Did you know that the number one cause of obesity is something called "emotional eating?" If you use food as a way to deal with stress and anxiety, you are not alone. Here are some steps you can take that will help you to avoid emotional eating:

First of all, it's important to spend a little bit of time thinking about the things that actually trigger you. Get a piece of paper and a pencil and think about the different life situations you've been through. If you've been through a divorce, write that down. If you were abused as a child, make a note of that as well. Write down all of the difficult emotional times that you have been through. The triggers to your emotional eating will inevitably have arisen from these emotional events and traumas from your life, even if some of them occurred decades ago. Simply being aware on a more conscious level of the emotional baggage that you are carrying will help you to recognize those triggers.

Another great idea is to start keeping what you might call an "eating journal." In your case, write down not only what you were eating but also what you were thinking and feeling at the time. When you ate that entire bowl of chips or carton of ice cream, what inner voice were you trying to silence? What specific stress were you trying to deal with? Understanding the relationship between your eating and your emotions is a major key to breaking bad habits.

The most revolutionary idea that I would like to share with you is to start listening to your body. It's now possible to find out exactly what your energy field "thinks" about that tasty morsel you're about to put into your mouth!

There are a number of very effective ways to tap into the subconscious mind that are actually quite simple and easy to perform. Let me share the simplest and easiest of these ways. I call this the "Sway Test."

If you are standing in a relaxed posture, your body will tend to gently sway forward if you are thinking about food that your subconscious mind wants, and will sway backward if you are thinking about foods that it perceives to be harmful!

Here's how it works:

If there is any music playing in your room, or if the television is on, turn them off, so that you will be able to focus completely on the test. Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart. Drop your hands to your side, and close your eyes. Allow yourself to completely relax.

Try thinking about the word "salad." Try to imagine the most delicious, healthy salad that you've ever eaten.

The moment your inner mind connects with the thought of "salad," and all the good fiber, vitamins, minerals and nutrients that go along with that salad, you will begin to sway forward, as your subconscious mind realizes just how good for you that salad would actually be. This typically doesn't take more than five or 10 seconds, and gets easier with practice.

Now, allow yourself to relax again. With your eyes closed, focus your mind on the word "Hot Pocket." As you think about this ultimate form of junk food, your subconscious mind is somehow aware of the artificial ingredients that are in that product, the humectants, the preservatives, the food colorings and so on, that are going to make you fat. Once again, the moment your subconscious mind makes the connection with what a "Hot Pocket" really is, your body will start to sway backward of its own volition, in an attempt to move you further away from eating something bad for you.

Most people have no difficulty with this test. Remember to relax completely and focus your mind in a powerful way upon the food, whatever food you choose. Test your food before you eat it. It may just surprise you to find that your body actually wants to have a choice in what you are eating!

About the Author: Author and international lecturer in bio-energetic medicine and energy psychology, Dr. Brad has successfully used The Emotion Code with thousands of patients around the globe to relieve symptoms and often affect cures in conditions ranging from depression to cancer. His best-selling book,The Emotion Code, offers step-by-step instructions for working with the body's own healing power. Learn more at http://TheEmotionCode.com/ and www.emotioncode.tv.

On Borrowed Time

by Jason Kotecki on June 13, 2013 · 10 comments


We went to the funeral of friend's mom recently. She died suddenly of a heart attack while at home with her husband, who was only into his second week of retirement. When my father-in-law Gary heard the news and learned that they were both in the same age range, he reflected, "Wow. I guess I'm really on borrowed time."

He's right. But not just because he was diagnosed with severe rheumatoid arthritis in his twenties and probably hasn't had a pain-free day since then. And not just because he continues to amaze his doctors with how long he's been able to keep on going. No, he's right because we are ALL on borrowed time.

That becomes obvious when we hear of sudden heart attacks and car accidents. When we are faced with stories of tornadoes that drop out of the sky, ending lives at random, or see the aftermath of troubled souls who decided children are suitable targets for acts of terrorism.

Life expectancy may be 78 but that doesn't mean we can expect to make it there.

Gary is on borrowed time. I'm on borrowed time. And so are you. The real question is, how are we investing this time we are borrowing?

By watching more TV? Keeping busy with activities that don't really matter? Staying put on a career path we don't really like?

Or are we building something wonderful by living with a sense of urgency and making hard choices that lead to a better story and a lasting legacy?

The choice is yours. But hurry, the clock is ticking.

by Jason Kotecki

Confident business partners sitting at the table and shaking hands

Zig Ziglar once said, "You can have everything you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want."

You know what most people want? They want to be seen, heard and valued for who they are. They want to know that their life matters, and that their work is making a difference in the world (and other modest comforts, like a nice bed).

So it's not that hard to give people what they want and then ask for a little something in return. Because here's the really interesting thing: our brains our wired for reciprocity. So when we do something nice for someone else, they really want to do something nice for us too.

When I decided I wanted to get my book published, I gave some thought as to how to do it. Most "Writer's Market" type books suggest querying possible book companies or agents, but go to any publisher or agent website and you'll see that nobody accepts unsolicited submissions.

So what's a girl to do?

As I've mentioned before my modus operandi whenever I want to do something is to look to whoever has already done it and find out what they did. I really hate to recreate the wheel.

So my first step was to scour the "acknowledgments" section in all the books I love (and in a similar genre as mine) and see who the authors were thanking for "having made this book possible." Guess who they mention every time? Bingo: their agent.

So for every author who thanked their agent, I took some notes, did a little more research and then sent them a carefully crafted letter. Here's the one I sent Elizabeth Lesser, the author of Broken Open and the founder of the Omega Institute. (Note: I really want to give retreats and talks from her stage too.)

I sent my letter to her email address (which she helpfully provided in the back of her book).

Dear Elizabeth,

You're probably one of the most prominent midwives in America. Even though you're no longer catching babies, you're still a midwife, because like a good midwife, you're willing to facilitate, support, and encourage women in dark places.

You've certainly been a huge inspiration for me. You see, I'm also a midwife, and I think labor and birth make excellent metaphors for life. I currently practice nurse-midwifery in a hospital-based birthing center and I have a personal coaching business, Midwife for Your Life, on the side.

I've dog-eared almost every page of Broken Open and heard you speak at Omega NYC last April. Your message of making friends with change and asking every crisis or challenge, "What have you come to teach me?" has helped me more than I can express. Really, that book seems full of what midwives teach their patients: faith in a process of healing and our ability to find our own path back to health.

As it happens, I've written a book, called Create the Conditions for a Life You Love: 28 Days of Strategy, Tips and Inspiration That Will Help You Give Birth to Your Best Life. Every one of the days contains a lesson, with exercises I created from science-based research and from my experience with my midwifery patients and my coaching clients.

So- I couldn't help but notice that you spoke very highly of Henry Dunow in your acknowledgments. Would you be willing to suggest how I might make contact with him?

Thank you so much for your time and attention to this note. I look forward to attending future Omega retreats and dream one day of teaching at one of them! Take wonderful care, Stacey

Everything I said in this letter was true, of course. I deeply admire the work that Elizabeth Lesser has done, and I wanted her to know that she had made a difference in my life. And so I tried to be as detailed as possible, and worked hard to express all that her work has meant to me. That was the gift I hoped to offer.

I knew, too, that I needed to be detailed about how she could help me. "Will you help me get published?" would certainly have been too much to ask. But I expected that if I asked a small favor-one that would satisfy a need I had worked to define-she would have no problem granting it.

Her response?

Hi Stacey, Thanks for writing. Your website and all your work is inspirational.

Henry Dunow is not taking new clients. I can name a few other good agents, if you would like their contact information, feel free to email my assistant (details given for how to reach her). Warmly, Elizabeth

From there I proceeded to contact a few of the agents I thought most likely to be interested in my work. I was very excited when I found one who had successfully represented an author to Hay House, which is where I "see" my book published.

Here's what followed:

Hello Susan,

Elizabeth Lesser suggested I contact you. I was delighted to see that you represented Tim Freke to Hay House, because that is where I see my book being a good fit.

My book is Create the Conditions for a Life You Love: 28 Days of Strategy, Tips and Inspiration That Will Help You Give Birth to Your Best Life. It's a 28-day journey that guides you to your best life: With it you learn how to create the conditions for a life you love. It's everything I've learned about how to live a happy and successful life.

I'm a nurse-midwife and a mentor who helps women give birth to their big dreams. I have a thriving coaching practice and blog and I've published hundreds of articles online.

As you know, we're in the midst of a sort of literary "happiness boom"-with books like Gretchen Rubin's The Happiness Project spending months on the New York Time's Best Seller List (and weeks at #1), it's clear that readers are ready to get happy.

If you're interested in receiving a full proposal, I'd be happy to send it to you.

Thanks so much for your time and attention. Take wonderful care, Stacey

A few days later I received this reply:

Hi Stacey

Great to hear from you and your project does sound interesting. As this is a first book for you I am putting you in touch with my excellent and helpful agency administrator who will take you through new author assessment procedure and will do a report on your synopsis and book a meeting with me once that report is completed.

Looking forward to meeting you in due course,

Very best wishes
Susan Mears

And after a few more email exchanges, and one Skype chat, I was signed. And the rest, as they say, is history.

So what do you really want? And how can you help enough other people get what they want-even if it's only appreciation-so that you can get it? And when you're pursuing your dreams, how will you avoid reinventing the wheel? Answer those questions and you'll be actualizing your dreams before you know it!

by Stacey Curnow