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Life Lessons: The Marathon

 

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny mat­ters com­pared to what lies within us.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Run.

Run 26.2 miles.  The marathon.  A dis­tance that chal­lenges run­ners phys­i­cally, men­tally, emotionally.

Octo­ber 3, 2010.  The Mil­wau­kee Lake­front Marathon.  My first marathon, and a day that took me to the high­est of highs and the low­est of lows.

Does life ever feel that way for you? 

Let’s dig a lit­tle deeper into this.  The day began with partly sunny skies, cool tem­per­a­tures, and a very light wind.  For running…pretty ideal con­di­tions.  And as I ran…as I ran along­side all these other amaz­ing ath­letes, I felt ener­gized by their pres­ence, their mov­ing for­ward.  I also recalled the count­less hours of train­ing that went into get­ting me ready for this day, train­ing that began six months before this day came.

Back­track to late win­ter, 2010.  I’ve been think­ing about doing a marathon…except that a dis­tance of 26.2 miles just seems unreachable. 

Unat­tain­able.

Lim­ited by my own beliefs in what is pos­si­ble within me.

Have you ever been there?

Six months ago (it seems like ages). This idea of com­pet­ing in a marathon rises up again.  It rises up…only to be knocked down by that lit­tle voice in my head…the one that says “you can’t do this”, “what are you think­ing, any­way?”, “this is way too far for you to run”.…and all sorts of other self-limiting thoughts.

Have you ever had a voice in your head say things like that to you?

What hap­pens if we don’t lis­ten to that “voice of rea­son”?  (and “voice of rea­son”…I am more deeply believ­ing that is is not…)

I talked to a friend.  A friend who has com­peted in the marathon before (sev­eral times).  That “voice of rea­son” cropped in there, too.  (per­haps a bet­ter term would be “voice of giv­ing up”…)  A friend, a sup­porter, a per­son in your cor­ner — that can make all the dif­fer­ence.  Lori was all of that, and more.  She believed in me, she believed in what was pos­si­ble, she believed in doing.

“Do or do not…there is no try.” ~ Yoda

A plan to get there…from my physical/mental/emotional state six months ago…to today. 

And so the jour­ney began.

How about you, what jour­ney are you on right now?  Are these jour­neys that are tak­ing you to places of deep meaning?

“A jour­ney of a thou­sand miles begins with a sin­gle step.” ~ Lao-tzu

Run­ning.  Swim­ming.  Ab work.  Strength train­ing.  Bik­ing.  Oh…and lots more running!!

Espe­cially as I think back over those train­ing runs — with one long run every week — I recall moments through­out this jour­ney.  Com­ing home, elated with my time.  Com­ing home, think­ing that I could have likely walked faster.  Hav­ing my wife, Lora, drive to pick me up because I couldn’t com­plete the run — sit­ting dejected along­side the run­ning path.  Stop­ping for water breaks — and being so refreshed by a sim­ple bit of water into my body.  Feel­ing pain in my knees, in my hips, in my feet as I ran.  Feel­ing that pain leave my body — as my body became stronger.  Run­ning in the quiet of the early morn­ing hours.  Run­ning in a rain­storm.  And all the other moments that were steps on this journey.

“The road of life twists and turns and no two direc­tions are ever the same. Yet our lessons come from the jour­ney, not the des­ti­na­tion.” ~ Don Williams, Jr

This jour­ney you are each on…this is YOUR journey…your life…now…

And that jour­ney on Octo­ber 3rd.  Back to where this all started up above.  I felt light on my feet.  The wind, mostly at my back.  What a great start to this day!

…and then…

And then…mile twenty.  My feet, get­ting heavy.  My legs…sore and tired.  My soul…wanting to stop. 

Six more miles.  So far…at that moment in time.

Have you every felt that way?  Have you ever felt like the des­ti­na­tion of your jour­ney seemed out of reach?

In those things that matter…keep on keep­ing on.

Some­thing I kept telling myself — from mile twenty through twenty five…the most men­tally, emo­tion­ally, and phys­i­cally chal­leng­ing miles of this jour­ney.  Dis­tances in my head that had been mea­sured in miles ear­lier in the marathon, became dis­tances mea­sured in tele­phone poles…in city streets…in the spec­ta­tor ahead cheer­ing run­ners on.

Slowly…the miles went down.  My pace — slowed by phys­i­cal and men­tal chal­lenges I was facing.

Then…the des­ti­na­tion in sight!

Mile twenty five.  An increase in spec­ta­tors (wow…I have such great respect for all the peo­ple vol­un­teer­ing to help out, and for all the amaz­ing spec­ta­tors cheer­ing on the run­ners!), the end in sight along the hori­zon of Lake Michi­gan.  The phys­i­cal pain, the men­tal chal­lenges, the emo­tional roller coaster…all tak­ing a back seat…as resolve (and adren­a­line) kicked in more deeply. 

Mile twenty six.  Two-tenths of a mile to go.  So close.  The crowd — more exu­ber­ant than ever!  My fam­ily — within view!  The fin­ish line — such a glo­ri­ous sight.

Back to that jour­ney.  My jour­ney.  Your journey.

The highs.  The lows.  Every­thing in between.  These steps that are our life jour­ney — in how­ever we are liv­ing our life — wher­ever that jour­ney is tak­ing us…these moments (from the high­est of highs to the low­est of lows) are ours.  And it’s these moments — the moments that are our jour­ney — that make the des­ti­na­tion what it is for each of us.

Emo­tions sweep over me.  From those early beginnings…where 26.2 miles seemed unreach­able, to those train­ing runs that had moments of deep good and deep chal­lenge, to this par­tic­u­lar day.  To these 26.2 miles — 26.2 miles that chal­lenged me to my core and on all lev­els (phys­i­cally, men­tally, emo­tion­ally) — I am there.

The des­ti­na­tion.

Fin­isher!  At this moment…not a more beau­ti­ful word in the Eng­lish language.

So it is with me…and so it is with you.  We travel out on these jour­neys in our life — what­ever they might be — we face the mon­sters that come along the way, we cel­e­brate the amazing-ness of what we are doing, we revel in the joy this brings us…all the way along the journey.

Then we reach our des­ti­na­tion. (or some deriv­a­tive of it)

This destination…it’s a moment in our life jour­ney.  Per­haps it’s a big moment, and one that has deep mean­ing.  Per­haps it’s a small moment.  Or some­thing in between.

…and our jour­ney continues…

Today, I reflect back on this jour­ney toward com­pet­ing in the Mil­wau­kee Lake­front Marathon…and I see that this jour­ney has for­ever altered me…has added belief in what IS possible…and has given me a spring­board as this jour­ney through my life continues.

As does yours…

Your jour­ney con­tin­ues today.  Are you choos­ing a jour­ney that has deep mean­ing for you?


Epi­logue:  I would like to espe­cially thank a cou­ple of peo­ple who were instru­men­tal in this jour­ney toward the marathon.

  • My wife, Lora, for her amaz­ing and con­tin­u­ous sup­port through all of this.  And espe­cially for the time that she com­mit­ted to being along on this road with me.  This whole jour­ney has been a com­mit­ment for me, as well as for my fam­ily.    Lora, know that you are loved…
  • Won­der­ful friend Lori — who has been there before — who knows the marathon ropes.  Lori, with­out your sup­port and guid­ance along the way, this wouldn’t have come to fruition.  Your help in cre­at­ing a plan to get to Octo­ber 3rd, your tweak­ing as we went along, your lis­ten­ing to all the highs and lows along the way — all of this made cross­ing the fin­ish line that much sweeter.
  • Friends at InStep, a local run­ning store here in the Mil­wau­kee area — and espe­cially to Meaghan.  The train­ing runs you orga­nized, the ques­tions you answered, the sup­port you pro­vided — all of this made the marathon that much more achievable.

“It is amaz­ingly empow­er­ing to have the sup­port of a strong, moti­vated, and inspi­ra­tional group of peo­ple.” ~ Susan Jef­fers

To each of you, and every­one who has pro­vided sup­port and encour­age­ment in some way — thank you! 

Lance writes sto­ries from his heart, aim­ing to inspire and moti­vate, as you align more fully with YOUR true peak. When he’s not here, you can find him hang­ing out with his fam­ily, rid­ing a bike, or just gen­er­ally act­ing goofy.   Sign up for the Thoughts from the Tree­house newslet­ter and get addi­tional inspi­ra­tion in your email inbox!
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Comments

  1. DareToBecome says:

    This post gives me goose­bumps. I have to say this is the best marathon recap I have ever read. The major­ity I read are usu­ally beat­ing them­selves up over their time — what they wanted ver­sus what they did. The beauty in yours is that it does not mat­ter what the time was, it was about the experience.….being grate­ful for the expe­ri­ence and being open to learn from the teach­ing. When I get to the fin­ish line of mine, I hope for the same amount of wis­dom you have shared here today. I think what I will respond when peo­ple (always run­ners) ask “how long did it take you?” — I will reply with a smile — 4 1/2 years or 5 years.….however long it was to get me from the first step off the couch to the fin­ish line of that event.
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    • Lance says:

      Lori,
      I’m touched by your words…thank you.

      This truly was an expe­ri­ence. Did I get the time I wanted? No…I fell a lit­tle short. The thing is, though — when I looked at all that I had faced to get to that fin­ish line — it was all the moments that went into that day…and the moments of the run itself that truly made it so deeply meaningful.

      And, by the way…I love your answer of 4 1/2 or 5 years!! It’s all part of the journey…

  2. Caroline says:

    This is so awe­some Lance…you are awe­some! There are so many quotes you shared today that are my favorites. Oh my jour­ney has been a tough one lately. I feel like I am at mile 20 and I want to walk off the course. I want to throw my hands in the air and say “I give up!” But today your words will keep me on track. I won’t give up on myself…no mat­ter how hard, how tired, how awful I feel. I must keep going. My dream is there…hoping it’s closer than I think, so I won’t give up on it just yet.

    Con­grats on fin­ish­ing!!!
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    • Lance says:

      Car­o­line,
      You are so sweet!! Thank you!! I know your jour­ney has had some chal­lenges recently…and what I love is how you have so openly shared the good and chal­leng­ing moments. The fin­ish line is out there…and it’s within your reach, Car­o­line. I know this. And you will get there…and your next jour­ney will begin. And know that I am always (always) here…in your corner…cheering you on…

  3. Lori says:

    Lance!
    I’m misty-eyed right now, as I was Sun­day when I learned of your strong fin­ish from you. I’m speech­less (for once, can you believe it!?).

    I have shiv­ers up my spine. I love Yoda’s quote. That’s spot on. Lance, what you’ve done here is a true tes­ta­ment to “show­ing up.” I’ve found that mak­ing the deci­sion is the hard­est part, then it’s a mat­ter of con­sis­tently putting on the shoes. After that, the rest flows from there. Lance, you were such a great stu­dent. I could have sug­gested all those things to do, but you DID them and my heart is burst­ing with joy for you.

    You could have eas­ily looked at the train­ing schedule/runs and thought, “Meh, that’s too far.” But, you pushed through! There’s always train­ing runs, too, that can break one’s spirit. But, in sur­mount­ing those days, you build the con­fi­dence that you CAN do this. And, you DID.

    Thank you so much for trust­ing me, Lance. You put huge trust in me with all the things we talked about. And, a big hug to Lora and your fam­ily, too. They were the link that made your efforts take hold. All of this, Lance, is such a won­der­ful exam­ple of what it takes to reach lofty goals. And, the way you’ve writ­ten about this here — so elo­quent. Your words lifted my spirit today.

    Thanks so much, Lance, for shar­ing your expe­ri­ence with us. I’ll never for­get summer/fall of 2010 and your strong fin­ish.
    Much love to you and your fam­ily, Lance.
    ~xo
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    • Lance says:

      Lori,
      I can’t thank you enough for the amaz­ing work you did in cre­at­ing a plan to get me ready for this past Sun­day, and for just being there (as a coach and as a friend) through it all. You are truly a gift!

      And from this, also — I just feel a deeper con­nec­tion to you…and to the love you give to this world…

      Much love and big BEAR hugs!
      Lance

  4. Lynn says:

    Wow Lance! I am so proud of you and I loved the end­ing descrip­tion with the exu­ber­ant crowd and your fam­ily in sight.

    My boss wants three of us to run / walk the Peachtree Road Race in Atlanta with him on July 4 morn­ing. I said I’d do it. :) It is 6.4 miles, so per­fectly doable. I do have issues with my feet (flat feet and ter­ri­ble bunions), but want to do it any­way. So I’m begin­ning the train­ing now.
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    • Lance says:

      Lynn,
      Thank YOU!! The end was such a won­der­ful sight to see — and to have all the peo­ple cheer­ing me on … even peo­ple I didn’t know at all — so mov­ing! And then…to see my family…a won­der­ful sight for my tired body…

      Woohoo!! Very awe­some — YOU, run­ning the Peachtree next year! You’ll rock it!

  5. I got goose­bumps too!!

    Yes, I used to think that my des­ti­na­tion was unreach­able!! I used to think that I had to run…first a 5K, then a 10K, then a half, then a full. Because that’s what every­one else in the com­mu­nity was doing. I wanted the high-fives and the “you go girls”. And then I thought there was some­thing wrong with me because even though I tried…and made pro­nounce­ments, I never did it (well, I’ve done my share of 5Ks but that’s it). And I’d be jeal­ous of those who went farther.

    But now that I actu­ally know what *my* dreams are…and am pur­su­ing them…I can be gen­uinely happy for *any­one* who pur­sues their dream with pas­sion and reaches the fin­ish line!!

    Go Lance!

    • Lance says:

      Karen,
      That’s exactly it!! It’s about lis­ten­ing to YOUR heart…and what it speaks to you. And then…like the marathon…going out there and doing it…whatever that means for the dreams that YOU have. I love what you have shared — and how you have fully moved into that space of see­ing YOUR pas­sions!! Thanks so much for shar­ing this…

  6. Melissa Anderson says:

    Con­grat­u­la­tions Lance!!!

  7. I can­not imag­ine a more stun­ning goal than to run a marathon. I don’t even run if I am chased. ;-)
    It really is the self-doubt that keeps you from achiev­ing your goals. You knew all about the hard work, the daunt­ing task, the glo­ri­ous tri­umph. But when you allow that voice inside to stran­gle that dream you have lost. The dream, the jour­ney is dif­fer­ent for every­one, but it is pos­si­ble, no mat­ter how crazy it may be. First you have to put it out to the Uni­verse. The Uni­verse deliv­ers on what you have made man­i­fest. Then you need to plan. Set the stage. Chart the course. That is always the hard­est for me. But sur­round­ing your­self with those who believe in the beauty of your dream.… ah… that is the real tri­umph. I am doing that right now with the Work­ing Artist Ini­tia­tive and my goal is a per­sonal and cohe­sive line of jew­elry. I have given myself over to the Plan for the next 7 months. And I will get there. Becuase noth­ing hap­pens by acci­dent, you need to will it into being.

    Con­grat­u­la­tions Lance, on this mile­stone! (Pun intended!) I am so proud of you. And thank you for being a con­stant source of inspi­ra­tion to me.

    Enjoy the day!
    Erin
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    • Lance says:

      Erin,
      I am smil­ing (ha!)!! You are funny!!

      That voice that puts doubt into our heads…it can suck the life right out of our dreams and aspi­ra­tions, if we let it. When we move beyond that voice, though…when we truly let our heart speak to us (and we fully lis­ten) — the Uni­verse does indeed provide.

      Erin, I have per­son­ally seen your jew­elry (we have some right here in our house!) and it is amaz­ingly beau­ti­ful! And of course, I could just be say­ing that. The thing is, though — and I remem­ber this very much from work­ing with you in its cre­ation — how very spe­cial the whole process was. And what touched me, too — how you per­son­al­ized it when you sent it to us. It most def­i­nitely came straight from your soul…I know that. And what a beau­ti­ful place to oper­ate from!

      So know also…that I am here for you…I’m in your cor­ner, and I’ll help you any way I can to reach your goal (and I mean all of this very deeply…)…

  8. Robin Easton says:

    Dear­est Lance, I am speech­less!!! Just blown away. I have tears in my eyes. To many it may appear that this hap­pened solely due to out­ward phys­i­cal strength, but I know that at the core, it took INCREDIBLE, ENORMOUS emo­tional and men­tal strength.

    You are a mas­sive inspi­ra­tion to me. As I read this I could feel in my gut the intense com­mit­ment you had to make, over and over and over again, to be able to accom­plish this. THAT speaks vol­umes of your courage and integrity. This isn’t JUST a phys­i­cal accom­plish­ment; it is an emo­tional, men­tal and even spir­i­tual accomplishment.

    I feel deep respect for you, which I always have, but you have gone into your­self even deeper. In tack­ling this chal­lenge, some­thing altered in your for­ever. You are not even the same per­son your were 6 months ago. You know even more deeply what you are made of and what you are capa­ble of.

    Send­ing you a HUGE huge and much love.
    I am once again inspired by you, and won’t for­get it.
    Robin

    • Lance says:

      Robin,
      Your words are so meaningful…thank you.

      The cul­mi­na­tion of months of train­ing — one morn­ing or com­pet­ing. On the out­side, it most def­i­nitely looks like a phys­i­cal chal­lenge (…and it was). And then it was every­thing else, too — the men­tal, spir­i­tual (thanks so much for bring­ing that one up, too) and emo­tional chal­lenges (and highs) that were there too — and at times — more chal­leng­ing than the phys­i­cal aspect of running.

      I recall the long hours of run­ning that I put in in train­ing — and as I think about that now — the first thought that comes to mind is how these moments were some that were deeply med­i­ta­tive. What a won­der­ful way to be out­side in nature…and at the same time — con­nect­ing more deeply to me… Robin, I know you under­stand, at a soul level, what I’m talk­ing about. What a gift it is to have you here.

      Big hugs of grat­i­tude and love,
      Lance

  9. Adrienne says:

    Too cool!! Con­grat­u­la­tions and good for you, Lance! 26.2 miles is no easy feat. Your post brought me right back to my own jour­ney, only mine was a half marathon. What an incred­i­ble feeling…at many points dur­ing the run and of course, cross­ing the fin­ish line. For the first time in my life, I under­stood the mean­ing of “runner’s high!”

    What’s next on the bucket list? :-)
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    • Lance says:

      Adri­enne,
      Thank you!! I knew those last miles would be challenging…I just didn’t know HOW chal­leng­ing they would be!

      And — how awe­some!! YOU…completing a half marathon! Isn’t that such an amaz­ing feel­ing — to cross that fin­ish line!! And it is…because of all the work you’ve put in to get to that point — and that’s what makes it so meaningful.

      Next on my bucket list?? Hmmm.…I’m work­ing on some­thing right now (…more to come…).…

  10. Katie says:

    Lance, oh my, this post gave me such a rush. I was there with you at mile 25. Tears welled up. You are such an inspi­ra­tion to us, to your fam­ily and to your­self, which is awe­some. Thank you for shar­ing this big moment in your life and mak­ing us all feel so much a part of it. Also for show­ing us all how to bring the ways in which you’ve changed and the things you’ve dis­cov­ered about your­self into our own lives. Sim­ply breath­tak­ing.
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    • Lance says:

      Katie,
      Reach­ing mile 25…knowing there was just over one mile to go…at that moment, it once again felt like I was going to do this! The cul­mi­na­tion of months of train­ing brought to that point…with just a mile to go. And that felt as good as it did…because of every step that had taken place along the way, lead­ing up to that moment. And such is life…that in which we invest deeply (of ourselves)…it’s those moments that have the deeper mean­ing for us… Katie, I know from read­ing your amaz­ing work…that you fully “get” this…and it’s so awe­some to have you here cel­e­brat­ing with me! Thank you!!

  11. Lance –
    Con­grat­u­la­tions!! The run was a great accom­plish­ment as what the train­ing. Great post and wow… you did it!! Life is a series of races… the train­ing, the fatigue, the sense of accom­plish­ments, the lessons learned… You illus­trated it so well with your run­ning adven­ture.
    Again, con­grat­u­la­tions!
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    • Lance says:

      The Excep­tion,
      Thank you!! Yes…life is like this…if we think of it as a series of races. Races in which we are out there for us…and when the races we choose are ones that have deeper mean­ing for us…what we take from them, too, is also filled with so much good.

      Thanks again for being here and for cel­e­brat­ing with me!

  12. Tim says:

    Lance:

    Con­grats on your incred­i­ble accom­plish­ment! Thanks for shar­ing this because it helps me real­ize that all of us are capa­ble of some amaz­ing things if we put in the time and effort and get the sup­port we need. I’ve always admired any­one who has fin­ished a marathon and you are no excep­tion, my friend. Thank you for shar­ing your amaz­ing descrip­tions and beau­ti­ful lessons you’ve learned. I’m blown away by your accomplishment.

    • Lance says:

      Tim,
      Thank you!! If there’s one thing I take away from this — it’s not the time I fin­ished the race in…it’s that when I have a goal — I CAN do it! When I think back to early spring — really, the idea of com­pet­ing in a marathon just wasn’t fully reg­is­ter­ing as possible…even though I was talk­ing of mak­ing the com­mit­ment. And as I told Lori sev­eral times — hav­ing her there, added this extra layer of account­abil­ity (and the beauty of hav­ing account­abil­ity part­ners in all aspects of our life).

      Tim, thanks so much for being here!! You have been such a great sup­porter, and hav­ing you here for this is just extra special!

  13. Mindful Mimi says:

    Lance!
    I have tears in my eyes after read­ing this. I SO feel with you. Although I have only run a half marathon, I know exactly where you were every step of the way. And it was tough. And we did it!
    So, great job! You did it! Woohoo!
    M
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    • Lance says:

      Miranda,
      I just know how you can relate to this…as I know you have just within the last week or so…completed your half marathon (and I am so PROUD of you!!). We did it!! High fives!! You are awe­some!! We are awe­some!!! Woohoo!!

  14. Dandy says:

    Wow, great post. You should feel so proud of your­self. What touched me most about your arti­cle was the sup­port you had. That makes such a huge dif­fer­ence. With encour­age­ment from loved ones the jour­ney is still hard, but not unbear­able. Some­time it can be very lon­ley to par­take on a jour­ney that has deep mean­ing. Your sup­port­ers deserve a round of applause.

    • Lance says:

      Dandy,
      It’s great to have you here!! And thanks so much for your won­der­ful words! The sup­port I had really made all the dif­fer­ence. From Lori, who helped cre­ate a plan and kept me moti­vated all along the way, to Meaghan who cre­ated train­ing runs (and pushed me!!), to Lora who rode a bike along­side me…carrying water and gatorade…it was a team effort! And each of these peo­ple (and more) were with me on Sun­day (with me…in my heart…). Big, big applause for all the amaz­ing sup­port I received!! And thank YOU for being here to celebrate!

  15. Dia says:

    Con­grat­u­la­tions Lance on your accom­plish­ment. I have never run in a marathon. I should try it some day.

    • Lance says:

      Dia,
      Thank you!! Run­ning a marathon is no easy task…and one that, for me, touched upon so many other areas of my life, too. Good stuff…

  16. Emergefit says:

    So a nearly 50-year old man sits cry­ing in front of his com­puter; shed­ding tears for a man he has never met, and who loves thou­sands of miles away, because they share some­thing in com­mon — other than the com­ple­tion of a marathon. We share an appre­ci­a­tion for the jour­ney, and a knowl­edge that the des­ti­na­tion is not the end.

    I really needed to read this today, for rea­son much too per­sonal to site here. And although this was about you, I needed it. Thank you.

    Con­grat­u­la­tions!

    • Lance says:

      Roy,
      Right back atcha, my friend. I so admire the path you are on, and the direc­tions you are going on your jour­ney. And that makes hav­ing you here even more meaningful.

      This is a journey…life… And, some­times that road along the jour­ney is a chal­lenge, and some­times it’s a whole heck of a lot of fun. …and the jour­ney continues…

      Roy, keep shin­ing your light…

  17. I’ve lost count of how many times I felt like mile 20. I recently hit mile 20 this week­end as I was try­ing to pre­pare an e-course for my read­ers. I was run­ning like a mad­man and slow­ing down with each day. This week­end came and went and my body and mind did too. I had a queasy stom­ach all day yes­ter­day. It was just a lot of work

    I finally crossed the fin­ish line and feel proud of the course that I deliv­ered. It’s not per­fect, but it’s packed with great stuff.

    I’m start­ing to recover. I now know that I need a long vaca­tion.
    Karl Staib — Work Happy Now´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..What is the Under­ly­ing Theme in Most CareersMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Karl,
      Ah yes, that hypo­thet­i­cal “mile 20″.…that point where we want to throw in the towel on some­thing we’ve put a lot of time and effort into. (and when we are 80% of the way “there”…)

      Keep on believ­ing, Karl…believing in “you”…and in the journey.

      And that’s it, too. It’s not about doing some­thing per­fectly (because, hon­estly, is that even possible?)…it’s about doing it (espe­cially in those things that mat­ter deeply).

      This week has been a lit­tle more low-key for me (kind of like a vaca­tion), and it’s felt great to be in that place. Karl, def­i­nitely take time to unwind and step away from it all…

      Keep bring­ing your amaz­ing to the world!!

  18. Eliza says:

    Oh, good for you, Lance! Ah, THE WALL. You hit it, eh? A friend of mine said there is no run­ning through The Wall. You have to push it all the way to fin­ish line.

    Awe­some accom­plish­ment. Not just the race itself, but actu­ally more so, the ded­i­ca­tion to all the train­ing hours. I did a 1/2 marathon in the Spring and that in itself required lots of train­ing hours.

    Onto your ques­tion: Are you choos­ing a jour­ney that has deep mean­ing for you?

    Yes, all my heart and soul is going into Sil­ver & Grace Women’s Mag­a­zine. Like the marathon train­ing it is jam packed with long hours and chal­lenges. But it is exhil­a­rat­ing, and I am deeply com­mit­ted to mak­ing it the online mag­a­zine for women over forty to learn from and share their own expe­ri­ences and wisdom.

    LOL … okay, so, did my pas­sion come across in that last bit, or did it end up sound­ing like a cheesy infomer­cial? *pokes fun at her­self*
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    • Lance says:

      Eliza,
      Thank you!! You know, you bring up a great point. When I reached that WALL…it most def­i­nitely felt like I was push­ing it. (and that was no easy task!)

      The marathon (and 1/2 marathon) is a race that take lots and lots of train­ing hours. And it’s the accu­mu­la­tion of all of that — cou­pled with the race itself (and all that it is) — that makes cross­ing the fin­ish line that much sweeter.

      Con­grat­u­la­tions to YOU on your half marathon!! So awesome!!

      And thanks so much for shar­ing where you are on your jour­ney right now — I very much sense your pas­sion for this Sil­ver & Grace Women’s Mag­a­zine — and that’s the stuff that makes life so filled with mean­ing. I can’t wait to see where this goes for you…and know also that I’ll sup­port you in any way I can.

      And to answer your ques­tion: Mmmm.…your pas­sion shines, Eliza!! And it is lovely!

  19. Lance, this was such an amaz­ing recap of your marathon jour­ney! Wow. I’m just soak­ing up all your emo­tion of that day! Love that you did this; it’s an huge accom­plish­ment. You have me so excited for my first half marathon in Novem­ber now!

    Con­grats! You ROCK!
    Marisa (Loser for Life)´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Bur­ri­tos– Burg­ers And BeefMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Marisa,
      Thank you so much!! It really was such an amaz­ing day — and some of that — it took me until the next day and beyond to fully com­pre­hend (as I let it all con­tinue to sink in).

      Woohoo!! To your half marathon com­ing up soon!! Oh…I am cheer­ing you on already!!!

  20. Vanessa says:

    WOW. Talk about life inspir­ing art, the art of your writ­ing. Telling your story: now that is what art and writ­ing and cre­ativ­ity is all about. Writ­ing the story of our lives. Telling it as trans­par­ently as pos­si­ble. Talk­ing of those things that chal­lenge us AND make us stronger. I love your story. It inspires me to not give up, to go toward every des­ti­na­tion, as another part of the jour­ney, and to keep going until I am at the end. Thanks, Lance, for shar­ing this and for being truly YOU. Much love!!! Vanessa
    Vanessa´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..The unex­pectedMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Vanessa,
      Thank you. Your words reach deep into my soul…

      Yes, those things which chal­lenge us…they DO make us stronger. Maybe we don’t see it always — in the moment (I know that I don’t) — still, though, these moments do. Vanessa, thanks so much for your sup­port and care…always. Much love to you, sweet friend…

  21. Lauren says:

    Dear­est Lance,

    Your beau­ti­ful post brings tears to my eyes. I almost felt like I was there train­ing and run­ning with you — of course, I didn’t have to put in the hard work to take this par­tic­u­lar jour­ney! :-) . I pic­ture you out there in the rain and all the rest of this amaz­ing journey.

    I’m so happy for your per­se­ver­ance and I’m also inspired. I can feel the impor­tance of push­ing through in a way that let’s us know more is pos­si­ble than we often dare dream.

    I love this reminder and I’m com­mit­ted to expand­ing into more and more love, joy, and fun! I had such fun boo­gie board­ing this sum­mer. Who knows — maybe next year I’ll learn to surf. Why not!

    Bravo!

    Big hugs and big con­grat­u­la­tions,
    Lau­ren
    Lauren´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Do You Believe In LoveMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Lau­ren,
      I recall very clearly one of the days it rained. The morn­ing started just as an over­cast day — and about an hour in — a light mist began. That light mist quickly turned into a steady rain­shower — for the rest of the run. I went from hot to cool. I was com­pletely soaked. And it was a new chal­lenge on to run­ning (run­ning for this long in the rain). And it was also good…as I let that rain wash over me…letting myself become one with nature…in that moment.

      Lau­ren, you shine so beau­ti­fully when it comes to LOVE. And I know this has been a jour­ney for you, too…as truly each of our lives are…as we travel through this thing called life.

      Woohoo!! Surf­ing!! I can’t wait to hear more about this (and that is some­thing that would very much chal­lenge me!!)

      Thank you so much for your amaz­ing support!

  22. DUDE!! I am hum­bled and touched that you let us all in on how this moved and touched you. Your huge heart pumps more than blood…it sends out crazy love, sup­port and encour­age­ment to all and I am not sur­prised folks flock to cel­e­brate all that is YOU. You change lives…when you write, when you run, how you live and how you share. Namaste, my yoga bro…let’s stretch it out!!!
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    • Lance says:

      Emma,
      Hey yoga sis!! I DID stretch it out.…Monday evening…yoga class (okay…and that was def­i­nitely a chal­lenge!!) (although…it felt great, too!)

      So awe­some to have you here…and know that your words are land­ing upon my heart this morn­ing. And it reminds me what is truly so good for me about writ­ing (which also is a journey…and one that has moments where I feel like I’m at mile 20).

      And — know that I’m so excited for you…running sis!!! –> on the run­ning you have been doing!!

      Keep shin­ing your amaz­ing and beau­ti­ful light!

      Namaste,
      Lance

  23. Rich says:

    Con­grat­u­la­tions on your accom­plish­ment! I think that you are an inspi­ra­tion to those who have yet to run a marathon. Many do not real­ize what they have within them­selves– all they need to do is seek what is inside.

    • Jenn says:

      thank you for this note, Rich: *Many do not real­ize what they have within them­selves– all they need to do is seek what is inside. .. so very true!
      Jenn´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..SHE Inspi­ra­tions of MotherhoodMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Rich,
      Thank you!! I hon­estly felt this way — not that many months ago — like this seemed an unreach­able goal. And yet — with per­se­ver­ance and dedication…it became to be! As it can for each of us…in all our life dreams…

  24. Dear Lance,
    This post is truly one that says the depth of your char­ac­ter, and your belief in Life (liv­ing in the value of the now in how you pour that into oth­ers through Being who you are, and mov­ing for­ward for the heights in chal­leng­ing your­self, espe­cially when you don’t have to).
    The fact that you chose this jour­ney, and set out a plan –gave it your ALL and showed up — was more than most would do. But, to run and run HARD to finally reach the Fin­ish line, and push harder than you even knew as possible(your per­sonal best!)… I am truly hon­ored to know you. These are the sto­ries that truly ENCOURAGE us all. You have reminded us that it can be done with hard-won effort and a strong sup­port team, and espe­cially the inner belief that first aligned with a goal. This really describes you so much in all you do, and what you bring in value to oth­ers.
    CONGRATULATIONS to You, THE FINISHER. (even that seems so lit­tle to say… but it is heart­fully said.… I know that you will expe­ri­ence so many rip­ple effects of new courage come from this in what­ever comes next for you.) Many bless­ings to you and yours!! xx, Jenn
    BLOOMING PARIS/ Jenn´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..SHE Inspi­ra­tions of MotherhoodMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Jenn,
      Your words are sweet and caring…thank you so much!

      And the big thing from all this (as awe­some as it was to cross the fin­ish line), was that belief that I CAN do what­ever I truly desire to…if I just believe in myself and really com­mit to doing it. …as can we all…

      Jenn, it is so won­der­ful to have you here! You, my friend, truly inspire me!

  25. Rayna says:

    From one Fin­isher to another — Con­grat­u­la­tions.
    This is one jour­ney that is always worth it, even if you do it only once.

    Bril­liant write up too– really brought out the goose­bumps.
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    • Lance says:

      Rayna,
      Con­grat­u­la­tions to you, too!! That’s awesome!!

      And in all the journey’s that speak to our heart…they are all so worth it…

      Thank you!!

  26. Diggy says:

    Hey Lance,
    wow con­grats on com­plet­ing a marathon!

    The most I have run in one go was 10Km and that was more than enough for me:) I have no desire to run the marathon, but maybe one day I will do it just to say that I did.

    I guess you need to be fit, but most of the dif­fi­culty is the men­tal chal­lenge of keep­ing on run­ning while your body is protest­ing and send­ing thoughts to your brain like “Why are you doing this to me”

    Keep up the good work!
    Cheers
    Diggy
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    • Lance says:

      Diggy,
      Thank you!!

      And you bring up an excel­lent point — I ran this marathon…but that doesn’t mean every­one should do that. It’s really about con­nect­ing with what deeply mat­ters to each of us…and then believ­ing in our­selves and get­ting out there and doing it.

      It’s great to have you here join­ing in the celebration!

  27. Evelyn Lim says:

    Con­grat­u­la­tions! 26.2 miles? Amaz­ing!! Glad to know that you suc­ceeded in hav­ing a break­through. You are indeed an inspi­ra­tion! It’s won­der­ful that you have had some of the best sup­port you can find while doing and train­ing for the marathon.
    Eve­lyn Lim´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..20 Inspi­ra­tional Abun­dance QuotesMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Eve­lyn,
      Thank you so, so much!!

      Sup­port was such an impor­tant part of this whole process…much more so than I thought going into it. And I am indeed grate­ful for the amaz­ing peo­ple who stood beside me all the way through. And…truly…for the peo­ple here right now (like you!), shar­ing in this with me.…that makes it all so worth it.

  28. Hi Lance! This is quite an accom­plish­ment! Con­grats again!!! I use to run 10ks but noth­ing like a marathon. When we run, as when we move through life, it’s use­ful to have per­se­ver­ance. We all have a dif­fer­ent jour­ney even though we “run” together.

    Thanks for shar­ing every step of your jour­ney with us. I felt like I ran with you. What a won­der­ful feel­ing. Lov­ing bless­ings!
    Andrea DeBell — britetalk´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..5 Wacky Ideas to Stay Ener­gized Through­out the DayMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Andrea,
      Thank you so, so much!! You are SWEET!! (…and a 10K race is also a great accomplishment…so very awesome!)

      Yes, each of us have a very unique and per­sonal journey…even though it might feel sim­i­lar to what other’s are hav­ing on their jour­ney. Truly…each of us are unique… Still, we share a com­mon bond — our human-ness — and that DOES con­nect us to each other, and to the journey’s we are each on being also inter­twined. (…and it is a lovely thing)

      Andrea, it is so good to know you…and to be trav­el­ing beside you on this jour­ney you are on…

  29. This makes me cry tears of joy for you, my friend!!!

    I can­not imag­ine what you went through those last 6.2 miles, but you gave me a good glimpse into the highs and lows of it.

    YAYYYY!!!!! This is so so so fan­tas­tic, YOU FINISHER, YOU. (add a mil­lion excla­ma­tions to that.)

    Me? Con­tin­u­ing on my musi­cal jour­ney — car­ry­ing my gui­tar with me these days to parc­tice a lot, as I’m in the stu­dio next week. And if I don’t play it as well as I wish next week, I’ll just prac­tice more and go back into the stu­dio again. There can be no fail, only lessons to learn.

    You are so awe­some, and inspir­ing, Lance. I love you and your spirit of goodness.

    xoxo
    Jan­nie Funster´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..10 Major Blog Improve­ments I’m Work­ing On or at least think­ing aboutMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Jan­nie,
      Sweet, sweet friend…thank you!!!

      Those last 6.2 miles were such a chal­lenge to me — on all lev­els (men­tally, phys­i­cally, emo­tion­ally, spir­i­tu­ally). And as much of a chal­lenge as these miles were — it was also that chal­lenge which made reach­ing the fin­ish line that much sweeter.

      Jan­nie, I just want you to know…your musi­cal jour­ney is one of beauty! And that I’m along on this jour­ney with you…what a gift that is!

      Keep play­ing (in all forms!!), Jannie.…and thank you again for your amaz­ing friendship…

      Love always…
      Lance

      • I’ve actu­ally post­poned the next stu­dio time, as I know I will not be ready for this com­ing week. It’s a bless­ing too, to know when some­thing needs more work.

        When’s your next Marathon?

        xo
        Jan­nie Funster´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..The Spam­mer — a poemMy Profile

        • Lance says:

          Ahhh…yes…that know­ing when we need some more work…now that’s a good place to be. In rec­og­niz­ing this, you see what is pos­si­ble with the extra effort put in. And — Jan­nie — I KNOW it will be amazing!!

          Hmmm…that next marathon??? I’m on the fence yet…

          xoxo

  30. Con­grat­u­la­tions! Run­ning a marathon is such an accom­plish­ment mixed with so many emo­tions. Although it’s been many years since I ran, the expe­ri­ence remains. Some­times it is the strength I need to take a new road. No one can take it away from you. Enjoy some rest — you deserve it!

    And don’t for­get to stretch! :-)

    • Lance says:

      Stacey,
      Thank you!!

      Fel­low marathoner…I know you “get” this…having been there your­self. (and in Boston, no less!!)

      And that’s it…the race is over…except that it stays with me (with you) — the expe­ri­ence. And from that — we are reminded that those things which really have mean­ing to us…when we com­mit to them.…we CAN do them!! What an amaz­ing feeling!

      And…hey, guess what!! I did stretch (it was about the first thing I did…as the ground called my name right after the finish…so I fig­ured I might as well stretch while I was down there!). And…yoga on Mon­day evening (with a whole bunch more stretch­ing!!). I did good (on the stretch­ing), didn’t I!!!

      Thanks again Stacey!! Great to have you here…and great to have your friendship…

  31. Hey Lance, Many con­grats and bril­liant rehash­ing of the agony and the ecstasy too. I felt as though I were the one run­ning not you. You exhausted me! Fan­tas­tic achieve­ment for you men­tally as well as phys­i­cally. I hope you’re still soar­ing high on your post marathon rush.
    off­beat woman´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..A Brief Guide To Going Over The EdgeMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Off­beat Woman,
      Thank you!!

      Ha!! Guess what?? I exhausted myself, too!! Wow — I came home, took a shower, and pro­ceeded to get in a two hour nap!!

      And — yes, I am still soar­ing high from this — know­ing all the ups and downs along the way — it makes this all that much sweeter…

  32. Thank you sooo much for the gen­uine and sparkling inspi­ra­tion… I am train­ing to run my first 5k in Decem­ber, and while that’s quite pid­dly com­pared to your 26.2 miles, each time I run, I am learn­ing that much more about what I am capa­ble of, and stretch­ing my com­fort zones, and truly begin­ning to believe that yes, I can do this. Your words are very uplift­ing to me on this fall morn­ing…
    Lisa @Sacred Circle´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Pound­ing the pavement…My Profile

    • Lance says:

      Lisa,
      Very awe­some!! YOU…training for your first 5K!! Length-wise, this may be shorter than the marathon. What it does for you, on a deeper level, though…that is truly what matters.

      You ARE capa­ble of all of this!! Lisa — know that I am cheer­ing you on, that I’m here in your cor­ner, and I know that you have, within in, what it takes!!!

      And thank you so much for being here and shar­ing in this cel­e­bra­tion!! You are AWESOME!

  33. rob white says:

    Hi Lance,
    Won­der­ful accom­plish­ment. A great reminder of why we must con­tin­u­ally take on new chal­lenges and goals. The thrill of evolv­ing and cre­at­ing a new ver­sion of our­selves is infi­nitely reward­ing. I con­tin­u­ally take on my own per­sonal “marathons” because I desire to express the high­est ver­sion of myself in this life­time. Look­ing for­ward to see­ing what is next for you, Lance.

    • Lance says:

      Rob,
      Thank you!!

      This was truly an expe­ri­ence in evolv­ing as a human being…the whole process from day one back in the spring up until Octo­ber 3rd. And as I reflect back on that, now — I feel even more deeply the rewards of all that went into prepar­ing for one day in time.

      Rob, you shine at tak­ing on your own per­sonal “marathons”…and in that…you are an inspi­ra­tion!! Thanks so much for being here!

  34. Way to go Lance…Woot woot! I loved fol­low­ing along on your progress. It’s amaz­ing what our bod­ies can do isn’t it? Sim­ply amaz­ing. And to think we’re free to do this or any­thing else that stretches us to new growth any time we want to chal­lenge our­selves is amaz­ing. You’re show­ing the rest of us the way…
    I’m excited for you and grate­ful for show­ing us the way. Love the photo!
    Tess The Bold Life´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Dreams and BambooMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Tess,
      Thank you!!! And…I know how much you can relate to this…as I know the run­ning that you do.

      Our bod­ies are such amaz­ing devices!! And when you really think about that — how our bod­ies work, how we have been cre­ated — that really, in itself, is amazing!

      Tess, it’s won­der­ful to have you along on this journey…thanks so much for being here!

  35. Hilda says:

    Hi Lance,

    Con­grat­u­la­tions on your amaz­ing achieve­ment. I absolutely recog­nise and acknowl­edge the inner chal­lenge required to be able to com­plete what appears to most to be a mat­ter of phys­i­cal strength and sta­mina. It’s so much more about the men­tal and emo­tional strength and sta­mina, and it does not sur­prise me one bit that you rose to it! As you so elo­quently pointed out, our lim­it­ing beliefs are a big­ger obsta­cle than any­thing else in get­ting to where we’d like to go. They are not facts, they’re just thoughts, and when we choose to think oth­er­wise there is no limit to what we can achieve.

    Can’t wait to see what chal­lenge you next set your­self! ;-)
    Hilda´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Keep going!My Profile

    • Lance says:

      Hilda,
      Thank you so much!!

      It really is about the men­tal and emo­tional strength. Hon­estly, my legs never did stop mov­ing (as much as they wanted to…). It really took the men­tal strength to move beyond that, to believe in my body and what it is capa­ble of.

      Hilda, I know that you, too, chal­lenge yourself…and in that…I know you “get” this mes­sage. Thanks so much for being here, and for your won­der­ful friendship.

  36. Oh Lance, as if your fin­ish­ing a marathon wasn’t enough! The way you’ve likened it to the lives we all lead — the jour­neys we are all on… Beautiful.

    Your clos­ing state­ment about how your life has for­ever been altered by achiev­ing your marathon goal. YES! I get that… I so very much “get” that. Each step we take along our path — but espe­cially when in-tune with our wants/desires/goals — alters us. Imprints us with pos­si­bil­ity rather than limitation.

    You have accom­plished some­thing so big that I feel inspired by you once more — inspired to raise the bar higher for myself.

    Lov­ing you lots, my friend!
    Megan “Joy­Girl!” Bord´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Aro­mather­apy with George CoxMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Megan,
      Hav­ing you here is special…as are all the words you so gra­ciously share. (thank you, dear friend)

      We are so filled with possibility…each and every one of us!! And the more deeply we con­nect with the jour­ney we are on…the more we hon­estly see this (within us).

      Megan, know that YOU as such an inspi­ra­tion in my life…something I don’t know if I can fully express. Know, though, that YOU…being here (here in my life)…it matters.

      With deep love and grat­i­tude,
      Lance

  37. Lance.. amaz­ing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just the thoughts the highs, lows strug­gles, joys & more!!! Love this!

    Lim­ited by my own beliefs in what is pos­si­ble within me. Have you ever been there? — You wrote this… yes, I under­stand this way more than I care to admit!!!!
    Jody — Fit at 52´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..It is a Head Game — Weight Loss– Life– Health &amp What­ever ElseMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Jody,
      Thank you so much!!

      Ah…and I too under­stand that way more than I care to admit. Yet, when we move beyond this…when we set these self-limiting beliefs aside…there is all sorts of amaz­ing just wait­ing for us!!

      Jody, I’ve wit­nessed this amaz­ing within you…and it truly is that…amazing!!

  38. Sandra Lee says:

    Lance, Bravo! There are many won­der­ful lessons here! For some rea­son, I really picked up on this one: “I felt ener­gized by their pres­ence, their mov­ing for­ward.” The right group can really help keep us mov­ing for­ward. Thanks for shar­ing your suc­cess and all your lessons along the way.
    San­dra Lee´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..The true mean­ing of Zen Hint– it’s not a habitMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      San­dra,
      Thank you!!

      Being sur­rounded by these other runners…there was a cer­tain cama­raderie. And in that, see­ing another out there — doing this — it was inspir­ing! We are all connected…and I most def­i­nitely felt that, in these moments out on the course, espe­cially the more dif­fi­cult the steps became.

      San­dra, thank you so much for being here!

  39. Marelisa says:

    Lance: I am so, so proud of you for com­plet­ing a marathon! Way to gooooo! :-)
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    • Lance says:

      Mare,
      Thank you so much!! I know that there is much you can relate to in here…as I know you, too, are a run­ner! It’s great to have you here, on this one especially!

  40. Haylea Flint says:

    Con­grats, Lance! It’s great to read about some­one who had such a pos­i­tive expe­ri­ence as well! Best of luck to you, should you choose to do this again!

    Happy Run­ning
    –Haylea

  41. Yum Yucky says:

    Well, gosh. I have a goal, but it’s not big. It’s rather puny and too eas­ily attained. I need to think big(er). MUCH big­ger. My per­sonal goals are tiny com­pared to my busi­ness or fam­ily ori­ented goals. It’s time I stopped NOT think­ing about myself. I’m going to set a PERSONAL goal.… and run it like a marathon. :)
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    • Lance says:

      Josie,
      I know you think big goals (and then act upon them). Hey, how about last year’s lit­tle food eat­ing con­test we had!!

      You bring a really impor­tant point, though — how often do we put aside ourselves…and what does that really get us? This is our life…now…

      Keep run­nin’, my friend…

  42. Farnoosh says:

    Con­grat­u­la­tions a thou­sand times over .…you kept going past the pain, the pain, the agony — I feel that in cycling and I have got to get back into it but a month of travel has put a wrench into every­thing — includ­ing stay­ing up all night! Gosh Lance, you have become even a bet­ter writer and reach even deeper into our hearts after your fan­tas­tic marathon. I am SO proud of you and so very happy to know you!
    Farnoosh´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..The Spirit of Bali wrapped in 9 Gems of AdviceMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Farnoosh,
      Thank you so, so much!!

      And right there — your trav­els — what a jour­ney that is!! And that you are tak­ing the steps to LIVE this in your life — what a gift you give to oth­ers (in your very passion-filled writ­ing of your world adventures).

      Okay…and NOW…it’s time for you to SLEEP!!!! I hope you are savor­ing some moments of rest (…and I’ve done that same thing this week!).

      Wel­come home…sweet friend…

  43. Hilary says:

    Hi Lance .. well done .. that is an amaz­ing achieve­ment .. and I guess .. actu­ally blog­ging about it after­wards .. the story will for­ever be there for your kids .. so many times we achieve a mile­stone & that’s it .. there’s no record as such .. so the blog­ging jour­ney has been built into your marathon run.

    To achieve is fan­tas­tic .. and to realise the lev­els, the highs the lows and the plateaus along the way .. really well done — and to think that we have friends we blog with who help along this marathon run .. is almost unbe­liev­able — except we know great friend­ships that you have with Lori — mean so much to the two of you, as well as us read­ing along.

    Lora and the kids must have laughed, chuck­led, hugged, cud­dled, sup­ported, mopped the tears, admired, encour­aged, mended, built the ego .. I can do .… and then been the oh so proud fam­ily of the achiever …

    Fan­tas­tic to be here and read of your incred­i­ble achieve­ment .. along both your jour­neys .. con­grat­u­la­tions and just enjoy that suc­cess .. love read­ing about it … a big hug of con­grat­u­la­tions from me .. Hilary
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    • Lance says:

      Hilary,
      I love what you have shared — about the writ­ing in this space for­ever keeps this mem­ory alive…for me and for any­one else who feels deeply con­nected to it.

      Hav­ing Lori along for this — that has been a true gift.

      And then for Lora and my kids to be there (and really — to have been there all along the way)…another true gift.

      Hilary, I can really just sense your enthusiasm…and how good that is!! Thank you so much for being here to cel­e­brate with me!

      Big hugs!
      Lance

  44. Lance,

    WOW!!! I actu­ally had goose­bumps at the end of the post! To imag­ine that ‘high’ at the fin­ish line with your fam­ily in view and a know­ing that YOU DID IT…is incred­i­ble. Sin­cere con­grats to you — what an amaz­ing accom­plish­ment. And yes, any­thing is pos­si­ble. I like your ques­tion of whether or not we are choos­ing a jour­ney that has deep mean­ing for us. My answer is “YES!”, and I’m going to take time today to pause and think about how I would label that jour­ney and what it looks like.

    Thank you for the inspi­ra­tion, Lance, and a huge vir­tual hug and high-five com­ing your way! I’m hon­ored to know you.
    Michelle @ Fol­low­ing Your Joy´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Joseph Wooten– Key­boardist and Vocal­ist Spread­ing JoyMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Michelle,
      Thank you so much for your sweet, sweet words!!

      And I love your resound­ing YES!!! Michelle, I sense very much that you are in a place that feels so good and right for you…and how amaz­ing and incred­i­ble that is!! Keep fol­low­ing those dreams of yours…

      Big hugs and high fives right back!
      Lance

  45. Con­grat­u­la­tions!

    I have to say that read­ing this made me feel like I can do any­thing, Lance! You are such a shin­ing light in this world. I hope you know how much energy you give us with your writ­ing, your doing and your being.

    • Lance says:

      Belinda,
      Thank you so, so much!!

      You CAN do any­thing you want to!! And you know, Belinda, I feel that even more deeply after this past week­end. It’s within all of us…if we really believe…and then just go out there and “do”.

      Thank you again for your sweet, sweet words. I’m touched, deeply, by all of this…

  46. A real joy to share this post Lance. We are not as sep­a­rate as we think. It’s the sim­ple truth. So when you have a true tri­umph, not only fol­low your dream but ful­fill your dream, I share it, it affects me, I’m there with you, expe­ri­enc­ing the joy and the pain, even though I may not con­sciously real­ize that.

    And it’s the same the other way around, isn’t it? If I’m true to my jour­ney and the thrust of my integrity (per­haps not run­ning in a marathon mind you) in some way beyond men­tal com­pre­hen­sion you share in my life, my pain, my ful­fill­ment. It was a dis­tinct plea­sure to share this post. Well done in so many ways Lance.
    Christo­pher Foster´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Love is an “equal oppor­tu­nity employer”My Profile

    • Lance says:

      Christo­pher,
      Thanks, my friend!!

      We are truly connected…and it is so good to share with you today. And — very much, this is a two-way street. I DO share in your pains, your tri­umphs, you life…and it’s wonderful…

      Thanks so much for being here…

  47. Angelia Sims says:

    Con­grat­u­la­tions Lance, your jour­ney and your deter­mi­na­tion is inspir­ing to us all. The moments you offer to enrich our lives from your expe­ri­ences — such a bless­ing.
    Thank you for being YOU. For shar­ing YOU. And for giv­ing us every moment to be grate­ful for, and to fight for.

    So glad to have met you! That is one beau­ti­ful medal. :-)
    Angelia Sims´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..How do you know if your guy is the oneMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Angelia,
      Thank you so, so much!! Your words are sweet and so, so meaningful.

      Angelia…it is truly an honor to know you, to have had our paths cross out­side of just this space here, and to call you friend.

      Much peace to you, and espe­cially in all that lies ahead for you in the com­ing days. Know that I am, very much, hold­ing you in beau­ti­ful thoughts…

      P.S. –> the medal really IS very cool!!

  48. Brenda says:

    Lance, your post left me speech­less!! I can’t say too much more than what oth­ers have already shared! I just want you to know that you inspire me greatly and I love the strength, beauty and clar­ity of your being!!! Keep post­ing, keep run­ning, keep embrac­ing life the way you do!!!
    Brenda´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..The Magic in YouMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Brenda,
      Your words are so won­der­ful — thank you, very much, for this!!

      This whole expe­ri­ence — it was so much more than just the run. And that continues…as I let it all soak in even more, and am touched by the words every­one has shared here (like yours).

      Thanks again for your amaz­ing sup­port, and for being here for this especially!

  49. Quix says:

    (Saw this post due to a retweet. Hi! New to the blog, gonna go dig around in the archives :D )

    On that same day (Oct 3rd), I fin­ished my first Olympic dis­tance triathlon. If any0ne ever asked me how it felt, I might as well just link them here, as you summed it up so poet­i­cally. Con­grats on your great accom­plish­ment! Enjoy being among the finishers!

    • Lance says:

      Quix,
      Thanks so much for stop­ping in — and for read­ing this! It’s great to have you here!

      Wow!! Con­grat­u­la­tion on the Olympic tri!! I’ve done sprints before — and have held off on the Olyp­mics because of the dis­tance (pri­mar­ily of the swim!!). So — that is so AWESOME, what you have done!! You too — enjoy being a finisher!!!

      And thank you so much for your sweet, sweet words…

  50. FatFighterTV says:

    Woot! Con­grats, Lance! That is awe­some that you fin­ished a marathon! And what a beau­ti­fully writ­ten post.
    FatFighterTV´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Healthy Recipe– Wal­nut Blue­berry Banana BreadMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Sahar,
      Thanks so much!! And…I LOVE your enthu­si­asm!! (now…if I would have had some of that at about mile 22!!!)

      It’s great hav­ing you here and shar­ing in this!!

  51. Suzie Cheel says:

    Dear Lance,

    yes goose bumps and so much emo­tion for you and what you have achieved– I could feel your growth on this jour­ney in your words. They have moved me to — it really is time to get off the fence.
    Thanks for the ques­tions
    Yes have been here, just recently– thanks for ask­ing:)
    Lim­ited by my own beliefs in what is pos­si­ble within me.
    and yes that voice of rea­son– I have one I have been lis­ten­ing to for far too long. I have a BHAG that I came up with at 3 am many months ago, that would be that jour­ney that has deep mean­ing for you?
    Just this morn­ing I decided to take action and I come here and read this post, thankyou
    hugs
    Suzie
    Suzie Cheel´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Does a Dead­line Excite You or Almost Make You CryMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Suzie,
      Thank you so, so much.

      This really has been a journey…and one that has been filled with so much growth, so much learning.

      So awe­some to read this, Suzie — to read about your BHAG — and know that you are tak­ing steps on that jour­ney toward this! Know that I’m here to sup­port you in any way that I can.

      Big hugs and lots of love,
      Lance

  52. J.D. Meier says:

    I like the tour of your men­tal map and mean­ing­ful journey.

    That Lao-tzu one-liner is per­fect and always reminds me of the say­ing … “How do you eat an ele­phant? … one bite at a time.“
    J.D. Meier´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Get­ting Results the Agile Way is Now Avail­able in PrintMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      JD,
      Thanks!! This really has been a mean­ing­ful journey…and now it con­tin­ues (the directions…still being worked out!).

      Great say­ing, too — and so fitting!!

  53. JoyChristin says:

    Hi Lance,
    Congratulations..wow!
    Thank you for shar­ing as you do..the idea of run­ning a marathon intim­i­dates me..but I am train­ing because I know my body can do it..I need to get my mind on board:)
    Then you liken it to life..and I see, Lance, I See…
    In my life cur­rently I feel like I am at mile 28, can almost see the fin­ish, can almost feel the sense of accom­plish­ment, just had refresh­ing water, but man oh man, to pull it all together to make it when my mind says how, how will this be pos­si­ble?
    My heart says *any­thing* is truly possible..so I know this stretch may be tough, and it hurts a bit..but then I hear a story like yours, a reminder of what I know to be true..and I think pull it together and hang in there, because the rewards are awesome..it’s the process..truly…
    *You* are amazing..thank you for your gen­er­ous Spirit…
    I’m glad that you have friends and fam­ily to sup­port and encour­age you..and I love the com­ments from your read­ers:)
    JoyChristin´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Wednes­day Wis­dom– Luxurious…My Profile

    • Lance says:

      Joy,
      Thank you!!

      Those chal­leng­ing moments — the miles 20, 22, 28 — what­ever they are for us in our life — when we con­tinue to move for­ward (espe­cially in those areas of deep mean­ing) — what awaits us is beau­ti­ful. And it is beau­ti­ful because of our expe­ri­ences, our moments, our life jour­ney to reach this spe­cial place…a spe­cial place is that but a stop upon our jour­ney through this life.

      Joy, your words are touch­ing and so mean­ing­ful today. And even more — I see the beau­ti­ful light you shine in this world always reflected through your amaz­ing soul. It is so good hav­ing you here on this jour­ney with me…

  54. Colleen says:

    A most won­der­ful recap Lance. Love the pic also.

    Mile twenty six. Two-tenths of a mile to go. So close. The crowd – more exu­ber­ant than ever! My fam­ily – within view! The fin­ish line – such a glo­ri­ous sight.”

    Nice! :)
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    • Lance says:

      Colleen,
      Thank you!!!

      That finish…coming in…the crowd, my fam­ily, the fin­ish line…such an amaz­ing (and emo­tional) experience!!

  55. Evita says:

    Hel­l­looooo Lance!

    Wow! This is incred­i­ble! You did it! Con­grats and con­grats again!
    I can­not begin to imag­ine what the 26plus miles felt like, and that fact that you only begin to feel the chal­lenge at mile 20 is just amazing!

    I know this meant a lot to you and going through with this chal­lenge has shed an amaz­ing amount of growth, light and expan­sion to your being!

    My hap­pi­ness is with you :)
    Evita´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Unity’s Path Read­ing for Octo­ber 2010My Profile

    • Lance says:

      Hel­l­looooo Evita!!

      Wel­come back home!! And it’s great to have you here — you bring such a won­der­ful energy.

      This whole expe­ri­ence of the marathon — from the train­ing, to the nutri­tion, to the men­tal chal­lenges, to the race itself (and more) — so much growth and learn­ing. And in all of that — as I reflect back over the last many months — I am changed…changed in won­der­ful ways!

      Evita, it is so great hav­ing you here — shar­ing in this with me. Your friend­ship, your sup­port, your car­ing — all so mean­ing­ful. Thank you!!

  56. Audra Krell says:

    Sorry I’m late to con­grat­u­late and com­pli­ment you!! I always knew you had what it takes Lance, but now you know that you know that you know!!!! I love that you took this oppor­tu­nity to part­ner with Lora in a new way, and you guys too are stronger than ever. Lifechanging.…yessir!
    Way to go Lance, and bless­ings for many,many more.
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    • Lance says:

      Audra,
      You know what…it is great hav­ing you here when­ever that works for you!! So…I’ll take today…and you!! (I’ll take that any day!)

      This was really one of those things that seemed so far out there, so unreach­able. And yet…step by step — this jour­ney took me to that fin­ish line. Hav­ing Lora along was icing on the cake — her sup­port through all of the train­ing and on race day was amazing!!

      Audra, thanks so much for being here!!!

  57. Ewa says:

    Lim­ited by my own beliefs in what is pos­si­ble within me.

    Have you ever been there?”

    I live there, all the time.

    I found your blog just today and I love it. I will have to re-read this post. I can see this is going to be one of those blogs one keeps on com­ing back to.
    Con­grat­u­la­tions on stretch­ing your lim­its.
    Ewa´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..VFFs on TrailsMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Ewa,
      It’s great to have you here!

      Those self-limiting beliefs we cre­ate within our­selves. I was think­ing about that just this after­noon, after a com­ment some­one said to me. It really hit home (their com­ment was very uplift­ing) — on how eas­ily it is to limit our­selves (…to limit myself). And the thing is — the more we step into our own amaz­ing light — the more brightly we shine (and in that…also … the more we allow oth­ers to shine brightly them­selves). Ewa, although I don’t know you very well yet — I just know it’s there — within you…the amaz­ing light you have!!! I know it!

      …and I believe…in you.

      Look­ing for­ward, very much, to know­ing you better…

  58. Just got back around to read­ing this one Lance. Of course, it spoke to me in mul­ti­ple ways. I com­pleted my first marathon in 2008. The amount of ded­i­ca­tion and emo­tional energy as well as jug­gling fam­ily and work opened a whole new win­dow in my life.

    Marathons take you so far beyond your com­fort zone that you have only your hope to get you through! Con­grat­u­la­tions on real­iz­ing that dream, and I should say con­grat­u­la­tions to your fam­ily for sup­port­ing you! I remem­ber count­less times I had my hus­band deliv­er­ing water, or my kids bik­ing with me for part of my long runs. It cre­ated valu­able time with them that I cher­ish to this day.

    I just got back from the Inau­gural Port­land 1/2 marathon. Every race I run has served as a reminder of the human spirit. Just look around at the faces and bod­ies of run­ners and you will see it! But be warned.…..the feel­ing of accom­plish­ment can get you to say “yes” to more than one marathon! I have now com­pleted three full and three half.

    Con­grats again.…..for cross­ing the fin­ish line, but more important.…for the courage to begin the jour­ney itself!
    Run on friend!
    Jen
    Lit­tle Lessons Under the Big Sky´s Last Fab­u­lous Post ..Pud­dle Jump­ing in PortlandMy Profile

    • Lance says:

      Jen,
      Fel­low run­ner!! Very cool — three of each!! I also did my first half marathon this year — in early Sep­tem­ber (it was a great train­ing run, too, for the full!).

      This whole jour­ney toward the marathon has been such an amaz­ing expe­ri­ence — and a test of “me” in so many more ways than just the phys­i­cal. And in com­plet­ing this — I truly believe that noth­ing is impossible.

      So awe­some that your kids and hus­band sup­ported you in all of your run­ning — I know first­hand what a gift that is!

      And con­grat­u­la­tions on your most recent 1/2!

      Thank you so much, Jen — for your sup­port and enthusiasm!!

  59. Such a well-written inspi­ra­tional post. Con­grat­u­la­tions on your achieve­ment and hope you con­tinue to find the joy in run­ning! Thanks for sharing.

    • Lance says:

      Mon­ica,
      Thank you so much for your enthu­si­as­tic response!! Com­plet­ing the marathon was truly an inspi­ra­tional moment for me.

      It’s great to “meet” you, and I look for­ward to learn­ing more about you!

      Here’s to run­ning, and for liv­ing our lives from a place of deeper meaning!

  60. Larry says:

    Lance,

    That was an incred­i­ble post. Very inspir­ing. I have often thought about work­ing toward a marathon. I’ve read sev­eral train­ing plans and I com­pleted P90X and Beach­body Insan­ity to get into shape. I did a 150 MS bike ride last year. Is the marathon just around the cor­ner? I wasn’t sure but I’m get­ting closer to mak­ing the commitment…thanks to you.

    Larry
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