Sunday Thought For The Day

by Lance Ekum on · 52 comments

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“All your life you are told the things you cannot do. All your life they will say you’re not good enough or strong enough or talented enough; they will say you’re the wrong height or the wrong weight or the wrong type to play this or be this or achieve this. THEY WILL TELL YOU NO, a thousand times no, until all the no’s become meaningless. All your life they will tell you no, quite firmly and very quickly.  AND YOU WILL TELL THEM YES.” ~ Nike ad

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Dave Fowler December 7, 2008 at 3:06 am

IT’s funny but as a society we don’t really enocourage people to believe in themselves. It’s such a shame. Nice thought Lance!

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brandi December 7, 2008 at 8:20 am

insanely appropriate and timely post for where I am in my life right now.

thank you!

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Liara Covert December 7, 2008 at 8:20 am

I believe people echo you cannot do things as a way to reinforce your confidence and faith in your abilities. If you think of a sapling that grows on the side of a rock in comparison to a sapling that grows in the shade of a forest, you evolve to realize it is the challenges we face that enable us to build resilience and resourcefulness. Without being told something is not possible, some people are not motivated to prove they can.


Katie December 7, 2008 at 9:21 am

Love it! 🙂

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Stacey / Create a Balance December 7, 2008 at 9:39 am

If they tell me “no” I’ll refuse to believe them! I learn from what they are saying, but it’s not going to stop me!

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Arswino December 7, 2008 at 9:45 am

It’s like a poem and a bit difficult to understand. I had to read the whole thing twice to figure out, but good post Lance.

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Linda Abbit December 7, 2008 at 10:47 am

I could have just stopped at the photo this week, Lance, because dancing is a passion of mine. That image speaks volumes and I love it!!

Nike’s ads are always excellent — they captivate me 90% of the time. An athlete who immediately came to mind after I read this is Kobe Bryant of the L.A. Lakers. I could almost hear him saying those words aloud.

I think this quote especially applies to artists and athletes, although we can all learn from it. Believing in oneself, taking action on those beliefs, and persevering no matter what — all excellent traits to strive for.

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bobbi December 7, 2008 at 11:04 am

man I am priniting this out and posting it on my INSPIRATION board!!!! THanks LANCE!

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Sagan December 7, 2008 at 11:27 am

That’s from a Nike ad? Wow, there are some amazing writers in the advertising business!

Beautiful thought- a great reminder to hold strong and be true to our beiefs.


Akemi "spiritual entrepreneur" @ Yes to Me December 7, 2008 at 12:26 pm

Yes, yes! The only thing I’d add is that, before you get to say YES to THEM, you need to say YES to SELF. This is exactly the idea of my blog, Yes to Me. (Sorry for my self-promotion — the energy of ads from Nike did it to me ^_^)

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Laurie December 7, 2008 at 1:03 pm

When I look at the lives of people, the difference between them saying no or yes to themselves and their dreams is a difference between living a life of mediocrity and statuesque OR passion and adventure. Seems like a no brain-er to me which one I choose to follow! I think an even bigger question is why would you choose to say no?


Karl - Work Happy Now December 7, 2008 at 1:41 pm

Yes! I’m told that I can’t start a blog about work happiness, make it into a business and launch a speaking career. They are wrong. I’m only in the baby step process, but it’s growing. Thanks Lance. I needed a little Sunday boost.

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Lance December 7, 2008 at 2:00 pm

@Dave – Whether others believe in us or not, we first need to believe in ourselves. If we can’t do that, then it’s going to be hard to reach the heights that are possible for all of us. I like the angle you took on this one Dave!

@Brandi – I find it very cool how we can come across things that we need to hear, at just the right time! I’m glad this quote meant something to you Brandi!

@Liara – What I think of when reading this, Liara, is that we DO have to have faith in ourselves first. That is a really important piece of the puzzle. If we don’t have faith – then it probably isn’t going to matter much what other people say (good or bad).

@Katie – Awesome, thanks!

@Stacey/Create A Balance – I love your attitude Stacey! If we (individually) believe, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks…

@Arswino – I see the real point of this message as being that it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks or says. What matters is what we believe. And if we believe we can, then we should keep on trying, keep on fighting, keep on achieving!

@Linda – I loved the picture too! Choosing a quote to go with it was the hard part (I enlisted the help of my wife to make the final decision!). Dancing is a passion of yours – very cool Linda! Nike just seems to really do well with their ads – many are very inspirational. This does lend itself to athletes and artists. And I would ask – maybe we’re all artists of our own lives (or, at least, we can be)…in creating the life we desire!

@Bobbi – It is pretty inspiring isn’t it! I find the reminder in this message being that we CAN do whatever we believe (no matter what the rest of the world says) – and that’s a pretty powerful message!

@Sagan – Nike sure has some great ads! The thought really is great – and a reminder that our beliefs are very important to us reaching the successes we desire.

@Akemi – That’s the same thought I had when I first read this message – the importance of getting ourselves to say “yes” – and how key that is in the whole process. Without that, it really doesn’t matter what others say or do – we’re already defeated if we haven’t said “yes” to ourselves. Self-promotion — no problem, this fits perfectly!

@Laurie – That’s a great point Laurie – the idea of mediocrity. We CAN achieve so much, and that does require us first to believe in ourselves! To say “yes” to our dreams, our desires, our passions! Why do people say “no”? I think “no” feels like a safe answer, when “yes” might not work (we might fail), or we’ll look foolish (because we’re doing something “different”). And yet – by saying “no” to ourselves, aren’t we really saying “no” to a real life we desire… This is a deep question Laurie… “No” seems safe, but in reality – if we’re not happy – how safe, really, is that answer? Good for you on choosing “yes” – you’ve got some very cool things going on!

@Karl – You’re doing it Karl, isn’t that awesome! As long as you continue to believe, no matter what everyone else thinks, you’ve still got “you”. Just so you know, though, I think what you’ve got going is very cool, and you’re well on your way to where you’re desiring to get to! I’m in your corner!! “They” are wrong – you WILL do amazing things!!


Stacey Shipman December 7, 2008 at 2:44 pm

My whole life was spent hearing “no” or questioning my own abilities. It gets tiring and it takes a very courageous person to push through it. I agree with Dave Fowler – we are not encouraged to be our best selves…in my experience it’s “odd” or arrogant. My husband always says “It’s lonely at the top, Stace”. If you believe the no you are in the majority. If you choose otherwise, it can be lonely! Finding others on the same path is critical.


avtcoach December 7, 2008 at 2:54 pm

It is so hard not to buy in to that way of thinking isn’t it. Somehow, no matter how hard we try we still hear those messages of our youth. My recording must be on 8 track..I hope it will wear out soon…I need a DVR version!! 🙂 Thanks for the thought!

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Maya December 7, 2008 at 2:55 pm

Growing up, Nike ads really inspired me.
They have it right – they really connect deep down.

As for the quote – I am glad I said YES and I will continue to do so. Stacey (create a balance) said it very well!

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Audra Krell December 7, 2008 at 3:05 pm

I love the part about the no becoming meaningless. I long for that day, when everytime I hear someone say “you can’t because you’re not this or that” that it will mean nothing to me. Sometimes a no inspires me to turn around and prove the world wrong, but still, I look forward to when others telling me “no” is simply…….. meaningless.

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Cathy in NZ December 7, 2008 at 3:09 pm

I have had some funny comments in recent years….like in the last two years. When, out the blue, I could enroll in a BA at the University of Auckland….I got some rather mixed comments.

From a good man-friend “why do you want to do that!” (later changed his mind and is very supportive)

From a much older close relative “you don’t have the brains for that” much later like a few months ago “well of course you are depressed, you shouldn’t be at Uni!” (I wasn’t depressed, she just suggested that from the tired tone of my voice; I was just plain tired! nothing else!! )

From acquaintance, I had hardly know (belongs to a Club I had to resign from/Time restraints)…”what do you mean you’ve got another 2yrs. Last time I saw you, you said another 3wks” (me thinking, where can I get a BA/P/T in 3wks!)….and then she added “what you are doing a BA, you can’t do that…how will you pay the loan, who will give you a job…and for that matter you’ve too old to be thinking you can get a job”

And then there is a (younger than me) lecturer at Uni…who makes this comment regularily “you are very brave coming to Uni at your age” (I am not sure what this means, as I don’t feel quite that old….)

All these can seem like putdowns especially when the tone of said voices sounds scathing….yep, I sometimes want to give up (apparently that is normal!) but even after failing paper this last Semester; I am back in the ‘saddle’ planning next years papers. Although, with the failure, it puts my finishing date back 6mths.

I am taking the Summer hols off (yes it’s summer here in NZ now) to rejuvenate and play at being a layabout!!!


CG Walters December 7, 2008 at 6:34 pm

Yes we can, and Yes We Will!!
blessings to you and your dear ones this week, Lance,

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Davina December 7, 2008 at 7:27 pm

Hi Lance. Thanks for the reminder! Every No is another step towards Yes.

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Angel December 7, 2008 at 7:37 pm

This is unbelievably true. Society is really good about telling people they are not capable! As a trainer, I’m constantly reminding my clients that they can achieve anything. Yet, I often hear, “I can’t run any faster, I’m just not good at it, this is so hard”. And I always respond with, “Yes, you can. You can do it. I know it.”

There usually surprised and taken aback by this. It’s as if they’ve never heard anyone tell them that before.

By the way, I don’t remember giving you permission to post that picture of me. (hahaha)


Lance December 7, 2008 at 8:53 pm

@Stacey Shipman – Both of these – hearing “no” from others, and questioning ourselves – can really have a way of limiting us from achieving what is possible. One of these we have no control over (the “no” from others) while the other is completely within our control (questioning ourselves/abilities). And when we really work on that which we have control over – when we get to that point of really believing in ourselves – new doors of possibility can, and do, open! Getting there can take a lot of courage, especially if we’re still hearing the “no’s” from others. Being our best selves, and being seen as odd, different, arrogant… very true. So, it can be lonely. And yet, it’s still a fight worth fighting for – a chance worth taking – a life worth living! Really living…

@Avtcoach – In a message that’s heard all too often – “no” – being able to really accept “yes” is not easy. I say get rid of the 8 track, and record a new “yes” message for all your desire!!

@Maya – Nike really has done an excellent job of inspiring through their ads! And Stacey/Create A Balance made a great point about how we don’t need to believe the “no’s” we hear in our life – what matters is what we believe…

@Audra – I’ve just re-read this quote Audra – and I see exactly what you’re saying. When we’ve heard “no” so much that it doesn’t mean a thing to us. That we get to the point of where it doesn’t matter what others believe, it matters what we believe. I look forward to that too – the day when others views don’t need to change the way I’m planning to be the best “me” possible…

@Cathy in NZ – Thank you for sharing these very concrete examples of this Nike slogan of “no” in action. That is exactly what we hear. We shouldn’t because we’re too old, too young, not smart enough, don’t have enough money, don’t have enough experience, etc, etc. And yet, who are we not to live out our dreams, chase our rainbows, ride into our sunset? Indeed, that is exactly what we should do – no matter when in our life we decide it’s time to not listen to the “no’s”. And that’s another point, it doesn’t matter where we are at in our lives, we can turn these “no’s” from other into “yes’s” from us whenever we are ready to do that! I say today is a great day to start!! Thank you, Cathy, for sharing today with us…

@CG Walters – “Yes” IS the answer we need to give ourselves more often…

@Davina – Every no is another step toward yes, if we allow that to be the case. If we allow yes to enter our vocabulary. And that’s the key, that we see each no we hear as another opportunity for us to shout out our own yes’s!

@Angel – That is a very cool picture, and when I found it I just knew that’s what I wanted to use (I’ve always found the quote first in the past – this was different finding a picture that I really wanted to use first). So, you didn’t give me permission to use it?!?!?!? What was I thinking??? (Ha – you’re funny!!!!!). Being a trainer, part of your job has to be to encourage people, and to help them reach deep within themselves – how very cool to be able to do that for others. To give them the gift of “yes”! When we’re unsure of ourselves, a “no” from someone else can signal defeat. A “yes”, though, can be just the motivation needed to spur someone on – to find that ray of hope that is within…


Caroline December 7, 2008 at 11:02 pm

What a great ad! I need to say “yes” to myself more! I just love this message, very powerful.

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Ricardo Bueno December 8, 2008 at 1:35 am

I think I lucked out… Growing up, I was in “somewhat” of a negative environment. At least around school and the neighborhood anyway. My parents were ALWAYS encouraging. But teachers…not so much. At least not always. Sometimes cousins were negative (for whatever reason)…

Anyway, I somehow always managed to take that negativity in and turn it into the fuel that pushed me and motivated me forward. And that’s not always an easy thing to do…

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Blake December 8, 2008 at 1:36 am

great thought. Thank you!

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Evelyn Lim December 8, 2008 at 3:50 am

I just love Nike Ads!! I am a Nike fan! The quote that you have is very inspiring!! It’s time to say Yes to Life!

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Lance December 8, 2008 at 5:11 am

@Caroline – It is a great ad (and reminder) isn’t it! Here’s to saying “yes” more often!!

@Ricardo – It’s not easy, and I find that you come across as both very encouraging and motivating for others – you’ve done well Ricardo! And that’s a testament to you saying “yes”, even in the face of the many “no’s”. Very cool!

@Blake – Your welcome!

@Evelyn – I love their ads, too! They do very well at coming up with ads that inspire and motivate – and sell shoes! I’m with you, Evelyn, let’s all say “YES” to life!!


Kelly@SHE-POWER December 8, 2008 at 6:49 am

Who’d have thought an advertising department could churn out something meaningful. Thanks for sharing this Lance.



chris December 8, 2008 at 9:25 am

Sometimes hearing “NO” is a good thing, especially if you had to much to drink or you are too hooked on credit cards. However, when it comes to personal development, the only one one should listen to is one’s self.

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Jenny December 8, 2008 at 10:07 am

I wish I could ignore the No’s, especially the ones in my head! If anyone has a sure fire way to ignore one’s voices in their head, please let me know cuz I really need to start ignoring them and listening to the people who tell me I can do things!

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Mark December 8, 2008 at 10:49 am

Great feedback with so many valid points. You always get the wheels turning my friend! 🙂


Kim Woodbridge | (Anti) Social Development December 8, 2008 at 11:13 am

I’ve found the biggest person saying “No” has been myself. When I find myself doing that I ask myself what’s the worst that can happen. Usually it’s that everything will stay the same. Not so bad really.

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Jamie Simmerman December 8, 2008 at 11:35 am

That came from a Nike Ad! Amazing.

This is a good message for this time of year. So many are feeling discouraged and inadequate and unloved. Thanks Lance. 😉

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Stephen Hopson December 8, 2008 at 11:36 am

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had that happen to me! I just finished leaving a comment at another blog where I told of how my Dad used to tell me I couldn’t do this or that becuase of my deafness. He wasn’t the only one – lots of people have said the same thing, especially when it came to my dreams of becoming a pilot or starting my own business.

I’ve spent a lifetime trying to prove them wrong but I’ve gotten to the point in my life now where I no longer feel the need to do that.

Awesome reminder that even if people say no, you can still make your dreams come true – it’s just a matter of finding the right people with the right mindset and heart to join you in supporting your dreams.

You go my friend!

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rummuser December 8, 2008 at 11:44 am

As a Marketing man, I find this ad a fantastic one. Subtle, powerful and will sell the product.

That you find it inspiring is sufficient proof that it carries a subliminal message!

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Lance December 8, 2008 at 12:16 pm

@Kelly – Nike does a pretty great job in the advertising department!

@Chris – Ha! Drinks, credit cards, that extra piece of cake (oh,, wait…maybe that’s ok!) – sometimes “no” is a good thing! When it comes to “us”, though, really listening to ourselves is the key to achieving what we desire. Good to see you around here Chris!

@Jenny – Sometimes the “no’s” in our own heads are the hardest to ignore. And they are the ones that will definitely hold us back – we have to get over those – what other people say doesn’t matter at all if we’re still dealing with the doubts in our own head. I think we all have been her Jenny. Self-doubt is easy to let creep in, if we don’t actively work at dispelling it. The views of others can also influence our own thinking, leading to these “no’s” in our own minds. Sure fire way to ignore the voices in our head? I think it all depends on each person individually, and what works for them. For me, sometimes it’s just “doing”. Other times, though, that isn’t the answer. Having someone uplifting to bounce ideas off of is another great thing for me. My wife is great for this – while she is honest about what she says, she is also the first one to support and encourage me – and that type of support is priceless.

@Mark – Yes, the feedback is what really is making this quote come alive! So much good stuff being said!

@Kim – My exact thought when I read this quote too, Kim – I’m the biggest “no” in my life. Great way of looking at this Kim – at what the worst that can happen is – because usually that’s not nearly as bad as our mind might originally think…

@Jamie – I tend to think of the holidays as a time of much love. And yet, you bring up a point I hadn’t considered – that the holiday season for many is a tough time of year. And when inadequacy starts to sneak in – this is a great message to remember – that we all have so much possibility within us – we just need to say “yes” and let it out! A great message indeed, this time of year!

@Stephen – I think you epitomize what this quote is all about Stephen! You are a true example, thank you for sharing part of your story here. It’s a story of great hope for all of us, for what is possible if we really believe in ourselves. You, my friend, are at that point that Audra talked about above – reaching that point where the “no’s” of others are meaningless – what a great place to get to! And another great point you’ve shared – is in having a great support system to be with you along the way. While we can always say “yes” while others say “no”, having a few people in our corner never hurts! Thanks again, Stephen, for sharing your perspective here – it adds so much to the conversation…

@Rummuser – Nike did well, didn’t they! Not only does it work well to sell their products, the underlying message that it leaves us with is really a very profound one. And one worth thinking about…


Laurie December 8, 2008 at 12:26 pm

I know of a person who is blind. His mom is so great. She has never told him no, he couldn’t do something. Once he asked to drive. She took him out in her car and let him drive it. She would describe everything and which way to turn the wheel and he drove around. Now he said he wouldn’t want his sight if he could get it. Sadly the reason is because he doesn’t want to see the pain in the world. There is pain, but there is also so much beauty. I wouldn’t want to miss out on that.


Carla December 8, 2008 at 12:38 pm

We have been told “no” so many times that its more comfortable to believe that you cant (so why bother?). I am in the process of changing this around for myself. Unfortunately, its easier said than done.

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Natalia December 8, 2008 at 1:32 pm

Wow I needed to read that today! I’ve been having such a hard time with myself lately. Thanks for that thought. It’s just what I needed! The only difference is it’s me telling myself NO! I need to kick that self to the curb and tell myself Yes AND believe it!!!

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Mindful Mimi December 8, 2008 at 1:42 pm

Hi Lance,
As a kid I was always told ‘You can do this, you can do everything’. So the contrary of the Nike ad. I can tell you that as a kid and adolescent this other extreme is not always beneficial for growing up either. I at least got the feeling that since I could do everything, it was expected of me to succeed. So the fear of failure, or of not being good enough tends to creep up. And when you’re in puberty that’s not something you need on top of all the other insecurities.
I found myself saying ‘You can do everything’ to my boy (goes to show that we do copy our parents… like it or not). I will try to make sure not to instill too many expectations in him. But I guess no matter what we do as parents, our kids will reproach us everything (or most of it) when they’re older :-))

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Jenny Mannion December 8, 2008 at 3:58 pm

Thanks for another great quote Lance! Yes, we can do and be whatever we can imagine! I was lucky enough to have supportive parents — it was my own self limiting beliefs I had to overcome! 🙂 I truly believe ANYTHING is possible and am so happy I proved it to myself while my kids were young so I can teach them the message as well! Thank you Lance! Love, Jenny

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Urban Panther December 8, 2008 at 4:17 pm

@Liara and
@Lance – and some saplings snap in the wind from the constant battering. Sorry, I can’t buy into the ‘builds character’ philosophy of telling someone they can’t do something. Yes, we can all be motivated to do things ‘in spite of’ what others tell us. Me included. But when that happens, I don’t feel good about my accomplishment. I simply feel vindicated. However, do accomplish something knowing that family and friends have said “Ya! You can do this!” and I feel euphoric. And there is a far greater chance I will go on to repeat it, as opposed to the first instance, where it’s more of a one-shot I’ll show you deal.

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meleah rebeccah December 8, 2008 at 5:48 pm

You have NO IDEA how badly I needed to hear THAT. Thank you.

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Lance December 8, 2008 at 6:45 pm

@Laurie – That’s a pretty awesome story, Laurie! He’s growing up with physical limitations, and yet, sounds like he is more prepared to deal with the our world than most people. That is a wonderful gift his mother is instilling in him, the belief in himself, no matter what. Very cool!

@Carla – We hear “no” so much, we why even bother — when we reach that state, when we’ve heard “no” so much — that we believe we shouldn’t even bother – that is sad, and yet, true. Especially if we have a hard time even trying to believe in ourselves. So, that’s great Carla – that you’re turning these tables around in your life! It isn’t easy, yet, it is still so worth it. You’re worth it. The people you affect are worth it. You’re life is worth it!

@Natalia – My thought, exactly, as I read this the first time, Natalia. How often is the “they” in that quote really ourselves saying “no”. And that’s the first “yes” we need to get to. To believe in ourselves. Without that, the “no’s” from everyone else will drown out all our dreams. I wish you much success Natalia, in really getting to a true belief in “you” – YOU are worth it!

@Mindful Mimi – My take away from what you’ve written, Mimi – is that failure is good for us. Failure in the sense that we see that life is not always one success after another. I still believe that having others believe in us is a good thing. Maybe a realistic approach is to encourage our children, believe in them, and also let them know that life does throw us curve balls once in a while. And that it’s okay when that happens. I think that’s one of the real benefits of being on a sports team. Seeing the wins and the losses. Seeing that even though we may try our best, sometimes our best isn’t good enough to win the game – because someone else’s best was better that day. Now, about our kids as they become adolescents – everything we say is wrong anyway!!

@Jenny Mannion – Your welcome Jenny! Often, I think it is our own self-limiting belief in ourselves that holds us back. Couple that with hearing “no” from other people enough – and pretty soon we can easily fall into the trap of believing our dreams and desires really don’t matter at all. And yet, they most certainly do! ANYTHING is possible! And that will be a wonderful message you pass on to your children. Thank you, Jenny, for sharing how this has had an effect on your life, and how it’s also a message we can pass on to our own children!

@Urban Panther – You bring up a very excellent point Panther. The idea of, when we’re not nurtured, not encouraged, some of us will break. Of course, for every person, how we deal with this is different. And I agree with you completely – the euphoric feeling when we accomplish something, that for us individually, is big – being able to have others share in that moment is really such an important piece of the puzzle. Having people that believe in us can be such a huge thing, especially if our own beliefs start to slip (think the saplings snapping in the wind – because no one is there to help them). On the other hand, being able to overcome, to believe in ourselves when no one else does – that can be very important too. Hopefully this doesn’t happen, yet when it does – this is really the time when believing in ourselves is so important. Although, in the end, having others behind is makes the ride so much better… Urban Panther, thank you for stepping out and sharing that viewpoint.

@Meleah – I’m really glad this was here for you today Meleah. I think that our world works in mysterious ways sometimes, placing things/people/events in our midst at just the moment we need them…


Marelisa December 8, 2008 at 8:03 pm

Hi Lance: Life is a mind game. You have to believe in yourself and your abilities despite naysayers. This Nike ad is a great way to remember that.


Jewel/Pink Ink December 9, 2008 at 10:09 am

I have to stop MYSELF from doing this disservice.

Thanks for the reminder, Lance. Btw, I nominated you for an award 🙂


Tammy Warren December 9, 2008 at 12:41 pm

I guess in a selfish way my first thought when I read this was “NOT ME.” I guess my problem is not that people tell me what I can and can’t achieve it is the circumstances that tell me what I can and can’t achieve. I have conquered one, I just need to work on the other.

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Squawkfox December 9, 2008 at 2:53 pm

Good old Nike. 😀

When I signed up to do my first Ironman in 2004, my family and many of my friends said I could not do it. “No way is that possible,” they said. Ignoring them, I trained and believed completing Ironman was possible…if only I wanted it bad enough. I wanted it, bad. Since 2004, I’ve done Ironman twice. 🙂 Turns out running a marathon after a 180KM bike ride and a 4KM swim is totally doable.

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Lance December 9, 2008 at 9:38 pm

@Marelisa – “Life is a mind game” – yes, it is!! If we can just convince our own mind…

@Jewel – I think we all have opportunities to stop ourselves – recognizing the “no” in our heads. Do we? Do we stop ourselves? Not enough. I really like how you’ve said this Jewel – thank you. And, I’m off to see what you’ve given me – my guess is you’ve been too kind to me – so THANK YOU, once again!!

@Tammy – Ah, circumstances. What an excellent point, Tammy. Sometimes it’s circumstances that we let stop us. I think of things like – I need to do “x” for my kids, so I can’t do “y” for myself. Or, we need a new roof on our house this year, so my plans to do “y” get put on hold. Etc, etc, etc. – there can always be a circumstance if we really look hard enough – so there can always be an excuse to choose “no”. This is very good Tammy – because I think this one does come up very often for people – you’ve really hit upon something here. And this one can be just as hard, if not harder, to overcome than all the people out there telling us “no”…

@Squawkfox – An Ironman, that is completely awesome!! I’ve done sprint triathlons, so I know how difficult this can be – and yet know that it is achievable. I never thought I’d be able to swim a 1/4 mile – and, while it’s still difficult, I CAN do it! Because I believed in myself. That you’ve done an Ironman – another example of what one person thinks is not doable – is! And, I love your last sentence here – about a marathon being totally doable after the bike and swim – very cool and positive and uplifting!! I want to know more about your triathlon adventures!!


miruspeg December 13, 2008 at 7:00 pm

Hello Lance
I’ve been reading your comments on different blogs and thought it was about time I dropped in and read your blog.
What a wonderful, insight, caring, inspirational blog you have.

Regarding this post I hope we have learnt how damaging the word ‘NO’, ‘CANNOT’, ‘NOT’ can be planted in our subconscious and takes an eternity to remove.
Let us teach our children, our friend’s children, all children the words….YES YOU CAN.
And let us teach ourselves and each other the same.
I am going to enjoy getting to know you Lance.
Kind regards

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Lance December 13, 2008 at 10:02 pm

@miruspeg – Thank you so much for your kind words Peggy! “NO” can be a very powerful word, and can debilitate us, if we let it. It’s also important to remember that we can say “YES” – even though this can be hard to do sometimes. Teaching our kids that they “can” – what a great message to pass on to them! Or, really – to pass on to anyone! Thanks for visiting today Peggy…


Klaus January 3, 2009 at 3:00 am

Thanks for using my photo here, you choosed a good text for the picture 🙂

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