I am giving a speech in a few days at the TEDx event at the University of Florida and they have asked me to talk about "The MOST Important Thing I Have Ever Learned." I plan to share three key ideas with the 1,600 or so attendees…
1. You become what you focus on and like the people you surround yourself with. Whatever you fill your mind with – whatever you watch, read, listen to, and think about… and who you choose to spend your time with, will pretty much determine what your life will look like a decade from now!
2. Ask For HELP. It is NOT weak to admit that you are in over your head, that you are confused, that you do not what to do… that you need some help. It takes a great deal of courage to finally face that fact that you cannot do it all alone. But here is the neat thing… once you learn to ask for help your life will get much easier and more enjoyable because people who love and respect you will willingly offer you all of the help they can give – and that is a beautiful thing my friend, a beautiful thing indeed.
3. The ONLY measure that counts in life is how much love you can give, create and receive. The amazing thing is that you can give and give and give love… and you will have even more love left to give away the very next day. You have an endless supply… and you always will. Is that cool or what? And lest you think that receiving love is selfish, sometimes the greatest way to show love is to allow others to give their love to you. That is really cool too!
So I leave you with my favorite passages on love from "The Prophet" by the amazing Lebanese poet Kahlil Gibran.
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.
by John Spence