When I saw the theme for the month from Lance, BE YOU, I immediately remembered an article I had written back in 2010 when I was contemplating the subject of self-worth and identity. It was a period in my life that I had become more aware of how much time I had wasted on wishing things were different, and somehow, that I was different.
I believe everyone goes through a stage in their lives where their self-confidence in who they are is shaken, whether it is in the teenage years, or even beyond. In my case, it was a long road starting from childhood. As an adult it finally dawned on me that I was best when I quit pretending or wishing I was someone else and embraced the remarkable ME!
I hope you enjoy my modified version of this recycled TRASH TALK:)
Today I am throwing out an emotion that is very common and oh so harmful: JEALOUSY.
I’ve spent most of my life walking under that hovering cloud, jealousy, whose acid raindrops blurred my vision and burned holes in my heart. ~ Astrid Alauda
I hate to admit I have been there myself. I have felt the acid raindrops when I thought I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, talented enough, or smart enough. There is definitely a reason that the word ends with LOUSY.
When I feel myself focusing on envy, I have found that it has taken me away from my true calling…to live a life of joy and peace.
Jealousy has a viral effect. Once you start focusing on it, it expands. Once a negative pattern starts to expand it becomes hard to break. So how do you overcome jealousy? It’s as easy as changing the way you think. When you feel that twinge of envy permeate into your being STOP yourself. Ask yourself to throw it in the trash, and open your heart to the feeling of gratitude.
When you can feel gratitude for the gifts and good fortune of those you are envious of, you will be open to receive love and good fortune from them. Focus in on how their good fortune perhaps grace’s your own life.
Everyone has a gift to offer. Don’t let jealousy get in the way of receiving those wonderful gifts from the people you most envy. Think of jealousy as your great teacher. When you become aware of those envious feelings being present, and you toss them in the trash, you will learn to be more secure in yourself and feel grateful for your own life. You will, in essence, be able to be YOU…fully aware of how special and unique you are.
What a load of trash!
JeaLOUSY is trash. When you learn how to can it, embrace the remarkable YOU, you will indeed FIND YOUR HARMONY!
by Jen Slayden