Ask…And You Shall Receive

by Lance Ekum on · 78 comments

“We find what we expect to find, and we receive what we ask for.” ~ Elbert Hubbard

Ask..And You Shall Receive

Today we poke a little fun at…me.

This all began in the comments section on a recent post by Vered, over at Momgrind.  I was the fortunate winner of a Starbucks gift card, although this post has very little to do with that fact.

How did I end up in this picture?

Far down in the comments of that post, Marelisa suggested I wear a tiara.  This was quickly followed by Sal, who added I should do a “thumbs up”, and Evelyn who thought lipstick would be a nice addition.  Somehow a “little black dress” was mentioned along the way also.  Oh, and Betsy suggested dancing…

So, here you have it.

There’s the tiara, the lipstick (I’m not putting it on!), a thumbs up, the gift card (hey, it didn’t include a tiara when it arrived!), and a little black (and pink) dress!  No, the dress in not going on, either (besides – it’s way too little).  Can you tell I’m dancing? (there will be no video…)

Laugh with me!! (hey, I said with me, not at me! – okay, that’s better!)  After all, if you can’t laugh at yourself, who can you laugh at?

For some reason, my kids all had a field day with this one!  Was it the lipstick (that stuff should come with some directions!), the tiara (hey, at least it’s blue), or the dress (I surely would have been kicked out of the house had I put that on)!!  I know it wasn’t my dancing!!  I’m digressing here…back to the subject at hand.

That brings me to the message of this post (does there have to be a message?)…

Ask…And You Shall Receive

Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve needed something, and it required asking someone else “something”?  And maybe you felt uncomfortable asking.  Uncomfortable because it seemed awkward, or  you didn’t know the person, or the person was someone you looked up to, or you were intimidated by the person.  Or a number of other reasons.

Asking “something” of someone can, at times, be difficult.  And, it just seems easiest to not ask at all.  Think of those things that really mean something to you.  That which is important.

I ask you – what’s the worst that can happen if you do ask?  Probably that you are denied, or that you receive no reply at all.  So, maybe ask…and you shall receive is a bit optimistic.

However, if you receive nothing, or are denied – how “bad” is that, really?  Think about that.

And, think of the possibilities that may arise because you do ask – and receive an answer (or help, or whatever it is you’re seeking).  Ask… and more often than not, you will receive!  It just requires asking!

Ask…and often you will receive!

What’s holding you back, today, from going after what you want?  What aren’t you asking, that you could?  Get out there, and go after those things you desire!

Lance writes stories from his heart, aiming to inspire and motivate, as you align more fully with YOUR true peak. When he's not here, you can find him hanging out with his family, riding a bike, or just generally acting goofy.   Sign up for the Thoughts from the Treehouse newsletter and get additional inspiration in your email inbox!
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Betsy November 24, 2008 at 6:11 am

Hilarious! Lance, you are one brave and confident dude! Thanks for the smile!

Betsy´s last blog post..TENACITY


Robin November 24, 2008 at 6:24 am

You look truly radiant, Lance! And that little black dress looks “good” on you!

I can’t think of anything I could ask for, right at the moment – but I know I feel a bit frustrated sometimes when other people don’t ask me for help that I would be happy to give them, because they don’t want to ask. I mean, people usually LIKE helping out!

Robin´s last blog post..An Unusual Experiment


Kim Woodbridge November 24, 2008 at 7:31 am

Oh awesome Lance! You should use that for your new avatar 😉

Not only can it be difficult to ask but it can be just as hard to accept when someone offers help.

Kim Woodbridge´s last blog post..(Anti) Social-Lists 11/23/08


Mark November 24, 2008 at 7:53 am

Ha! Funny! You are awesome my friend….!


rummuser November 24, 2008 at 9:31 am

Lance, a truly entertaining post. Thanks.

I can write volumes about the times that I asked and I received. I keep doing it all the time and I am yet to fail.

rummuser´s last blog post..Marriage Violence and Divorce.


Wendi Kelly-Life's Little Inspirations November 24, 2008 at 9:48 am

You never know what is out there unless you ask. We are seeing the results of this in our life right now. Doing a full length play at Church for the first time is a daunting task, yet every time we say, we need..this for a prop…or that… or help with…
people come out of the woodwork to pitch in. It has been such a blessing. It makes me realize that people really do want to help, sometimes they just don’t know how.

Lance, thanks for the Monday morning smile!

Wendi Kelly-Life’s Little Inspirations´s last blog post..How Clutter Blocks Success


Mindful Mimi November 24, 2008 at 10:16 am

Hi Lance,
Mmmhh. You asked for lipstick, tiara and a dress? Interesting… Anyway, good you have a daughter to sneak these props from…
I must say I do not have a problem with asking for something anymore. However, I keep my asking within a circle of friends and family. I do not appreciate people that ask for help (DIY for ex where you spend your weekend doing something for them), say thank you and never do you a favor in return. Instead they even dare ask for more. As I am also good at saying no, I again have not such a big problem with that either 🙂 And basically I am talking about my husband here 🙂 I keep telling him to either say no, or set his limitations clearly. He is just too good and wants to help everyone and never asks anything in return (he considers that the one’s he has helped should offer – now when is that going to happen I wonder?).
Anyway, nice pics.

Mindful Mimi´s last blog post..Sometimes the biggest act of courage is a small one – Lauren Raffo


Tim Rosanelli November 24, 2008 at 10:16 am

Thanks for your wonderful sense of humor!

I always say that “If you don’t ask, the answer is automatically no!”

Tim Rosanelli

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Natalia Burleson November 24, 2008 at 10:25 am

Ha ha, Love the tiara, Love the dress, Love the lipstick! 🙂 You’re a funny dude! LOL

It took me a long time to realize or learn that the worst thing that can happen is someone says no. I remember asking for things that I wanted as a child and I got yelled at a LOT! Somewhere along the line in my brain that morphed into “you should never ask for anything you want, let alone need!” I thought if I just sat back and waited, someone would read my mind and offer it to me. Lets just say, that NEVER worked!

Great post Lance! 🙂

Natalia Burleson´s last blog post..Happy Dance!! 🙂


Mike King November 24, 2008 at 11:03 am

Way to step out of your comfort zone Lance! Very funny as well! Don’t worry, I am laughing with you. If you had the lipstick and dress on, I would have laughed at you, so kudos for sparing me from seeing that…. 🙂


Stacey / Create a Balance November 24, 2008 at 11:03 am

In college I decided to get over my fear of asking questions and have embraced the concept that “no question is stupid” ever since. I usually ask for what I need and recognize others have the right to say no. It is when I ask over and over again and do not feel heard that I begin to get discouraged. I’d rather have someone up front tell me “no” then to have to continue to ask the question again and again and again.

Stacey / Create a Balance´s last blog post..A Week for Giving Thanks


Lance November 24, 2008 at 12:54 pm

@Betsy – Hey, thanks! Now, I’m expecting you to dance!!!

@Robin – Well…that little black dress…is not seeing the light of day on me again!! Radiant? It’s not enough to convince me to go out in public like this – wait – I just did that didn’t I – d’oh… I understand what you’re saying – if someone needs help, we’re thinking they’ll ask – and that doesn’t always happen. That’s all it takes many times…

@Kim – New avatar?? NO WAY!!! Sorry, you’re not convincing me! Or maybe it was the laughter of my kids when they saw me in person… Yes, good point – sometimes it can be just as hard to accept when someone offers help – is this because it makes us look like we need help? I think so. Help can be a very good thing, and yet sometimes we perceive it as a negative because it makes us look weak or unable to finish something ourselves. But what good is it for us to flounder, when help might be readily available?

@Mark – Hey, thanks Mark (I think!). Will I ever live this down??

@Rummuser – Thank you! It’s the pictures, right? They provided plenty of entertainment value to my family during the “photo shoot”, too!! And, thanks for sharing on your experiences with asking – a great example to all of us that it works!

@Wendi – The play at your church does sound like a very daunting task Wendi – I applaud you for taking it on! It’s something that means very much to you, I’m thinking. And, yes – I’ve found that too – you just need to ask people – sometimes they just don’t know how to help – and all it takes is “being asked”. Good luck with the play (but I know you don’t need any luck – you’ve got you and a whole crew of support!). And, hey, that I could make you smile – that makes this all worth it (I think!).


Lance November 24, 2008 at 12:59 pm

@Mindful Mimi – Well…I didn’t really ask for these items…I guess others asked them of me. Now, let me think again – why did I comply with these request? Oh, yes – all in the name of a good idea for a blog post! You bring up a good point – it’s a two-way street – hopefully by me helping you, if I need help some day, you’ll help me. There is a level of expectation there, and when that’s not met, it becomes much harder to agree to help someone, knowing the favor will not be reciprocated. And, I’m glad you liked the pictures – but I swear, that doesn’t show the real me!!!

@Tim – Anything for a good blog post idea, Tim (well…maybe not anything…I think this is about my limit!)!!! And great point – if we don’t ask, then the answer IS always no! Thanks for sharing that!

@Natalia – The love…is not convincing me to make these part of my daily attire, Natalia!! This can go back to our childhood, and how we were treated when we asked for things/help/etc. The responses we had then can be things we carry over into our adult life. That you’ve come to the realization that asking is okay – that’s great Natalia! And, yes – I’ve been there – thinking “I need help” would be enough to make it happen – it just doesn’t work that way does it!

@Mike – Hey Mike, how could you tell I was stepping out of my comfort zone!!! You’re right – had I put the lipstick and dress on – you should have laughed AT me! As it is, hey – it’s great to share a laugh together!

@Stacey/Create A Balance – It’s a great thing to overcome – and get to that place where you’re comfortable in expressing yourself – in asking questions – and in asking for help when you need it. About not being heard – yes, that is discouraging. And you start to question yourself. Hearing a definitive answer is always better than no answer at all – even in the answer is not what you wanted to hear. Great point, I know I can relate to that as well.


Carla November 24, 2008 at 1:17 pm

You made my day!

In terms of asking, I think sometimes I fear the answer will be “no” but when I think about it, “no” isnt all that bad most of the time.

Carla´s last blog post..Holiday Gift Ideas | Not Buying it


Ross November 24, 2008 at 1:20 pm

Hey Lance…

I’m thinking of the possibilities that may arise because I ask..

With that in mind, could you please make a video of you shaving your hair off, purely for our entertainment? (as if you haven’t humiliated yourself enough already!) 😉

Ross´s last blog post..Career paths vs happiness: which road are you on?


Dot November 24, 2008 at 1:33 pm

You followed through on that! You certainly are a good sport! Thanks for the great laugh. That was so good, it makes me think I should do something simlar on my blog. I’ve been thinking about more pix of myself anyway.

I have a hard time asking, but have had to learn. I also have a hard time helping, since I have several disabilities. I try to assume that people have the ability to say yes or no, but I’ve found some of my friends say yes even when they don’t want to. One of them said yes and then snapped at me the whole time. SO not the desired response.

Dot´s last blog post..One Heartbreaking Day


Akemi "spiritual entrepreneur" @ Yes to Me November 24, 2008 at 1:42 pm

Gee, I wish I could be in the comments to add something! How about a padded bra? Thank you for brightening up my day ^_^

Akemi “spiritual entrepreneur” @ Yes to Me´s last blog post..Dreams As Spiritual Messages


Julie November 24, 2008 at 1:48 pm

Wow, Lance, a daily lesson AND fun! 😉
Fun aside, this is a good topic. I see others asking left and right, yet I have trouble doing it. It’s because I’m scared of being rejected plus I don’t want the other person to feel put on the spot, obligated. Hmm. I’ll need really think about this, because I’ve something coming up that I’ll either need help with or I’ll need to find a different way, with a less desirable result…

Julie´s last blog post..The Smile


Marelisa November 24, 2008 at 2:45 pm

Oh, that’s just the funniest thing I’ve seen in a long time. Seriously Lance, you’re the best sport ever! I’m laughing with you 🙂

Marelisa´s last blog post..30 Creativity Cards: A Gift I Made For You


Vered - MomGrind November 24, 2008 at 3:10 pm

You’re so funny. 🙂

Being able to laugh at yourself is such a beautiful quality.

When I met my husband I realized right away he was a super-smart guy. He taught me stuff such as “don’t sweat the small stuff”. He also taught me that there really is nothing to lose by asking. If I don’t get a response, or if I get a “no”, I’m in the exact same place I was before I asked. But if I happen to get a “yes”, I made progress.

I’m not afraid to ask anymore, because I don’t take rejections personally anymore.


Jean Browman--Cheerful Monk November 24, 2008 at 3:43 pm

I agree, we need to lighten up…it’s all right if the other person says no. Your post is a great way of saying it. 🙂

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TheDutchSchoolKid November 24, 2008 at 3:56 pm

That were some inspiring words after some.. ‘inspiring?’ pictures..

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Stacey Shipman November 24, 2008 at 4:44 pm

Those pictures are priceless. Are you sure you want those on the web!

Ask and you shall receive. Like Stacey said, I used to be so afraid of asking. Once I realized great things come to me when I do it was like “Why did I wait so long!”

Unfortunately fear and worry get in our way – what will the other person think of me, how will they react – that we don’t even give ourselves a chance!

Ah communication, I believe it is the root of almost all evil and one of our biggest stressors. More on that soon!

Stacey Shipman´s last blog post..12 Positive Choices For a Monday Morning


Stacey / Create a Balance November 24, 2008 at 4:46 pm

Yes! I do start to question myself when I’m not feeling heard. It’s almost like a feeling of insanity. 🙂

Stacey / Create a Balance´s last blog post..A Week for Giving Thanks


Davina November 24, 2008 at 5:53 pm

Hi Lance. Love the tiara. All you need, besides that padded bra Akemi mentioned are some dangly earrings. What a good sport you are 🙂 Asking for help is difficult for me. I have to keep reminding myself that the other person is being cheated if I don’t give them that opportunity.

Davina´s last blog post..Small Steps To Empower Your Attitude


Jennifer November 24, 2008 at 6:02 pm

So you’re afraid to ask someone for something, but not to put pictures of yourself dressed like this on your blog? 🙂 🙂

Wow! I wish I had come across this earlier today! I could have used a great laugh to kick start my day. But nonetheless, a good laugh at anytime is great! You were setting the stage for this one with yesterday’s post, weren’t you! That was a good set up. I bet your kids will never forget this one.

Just ask…. Yes, asking can be difficult at times, but like you said, what’s the worse that can happen? Someone says no or denies your request? Learning to use assertiveness properly allows you to not be so afraid to ask for something. It has really helped me to cast aside a lot of fear. It’s one of the most useful skills I have learned.

Jennifer´s last blog post..Do You Feel that is Right?


Tom Volkar/ Delightful Work November 24, 2008 at 6:23 pm

You really do like going where no man has gone before. 🙂 Well at least where most haven’t.

Damn right I ask. All the time. People love to help. Fear not. Ask!

Tom Volkar/ Delightful Work´s last blog post..An Authentic Approach to Making More Money


Jason of Kim & Jason November 24, 2008 at 7:04 pm

Lookin’ good, Lance.


Mike Foster November 24, 2008 at 7:27 pm

Hey, I am still recovering from my shoulder surgery, but wanted to drop by and comment on your latest post. I still read lots of posts but cannot type for extended periods of time, so my commenting is limited. I enjoyed this post and I am glad I dropped by. (nice photos, by the way)


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Linda Abbit November 24, 2008 at 7:55 pm

You are sooooo funny, Lance! Love the photos! Thanks for making my day! No wonder I like you . . . .

I am not afraid to ask questions of people, but I am afraid to ask for help sometimes, so I can improve in that arena. I usually procrastinate, and then I don’t need to ask anymore b/c the question, problem or whatever has changed or gone away by then.

Linda Abbit´s last blog post..Funny Fridays: Because It’s Better to Laugh than to Cry!


Laurie November 24, 2008 at 9:14 pm

Elton John says everyone should have a tiara. I have one too. I wear it when I’m having a Ya Ya sisterhood moment! Now you can join in the Ya Ya fun Lance!

I recently asked for a person I respected to become a friend of mine and the answer was yes. I was glad to take that chance. Now I have a new friend who is incredibly awesome and encouraging. My friend is very accepting of my quirks. I just love this friend! I am a lucky person!


Lance November 24, 2008 at 10:15 pm

@Carla – Hey, I’m glad (I think) that this made your day! Yes, I fear no, too – maybe because it feels like rejection. But then, like you’ve said, no isn’t necessarily all that bad – and sometimes it even helps to give us direction.

@Ross – Shortly after I posted this, I thought…hmmm…I wonder if someone will get the idea to ask me to do something else that might be a little crazy — and hey, this qualifies. But you know what – the answer isn’t always yes (so, NO – I’m not shaving my head!!). Nice try, though Ross!

@Dot – Good sport, glutton for punishment – there’s a fine line there! But, hey – if it brought a laugh, then it was worth it! Let’s see ’em – more pictures on your blog!! And that’s another great point you bring up, Dot. Sometimes people say yes, when they really want to say no. In that case, their response really should be no.

@Akemi – Gee, I’m glad you weren’t in the comments section to add something!! A padded bra! I’m definitely not ready to go there (this was pushing the limits today!)!

@Julie – And who says we can’t learn something AND have fun!! The obligation angle – I hear you on that one. And yet, it’s what we need to do when we really do need something from someone else. It’s not always easy, is it?

@Marelisa – Well, Mare — you’re the one who started this whole thing! I suppose I should yell at you! But how can I do that, you’re too nice to me! Still…

@Vered – Thanks (really) – I may have slightly embarrassed myself, but I’m getting coffee out of the deal – so I’m a happy camper…er…pageant winner! Getting to the point of not taking rejection personally is such a good place to get to – it makes the whole idea of asking just so much easier. YOur husband IS a super-smart guy!

@Jean – Thanks! Getting to that point of accepting “no” as okay is very helpful in getting through this issue of asking…


Lance November 24, 2008 at 10:16 pm

@TheDutchSchoolKid – The pictures – the inspiring part was that it inspired many fun comments today! Glad you enjoyed the “text” that went along with this…

@Stacey Shipman – Hey, I’m a confident guy!! (shouldn’t I be???) Besides, don’t you see these pictures eventually leading me to stardom and fame?!?! It’s like an epiphany – “Why did I wait so long!”. Yes, because of fear and worry, we “give up” on asking. Communication is such a key – looking forward to what you have to say on this!

@Stacey/Create A Balance – “Why can’t I get an answer – this is driving me crazy!” – is it something like that Stacey! I know that too!

@Davina – This madness HAS to stop! There will be no padded bra, no dangly earrings, and the tiara is being packed away. The dress…hmm…no that goes too! I’m getting myself in too deep saying “ask and you shall receive” and then leaving myself out there like that! What was I thinking?? I like your way of looking at it – as in giving someone else the opportunity – makes it feel easier to do!

@Jennifer – Makes you wonder! (definitely makes me wonder what I was thinking?) So, you get an evening laugh today – I’m so glad I was able to help in some small way Jennifer!! Setting the stage – glad you noticed! I wasn’t, no. Not yesterday, anyway when I posted the quote and “fun”. But it’s exactly the thought I had this morning getting this ready – what a perfect lead-in the Sunday quote was! Sometimes things just fall into place! Being assertive – yes – that is such a big part of it (and the first time it’s come up). Thanks for the reminder. Being assertive is about going after what you want, and sometimes that going to mean asking questions, asking for help, etc. A very useful skill…

@Tom – I’m just trying to make it socially acceptable to dress how we want (wait, I’m NOT saying I want to dress this way!!!). That stuff has now been packed away – not to see the light of day anytime soon, again!! I love your boldness Tom – very full of confidence – and that sure helps when “asking”.

@Jason – Thanks, man! But, I think my wife would look way, way better in all this stuff!

@Mike – Take care of that shoulder, Mike. It’s the photos – the camera was good to me! Wait – what am I saying?? I’m not sure I “want” these photos to look good! Anyway, thanks for stopping by Mike!

@Linda – Glad I could make your day, Linda! It was fun (despite everything I’ve said)! Hey, I procrastinate too – when it comes to asking for help. One for me to work on too.

@Laurie – Okay, if Elton John says it’s ok – then maybe I’ll keep mine…no…sorry, I can’t do it – it was just too traumatic for me! Have you seen the abuse I’ve taken??? But then, ya ya fun…hmm..tempting… Taking a chance, developing a new friendship – adds so much to our life experiences! Continue to be you Laurie…


Jewel/Pink Ink November 24, 2008 at 10:39 pm

I can’t type. I’m laughing too hard. You are a good sport!

I always ask if I need something. Why not? *shrug* Someone can always say no. But if I don’t ask, then they definitely won’t say yes. 🙂

Jewel/Pink Ink´s last blog post..Calling All Freuds


Evelyn Lim November 24, 2008 at 11:50 pm

Hahaha….I love the tiara and the lipstick (even though you did not put it on)!! Most of all, I like the fact that you are brave enough to poke fun at yourself and to publish the above photo on the web. Good for you!!

I’ve learned that it is okay to be asking for help. That it is okay not to pretend to know it all. Because I seriously don’t.

I’ve been attending a new class recently and I’ve not been shy to admit that I need a little more assistance from my coach. I also tell myself that it’s ok to be last and even if my kids are doing much better than me!! The coach responds to my asking with more one-to-one assistance.

Evelyn Lim´s last blog post..Law Of Attraction Quiz


Jamie Simmerman November 24, 2008 at 11:55 pm

OH! I am SO stealing that picture! I’m not sure what I’m going to do with it yet, but it has to be shared! 😀

I think the flip side of this problem might be not knowing what you want. So often we don’t ask because we are unsure of what we want in life. We must be intentional- in relationships, in business, in love.

I’m off to stew on this one for awhile. Thanks for the laughs and the thoughts, Lance. 😀

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Barbara Swafford - Blogging Without A Blog November 25, 2008 at 1:51 am

Oh Lance, you’re such a good sport. All of that, for a gift card. Now every time you use it, you can think of all of your online friends laughing WITH you. You’re alright! 🙂

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Nathalie Lussier from Billionaire Woman November 25, 2008 at 3:27 am

This was so adorable Lance! I think it’s great to have this kind of community spirit. Not to mention that it was fun for your kids too. 🙂

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Lance November 25, 2008 at 4:29 am

@Jewel/Pink Ink – I’m so glad I was able to throw off your typing Jewel!! My kids (and my wife too) thought I was just plain weird… And that’s right, if you don’t ask, then the answer is definitely no!

@Evelyn – Lipstick is just too hard to wear! I should be mad at you Evelyn!! Look what this has led to – I’ll never live it down!! Great example of asking and receiving, with your coach. And, had you never asked, that one on one coaching would never have happened.

@Jamie Simmerman – Hey, what are you thinking!! Show it to your kids – explain to them what “could” happen to them if they don’t listen to their Mom – that should scare them into doing everything you tell them to! The idea of being intentional – oh, that’s good Jamie. And how often are we not? And because of that, we’re unsure of asking. I wonder if we should be asking more when we’re unsure also – as a way to help us be more intentional…

@Barbara – Well, I DO happen to really like Starbucks – maybe I was delusional, dreaming of that next cup of coffee! Thanks for laughing WITH me Barbara!!

@Nathalie – Hey, I’m glad you enjoyed it Nathalie! As much as it pokes fun at me, this was a lot of fun to do! I think everyone in our house has wore that tiara in the last few days (why is it that I’m the only one we captured with the camera??).


MizFit November 25, 2008 at 5:33 am


next? videos?

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sharon November 25, 2008 at 8:02 am

Too right there Lance! I always say to myself, ‘What is the worst that can happen?’ and as long as I am not going to die, then I go for it. It’s a bit strange how the fear of what others might think of us stops us from going for what we want.

sharon´s last blog post..Ecstasy of Joy-Bob Proctor Cruise 2008


Caroline November 25, 2008 at 8:51 am

Ha! Love how you poke fun at yourself…I need to do this more often. Pink is your color…LOL!

I agree, what’s the harm in asking? I am getting better at this. One does not need to feel greedy… There is so much waiting for us, if we just ask! And if we don’t get what we want, did we need it in the first place?

Caroline´s last blog post..Day 24 – What does your body say about you?


Urban Panther November 25, 2008 at 11:50 am

I think the trick to asking is not fearing the NO that me might get. We, and I’m as guilty as the next person, take a No personally. That somehow we are less of a human being because the person said no to us. When it reality it has nothing to do with us, and everything to do with the other person making a responsible decision for themselves. Good on them, now go ask someone else.

Urban Panther´s last blog post..Are sweatpants disrespectful?


Kim Woodbridge | (Anti) Social Development November 25, 2008 at 2:19 pm

Kind of makes you wonder what Lance would have done if the prize had been larger than $50 😉

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Audra Krell November 25, 2008 at 2:47 pm

Hi Lance,This is hilarious. Way to “live out loud!”

I’m thinking of all the things I’m going to ask you to do do and then take pictures of to post on your blog. The worst you can say is no- right? Thanks for the fun post!

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meleah rebeccah November 25, 2008 at 3:08 pm

Oh My God! That’s the Best Picture Ever! HA HA HA

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Paunchiness November 25, 2008 at 3:09 pm

Nice costume. Sometimes it is good to poke fun at yourself.

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Jenny Mannion November 25, 2008 at 3:38 pm

Hi Lance,
Very cute indeed! 🙂 Asking for help is something I have gotten better at but haven’t yet mastered. I have a good friend who has helped me tremendously with this. I think it’s because I was always the one that people came to for help and advice that I felt I was the strong one that didn’t need help. Silly, I know and I have been reaching out more and more. Thanks for the laugh and the great post! 🙂

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Lance November 25, 2008 at 4:45 pm

@MizFit – Glad I could provide a little “boost” to your morning! Videos? NO!!! I can only imagine how much more abuse that would bring!

@Sharon – That’s a good way to look at it – if it won’t kill us, then we should “go for it”! I like that attitude Sharon!

@Caroline – Pink is my color, huh?? Strange…I don’t have anything else in that shade! Guess it’s time to go shopping! I like that…there is so much waiting for us, if we just ask!

@Urban Panther – Taking it personally – that’s so easy to do – when in fact, it’s rarely personal at all – great point to remember.

@Kim – For a larger prize….hmm…what would I have done??? Well…(you’ll never know – I will NOT tell!!)…

@Audra – Thanks (I think)!! But to your second part — what have I got myself into??? I’ve been asked to shave my head, wear a padded bra, and wear earrings – and now we’ve got your wheels spinning… (contrary to what this post says, I refused to do all of these!!!!). So…what will I say…hmmm….

@Meleah – It’s been a good laugh for everyone, I think! Makes me wonder what I was thinking!! You should try it sometime (oh, wait – it would look good on you!!)

@Paunchiness – Yes – that’s right – it’s a costume – I’m just a little late for Halloween!

@Jenny Mannion – Cute…thank you Jenny! Oh, I’m guessing you mean “cute” as in “strange”!! I’m still taking it as a compliment though (this look doesn’t bring that many for me…strangely!). Switching roles – yes, another good point. We can be good at one end of this – like in helping someone out – but not the other – the asking part. Great point to remember, thanks Jenny!


Tara@Sticky Fingers November 25, 2008 at 5:00 pm

OK, I know I’m late to the party on this one but Lance, that tiara is just WRONG!

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Tammy Warren November 25, 2008 at 7:59 pm

How pretty you look! This made my night Lance. What a good sport. Oh me..I am laughing at this one.

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Jennifer November 25, 2008 at 8:33 pm

Tammy, remember we are laughing WITH Lance on this one, not AT him. 🙂 OK, now laugh with me as Lance joins us.

Really Lance, I’m having a hard time getting these images out of my head. You are such a good sport!

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Karl - Work Happy Now November 25, 2008 at 9:47 pm

I love it. Those photos are classic.

The universe wants to help us as long as we are willing to put in the effort. Some days are tough, but as long as we keep plugging away good things will happen.

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Squawkfox November 25, 2008 at 10:23 pm

I just spewed my beverage laughing. (Wiping off my MacBook)…
What shade was the lipstick?

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Lance November 25, 2008 at 10:32 pm

@Tara – Agreed – the tiara is so wrong for me – whose crazy idea was this anyway??? And…why did I go along with it? Maybe I like a little verbal abuse! Then again…maybe I just “fell off my rocker”…

@Tammy – That’s great Tammy – I made your night! Just let me know the next time you need that – and I’ll see what other embarrassing things I can come up with!!

@Jennifer – Okay, Jennifer and Tammy – I’m laughing WITH both of you! Just so you know, Tammy – Jennifer is a bit sensitive to the with vs. at – since I caught her earlier laughing AT me! You have the images in your head, Jennifer – I have them on the top front page of my blog – must write something to move this down the page a ways!

@Karl – Classic! Classic, as in I’ll never live them down! I like that about the universe wanting to help us. Good will come, sometimes we do really have to work at it though. But that’s ok, as long as we don’t lose sight of this fact.

@Squawkfox – Geez, hope no damage was done!! I don’t want to be dressed like this AND feel responsible for destroying a Macbook…that would weigh heavy on my conscious…okay, maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration! The lipstick was red (there’s probably more to shade than that…but that’s all I got). And, lipstick is way too hard to use – do you take a class in how to properly apply the stuff???


Squawkfox November 25, 2008 at 10:53 pm

I agree, applying lip stick requires skill. So I opt for lip balm over stick. Besides, I’m not really a girly girl…more of a tomboy really. But you do make that tiara look…special. 😉

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bobbi November 25, 2008 at 11:04 pm

Lance this post is awesome!!! Love the pics! lol…I think that people tend to not ask because of fear. Fear of denial or being let down. I know that I am one of these people, I don’t like to be let down and I have way to much PRIDE. I need to let go of that!

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Avatar November 26, 2008 at 12:40 am

Cool post… by the way, we must be careful of what we ask too. :p

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Dave Fowler November 26, 2008 at 4:28 am

Oh man, that brought tears to my ears.
You are one hell of a zany dude!
I was wanting to shout, “TOGA, TOGA, TOGA” until I read the words and understood what you were doing.
You’re a good sport Lance.

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Lance November 26, 2008 at 5:05 am

@Squawkfox – Lip balm, yes – that’s easier (I’m switching to that next time – wait – should there really be a next time???). And, as “special” as that tiara looked – it will NOT be seeing my head again!!!

@Bobbi – So, you love the pics – I know – in some strange way – sure, I do too!?!?!? Was it worth it for free coffee? Hmmm….yes! (I love coffee!!). Fear, and pride – we’ve talked a bit about fear and how that keeps us from asking. Pride, though – is a new thought – and a great one. We don’t want to “hurt” our pride. And, I think that’s because we take the answers personally – when in reality, they’re not an attack on us personally at all. Thanks Bobbi!

@Avatar – Yes, we do have to be careful what we ask for, sometimes we might just get it…

@Dave – Glad I could provide a little humor today Dave! I’m not sure I understood what I WAS doing – was my head screwed on crooked that day?? Geez… Will I ever live this down?? My only saving grace is…(wait, there is no saving grace…). Thanks, buddy, for laughing WITH me today!!


Mark November 26, 2008 at 8:05 am

Have an awesome Thanksgiving!


Sagan November 26, 2008 at 11:21 am

Hehe funny photo:)

I’m really bad for asking for things. I just hint blatantly. Definitely need to get over my uncomfortableness with asking! Especially because I ENCOURAGE people to ask me for stuff. Should really not be such a hypocrite…

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Sara at On Simplicity November 26, 2008 at 5:04 pm

Talk about a good sport! And your point is well-taken: those who are willing to take chances, especially embarrassing ones, have all the fun!

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Kelly@SHE-POWER November 26, 2008 at 5:55 pm

You look adorable Lance, though I would have liked to see a video of dancing to go with that dress and tiara 🙂



Lance November 26, 2008 at 6:40 pm

@Mark – You too, have a great turkey day!!

@Sagan – Thanks, glad you “liked” the photo! Hey, it’s easy to by a hypocrite! I do the same thing…Getting over it – the uncomfortableness – is the step that needs to be taken by many of us…

@Sara – …And I think this qualifies as an ’embarrassing’ chance!! I must really like to put myself through some torture…

@Kelly – Why, thank you Kelly!! (why don’t I think you mean it????) And, there will be no video – that I guarantee!!! This was embarrassing enough!!! My credibility is shot around here now….


Dereck Coatney November 26, 2008 at 10:50 pm

Authentic awesomeness. 🙂


Jannie November 27, 2008 at 11:27 am

You are Soooo funny and a Great Sport!! Who knows where those photos may end up some day??

Happy Thanksgiving. (Well, U. S. Thanksgiving today anyway! Our “home and native land” did have it last month.)

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Angel November 28, 2008 at 11:08 am

I was trying to comment on the most recent ‘gratitude dance’ post. but i can’t?!?!? I like the site updates but can’t figure out where to comment. I am dumb.

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Robin Easton November 28, 2008 at 3:11 pm

Oh Lance you are a serious riot. The only thing missing was a video of the Dance!!! Or a video of the whole thing for that matter…one including all the prep. Soooo, speaking of asking. I am asking to see the dance with the get up, the lip stick on and the tiara and a dress all videoed. LOL!! 🙂

I can hear you saying, “Oh NO!!!” What have I done.” (Robin grins and says, “Well, you said to ASK!” I can see that us girls will have you hopping through hoops. LOL!!!!!!!! 🙂

Now, as to the REAL topic of this post. lol! I know for a fact that this works…asking. I’ve had so many people close to me tell me that I’m really good drwaing things into my life. That all I seem to do is ask and it appears.

The only thing for me is that I have to remember to do it…to ask And I do sometimes forget. So this is a VERY exciting reminder. It was presented in such a charming, fun and funny way…magical…like a kid would do. I love it!!!

Hugs to you, and hope you and your family had a great TG Day.
Robin (Still grinning) !!! 🙂 🙂

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Robin November 28, 2008 at 5:55 pm

lance – you’ve got a NEW THEME! Looking good! I’m sure I was here just yesterday, and it wasn’t there yet. And Thesis! (the same as me – when I got mine hardly anyone said anything – sob). Are your comments on your next post closed on purpose? – or have I stumbled in here while you are right in the middle of setting things up? (it takes me a while to do it all)

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Lance November 28, 2008 at 8:08 pm

@Dereck – Thanks man!

@Jannie – These photos have already grown legs and started to wander… sheesh with friend like this, I don’t need enemies!! But it’s all good! Thanksgiving was great here, thank you, my Canadian friend…

@Angel – Thanks for all your help Angel – you’ve been awesome!

@Robin Easton – Ha! It’s not happening Robin (I can just imagine the “abuse” I would take if there were a video to go along with this)!! After I wrote this (and published it) – I thought, uh-oh, people are going to asking me to do things now… Boy, was I right!! “Oh no, what have I done” – that’s exactly right! What have I done??? I agree, it’s easy to get wrapped up in life, and forget about asking for help – and when we do, usually things work out alright for us! Sounds like you’ve got this down – that’s great! Our Thanksgiving was great, I hope your day was as well…

@Robin – Yes, new theme, as of today! I’m liking it (but it’s taken a bit of tweaking…). Comments are purposely off on the “gratitude” post. Will be back on with the next post.


love-ely November 29, 2008 at 12:46 pm

Good post!
Like Jean said “it’s all right if the other person says no”. I think we should also have a great heart. Some people with small heart could feel unhappy or offended if rejected.

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Lance November 29, 2008 at 6:55 pm

love-ely, yes, that’s right – a “no” is an acceptable answer – and once we get to the point where that is acceptable to us – then it all becomes a lot easier…


Jenny November 30, 2008 at 8:56 pm

What’s holding me back on the chair and not letting me fall to the floor in a fit of laughter is definitely not arms on a chair, but I certainly wish I had some or I might fall! There I’m better! Great picture and ramble!

So what is holding me back in the other respects of life is that dirty four letter word that starts with an F. FEAR! I know I fear way too many things that I shouldn’t, I don’t have to be a rocket scientist to know that, but still a whole bunch of stupid little things make me so insecure that I am afraid to ask the questions I should be asking. I wish I knew how to make the little voices in my head go away, but it is not easy and no one has waved their magic wand (that might have been the only thing missing in the picture which would have surely made me fall off the chair!) in my direction and take all those insecurities and fears away and I haven’t figured out how to get rid of them on my own yet.

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Lance December 2, 2008 at 9:48 pm

Jenny – Ha! You’re funny…I’ve put the lipstick and dress away…the tiara…hmmm….I’m not telling!

Yes, the “F” word – fear. I think we all have those voices in our head sometimes, making us feel insecure (I know I have). Sometimes we just have to “go for it” – hey, I did (well, I’ve taken some abuse, I guess – but I’m good with it all!) – but, just so you know, there will NOT be a picture of me with a magic wand in addition to everything else I had on!!


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