“As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”
~Proverbs 23:7
Giving your heart to another is one of the greatest gifts you can give. If given without much thought, it can also be a painful experience. Knowing with whom to share is an essential lesson of love to learn.
Take time in the beginning to discover more about him. Doing so can mean the difference between falling in love with a man who will carefully and responsibly tend to that love and one who will take it for granted, or exploit what you have given him. While you can’t determine with complete certainty whether someone will ultimately hurt you or not, you can move slowly, learning more about the person before becoming deeply involved.
The early stage of a relationship is a time to begin sharing your history and current life experiences with one another. You will each say a lot, but evaluate beyond the words. Witness the other person’s actions in various settings, body language in conversations, and contemplate deeper what is being shared. By focusing on these things, you can learn whether a person’s nature includes being honest, caring, faithful, loving, supportive, responsible, and more.
If you are able to see what is in his heart, you will discover his essence.
Only then should you give your own.
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I’ve had the opportunity to do this, to discover a woman’s heart, but we’ve not spent a single moment together in the same room in about 20 years. It was unexpected but I believe a blessing in disguise. I wont say more because it may just be written about on your site in a week or so
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You have the opportunity to do this without being in the same room. My guess is that you know more about your heart than you are letting on or you wouldn’t be this excited in such an unusual circumstance as you find yourself.
I am looking forward to you writing on my site next month.
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I just don’t give my heart because I don’t want to waste my time… But it seems already wasted waiting for someone who will never come.
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You will know when you are ready to open yourself up to the possibility of a relationship again. In the meantime, enjoy the beauty that comes to you with each new day. There’s so much to be grateful for in life.
Take care of yourself, Dlysen.
Kelly Sajonia´s Last Fabulous Post ..How Important is the First Kiss?
I agree with your advice Ms. Kelly, I have to enjoy what ever I have. Yes, I will take care of myself and thank you for the concern.
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Great post, Kelly! I loved the quote and how your words interleaved the spirit of the quote with your perspective.
Dlysen, I feel ya brother. Oddly, once I gave up the hunt and stopped looking for that special person who would appreciate and take care of my heart.. she showed up. I think sometimes we try to fill a gap in our lives so hard that we don’t leave enough space for that special person to find us. Don’t give up, I wish you the best of luck!
I am so happy you found someone to appreciate and take care of your heart, Sean. You give great advice to Dlysen, too. Thanks for commenting.
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Such great advice. I feel as though it takes me a while to let my guard down while dating. I can’t freely give my heart unless I can feel with absolute certainty the other person is on the same page. But that’s a game, isn’t it? “I won’t say I love you until you say it first.” Have you ever felt that way, too?
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Taking the time in the beginning before giving your heart is a good thing in my opinion. And yes, I have felt that way about saying “I love you.” I don’t see it as a game, but rather not wanting to be that vulnerable in a relationship. I can’t see you as one to play games with a man’s heart, Charlotte. It never hurts to move slowly.
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An exceptionally wise post. Thank you. It caught my attention in email enough that I had to read and then comment.
Lots of love to you (and all of us!)!
Thank you, Megan. I didn’t know where I was going to go with the prompt this month: as a man thinketh. I appreciate you visiting to read and comment.
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I would add that it’s never too early to “call out” the good qualities we find in men. When they act in nurturing, thoughtful, kind ways, it’s always good to build that up in any stage of a relationship. It says a lot about who we are, women who know how to respect others.
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You have an excellent point, Audra. The only way to continue to be respected and loved the way we want is to “call out” these good qualities you mention. It’s all about positive reinforcement of what we like, want, and need.
That said, it’s our responsibility to give to our partner as well.
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