Spread Your Wings and Fly

by Lance Ekum on · 62 comments

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“Be like the bird that, pausing in her flight awhile on boughs too slight, feels them give way beneath her, and yet sings, knowing that she hath wings.” ~ Victor Hugo

In a post over at Loving Pulse, Davina wrote Look Ma, I Can Fly.  A story about a baby pigeon and his days leading up to the moment he spread his wings and flew.

This got me thinking about how the life of a bird is like our life.

The nest is our safety zone.  A place of comfort.  This could be our home, a familiar face, a routine we follow, or whatever else it is that makes us feel safe.  Our comfort zone.  But sometimes we have to leave the nest.  Sometimes we have to head out into areas we are not familiar with, doing things we haven’t done before.  Sometimes we have to get out of our comfort zone.  Especially if we want to grow and really live our life.

And that’s when we need to spread our wings, like a majestic bird high in the sky, spread our wings and soar!  Maybe we’ll crash the first few times, but the more we keep at it, the sooner we WILL be soaring.  Soaring to new heights in our life.

What nest are you in right now?  What’s your comfort zone?  Is it time to step out of it, and fly to new heights?

Think about it.  Maybe your good where you’re at right now.  That’s ok.  Sometimes your comfort zone is the right place to be.  But maybe, your comfort zone has become a little too comfortable.

Spread your wings and fly!

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Avani-Mehta September 24, 2008 at 10:15 pm

Whenever I start experiencing boredom or restlessness repeatedly, I know, it’s time to fly and create new experiences. What about you? How do you know it’s time?

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Stacey / CreateaBalance September 24, 2008 at 10:19 pm

I’m liking my nest right now. It’s comfy and roomy and has an amazing diving board that I use to practice my jumps. I jump often and also like to return to my nest at the end of the day for a good night sleep.

Stacey / CreateaBalances last blog post..The Secret Ingredient for Life Balance – Practice Being Selfish


Marelisa September 24, 2008 at 10:59 pm

I saw a YouTube video of two little hummingbirds that showed the entire process from the time they hatched to the moment they flew out of the nest. When they first fly out they kind of fall a part of the way and then manage to fly a little bit to a nearby branch. I think we’re scared of that moment when we first step out of our comfort zone because there does tend to be a drop, but if we just push through it we find we’ve landed safely on another branch.

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Harmony September 24, 2008 at 11:04 pm

AWWWWW. I just left a really thoughtful response. And your page wouldn’t accept it. Guess it wasn’t meant to be said. 🙁 Thanks for your urging to stretch when we need to, want to or just might have to! Your about page is great.

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Evelyn Lim September 24, 2008 at 11:10 pm

The French poet-philosopher Guillaume Apollinaire wrote…

“Come to the edge.”
“We can’t. We are afraid.”
“Come to the edge.”
“We can’t. We will fall!”

“Come to the edge.”

And they came.
And he pushed them.

And they flew.

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Davina September 24, 2008 at 11:24 pm

Hi Lance. Thank you very much for the link. This was beautifully said and that picture gives me chills.

Comfort zone! Hah. I’m flying by the seat of my pants right now. In a nutshell; no job since April 2007, self-employment program last Oct to this past Aug, started a business in January that I just closed, now living off my savings while starting another business. I hope I find another nest soon 🙂 My wings are getting tired!

Davinas last blog post..I’m Over The Moon As NBOTW


Vered - MomGrind September 24, 2008 at 11:32 pm

I agree that some people are really truly happy where they are.

No need to make changes when you’re content.

But if a person is unhappy, stepping out of their comfort zone and trying something new can make a HUGE difference.


Writer Dad September 25, 2008 at 12:03 am

I get too comfortable every three years or so. It’s definitely that time.

Writer Dads last blog post..Hi, My Name is Sean (Not Seen).


Maya September 25, 2008 at 12:49 am

I wonder why , but I seem to have the opposite problem. I just cannot seem to enjoy the safety zone … I try to pick up and fly … too often. But that is what I love. I am more comfortable flying and crashing. Strangely enough, the crashing is what keeps me going ….keeps me picking back up.

Mayas last blog post..Are we taking the time to meditate?


Barbara Swafford September 25, 2008 at 2:01 am

Hi Lance – This is great advice. When I think of myself, I spread my wings a lot through the years. Now, you might say, I’ve come home to roost and am thoroughly enjoying my nest.

Barbara Swaffords last blog post..Signs of A Blogoholic


Glee Girl September 25, 2008 at 4:09 am

I need to spread my wings and find a new job. There’s lots I like about it and I’m not unhappy, but after 4 years, I think I need to move on. Being “not unhappy” is not the same as being happy….

Glee Girls last blog post..Warm woollen mittens, thunder and frockage


Annette September 25, 2008 at 6:08 am

I love my nest…….it’s predictable and secure. Lately, I have been testing my wings a bit…….but only for a little while, and then I return to the comfort of my nest. I struggle with these nest issues everyday but I’m happy to say, I am feeling more and more at peace each day when I do have to leave the nest.

Nice post, Lance 🙂

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Lance September 25, 2008 at 8:04 am

@Avani – You’re challenging me this morning Avani! How do I know it’s time to leave the nest? I think when things start to seem “stale”. Restlessness is a good way to describe it, as you have. When my mind no longer seems like sparks are going off. And, sometimes when things just feel too comfortable…Thanks for making me question this more in depth Avani. It’s made me realize more what this internally means to me.

@Stacey/CreateaBalance – I love the way you’re looking at this Stacey…our nest being safety and comfort, and something we can keep coming back to. It’s a place we know and feel comfortable in, and that helps us to spread our wings, because we know we can always come back to this spot….Wow, it’s powerful thought for me this morning.

@Marelisa – The hummingbirds, what a great example Marelisa! I think that is how it feels too. We fear that initial drop, wondering if our “wings” will do their thing. And sometimes all we have to do is make it to the next branch – like taking baby steps toward our ultimate goal.

@Harmony – Dang, now I’m wondering what is was you had written…And, hey, I’m glad you like the “about” page, I’ve recently updated it!

@Evelyn – Thanks for sharing that quote Evelyn – it fits this perfectly! And is so true, both for birds and for us and we step out of our comfort zones (or are gently helped out of them).

@Davina – Wow, you really have been giving your wings a real workout! While it can be exhausting, I’m guessing it was an exciting time in your life too. Here’s to finding a nest soon – and a little break from all your soaring.

@Vered – Yes, I agree. There is nothing wrong with a comfort zone, as long as you are happy there. But if it feels like something is “missing”, that’s a good time to spread your wings and step out. Even though it can be scary sometimes…

@Writer Dad – I think you’re stepping out as we speak! Good luck in the new directions you’ll be going!

@Maya – Well, that’s another great point. Some people really thrive on change. You sound like one of them. A comfort zone can be a good place to know is “available” if you need it, and then just use that as a base to fly out of. When you’re out spreading your wings, you have many experiences – experiences that help to shape who you are. So, keep on flying, reaching new heights! Do what you love and keep on challenging yourself!

@Barbara – Sometimes we go in streaks, depending upon where we are in our lives. When I was younger, I seemed to fly more. Once we had kids, the comfort zone had more appeal. For me, it’s a mix that works well. I’m glad to hear you’re enjoying your “nest”.

@Glee Girl – Excellent point, and example. Sometimes we can be not unhappy, and that is really not the same as happy. Indifferent, maybe. And that can sometimes be hard. When we are unhappy, it’s sometimes easier to change. To spread our wings, per se. But it can be altogether different when we’re someplace between happy and unhappy. This can make it much more difficult to leave the nest. I wish you well, Glee Girl, on the decisions you have in front of you.

@Annette – There is something about our “nest” and the security it provides. And yet, still, it’s good to get out of it and experience new experiences, to live new dreams, and to soar to new heights! It can be a struggle for many, the unknown, and what will happen when we step out of that nest. I’ve felt that way too. And the more we do it, step out and spread our wings, the more comfortable we get with doing it. Not to say, that the fear ever completely goes away, but I think we get better at accepting it in our lives, and working through it. Continue to soar Annette!


Wendi Kelly-Life's Little Inspirations September 25, 2008 at 8:16 am

I think that just about the time I find I am in my comfort zone I take a hand grenade to it. For some reason it isn’t in my nature to be stagnant, and the truth is I should kick back and rest a little more. I think they call that balance. But I am always stretching for that next level. I can’t seem to help myself. I am hard-wired with a love for learning new things.

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Ellen Wilson September 25, 2008 at 8:18 am

Hi Lance,

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Ellen Wilson September 25, 2008 at 8:21 am

Hi Lance,

The above comment was a test because I got an error saying I need to enable java cookies. java cookies sounds like a good treat.

Anyway, what I was saying was I need to relax because being very active seems to be more of my comfort zone, or more adequately, not my comfort zone. After I get wound up working for awhile I find that it’s really hard to mellow out.

Ellen Wilsons last blog post..The Power of Perspective in Photography


Jennifer September 25, 2008 at 10:13 am

I think Ellen said it well. It’s easy for me as well to get so comfy being so busy – even though it’s not really comfy, but it’s what I get used to. Learning to relax can be difficult if I’ve been caught up in the hustle bustle.

Really it’s a matter of seeing the need for something different, sitting down and making some goals, seeing where I want to be and counting the cost. What do I have to do to get to where I want to be and then the big question… “Am I willing to do what it takes.” That decision has to be made. If the answer is yes, I will bust through that comfort zone no matter what.

Yes, it is time for new heights for me. Onward I go.

Jennifers last blog post..Heroes of Healing: Ron Wilkins


Tammy Warren September 25, 2008 at 10:24 am

I love my nest. I just wish I would stop trying to add chaos. I love the “busy” life of being on the go mom, career, and pet lover (I can’t forget the dog). Slowing down to enjoy the home, my nest, is tough. I seem to enjoy the rush of it all. I would not say that I am a living on the edge person. I guess I just feel like moving and taking all of life in. I do sometimes stop and remind myself that life is right in front of me. I don’t have to add stresses and push the boundaries. I do not have a “family” network around me. My family is scattered. I wish my children did have the “nest” feeling of sitting on a front porch with grandparents, etc. In the meantime, I have my own little happy nest and I plan on keeping it all nice and warm. Hey…I am the “momma bird” ya know.

Tammy Warrens last blog post..Was that a compliment? Think about it.


Stacey Shipman September 25, 2008 at 10:52 am

Similar to Writer Dad I tend to be on a cycle. When I worked corporate I would get antsy every 2 or 3 years – needed a change. When I’m no longer being challenged, I need a change. I’m in that same place now, 2.5 years after starting my business I’m changing and evolving and stretching myself – doing things I had only dreamed about in the past. The more I do it, the more the “stretch” becomes comfortable and the “comfort” becomes uncomfortable. It’s exciting!

Stacey Shipmans last blog post..Enjoy each day…and the weekend!


Brian September 25, 2008 at 11:03 am


Sometimes we get pushed from the nest, but we can still soar to great heights. I was in a major rut in my life and then was pushed from my comfort zone. It is the perfect time to make the changes in my life, changes that should have been made years ago. I am finding that I can indeed fly. It is startling to be jarred out of the nest, but it can be a blessing if we just flap our wings.

I really like your blog! Keep up the good work…


Brians last blog post..Down by the river…


chris September 25, 2008 at 12:02 pm

It’s tempting to spread your wings but it’s also very reassuring to stay within your nest.

If you’re the type of person that likes to mix it up and experience new things, by all means fly and soar. But if you like the comfort of your nest and it makes you sleep well at night, then so be it, be comfortable.

As for me, I like a warm bed at night and an occasional clandestine meeting in the afternoon.

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Lance September 25, 2008 at 12:34 pm

@Wendi – So, you like to keep things interesting, huh, Wendi! Balance – that thing that can sometimes be so elusive. I’m guessing many deal with this at some time in their life. Keep learning Wendi, but also take some time to enjoy what you have (I know you do…).

@Ellen – Mmm…cookies…I want some! Mellow can be good, but being able to shift gears from being very active to being more mellow can be difficult. Sometimes being “mellow” seems like we’re missing out on something else. That’s why I think it can seem hard to switch gears sometimes. On the other hand, time spent in your comfort zone can be very rewarding as well – and good for the soul, especially if you haven’t had much of that time.

@Jennifer – Comfort in being busy – hmmm – so maybe that becomes your “nest”. Busy-ness. I think it’s a matter of perspective. My comfort zone may be different from yours. I think the real spreading of our wings comes, not necessarily from being busy, but from venturing into new, uncharted territory for us. I’m not sure if this is where you were going with this Jennifer, but it’s making me think – if just being “busy” is a comfort zone for me. And if that holds me back from trying new things…

@Tammy – Like what I wrote to Jennifer, this is making me think also about if busy-ness is a comfort zone sometimes. If we take comfort in our busy life? And part of stepping out and spreading our wings means letting go of some of this busy-ness. This is really making me think this morning.

@Stacey Shipman – I think that’s a good process to go through. We step out of our comfort zone and fly in new directions. And maybe this lands us at a new place in our life, and a new “nest” is developed. We stay there until we’re ready to fly again. It’s a journey, and only us individually can answer what that means to us.

@Brian – Sometimes we leave the nest willingly, and sometimes we are pushed. That’s a good point. And that’s what it takes sometimes, a little push to get us going. I think we’ve all been in ruts at some point in our life. That you’re flying in a direction you desire is great Brian! Thanks for stopping by.

@Chris – That’s right, it’s different strokes for different folks. We should do what makes us each happy and satisfied with life.


Sarah September 25, 2008 at 12:42 pm

I loved this post, Lance. Finding that courage to jump out of the nest is sometimes so difficult, but then so rewarding. If we never leave the ground, we’ll never know if we can fly. It’s so tempting to stay where it’s comfortable, and I’m one who thinks that’s a good place to be, but those who take no risks can’t understand the joy of one taken and succeeded in.


Sherre September 25, 2008 at 2:16 pm

There have been a few bloggers recently addressing the stretching beyond our comfort zone. I definitely have a problem venturing out of my comfort zone, but with all these posts, I think someone is trying to tell me something. So thank you.

Sherres last blog post..Monday Miscellany


Bobbi September 25, 2008 at 3:52 pm

ooo I am flying:)

Bobbis last blog post..Your engine is shot!


Jean Browman--Cheerful Monk September 25, 2008 at 5:06 pm

For me it’s not an either-or thing. I try to keep the right amount of challenge in my life. I think in terms of the optimizing stress/challenge graph to keep living life as an adventure.

Jean Browman–Cheerful Monks last blog post..Is This Really The Best Use of My Time?


Caroline September 25, 2008 at 5:50 pm

Beautifully written. It is time for me to peer over the edge of the nest and fly…easier said then done…but I’m gonna try. Thanks for this inspiring post!

Carolines last blog post..The meaning of life in 700 words…


Nathalie Lussier from Billionaire Woman September 25, 2008 at 6:09 pm

I love the idea that our nest is our comfort zone! I always had dreams about flying, and now this kind of makes subconscious sense. 😉

Thanks for the thought-provoking post!

Nathalie Lussier from Billionaire Womans last blog post..Self-Employment: One Selfish Way to Financial Independence


BC Doan September 25, 2008 at 6:36 pm

What an inspiring post! Love it!


Lance September 25, 2008 at 9:24 pm

@Sarah – Right on Sarah! It can seem scary and daunting to make that jump, but then it’s usually an exhilarating ride once we do! A comfort zone is good, but sometimes we need to spread our wings to see where else we might go…

@Sherre – It can be scary, the unknown. I’ll be cheering you on when you’re ready to venture out and spread your wings Sherre…

@Bobbi – Excellent! Soar high Bobbi!

@Jean – Right, it’s a balance. I like the graph, it’s a nice visual representation of where a good place to is at. Thanks for sharing it here Jean.

@Caroline – You can do it…when you’re ready. I know, it is easier said than done. Looking over the edge can seem pretty daunting. Whenever you’re ready, Caroline, you’ll soar high! And it will be awesome!

@Nathalie – Fly high Nathalie, and know that you’ll always have a nest, a comfort zone, to come back to!

@BC Doan – Thank you!


Sagan September 25, 2008 at 9:52 pm

I’ve been stepping out of my comfort zone a lot lately- moving out for the first time and getting really involved in different classes at school that I normally wouldn’t do really contribute to it! We can learn so much from testing our limits.

Sagans last blog post..Today I turn 20!


Lance September 26, 2008 at 3:52 am

@Sagan – Good for you! Testing our limits is a great way to not only learn something new, but also to learn about ourselves in the process.


Glen Allsopp September 26, 2008 at 5:05 am

It’s a great message that you share and one that I would definitely like to live by. Take control of your life and follow your path, and as you say, if you crash a few times just get up and try again.

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Annette September 26, 2008 at 9:34 am

Please stop by my blog today 🙂 There is something waiting for you!

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Pink Ink September 26, 2008 at 9:39 am

This year has been a great year for me to spread my wings and fly. I feel like I have taken more steps towards my dream of having a novel published. On a less serious note, I am trading piano lessons for clogging lessons :-). Definitely coming out of my comfort zone!

Pink Inks last blog post..Please, No Lies


GroundedFitness September 26, 2008 at 10:25 am

my nest is too boring and too small right now. i need to bust out and do something new. something new that is NOT just another responsibility (i confuse the two sometimes.) something fun. that doesnt cost money

you got me thinking!

Kelly Turner

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MizFit September 26, 2008 at 10:33 am

Ive no clue on this one and yet I ponder it often oh wise Lance.

Im kinda comfy.
Im kinda trying to stay comfy as I know my daughter thrives on our routine.
Im also planning my liferelaunch for when she (and I) is ready.


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Mark Salinas September 26, 2008 at 10:42 am

Oh yes the comfort zone. I believe that it is human nature to “stay under the covers” when it is cold out there. I also believe that we can expand our comfort zone through action and experience. Great post as always my friend….have a great weekend!

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Dave Jones, CPA September 26, 2008 at 10:51 am

When you wake up in the morning look in the mirror and ask yourself “do I like what I am doing today” if too many days go by when the answer is no its probably time to spread your wings and fly……if possible. Just make sure you don’t fly the nest and leave all the baby birds behind without anyone to feed them!!!


Cath Lawson September 26, 2008 at 11:33 am

Hi Lance – I love the way you get your message across in these stories. Alot of people never bother to move out of their comfort zone at all and that is really sad.


Carla September 26, 2008 at 12:57 pm

I think my nest is my day-to-day 9-5 lifestyle. For years, (not that many, I’m only 29) I’ve wanted to branch out and start my own business and/or freelance (something I’ve only done while unemployed). Now that I’m on the verge of launching my site, I start to have those fears of leaving my “nest”. I am in a good position right now: I have a regular pay check and health insurance, so I have a measure of stability. I just need to start by flying to the next branch and the next one until I’m able to soar the skies without the need to stay close to the nest.


Lance September 26, 2008 at 4:42 pm

@Glen – I, too, would like to live by this philosophy. Sometimes I do…

@Annette – Thank you!!!

@Pink Ink – Yes, it does sound like you really have spread your wings and soared this year! Work on a novel, that’s pretty awesome! And trying something new (clogging) – that’s definitely jumping out of the nest! Way to go Pink Ink!

@Grounded Fitness – Something new that isn’t just another responsibility – that’s a good point Kelly. Sometimes we take stuff on and it just becomes that – another responsibility. And that’s not soaring. So, here’s to finding something new and exciting (and free!)!

@MizFit – You build me up too much, MizFit – I’m going to get a big head… Comfy is a good place to be sometimes, and you’re there now. Enjoy it! Life re-launch, that just sounds impressive, and soaring…

@Mark – Take action, get moving — that is what it takes isn’t it! We’re not going to get out from under the covers unless we take some action and just do it. And once we do, it can be a fun ride…

@Dave – That’s a good way to look at it. If you’re not happy doing what you do, then that’s a good time to leave the nest of comfort, and fly to new heights. Even if you crash along the way, you’re still moving and learning and growing. And you get back up and fly again…

@Cath – Sometimes we can become too comfortable in our comfort zones, can’t we Cath.

@Carla – That’s a great attitude to have Carla! You’ll do well. Going from one branch to another is great, because it’s taking small steps in the direction you desire to go. And it doesn’t feel as scary or unknown when you take these small steps. Good luck to you in these new endeavors coming up! I’m sure you’ll soar high!


Natalia Burleson September 27, 2008 at 6:10 am

Love the post! Well I think that I have been spreading my wings a bit. I’ve moved out of the world of sloth and have been working on becoming a healthier person for me and my family! I’ve been meeting new people (not easy for me) at the gym, and I’ve been smiling more and holding my head higher and putting myself out there in the world. I’m trying to change me! Experience more! Appreciate more! Love more! Laugh more!

Natalia Burlesons last blog post..Tis the Season…..


Dave Fowler September 27, 2008 at 7:03 am

Lance, this is great because I feel like some day soon I’m going to be that eagle in your picture. After mentioning flying to you before I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it… and now the eagle…

I feel very uncomfortable at the moment but I’m going with it because I feel tantalisingly close to where I want to be. I just know that I’ve got to keep pushing.

Dave Fowlers last blog post..Why I Want To Feel Hungry


rarestone September 27, 2008 at 8:02 am

Lance, that’s a great post. In fact, I also did a post on the same subject, titled
The Curse of the Comfort Zone
. I think to continue to grow we must continue to reach out and not allow ourselves to settle in one place. There can be no growth if we are stagnant and comfortable in a certain zone. Growth is ongoing, cumulative and continuous. By continuing to explore, to reach out, we continue to discover new things, crossing hurdles we never thought we could, and ultimately reaching new heights. That is exploring our full potential and indeed living life to the full! Like the majestic bird which towers beautifully in the sky, let us take on new heights and enjoy the flight!


Dave Fowler September 27, 2008 at 11:32 am

Is the bird in the pic actually an eagle? I’m not sure now.


Bamboo Forest September 27, 2008 at 12:06 pm

I think there is always a comfort zone to get out of.

For, if we are not growing, are we truly living?

Good reminder.


Lance September 27, 2008 at 1:36 pm

@Natalia – That’s awesome, and something similar to what I went through. I had gotten into a nest of comfort with food and lack of exercise. It was hard to leave that nest, but yet, it was also one of the best things I did for myself! That you are doing that, too, is great! You’ll soar!!

@Dave – Keep at it Dave, you’re doing great! We all have days where we falter a bit. As long as we get back up, though. Get back up and fly, before we know it – we’re soaring – if we’ll just allow ourselves to do so. The bird – I believe it’s a hawk (but I could be mistaken).

@Rarestone – This is beautifully said, Rarestone! And so is your post, right on target. If we do want to grown and be all that we can be, we’ve got to spread our wings and leave the nest. We’ve got to leave our comfort zone for this to happen!

@Bamboo Forest – Good point, we are probably always in some sort of comfort zone. I do think that sometimes the comfort zone can be good for us (i.e. dealing with tragedy, during sickness, etc) but many times getting out of the comfort zone is what we need to reach the next level.


Julie September 27, 2008 at 6:02 pm

Hi, Lance: I think our nests can be quite different things, depending upon our current state of mind. Sometimes, they’re almost jail-like in holding us back and we need to just bolt out the doors. Other times, they’re safe havens for when the world’s battering us. Sometimes, they’re neither; just a place to be while things are incubating; a transition place, if you will. They can also be places where everything is in perfect balance, all flowing beautifully. I think it just depends on what’s been going on with our lives, inside and out.

Julies last blog post..Somewhere On The Circle


Kelly@SHE-POWER September 28, 2008 at 5:02 am

My comfort zone has definitely become too comfortable in terms of my personal goals, though I like the comfort zone for my family life. I find motherhood takes a lot out of me, maybe because you have to be so attentive and switched on all the time. I am naturally a day dreamer so a 4 year old’s incessant questions and boundary testing wears me out.

But my personal goals have languished from me being too stuck in routine and not wanting to push my limits anymore. I think that’s okay soemtimes. You need to recharge. But now I’m feeling restless, so it’s time to make a plan and push forward and get into that unknown territory a bit more.

Great post, lance.



Lance September 28, 2008 at 9:28 pm

@Julie – I agree completely Julie. Nests can be good, and nest can be bad, and sometime just be. I love how you wrote that, it really is a great way of describing the “nests” of our life. The key is to recognize what kind of nest we’re in, and then act accordingly…

@Kelly – A comfort zone in family life can be very affirming. It’s that constant. Something we can always come back to. A comfort zone in personal goals, like you said, is a good thing to evaluate. Are you there for a reason? Are you ready to take the jump out of the nest? Do you need a push out? Lots of things to think about (and act upon). I know you’ll do well in whatever next flights come your way!


meleah rebeccah September 28, 2008 at 10:44 pm

If I am like a bird, then I seem to have crashed into a glass window…

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Lance September 29, 2008 at 4:08 am

@Meleah – Sometimes we do crash, Meleah. The important thing is that you get back up. Maybe it means going back to rest at the “nest” a little longer. Maybe it means trying to fly again. Listen to your heart…


Robin September 29, 2008 at 8:01 pm

What a lovely flock of birds we would be if we all really flew.

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Lance September 29, 2008 at 9:18 pm

Robin, that is a great thought. Flying seems so majestic. What a beautiful sight it would be if we all were flying! Wonderful!


Jenny October 2, 2008 at 4:08 pm

I would love to leave my nest and soar on those magnificent wings, I’m just always afraid to do it. Sometimes I do it without knowing it and usually fly well, I just don’t always think so!

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Lance October 3, 2008 at 9:53 am

Jenny, fear is a big thing for all of us. I have it often. And it can be hard to leave the nest of comfort and familiarity. Writing, here, sometimes feels like that. Because I don’t know what the reaction will be. Just like you, I’m unsure of what the result will be. But it is great to soar isn’t it! You can!


Simple Sapien November 3, 2008 at 1:06 pm

I have gotten to comfortable job wise. I am unemployed right now and need to get out there and try new things! I am so afraid of getting rejected or turned down that I find myself sitting at home all day. Meh, life is a scary place, but what is the worst that could happen. I get rejected… I move on to something else. No big deal.

– Jack Rugile
Simple Sapien

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Lance November 3, 2008 at 4:04 pm

Simple Sapien – Rejection is something many fear (I do). But then, so what if we get rejected – move on and try something else. You’ll get there Jack. Life has many great things in store for you – go out and soar!


Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker January 17, 2009 at 3:51 pm

I believe that our comfort zone is meant to be just a resting place in between Life’s adventures. It is a base of operation that we go out from and come back to when we need to rest. It isn’t meant to become our rut that we never leave. A friend taught me this lesson.

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Dayflyer February 5, 2009 at 5:21 am

We spread our wings just over a year ago, giving up secure jobs and a familiar life in the UK to move to Greece. A new country, a language we are trying to learn, no paid employment – big change all round. In fact the biggest change since leaving home for university over 30 years ago.

13 months on and we’re surviving and thriving. Things are coming together slowly, there are setbacks as well as surges forward, but we don’t regret a minute. If we hadn’t done it, we would definitely be regretting things.


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