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Pull Off The Labels
We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves. ~François Duc de La Rochefoucauld
One of the questions that I really do not like being asked is: what do you do? I do whatever I can to avoid the topic whenever I meet someone. No matter how hard I try, the question inevitably comes up.
For those of you who do not know what I do for my day job, I am a lawyer. Now the funny thing is that when people hear that, the next statement always comes “you do not seem like a lawyer”. I laugh each time I hear that because it seems to be the general consensus when meeting me.
I am very laid back to the point that people think I have no ambition. I have ambition, I am just not too vocal about it. I place more value on doing than on talking about doing. The reason being that if something does not work out, I do not have to deal with the concern of being perceived a failure. Personally, I do not believe in the concept of failure but many do. Sometimes you actually learn more from situations that do not turn out the way you planned. Society calls such things mistakes or failures. In my mind, it is only a mistake or failure if you do not
learn from it.
I see the positive in any situation which people think means that I am flaky. Bring in the fact that I am a vegan and have the spiritual journey background and I can understand that these traits do not seem lawyerly. As one friend said to me: “I could see you more easily in one of those holistic healing places than at a law firm”.
So this leads to the question which no one ever asks which is: why did you become a lawyer? I went into law because I wanted to be more able to help people. Many people are unaware of their rights and I wanted to help them become aware.
I have never regretted the decision. Going to law school changed my life in so many ways. It helped me to learn more about human psychology and the mind. I stuck out in law school because I wanted more out of life and it was in law school where my spiritual journey began in earnest. When I graduated, I vowed to myself I would never work as a lawyer. Goes to show you…never say never.
Back in 2007, I realized that the time had come to venture back into law. I was in one of those situations where my inner voice was clear and it encouraged me to go back to law. I was not very thrilled at the idea but my inner voice kept insisting on it. So off I went back to take the bar exam and the whole process of finding a job. If I stuck out back in law school, you should see me now!
On a day to day basis, I work with good people who I cannot relate to because we look at life differently – to me, life is awesome. The mere fact that I can walk and take care of myself is a huge blessing. This attitude makes me seem less intelligent and some of my co-workers do make fun of me. Am I hurt? No, because I know who I am and I am at peace with myself.
During my spiritual quest, I learned that your job is NOT a reflection of who you are. It is a role that you play. You are defined more by what you think and feel than by your job title. It is easy to hide behind a title because usually a title creates a preconceived notion of who you are but in reality it does not.
When you pass away, no one will talk about you in relation to your title but rather about how you lived your life.
When you categorize someone based on their job, you rob that person of the chance to vocalize who they truly are. You place them in a box and are not open to the idea that there may be more to them than meets the eye. That places you at a disadvantage because the person may have been of great benefit to you. So pull off those labels and give everyone the opportunity to show their true self!