Connection Challenges in a Connected World

by Kelly Sajonia on · 17 comments


Wading through endless emails, voicemails, and texts, I find myself inundated with various forms of communication. I am constantly connected to the world through electronic devices, and my work requires me to have at least one social media site open, jumping in to comment, post, and share for clients and myself. I am in constant communication. And yet, I feel more disconnected than ever these days.

I know I am not alone in feeling out of touch with people while constantly communicating in one form of electronic chatter or another. I hear and read regularly of others struggling with these same issues. No matter how convenient and instantaneous our messages can be through electronic forms of communication, nothing could be better than communicating in person.

Maintaining a connection with others is a soul-satisfying experience, not to be replaced by electronic devices pinging us or perusing Facebook for updates. Seeing a facial expression, hearing a story with all the nuances and inflections from the speaker, holding a hand, or stealing a kiss-this all requires connecting in the real world, not the virtual one. While I enjoy the ease of convenience with sending a quick text to my fiancé, family, and friends, being with them in person is how a greater depth of connection occurs.

The challenge in the world we live in is making the effort to have these personal connections more often. Here are some tips for connecting (or reconnecting) with others:

  • Invite a friend out for coffee.
  • Schedule a date with your significant other.
  • Coordinate a group of friends for a casual potluck (less work and more time enjoying company).
  • Call someone to simply chat.
  • Invite a friend in the neighborhood to go for a walk.
  • Initiate a regular get-together (monthly book club, quarterly dinner club, etc) with a group of friends.

There are countless ways to be more in touch, but this list is a good start to spark a few ideas for a better connection with others.

Do you have additional ideas?

Share below!

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by Kelly Sajonia

Kelly Sajonia is a writer for many sites, but spends most of her time writing for her award-winning blog Naked Girl in a Dress. Her inspirational blog celebrates rediscovering life and love at any age. Kelly also has a full service social media marketing business, runs a social media site for writers, teaches blogging, and occasionally takes a professional photography gig.
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Alice Koko April 25, 2013 at 9:04 am

I would like to add, that if you are a dog owner. Going for regular walks, dog parks, hiking whatsoever will manifest with meeting people and having a “real people” time. On the other hand,ask somebody to do grocery shopping together (2 birds with one stone) as well don`t forget that wine tasting event at Bevmo to attend with your bestie 🙂


Kelly Sajonia April 25, 2013 at 9:22 am

These are great ideas, Alice! Having a dog to walk does help foster communication with others.

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SeanD April 25, 2013 at 9:15 am

Sometimes we get disconnected from those we love most.. Spouses, family, loved ones. I agree with you completely that it’s so easy, even in such a connected world, to get disconnected. I’ve found that when I can make the time to connect, it really feels good and feeds my soul. Thanks for the tips. Also consider:

– take 15 minutes to sit on the couch and TALK, FREE OF ELECTRONICS, with your spouse, sibling, kids or parent.
– setup a regular workout, once every week or two, with a friend. Running, lifting, spinning. Something you need to do that they also do.
– expand the book club idea and make it some other mutual interest that you bring together 2..3 friends to mutually enjoy. Bourbon? Cigars? Beer? (Sorry ladies I’m only good at the dude ideas). Make it something you can try with variety.

Thanks for the ideas Kelly!


Kelly Sajonia April 25, 2013 at 9:24 am

Thanks for sharing these other great ideas. Excellent additions to the list.


Kyndl Ellzey April 25, 2013 at 9:45 am

It is ironic Lance how that In the most connected World, we still isolate ourselves by putting up a barrier of electronic energy that renders the human side of us powerless.


Kyndl Ellzey April 25, 2013 at 9:50 am

The human side just came out of me. Sorry Kelly. Great post.


Kelly Sajonia May 6, 2013 at 12:16 pm

Thanks for the comment Kyndl! I agree with you completely.


marquita herald April 25, 2013 at 11:48 am

Well said! I work online and live the somewhat isolated life of an author, so I definitely feel disconnected at times. My biggest challenge is a sort of good news/bad news thing. I live on an island in the middle of the Pacific, but some of my best friends are thousands of miles away – in some cases whole continents – so reaching out for a cup of coffee or the occasional in-person chat isn’t possible. At the same time, I love that what I do provides me with the opportunity to make friends all over the world. We do what we can do 🙂
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Kelly Sajonia May 6, 2013 at 7:27 pm

Your living arrangement definitely requires maintaining a digital connection! It sounds like a wonderful life and environment in which to work and live. Enjoy!


Kyndl Ellzey April 25, 2013 at 12:10 pm

I know it’s hard. Like you said Marquita, You have a chance to make friends. Others spend their time trying to make a place for themselves or making a dollar. Making connections is not high on so many peoples radar. Surviving is great but having a balance in life helps us to remain real and keeps us from living in a revolving door of “I.”


Marci | Liberating Choices April 26, 2013 at 6:53 pm

I think many of us can relate to the electronic overload. I often ask myself am I getting on social media to connect or to distance. And if i really want to connect, I find another way. Talk to my kids about their day. Invite a friend out for lunch or smoothies.

I also think we can have face to face time without personal connection. So I would add what do you want the person sitting in front of you to know about you, and what do you want to learn about them. Take time and simmer in the exchange instead of talking about others…


Kelly Sajonia May 6, 2013 at 7:29 pm

These are great additions. Thanks for taking the time to comment and share, Marci.


Elle April 27, 2013 at 2:11 am

Hi Kelly,

I have to agree with you. I think face-to-face communication is the most valuable.

Despite being able to Facebook, tweet, text, or email someone, it’s not the same as seeing someone’s expression when you tell a story.

However, face-to-face communication works only if people aren’t attached to their devices. Nothing is worse than having dinner with someone who’s constantly on their phone!

Of course, phones are important in case there are emergencies, but I believe that we could do without tweeting about or food during dinner.
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Kelly Sajonia May 6, 2013 at 7:31 pm

It is essential to actually connect–without devices in hand–when we have those face-to-face meetings. I agree completely!


Steve April 27, 2013 at 1:16 pm

Electronic devices and social media can be so disconnecting. Which is funny because they are supposed to be connecting us. I prefer to text my friends for a beer. You can actually have real conversations with them instead of short interactions on social media. I think it’s best to look at Facebook and Twitter as supplements to real-world connections rather than substitutions.
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Kelly Sajonia May 6, 2013 at 7:32 pm

Supplements rather than substitutions–great comment! I completely agree.


Alice Koko April 27, 2013 at 1:51 pm

Could not agree more,Steve! Supplements indeed!
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