Achieving Greatness Together

I have a con­fes­sion to make: I have never been great in a relationship.

This might seem to be a sur­pris­ing admis­sion from some­one writ­ing a rela­tion­ship col­umn monthly, but until last year this was true.

Let me explain…

A rela­tion­ship is a part­ner­ship and it takes both peo­ple to be suc­cess­ful. It is some­thing stated often for a very good rea­son: it’s true. A per­son can try hard to be a good part­ner. One can pos­sess great com­mu­ni­ca­tion skills, be lov­ing, con­sid­er­ate, empa­thetic, and more. But great­ness will not be achieved alone. Until a wor­thy part­ner is the other half of the rela­tion­ship with the per­son mak­ing heroic efforts to be suc­cess­ful, it won’t hap­pen. Regard­less of the effort made, it is not pos­si­ble for one per­son to com­pen­sate for defi­cien­cies in another.

So back to my self-admitted rela­tion­ship mediocrity…

No mat­ter how hard I tried in what would always be doomed rela­tion­ships, I could not improve or repair them alone. I also could not reach a level of great­ness that I wanted in my per­sonal life either. Try­ing to fill in the defi­cien­cies nei­ther brought me great­ness nor did I find these rela­tion­ships per­son­ally satisfying.

What changed is sim­ple: I changed partners.

Being in a rela­tion­ship with some­one who mir­rors my desire to be suc­cess­ful in the rela­tion­ship, feel ful­filled, cre­ate hap­pi­ness for the other, is com­fort­able open­ing his heart to another, and has a strong desire to achieve great­ness in a part­ner­ship made a dif­fer­ence. I find I am doing what I have always done, but with sig­nif­i­cantly dif­fer­ent results.

I have awak­ened to my own great­ness by real­iz­ing that to do so meant find­ing some­one who had the abil­ity and desire to work towards the great­ness with me.

Being one half of a whole, rela­tion­ship great­ness can only be achieved together.

Have you dis­cov­ered your own great­ness in a relationship?

If so, please share below.

by Kelly Sajo­nia

Kelly Sajo­nia is a writer for many sites, but spends most of her time writ­ing for her award-winning blog Naked Girl in a Dress. Her inspi­ra­tional blog cel­e­brates redis­cov­er­ing life and love at any age. Kelly also has a full ser­vice social media mar­ket­ing busi­ness, runs a social media site for writ­ers, teaches blog­ging, and occa­sion­ally takes a pro­fes­sional pho­tog­ra­phy gig.

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