Coaches…Not Just For Football Players

by Lance Ekum on · 45 comments

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“All coaching is, is taking a player where he can’t take himself” ~ Bill McCartney

When we hear the word “coach”, the first thing most people think of is a sports coach.  We expect a sports team or player will have a coach.  We expect them to, if they will have any chance of success in their sport.  How can they compete if they don’t?  How can they stand a chance if there isn’t someone providing direction and strategy?

Football teams have them.  Soccer teams have them.  Runners have them.  Cheerleaders have them.

Coaches.  In sports, they’re the people who lead their team through a game, and through a season.  They don’t play the game.  Their job is to instruct and lead the players, to employ strategies, so that the team or player can best play their respective game.  And aim for their goal of success in their game.

So, a coach is someone who helps others employ a strategy for success.

In sports, success is measured by winning games.  In life, how is success measured?  Success in life is a very individual thing.  What success means to me is not what success means to you.  And how do we usually get there (to success) in our lives?  How do we know what strategy to employ in our lives, to get us where we desire to be?

Think about that for a minute.

In sports, we expect a coach to be involved in a winning season.  In life, we typically expect we can do it ourselves.  And maybe we can.  Just like a runner can train themselves for a marathon.  The question becomes, though, are we really achieving what is possible.

Life coaching.  Life coaching is helping individuals determine their personal goals, and employing strategies toward achieving them.  Like a sports coach, a life coach has the task to give you direction, help you to make some of the tough realizations, and lead you toward your own personal successes.

My Experience

I recently participated in a five-day coaching session hosted by coach Tom Volkar, looking at Authentic Business Discovery.  This was a group coaching session, conducted by telephone.  My expectation was that I would listen on the phone for an hour, get pumped up, then go out and use that new-found energy.  And…repeat for five days.  That was not it at all…

Like the coach on a sports team, a life coach asks you to put in the time and effort to make living your life meaningful.  Meaningful in the sense that you really need to get to know you, and determine what success means on a personal level.

“Champions aren’t made in the gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them — a desire, a dream, a vision.” ~ Muhammad Ali

The process of this week consisted of a series of questions forcing me to really think about “me”.  Not just on the surface, what I portray, but more deeply, what it is that I truly value in life.  At times I struggled with the answers, and then other times the answers came easily and quickly.   And that was good.  In the struggles, I was forced to look deep and really delve into how this all tied in with my core values.  When realizations came more quickly, I knew that these realizations were in alignment with who I am.  In the end, I came out with a better understanding of myself and what directions I want to go in.  And that was an empowering realization!

During the week, many techniques were presented, of which our task was to use these techniques to dig deeper into who we are.  Some worked, some didn’t.  Not every technique is going to work for everyone – because we are all different.  Tom did a great job of presenting us with methods to use in discovering what “authentic” means to each of us individually.  That not all worked for everyone is ok.  It’s ok because we all learn differently.  Having the right tools is the key.

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Like the coach on a sports team – life coaching helps you to focus and strategize on getting to where you desire to be.  A life coach is an outside source, not biased by your life experiences, working to lead you to the championship game in life.  Whatever that championship game entails for you, that’s a great place to strive for!

Your Turn

What are your thoughts on life coaching?  Have you ever used a coach to give your life direction or clarity?  Have you ever coached someone else?  Is the benefit worth the cost?  Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Lance writes stories from his heart, aiming to inspire and motivate, as you align more fully with YOUR true peak. When he's not here, you can find him hanging out with his family, riding a bike, or just generally acting goofy.   Sign up for the Thoughts from the Treehouse newsletter and get additional inspiration in your email inbox!
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Davina October 9, 2008 at 4:47 pm

Hi Lance. Life coaching is beyond words (although you did an excellent job here of sharing your experience!). Yes, yes and yes, to answer all your questions! 🙂

Davinas last blog post..Thanks, It Means The World To Me

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Cath Lawson October 9, 2008 at 5:25 pm

Lance – until I met Tom, Tim and Davina – I must confess that i really didn’t have a bloody clue what a life coach was. Then I started reading their stuff and it blew me away. And it also made me thinking. Now I question myself more. And every time something goes wrong, I ask myself “what’s good about this”. Tom has asked me that so many times that it has now become a habit.

I’m glad you enjoyed the course. I’ve heard that it is awesome.

Cath Lawsons last blog post..Be A Business Success Story, No Matter What Your Age

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Bamboo Forest October 9, 2008 at 5:59 pm

“A life coach is an outside source, not biased by your life experiences, working to lead you to the championship game in life.”

This is a good point. An outside source can often see things we do not allow ourselves to see.

I have never had a life coach in the traditional sense. But, I do consider a few people to be my mentors. These people, Most I’ve never met. But, I listen to their words, and contemplate their sentiments. In that way, they are like life coaches to me.

I think hiring a life coach can be a very excellent idea. Whatever it takes to help you out is worthwhile. We must look at our options, and choose accordingly.

Bamboo Forests last blog post..7 Paths to Excessive Wealth

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Marelisa October 9, 2008 at 6:06 pm

Do you know that psychologists routinely set up appointments other psychologists? Also, lawyers aren’t supposed to represent themselves. When you’re close to a problem, sometimes it’s really hard to see a solution because there’s so much emotion involved. I think a life coach can give you perspective that you would never have been able to give yourself just because they’re detached from your life. It sounds like you’re really committed to taking the next step in your life development Lance, good for you 🙂

Marelisas last blog post..Three Incredibly Effective Creativity Techniques

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Laurie October 9, 2008 at 8:26 pm

I took the class with Lance. It was everything he said it was. I learned so much about myself. I have already begun my new business and Tom was able to differentiate his class to meet my needs too. It was an outstanding experience.

It was also great hearing the others in the class talk about themselves. By the end of the week, I felt really bonded to the group. I feel like I have a new set of friends!

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Tom Volkar / Delightful Work October 9, 2008 at 8:58 pm

Hey Lance,

Thanks for the well though our perspective on your experience and on coaching in general. Yes I use a coach and coaching has acted as great accelerator in my life. It’s difficult to see your own blind spots, darn near impossible in fact. A coach can help you see options that you just haven’t considered yourself.

I love your sports analogy because it is the champions who hire coaches to raise their game. A common misconception probably taken from therapy is that there needs to be something wrong with you to work with a coach. Not so. I have one client who hires me every time he’s promoted just so he nails the transition period.

Marelisa – you bring up an excellent point. Most professionals would be fools to only represent themselves because they don’t know what they don’t know.

Lance thanks for the rugby photo I appreciate it! 🙂

Tom Volkar / Delightful Works last blog post..Why Don’t We Use What We Already Know?

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Writer Dad October 9, 2008 at 9:19 pm

I’ve had a lot of mentors, and am always looking for those who know more than me to help lead me in the right direction, but have never given serious consideration to a life coach.

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Sara at On Simplicity October 9, 2008 at 9:36 pm

I like Marelisa’s point. Sometimes our only problem is that we’re too close to our problems. What some folks consider unnecessary talk and/or help is really just perspective. And it’s priceless. Sounds like Tom had a lot of success with this!

Sara at On Simplicitys last blog post..Three Experiences You’d Like to Have

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Jennifer October 9, 2008 at 9:56 pm

Lance, thanks for sharing this experience with us. I had never heard of a life coach I don’t believe until I started blogging. I have never hired a life coach, but I have had some mentors. I do love reading the blogs of life coaches though because they make me think. My favorite blogs are the ones that make me think and then actually change.

I can definitely see the benefit of hiring a life coach and would consider it myself to help me see the “blind spots” like Tom talked about.

Teaching others what my mentors have taught me has been a huge blessing in my life. I can’t say I would call it coaching, but it is life changing material nonetheless.

Jennifers last blog post..What Reality Have You Created?

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Karl - Work Happy Now October 9, 2008 at 10:06 pm

I think a life coach is great. They help you see your stuff from a different perspective. I’m in the process of finding one that will fit my needs.

It’s like dating. You can’t settle on the first one.

Karl – Work Happy Nows last blog post..Your 3 Careers – Are You Ready?

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Vered - MomGrind October 9, 2008 at 10:33 pm

I used to say that I would NEVER use a life coach. But after 7 months in the blogosphere, I am slowly changing my mind. I do think it depends a lot on the coach, and that great chemistry between the coach and the person he coaches is very important.

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meleah rebeccah October 9, 2008 at 11:04 pm

I could use / need a life coach right about now…but I have a thing with ‘taking advice/orders’ from other people. Usually when someone suggests I do something, I suddenly have the desire to to The Exact Opposite.

meleah rebeccahs last blog post..Happy Birthday … To Me

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Evelyn Lim October 9, 2008 at 11:36 pm

I’m glad to read excellent reviews about Tom’s course. I am not surprised to. I believe that Tom is and will make a great one for anyone!

Evelyn Lims last blog post..Heroes Of Healing: Neale Donald Walsch

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Tammy Warren October 10, 2008 at 2:46 am

I was up late tonight and I had been working on my post for the day. I guess we have some sort of ESP going on here. You mentioned “values” and that is what a touched on. I know I just did the ultimate NO NO in blogging…talking about mine over here. It was strange to see you had posted on something I had just written about.

Coaching. I know we have discussed that I coach for the boys. I love the comparison you made between a coach and life coach. The concept is so new to me. I am sure it would be a great relief to be able to reach out and have a life coach. This is something I need to think about.

Thank you Lance…you are truly a kind hearted person.

Tammy Warrens last blog post..My Attentive Heart…do you have one?

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Lance October 10, 2008 at 5:26 am

@Davina – Yes, there is much we can power in having outside influences assist us objectively – and provide guidance and direction we might not see ourselves. You’ve been there, and done that – that’s great! You know from experience in this area, thanks for sharing!

@Cath – I didn’t really have a clue either! That’s one of the great things about coaching – it forces you to “think”. Think about you – at a deep level. In the normal busy-ness of life, this was not something I was doing. Coaching was a great way to be forced to “make” time for this – an important but neglected activity.

@Bamboo Forest – Yes, an outside source can look at us from a different lens than we normally look at ourselves. And in doing that, they can see things we might miss. The thing about a life coach is that they are focused on specific objectives they are looking to accomplish. And that focus can really provide clarity!

@Marelisa – That’s an excellent point Marelisa — being too close to the problem, we can’t always get by the emotions and personal issues — to see what the solutions are. How true! And great examples! That really is one of the big benefits that can be derived from having a coach in your life – they come from a point of being outside – and aren’t as attached to the emotions behind “you” (the collective “you”).

@Laurie – It was really great to have you in our sessions with Tom! You bring up a great point about Tom, that I hadn’t mentioned – that is – he did a great job of customizing our sessions to meet our needs – it wasn’t just a hard and set group of objectives that he had planned from the start of the week. He did an excellent job of adjusting his methods based upon where our conversations led us. And, in being in a group setting, there was a “bonding” that took place – powerful in it’s own right, and a real side benefit to just the coaching that took place. It’s great to have a new set of friends to bounce idea off of! You’re well on your way to many future successes Laurie!

@Tom – Really, I should be thanking you — for a great week of learning and growing. And for challenging me to really step outside of myself and my comfort zone. Being that we live in a house that revolves around one sport or another (I forget who I have to take to what practice tonight…) – it really was a fitting analogy for me! That misconception is true – I have had that thought – why do I need a coach? I only need one if there is something wrong with me. And that’s a incorrect thought. Coaching isn’t because there is something wrong, it’s to take us to the next level. An important point to remember, thanks for bringing it up Tom. And…I thought you’d appreciate the rugby picture!! Thanks again for a great week!

@Writer Dad – Mentors can be a great source for us to bounce ideas off of, and they really can provide direction in our lives. The thing with coaches is that they are trained in this stuff – helping us to get better – and know what tools to use to get us there. Not saying a mentor can’t do that (they can) – but a coach is a great resource because of their specific area of focus. You may want to think about it!

@Sara – I like Marelisa’s point also! Right on the money! Perspective – I like that way of looking at it. It is in our perspective, and how we look at it. If we see a coach as just being there to fix our problems, then we’ll focus on just that – our problems. If we see a coach as being there to really take us to the next level, then we look at the opportunities we have to get us there (strengths, weaknesses that hold us back, values, etc.).

@Jennifer – The thing with a coach is that they are focused on just that – coaching. A mentor is great to have, but the focus may be different. Not in a bad way, just different. I think mentors and coaches complement each other. I think you would find coaching to be a very positive and enlightening experience. And Jennifer, that you’re able to share with others what you’ve learned from those you considered mentors – what a great gift to give away! Continue to spread your goodness!

@Karl – Good point, not every coach is going to be perfect in every situation. You have to be comfortable with the person you’ll be working with.

@Vered – This goes along very well with Karl’s point. Not every coach is going to work for everybody. Chemistry between coach and “player” are key to success. Reminds me of some of the sports teams our kids have been on. Different teaching styles by the different coaches work different ways for each child. Life coaching is no different. It’s what we respond to that will make a difference.

@Meleah – You’re a rebel Meleah!! I think of it not necessarily as taking advice from someone else, but as having them direct us toward a solution. Part of it is a process of understanding ourselves. I didn’t feel that I was taking orders, short of completing the evenings assignments. And these became talking points for discussion. And not orders of what to do…

@Evelyn – Yes, Tom did an excellent job of leading our discussion group, and really delving into what was underlying. Powerful stuff!

@Tammy – What’s the saying…oh yeah…great minds think alike!!! I’ll go with that! I too am more familiar with coaching in a sport environment (hence my references above). After doing this week experience, it was a perfect comparison, and one that I too could relate too – coming from my experience in coaching sports. Give it some thought Tammy. For me, I hadn’t really given it much thought until I stumbled upon it over at Tom’s site. I have tended to think of coaching in terms of kids or professional teams. And not for individual experiences. But the thing is, just like a sports team want to win the big one – in our life we want to experience that which brings us the most joy and happiness. A coach can really help to steer us in directions toward that end – directions we might not normally see.

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Mark Salinas October 10, 2008 at 6:18 am

I think this hits home for me—->“Champions aren’t made in the gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them — a desire, a dream, a vision.” ~ Muhammad Ali

Wow! Thanks for sharing Lance….always good!

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Stacey / Create a Balance October 10, 2008 at 6:25 am

Although I have never officially worked with a life coach, I am a huge fan. In the grand scheme of things, I want to be a life coach and help people “determine their personal goals, and employ strategies toward achieving them”. The money factor is the only thing that has blocked me from hiring a life coach and from signing up for a life coach certification program. Both are expensive.

Stacey / Create a Balances last blog post..Join the Life Balance Group Writing Project

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Stacey Shipman October 10, 2008 at 9:21 am

Life coaching – well, I’ve used coaches both for business and personal reasons and my husband is a coach, I’ve done a bit myself. A great coach, will, as you mentioned ask you the “tough” questions. A coach is not there to tell you what to do. They empower so you can make the discovery. When I worked with a coach the first time I was transitioning out of corporate and into my own business – a very scary time filled with fear! She said two words to me that have stayed with me every since. The point is you might work with a coach for months, but the impact can happen with just one or two words, questions or key points. A coach will challenge you and if you’re not open to the challenge, the relationship will not be successful.

For me, a successful coach will anger me – which means they said something or asked me a question that I’ve been avoiding and the anger is fear of bringing that subject up. Deep down I know that’s the beast that needs to be released in order to move forward.

My area is full of coaches and they often get a bad rap. That said a competent coach can help you make life changing discoveries.

Stacey Shipmans last blog post..Success Comes from The Heart

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BC Doan October 10, 2008 at 9:26 am

I’ve not used a life coach, but I believe they have a well of strategies and experiences to help!

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Urban Panther October 10, 2008 at 9:45 am

Several times I considered getting a life coach, but then I ended being able to dig deep and move forward on my own, everytime. It is something I have always been able to do, and in more recent years have deliberately developed better skills to do. However, I can definitely see how life coaches can be very beneficial. I find mentors and mentoring more beneficial for the type of person I am.

Urban Panthers last blog post..Creative collaboration

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Suzie October 10, 2008 at 9:57 am

My mother has been my coach most of my life. I hope Ill be that way for my kids too.

Suzies last blog post..And It Still Goes On and On

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Pink Ink October 10, 2008 at 10:29 am

I’ve never had a life coach, but I sat beside one on a plane ride from L.A. and I was bowled over by the encouragement he gave me just in an hour’s time. He asked me questions about what I really want, and it was really scary but also exhilarating. Before we got off the plane, he looked me in the eye and said, “Go for your dreams”.

It was a life-changing experience.

I hope to surround myself with people who can give me a leg up when the going gets tough. That’s why I come back to your site 🙂

Have a great weekend, Lance!

Pink Inks last blog post..Mail Call

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rummuser October 10, 2008 at 10:42 am

Lance, coaching is now being called as such. It has always been part of everyone’s life. We had our parents or grand parents coaching us, people who helped us in schools and colleges, tutors, mentors in work places, spiritual guides etc. I have been singularly lucky in that I have had all these types of coaches in my life, and never had to pay any one for the privilege.

I currently mentor young entrepreneurs as an honorary mentor, one among many such experienced people, as part of our local chamber of commerce and industry initiative. This is a most satisfying activity that I indulge in and to see young entrepreneurs succeed is truly an experience that I wish all people with similar backgrounds to mine can have. That is not all. It has been a learning experience for me as well as I have been able to learn new sociological developments about which I did not have a clue, protected as I was in corporate security.

rummusers last blog post..I Am Truly Blessed.

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Linda Abbit October 10, 2008 at 10:52 am

Thanks for sharing your experience with us, Lance. A life coach has recently appeared in my life, and after reading this post and all the comments, I am more interested in working with her.

I’d heard of life coaches before, but never totally understood how I could benefit from their services. Thanks for enlightening me.

Linda Abbits last blog post..Inspiring Quotes for Caregivers — 10/08/08

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Maya October 10, 2008 at 11:10 am

Such great perspectives here! Could not agree with Mare more.

I have never used a coach but I do believe that coaches can be very good for us. They give our lives a different perspective and help us be constructive. I can certainly use that every so often!

I want to be a coach myself. I have done a lot of informal career coaching and I am trying to figure out when would be a good time for my start. Thanks Lance, for the analogy. It is very effective to think of coaching that way!

Mayas last blog post..The key to happiness and balance is right with you, just learn to use it – Part 2 of the thinkmaya framework

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Sagan October 10, 2008 at 12:04 pm

I think life coaching is really great. And if you yourself do the life coaching for someone else, you’re essentially learning lots too!

It doesn’t need to be someone with a certification, either. Anyone can do life coaching. It’s beneficial to us all.

Sagans last blog post..Life Lessons: Fashion Choices for Exercising

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Lance October 10, 2008 at 12:44 pm

@Mark – I thought that quote really said much too. It’s all about your desires, your dreams, and your visions. If you are not in alignment with those, it doesn’t really matter what “gym” you’re in…

@Stacey/Create A Balance – Your bring up a very good point – the costs associated with this. It can seem like a catch-22 sometimes – “I can’t afford to do it, but yet I can’t afford not too…”. And, if you do go ahead, are you “ready” for the changes that this might lead to. Many factors to consider. It’s your time and money you’re putting into something like this – it needs to be more than a “feel good” moment to make it worth it. The idea of the cost is what has held me back in the past too. In the end, you have to look at what the potential pay-back is. Lots to think about…

@Stacey Shipman – You’re a coaching family!! It’s the tough questions, the ones that make you “dig deep” – that are what really provide the “bang for the buck” with coaching. I find it interesting that you use the word “anger”. It’s interesting in that typically that an emotion associated with not getting along with someone. But looking at it as the anger being the bringing up of some “fear” we have – that is it. That’s where the digging deep by a coach really pays off. It gets you to face those hurdles (another sports reference) in your life. Thanks for sharing that unique look at how emotions play into the whole coaching arena. It makes much sense when we really think about it – what angers us is that which we have deep, sometimes buried fears of…

@BC Doan – Yes, they sure do!

@Urban Panther – Good point, sometimes we are able to objectively see ourselves through some of those moments that require us to dig deep. I think one of the big differences I see between coaches and mentors is that mentors may know us better on a personal level. In the end, it really comes down to what you are comfortable with. Sounds like found something that is working well for you!

@Suzie – Parents/siblings/friends all have the ability to help us throughout our lives. They are a great resource, as they know us well. Good point, thanks for the reminder that we are surrounded by informal mentors and coaches. Sometimes that’s enough, other times a hired coach can complement these informal ones quite nicely.

@Pink Ink – That story is a powerful testimony to what coaching can do – thanks for sharing it here! That really is one of the real benefits of having a trained coach in your corner. They’re trained in what to look for and what to ask – how to get you to look deep within yourself. I’m glad you’re here, it’s the great conversations that get going that add real value – and you’re a big part of that!

@Rummuser – As Suzie mentioned something very similar, thanks for bringing this up – that we are surrounded by mentors who can help us. And we should be open to what they have to tell us, and also return the favor by helping others as well. Being able to help young entrepreneurs – I can only imagine how personally gratifying that must be – I wish you well as you continue on this endeavor!

@Linda – I’m glad this was helpful Linda! If you are ready for it, a life coach can be a very enlightening experience. Whatever decision you make, I know you will do well!

@Maya – I think we can all use the different perspective occasionally. That’s a great point, that a coach can provide a different perspective into our lives than we see because of the subjectivity with which we examine our own lives. Good luck to you in pursuing your dreams to become a coach – I’m cheering you on!

@Sagan – Another great point – both coach and student learn through coaching sessions. It’s not necessarily a one-way street. There is something to be said for certifications, but on the other hand, someone with a real desire to coach, who is good at understanding other people, can do much good for others too – without the piece of paper certifying them.

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Jean Browman--Cheerful Monk October 10, 2008 at 2:06 pm

I’ve always done a lot of self-learning, and I’ve been interested in personal development since I was 16 and cured myself of a dental phobia using self-hypnosis. There are a lot of books out there with exercises to help us learn about ourselves. That said, I’ve also gone to many workshops to get in touch with people with similar interests. It’s fun to have company, too.

Jean Browman–Cheerful Monks last blog post..Creating a Sacred Space

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Dave Jones, CPA October 10, 2008 at 2:30 pm

No, I have never used a coach. I probably need one though…it sure couldn’t hurt to try. I have wondered why you get a coach (trainer) at the gym or why I played softball this summer and that team had a coach but the most important thing, my life, didn’t have a coach.

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Lance October 10, 2008 at 4:29 pm

@Jean – We can gain much through self-learning. Sometimes we reach a point where we’re not making the progress we’d like, or we’ve come to a standstill. This is a good time to visit the idea of a coach or mentor. Workshops also do this, although I’m not sure that you get as much individualized attention as with a coach. It comes down, again, to what works for you. It sounds like self-learning has worked well for you Jean, and that’s great!

@Dave – I found my experience to be very enlightening Dave. I love your analogy about how we’ll use a coach in other facets of our life, but not when it comes to the most important thing – our actual life. That’s a great point to ponder…

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Katie October 11, 2008 at 7:37 am

Interesting thoughts…I think that I had the same opinion of a life coach that you did in the beginning..I have been interested in finding out some experiences with one, so Thanks for sharing yours!

Katies last blog post..Nothing But Everything is New….

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MizFit October 11, 2008 at 9:17 am

once upon a time…in a town like where she lives now…MizFit had a different career and was a full time life coach!
she loved it.

once upon a time…in a town like where she lives now…MizFit had HER OWN life coach.

now youve made me wonder why I ever let that lapse…. (the being coached 🙂 I know why I ceased coaching)

MizFits last blog post..Poetry in Motion.

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Kelly@SHE-POWER October 11, 2008 at 4:07 pm

I used to think about becoming a life coach myself, but a niggling voice inside my head thought it was just another excuse for me not to focus on my writing. I have had a limited amount of coaching done in conjunction with holistic healing and therapy, but that was a while ago. Lately, I’ve been thinking I might need a life coach to help me sort out my writing priorities and career confusion. It sounds like you got a lot out of your week with Tom, so will we be hearing about a new business soon Lance?

Kelly

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bobbi October 11, 2008 at 11:20 pm

Wow Lance what a great blog. I think for me my life coach has been my Dad, he has inspired me to be the best that I can be through all that I do in life. Neve pressuring me to be someone I am not but to be the women God created me to be. And now as I am older and I am no longer my Daddys little girl, well I guess I will always be:) But I think my life coach is not just one person but all the people that I choose to be around, my friends, family,hubby and pastors. They cheer me on and push me through life, challanging me, molding me, and quite frankly making me sweat! lol

bobbis last blog post..Why Hemp? Free Giveaway!

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Lance October 12, 2008 at 4:07 am

@Katie – Glad you enjoyed the article. It really was an interesting process to go through in that not only did I learn about myself, but I also gained a good feel for what a life coach really is.

@MizFit – That is cool! That you were a life coach! And had one. So you know the value they can bring!

@Kelly – A life coach would be a great way to help you focus on your writing. It might be worth considering, even if it’s a couple of sessions – to provide some clarity and added direction. Where this is taking me…hmmm….I’m not completely sure yet. I really used the time to focus on why I write, and what it provides for me.

@Bobbi – Thanks! Yes, as others have said as well – many have informal life coaches around them. And you do to – that’s great! We can learn much from those who are regular participants in our lives. The people we choose to be around – what a nice way of looking at this! We ARE influenced by those we associate with – so, being around people that are uplifting – are the ones that really DO lift us up. Thanks for the reminder on this. And I bet they really do make you sweat (literally!).

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Robin Easton October 12, 2008 at 4:05 pm

Life coaching is incredible. My sister is a life-coach. I’ve never been to one and I am not a trained one, but if I were not a writer and my schedule so full I would take it up and still may at some point.

With that said I have coached and been coached by remarkable friends. And have witnessed the amazing life changes that take place as a result of it. I think it is so essential, in fact, we should have it all through high school, that early so that we can coach ourselves more consciously and direct our live at a much younger age. I think it would make a huge difference in young people’s live and hence the whole culture.

Although some schools have counselors and guidance counselors…that’s not the same as a Life Coach. Finding, focusing on and living ones dreams…and a life direction is powerful.

Thanks for such an inspiring post…very well written. 🙂

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Lance October 13, 2008 at 7:06 am

Robin, thanks for sharing your story here! Friends can be great coaches for us as well, if we’re open to receiving what they have to say. Having this type of offering in school could really help the kids coming out of high school really determine the path of life that really speaks to them. I know for me coming out of high school, I had ideas, but nothing really concrete to base my assumptions on. It would be very helpful!

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RooBabs October 13, 2008 at 6:21 pm

Most days, I think I would love to have a life coach. Then again, usually my husband and family fill that role pretty well.

At my office, the supervisors are called Team Managers and their weekly meetings are called Coaching Sessions. I think it defnitely gives a different perspective for what the purpose is of having the meetings in the first place. It’s not just about the stats, it’s about improving and motivating and being a support for someone.

Thanks for this great post!

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Lance October 13, 2008 at 9:40 pm

RooBabs – Right on, we do usually have people in our lives that can fulfill this role (at least to an extent). I like how you’ve described your meetings at work – a great example – the idea of “coaching” does usually bring up motivation – and that’s a great way to look at weekly meetings – whether at work or in your personal life – thanks for sharing that idea!

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Jenny October 14, 2008 at 9:58 am

I believe I need a life coach. There are so many things I know I could do better, especially in the goals and what direction I am going areas. I think I could achieve my goals, if I just knew what they were!

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Zandria October 14, 2008 at 3:54 pm

I’ve never had a formal life coach, but I certainly think it would be nice. Friends can be great for such purposes sometimes, but often they’re too closely involved (meaning they won’t tell you the entire truth because they’re worried about hurting your feelings).

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Liara Covert October 18, 2008 at 5:16 pm

Even if you are not an athlete, you can relate to the desire for encouragement and mental discipline to accomplish your own life goals. Every life stage offers challenges. Some people view life as a game to be mastered. Ultimately, you live in the body you have right now to love and learn to master yourself. Its your job.

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Noraini maskuri October 18, 2008 at 8:23 pm

That was enlightening, thank you. We all could use a life coach.

I have always looked to books as my life coaches & teachers in life, reading the works of great writers/achievers and about their lives. I realized something – sometimes I find great difficulty to exercise my knowledge to straighten out my life’s issues.

Emotions can get in the way of clarity. To think that friends turn to me for my “wisdom” when they have their problems. Yet I can’t solve my own.

so thanks, today I learn something new

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Lance November 2, 2008 at 8:56 pm

@Jenny – A life coach can be just the thing to get you kick-started in the directions you desire to go – I say go for it Jenny!

@Zandria – That’s a great point – being too closely involved – and a great reason for considering a formal life coach – someone without the emotional ties to “you”.

@Liara – Every life certainly does have stages and new challenges that go along with them. A life coach can be a great resource for getting you through all of these areas…

@Noraini – Emotions — a very excellent point — they can really get in the way of clarity. And that’s something a life coach really can provide, a non-emotional look at “you” – and help you get a clear assessment of where you’re at, where you want to go, and how to get there…

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