I have a confession to make: I have never been great in a relationship.
This might seem to be a surprising admission from someone writing a relationship column monthly, but until last year this was true.
Let me explain…
A relationship is a partnership and it takes both people to be successful. It is something stated often for a very good reason: it's true. A person can try hard to be a good partner. One can possess great communication skills, be loving, considerate, empathetic, and more. But greatness will not be achieved alone. Until a worthy partner is the other half of the relationship with the person making heroic efforts to be successful, it won't happen. Regardless of the effort made, it is not possible for one person to compensate for deficiencies in another.
So back to my self-admitted relationship mediocrity…
No matter how hard I tried in what would always be doomed relationships, I could not improve or repair them alone. I also could not reach a level of greatness that I wanted in my personal life either. Trying to fill in the deficiencies neither brought me greatness nor did I find these relationships personally satisfying.
What changed is simple: I changed partners.
Being in a relationship with someone who mirrors my desire to be successful in the relationship, feel fulfilled, create happiness for the other, is comfortable opening his heart to another, and has a strong desire to achieve greatness in a partnership made a difference. I find I am doing what I have always done, but with significantly different results.
I have awakened to my own greatness by realizing that to do so meant finding someone who had the ability and desire to work towards the greatness with me.
Being one half of a whole, relationship greatness can only be achieved together.
Have you discovered your own greatness in a relationship?
If so, please share below.