Know His Heart Before You Give Your Own

“As a man thin­keth in his heart, so is he.”

~Proverbs 23:7

Giv­ing your heart to another is one of the great­est gifts you can give. If given with­out much thought, it can also be a painful expe­ri­ence. Know­ing with whom to share is an essen­tial les­son of love to learn.

Take time in the begin­ning to dis­cover more about him. Doing so can mean the dif­fer­ence between falling in love with a man who will care­fully and respon­si­bly tend to that love and one who will take it for granted, or exploit what you have given him. While you can’t deter­mine with com­plete cer­tainty whether some­one will ulti­mately hurt you or not, you can move slowly, learn­ing more about the per­son before becom­ing deeply involved.

The early stage of a rela­tion­ship is a time to begin shar­ing your his­tory and cur­rent life expe­ri­ences with one another. You will each say a lot, but eval­u­ate beyond the words. Wit­ness the other person’s actions in var­i­ous set­tings, body lan­guage in con­ver­sa­tions, and con­tem­plate deeper what is being shared. By focus­ing on these things, you can learn whether a person’s nature includes being hon­est, car­ing, faith­ful, lov­ing, sup­port­ive, respon­si­ble, and more.

If you are able to see what is in his heart, you will dis­cover his essence.

Only then should you give your own.

by Kelly Sajo­nia

Kelly Sajo­nia is a writer for many sites, but spends most of her time writ­ing for her award-winning blog Naked Girl in a Dress. Her inspi­ra­tional blog cel­e­brates redis­cov­er­ing life and love at any age. Kelly also has a full ser­vice social media mar­ket­ing busi­ness, runs a social media site for writ­ers, teaches blog­ging, and occa­sion­ally takes a pro­fes­sional pho­tog­ra­phy gig.

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