I’ve stepped away from the computer, and from all my normal daily activities, basking in some fun vacation time with my family. In my absence, today we have a very giving and wonderful guest with us. Please help me welcome Tess from The Bold Life. Tess embodies the word bold – in so many positive and uplifting ways. And she lives what she writes. Her words will make you think, and leave you to question and challenge yourself. A couple of her recent posts include:
With that, I give you, Tess, as today we look at:
Bold Compassion in The Jungle of Life
“We are here to listen to our inspired hearts, spread our full peacock feathers, and awaken the invincible love inside us.” Tama Kieves
In addition to previous problems our economic crisis causes many to feel insecure, vulnerable and overwhelmed with debt and depression.
Know that if your kids are in trouble, your health is poor or you have an addiction there is hope. If you’re unemployed, have lost your home, are getting a divorce, or your business is failing realize you are enough. External events don’t determine our worth as a human being. Our problems, jobs, cars, homes or bank accounts do not define us.
No matter what is happening in your life today, big or small, know that you are OK. What ever the issue is, this too shall pass. It always has and always will.
I believe if you are suffering it’s your responsibility to ask for and receive help. If you’re thriving it’s your responsibility to reach out and offer it. I also believe what we need today is compassion for ourselves and compassion for others.
The following is an example of an event that recently occurred and how I handled it.
While visiting a friend in Michigan, I found myself in conflict, frustrated, hurt and at a loss on what to do. My next trip was visiting my mom and dad at Heartwood Lodge (a convalescent home) three hours away. Upset I cried most of the way, driving on autopilot.
Upon arriving I noticed their name plate was missing on the wall and was confused. I asked the front desk nurse if they had been moved to another room. She replied, “Oh honey, they moved to another place a year ago.”
The crazy thing is I helped them move a year ago! I was so depleted from negative emotions I actually drove myself to the wrong place. I’ve come far enough in life to know condemning my behavior is useless. I had brought Girl Scout cookies for my parents and upon leaving I handed them to the nurse and said, “Thank you. And have a nice day.”
Driving to the new place I laughed at myself and decided to get it together while driving.
When we err or when we are down on our luck there is no need to feel inadequate or stupid. Shame and blame are wasted energy. Negative self-talk brings us down. Positive emotions lift us up. I gifted myself with forgiveness, laughter and humor. After arriving at the correct place I had a great visit and joined them playing bingo and eating pizza.
Releasing negative emotions made my visit memorable. I left them light-hearted and joy- filled. I left fluffing my feathers!
Life is difficult. Sooner or later everyone faces difficulties and tragedy. When we have compassion for ourselves and others we are all able to feel inspired again. Compassion transforms us.
The following steps are tools for releasing negativity and practicing compassion:
- When you find yourself filled with negative self-talk let it go, silently tell yourself to “Stop!”
- Find a quiet place to sit still and calm yourself. Close your eyes and take several deep breathes. Tell yourself, “Breathe in peace, breathe out anger.” “Breathe in calm and breathe out fear.”
- Forgive yourself. Instead of dwelling on the negative give yourself positive feedback, acknowledge your value and appreciate the good you do.
- Learn to express your feelings and emotions within a safe environment.
- Learn patience, step back from a situation and don’t over react.
- Think well of yourself. Flood yourself with affirmations. Honor yourself.
With compassion you have the power to improve the quality of your life. There will always be new music to enjoy and new places to discover. Our future holds new experiences, employment, friend’s sunsets, laughter and love.
With compassion we can once again listen to our inspired hearts, spread our full peacock feathers, and awaken the love inside!