live as the "Keepin' It Real Guru" answering viewers' life questions. Learn more at http://VasaviKumar.com.


When we were young, we had no trouble dreaming big. There was no other way to dream. We dreamed big, often, and with reckless abandon.

But somewhere along the way, our heart got broken. A dream didn’t come true and it hurt like hell.

That hurt stayed with us, even if only on a subconscious level. We trained ourselves to set our sights a little lower, to keep from ever feeling that way again. Many of us chalk up that “dreaming big” thing to a childish habit, and our practice of it goes the way of our belief in Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny.  So we “mature,” and lower our sights to more “realistic”  levels.

And then, in between the rebranding of our dreams into "goals," it happens. Without ever consciously realizing it, our lives settle into the groove of mediocrity.

But I caution us all — including myself — to be careful about what we label as realistic. At best, it's too often a limited estimation of what really IS possible, and at worst, it's a cop-out.

Was the prospect of air travel “realistic” to the great grandparents of Orville and Wilbur Wright?

Was the prospect of an African American president “realistic” to the great grandparents of Barack Obama?

Was the prospect of using a wireless telephone to have a video call with a friend on the other side of the world “realistic” to the great grandparents of Steve Jobs?

The dreams we disregard and deem unrealistic today may turn out to be things our great grandkids take for granted.

The problems we face as a nation and as a global community are large. But the hope for a better future lies in big dreams, not realistic ones. Your story is destined to be great. But the people who collect amazing adventures are the ones with big dreams, not realistic ones.

The pain of broken dreams is real. But just as real is the exhilaration of seeing an “impossible” dream come true. The only dreams that have no chance of coming true are the ones never dreamed in the first place.

Now is NOT the time to downgrade your dreams. Now is NOT the time to be realistic.

Now is the time to dream BIGGER.

by Jason Kotecki

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Take Five: Why Dave Brubeck Deserves A Spin

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Dream Like a Mother

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It’s May in Montana! One of my favorite months of the year when the snow that has been holding on starts to melt away, the dreary days of winter slowly moving from sepia tones to hues of innocent pastels that invite new life. Just last week, I awoke to my maple tree in the front […]

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