Sunday Thought For The Day

by Lance Ekum on · 65 comments

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"I have never met a person whose greatest need was anything other than real, unconditional love. You can find it in a simple act of kindness toward someone who needs help. There is no mistaking love. You feel it in your heart. It is the common fiber of life, the flame of that heats our soul, energizes our spirit and supplies passion to our lives. It is our connection to God and to each other." ~ Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

Lance writes stories from his heart, aiming to inspire and motivate, as you align more fully with YOUR true peak. When he's not here, you can find him hanging out with his family, riding a bike, or just generally acting goofy.   Sign up for the Thoughts from the Treehouse newsletter and get additional inspiration in your email inbox!
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Henie August 30, 2009 at 2:27 am

Hi Lance…

Ahh yes, love… It cannot be denied nor can it be fabricated.
It consumes yet it eludes…love is the breath of our soul.
.-= Henie´s Last Fabulous Post ..My Last Day =-.


Hilary August 30, 2009 at 2:28 am

Hi Lance – absolutely the right fantastic soft message for a Sunday. To just be absorbed with that person in that time with love, the protection and care it offers, the overarching feel of unconditionality as Elizabeth says .. fantastic .. a message for today.

Thanks for reminding us …
Hilary Melton-Butcher
Positive Letters Inspirational Stories
.-= Hilary´s Last Fabulous Post ..Hounslow Heath, Powder Mills, Flying Machines … =-.


Jodi at Joy Discovered August 30, 2009 at 2:28 am

So true…to be loved unconditionally, to be validated, to feel that you are enough, that you are someone’s everything, to feel connected; this is our greatest need, and the greatest measure of a life fulfilled… Beautiful quote, as always, Lance! You continue to bring awe and inspiration to my Sundays!
.-= Jodi at Joy Discovered´s Last Fabulous Post ..The Inner Voice vs. The Voice in Our Head =-.


Suzie Cheel August 30, 2009 at 2:34 am

Thank you, Today I listened to Brad Yates on EFT and learning to really love yourself, then I saw your tweet and came on over.
How true there is no mistaking love you feel it in your heart,
When we learn to love ourself then that unconditional love just flows
For sharing
.-= Suzie Cheel´s Last Fabulous Post ..Michael Losier and the Law of Attraction =-.


Lisis August 30, 2009 at 2:44 am

Love truly IS what connects us… what makes all the differences melt away. It is the common denominator among us, and the reason we should always practice compassion towards others.

But you, of course, know that. 🙂
.-= Lisis´s Last Fabulous Post ..Inspiration from Ralph Waldo Emerson: A New Day =-.


aclambart August 30, 2009 at 3:23 am

I am the recipient of unconditional love every day and the sender of this love is my Children.
It doesn’t matter to them, what I look like, if I mess up or don’t always live up to expectations! They love me anyway, just because…….. I found this quite shocking in their early years because I had never experienced unconditional love before.
My family had always offered me love but it was always conditional!
Then there are those random acts of love that appear to come out of no where and from the least likely candidate’s.
Real unconditional Love, always refreshes my soul and swells my heart, making it beat stronger.


Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord August 30, 2009 at 3:50 am

When I first met the person I’m involved in a relationship with now, he was just a friend. Then he went overseas for a year and we corresponded regularly. During that time, we developed a bond, and when he came home to my great surprise, my heart started feeling funny every time we were together. My head didn’t know what to make of it, since it never (NEVER!) would have put us together. My heart, though… Well it just knew. I could actually feel sensations in my heart chakra for hours after doing something as innocuous with him as having dinner or coffee. After a couple of weeks, I told him about my tingly, funny heart which seemed to get excited by his presence, words, thoughts of him, and lo and behold he was having the same experience!
We realized at that moment that we shared a real and true love, which neither of us had ever had before – let alone felt.
Unconditional love is most definitely a palpable feeling, and connects all humans at the very essence of who we are.
I loved reading this, Lance; thank you for giving me the chance to relive a moment in my life I cherish.
.-= Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s Last Fabulous Post ..What Do You Know About Love? =-.


Yira August 30, 2009 at 4:55 am

Ahhhh… what a refreshing message about the real human need. Excellent Sunday thought Lance. I tell you, I am one of those people who loves to hear those three little words but they have to have meaning. I’m not fond of the “I love you” that sounds like your talking about chocolate cake or riding roller coasters but the kind that looks you in the eye, touches your heart, reaches deep inside your soul and shuffles everything around in there, that kind. Some of my favorite moments with my kids are when they come out of no where and for no reason give me a hug and say “I love you mommy” — the truest love of all.

Megan – Your love story is beautiful, touching.
.-= Yira´s Last Fabulous Post ..Sbbath Moments – finding the peace within =-.


Jannie Funster August 30, 2009 at 5:27 am

This hits the nail of life right on the head, Lance.

A passing stranger on the street.
Foreigners we may never meet.
Every dog and cat and bug.
Everyone deserves our love.

( I just made that up, tee hee.)

Okay, I admit I have to work on the whole mosquito thing. Let’s just say I love ME too much to let those critters feast on the blood I’m saving up for my twice-yearly donations to strangers I also love.

Okay, okay — I give the blood for the free cake and cookies, I admit it. And sometimes they even give me strawberry shortcake. No beer tho, what’s up with that? 😉
.-= Jannie Funster´s Last Fabulous Post ..Yes, Kids Do Say The Darndest Things =-.


Jeanne August 30, 2009 at 6:01 am

We are all born with a great need to be loved and never ever outgrow it.
I love your quotes and pictures.
Blessings Lance
.-= Jeanne´s Last Fabulous Post ..Slow roasted plum tomato sauce =-.


Zeenat{Positive Provocations} August 30, 2009 at 6:02 am

HI Lance,
What a superb Sunday thought! Absolutely Divine…cause you have managed to highlight the most divine of emotions-LOVE. The one emotion that binds us all in the physical and the soul plane. The one emotion that can truly move mountains. The one and only connection we need with our Maker.
Thank you for this wonderful Sunday Gift. 🙂
.-= Zeenat{Positive Provocations}´s Last Fabulous Post ..Peace&Happiness{Inspirational Quote of the Week} =-.


Joanna August 30, 2009 at 6:30 am

I know this kind of love as I am surrounded by family and friends that just love me back anyway. Thanks you, Lance, for the reminder.
.-= Joanna´s Last Fabulous Post ..Sunday School =-.


Lance August 30, 2009 at 6:30 am

@Henie – Hi Henie. Love…it’s our deep need, isn’t it. And real love – romantic, compassionate, caring – it is not something we that can be made up. When that love comes from deep with our heart, it is the “breath of our soul”…so beautifully said, my friend…

@Hilary – Hi Hilary. Yes, a wonderful message for a Sunday…and really for any day. Love does offer a deep level of protection for us, and for those touched by our love.

@Jodi – We’re all at different spots on our journey. That’s what I think about when reading your comment, Jodi. And that’s just fine. We are all doing the best we can, with what we have. And when we feel that love, especially unconditional love, it is validation that we’re perfectly okay with where we’re at on that journey. I really love this thought of validation, of how love does makes us feel accepted at where we’re at. So good for all of us, to fully experience this – on both the giving and receiving ends. Jodi, thank you for being here, you insight gives me much hope for our world…

@Suzie – Suzie, you touch upon such an important part of all of this. The idea of loving ourselves first, and once we can truly do this, then that connects much more with unconditional love. I think this is so true, that to love we have to also love the person we are – flaws and all. And being there, such a great place to reach!

@Lisis – Differences. Ah, yes. No two of us are exactly the same. We’re all unique beings. And when we deeply connect through love, the differences are just that – what makes us each unique and wonderful. Getting to that spot of compassion, so good…for everyone. Thanks much, Lisis…

@aclambart – What I find interesting is that I would typically think of a parent giving unconditional love to our children. Yet, you bring up such a wonderful thought. Children seem to have a much purer concept of love. It matters not what we look like, what we’ve done in the past, how we “messed up” today, how much money we make, etc, etc. What matters is that we’re there. And you can really feel the love in their eyes, and in their embrace. And that is real and unconditional love. And it’s a love that’s done right. And that is indeed refreshing to the soul… Wonderful, wonderful thoughts today, thank you…

@Megan – Megan, thank you so much for sharing this very personal story of love in your life. It’s not what the head thinks that matters when it comes to love, is it. It’s our heart, and if we can accept what it’s saying, and not be distracted by our mind, the love from this place, our heart, is true and right. Megan, know that I’m so happy for you, and for this love your feeling in your life. So, so wonderful!

@Yira – Love that’s spoken from the heart…not just spoken. It can be easy to pay lip service to these three words – “I love you” – when they are spoken with meaning, when the come from within, we can tell. And sometimes it’s different words – like a “thank you” – also that can come from that spot deep within – and it just conveys the love that is felt. So much more connecting and real than just saying these words because “we’re supposed to”. And what a sweet moment…when this comes out of the blue, unexpected, and heartfelt. Terie, a wonderful thought today on how much these words can mean.

@Jannie – And Jannie, your poetic wonders today are so good for this quote! Mosquitoes, you don’t love them?? Okay, I don’t either! Don’t scratch too much…enjoy the cake…and who knows, maybe the beer is there somewhere…keep looking! (and your humor, mixed with your awesome sweetness – is so good…thanks for being here)

@Jeanne – So true, Jeanne. That need to be loved, no matter who we are, is not something that ever leaves us. Everyone…connects with love. Thanks much….

@Zeenat – Hi Zeenat. Thanks so much. Love…an emotion, a feeling – we all have. And yes, this is what can “move mountains”. And it can, because when there’s love behind it, nothing is too much. And it’s all worth it. And it does connect us – our own physical experiences with that of our deep soul needs. Especially when we allow that connection to blossom… Wonderful thoughts, Zeenat…


Lynn August 30, 2009 at 7:07 am

Wonderful thought today – and the key is “unconditional” love. It is there for all of us and it is true that we all need that. Thank you, Lance.
.-= Lynn´s Last Fabulous Post ..Ramble, scentful and funky space =-.


Karen August 30, 2009 at 7:15 am

This is a great quote, but one thing about it bothers me . “You feel it in your heart.” Unconditional love is about loving people at all times, even when you don’t feel like it or when we think they don’t “deserve” it. Love is so much more than a feeling. I still think it’s a great quote though.
.-= Karen´s Last Fabulous Post ..Journey to Africa and Beyond Part 5 =-.


John August 30, 2009 at 7:32 am

Unconditional love, huh? (Sorry to sound like a skeptic, I’m really not) Maybe I’m just too young and inexperienced to realize that love that connects us all. At our house, it just feels like a sense of duty to protect and nurture one another … and maybe that’s what love is.

Nonetheless, great quote Lance.
.-= John´s Last Fabulous Post ..Are You Ready to Cease Living as a Conformist? =-.


Natalia Burleson August 30, 2009 at 7:41 am

To be loved unconditionally! I hope that my son grows up feeling that he is!
.-= Natalia Burleson´s Last Fabulous Post ..Smoothies! =-.


Tom Volkar / Delightful Work August 30, 2009 at 7:42 am

Love is the higher energy choice and intention that allows unconditional regard and acceptance to flourish. I think it’s more easily given freely by first loving oneself that way.
.-= Tom Volkar / Delightful Work´s Last Fabulous Post ..Ring The Authentic Bell And Win The Big Prize =-.


Hilda August 30, 2009 at 8:19 am

Amen, Lance 🙂


Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker August 30, 2009 at 9:49 am

The most awesome feeling that I have ever experienced is when I hold a child (It happens with all children.) and feel the love start to flow from my heart to theirs. That is, sadly, the only time that I am aware of my heart being wide open. Those are the most pleasureable moments that I have ever experienced. The above picture and quote reminded me of that. Thanks.
.-= Patricia – Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker´s Last Fabulous Post ..Out Of My Comfort Zone—A New Al-Anon Sponsor =-.


Positively Present August 30, 2009 at 9:52 am

Great quote! Today was the first day of my Sunday quote day so thank you so much for the inspiration! 🙂
.-= Positively Present´s Last Fabulous Post ..words to live by: moments to take your breath away =-.


suzen August 30, 2009 at 10:28 am

Precious, Lance! Love One Another. We all need it. We are all capable of giving it. Yet we create barriers to prohibit it, especially globally. Thank you for reminding all of us about love! I am going to look for people today that I can hug!
.-= suzen´s Last Fabulous Post ..Floating for a Moment =-.


Yum Yucky August 30, 2009 at 10:35 am

The unconditional love of the Lord lifts me, carries me, reassures and comforts me, brings me peace, makes me smiles…and that’s just for starters. Jesus is my everything.
.-= Yum Yucky´s Last Fabulous Post ..Sunday Buffet: Beckham vs. Health-hater Husband =-.


LisaNewton August 30, 2009 at 11:53 am

It is the basis of everything we are. Thanks for the reminder, Lance. 🙂
.-= LisaNewton´s Last Fabulous Post ..Brown’s Park in Laguna Beach =-.


Caroline August 30, 2009 at 12:11 pm

So beautiful Lance! Unconditional love brings beauty and light in this world. Without it, what emptiness we would feel. Thank you for this today.


Nadia - Happy Lotus August 30, 2009 at 12:48 pm

Hi Lance,

Unconditional love is the only way to love. I have known many people who say they love but their love is full of conditions. Actually, I think many people experience conditional love. However, the experience of unconditional love is unlike any other. It is my hope that everyone gets to experience such love. 🙂
.-= Nadia – Happy Lotus´s Last Fabulous Post ..In Memory of U.S. Senator Edward M. Kennedy =-.


Nathalie Lussier August 30, 2009 at 12:54 pm

“There is no mistaking love.” My favorite part! What a great reminder, and it’s something we need to focus on a bit more. Thanks for an uplifting Sunday thought, once again. 🙂
.-= Nathalie Lussier´s Last Fabulous Post ..Happy Virgo Birthday Moving Sale =-.


Caity August 30, 2009 at 1:51 pm

Oh, absolutely beautiful. I think this week I am going to make a special effort to try and create more acts of kindness toward others as well as try and recognize the ones around me. I think it is important to really try and recognize and appreciate kindness and love. Thank you for showing us and reminding us to do that. Lovely thought for this Sunday.
.-= Caity´s Last Fabulous Post ..I’ve cured my lazy weekends. =-.


Lance August 30, 2009 at 2:04 pm

@Joanna – And isn’t that wonderful when you feel that kind of love…”love anyway”. That doesn’t mean that there won’t be moments where we get mad at each other, or disagree. What it does mean is that despite this, we still love that person. That it doesn’t change our deep inner feelings for that person. And that’s such a comforting place to be…

@Lynn – The word “unconditional” is really the key here, isn’t it. That’s love that says love is always there no matter what. It’s not conditional upon something else. It’s always there…

@Karen – Karen, thanks so much – and you bring up a great thought. Unconditional really says “always and no matter what”. And you’re right, there can easily be times where it can feel hard to keep on loving someone who has such special meaning to us. And we may not feel like keeping on loving. I wonder, if really deep within our heart, or maybe really within our soul – that’s where that love still resides. And that’s a place we have to dig deeper to reach in those “challenging” moments in life. Thanks so much for this, and for really looking at how unconditional love works in the most challenging of times.

@John – John, know that there is love out there that doesn’t have to feel like it’s “your duty”. Those are people that care, I’m sure. But I question how deep that love is. Unconditional love comes from deep within our being, and it’s something that really says “you’re worth fighting for”…no matter what. And there is something very connecting about this love, bringing people together and connected at much more than the surface, really at the heart…

@Natalia – And Natalia, while I can’t speak for how he’ll grow up, what I do know is that as a parent all we can do is show what love is. Kids learn so much from what they see. And I know you’re doing that, and that’s giving him the building blocks to a life filled with love…

@Tom – Yes, I believe, very much, you’re right. When we can love ourselves unconditionally, then it’s so much easier to share that unconditional love with others that have special meaning to us.

@Hilda – Thanks much, Hilda.

@Patricia – Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker — I think there’s something very special about a child’s love – love that is pure and accepting. And that makes our connection with children so strong – it’s a bond and a feeling of truly what unconditional feels like. Can we get it from others besides children? I believe we can – and I also believe this can be a harder love to achieve – because we’re opening our heart up, and not knowing what the outcome will be. And that can hurt, sometimes. Such a great point, and one for all of us to remember. We all have the chance to love unconditionally, and I think that the more open we can be – the more others will love us unconditionally as well. Or at least bring us closer to that spot. Am I a dreamer? I hope not. I hope very much that unconditional love continues to grow with every person I meet. Will it? Probably not, but hopefully I’m getting closer with every step my life takes… Thanks for being here today, Patricia, and sharing from your experiences.


Liara Covert August 30, 2009 at 2:14 pm

Love is the invisible connection that brings everyone to transform and merge mentally, physically, emotionally and on other levels. You do not have to know how this happens to feel the joy that results from renewing trust in higher levels of vibratory reality. Love is symbolic. It empowers you to focus on the right thoughts, images, understanding and dissolves all else.
.-= Liara Covert´s Last Fabulous Post ..How soul love guides you =-.


Audra Krell August 30, 2009 at 2:34 pm

Hi Lance! I’ve enjoyed the comments today almost as much as the quote! From someone wanting free beer for donating blood, to Megan’s beautiful love story. And then yum yucky’s comment, yes! He is my all in all too.
To be known, really known with all our scars, mistakes and ugliness as well as beauty, that is unconditional love and our deepest desire. I believe we will reap what we sow, so this has reminded me to love someone in need.
Thanks Lance!
.-= Audra Krell´s Last Fabulous Post ..Cyberchondria =-.


Lance August 30, 2009 at 2:47 pm

@Positively Present – Thanks Dani! And you’re doing some amazing things on your site, and I love the addition of your Sunday “words to Live By”. Wonderful to read and think about.

@Suzen – We do create borders. And some of them make no sense. Skin color. Gender. Sexual orientation. Age. Where you live. Financial status. Why should any of these matter in love? Love is something much deeper, beyond all of this. It takes us to our core, especially unconditional love. And when we can reach that spot, what a beautiful place to be. Sending you a hug today, my friend…

@Yum Yucky – Josie, what you’re talking about is so spiritual. And that is really where love comes from. That’s our soul, and no matter who or what we believe in, if we can connect with that at a deep level, we’re at that spot where unconditional love for us has been given. it’s so good to read this today, and I’m moved by what you’re saying.

@LisaNewton – Love comes from deep within, and finding that love and sharing it with others is so powerfully connecting…

@Caroline – Caroline, it’s so good to have you here today. I love this word “light” that you’ve use here. Love is like a light shining from us, when we really and deeply connect and share that love. And that’s a fullness that comes over us, filled with the light from others, we can share that light more easily with others. And that’s a beautiful thing…

@Nadia – Hi Nadia. Ah yes, the “conditions” we place on love. How prevalent that is, and it makes me think about myself and where I fall on that continuum. Do I place conditions on those I love? And if I do – why? Nadia, you’ve given me a lot to think about. I’d like to think that I share unconditional love, especially with those closest to me. The honest answer is, I don’t know… Thanks so, so much for this thought today, my friend.

@Nathalie – Hi Nathalie. Love…even if we can’t always see it with our eyes, we can feel it with our heart. And that’s the wonderful and awesome thing about love – how it goes beyond the outer surface, and connects with something much deeper in us. And that sure is uplifting!

@Caity – Hi Caity. Creating more acts of kindness, what a great way to spread a love in our world. And the thing is, the more we do this, the more it comes back to us. Love given, leads to love given back. And that’s not to say that everything we do will be returned with the same love – it won’t. But this love that we give, it will connect with people – some right away, others maybe later. And that’s a wonderful thing – how love softens another’s heart. Caity, you’ll do well as you go out and spread some extra kindness…and know I’ll be thinking of you as you spread love into our world!

@Liara – “…invisible connection”…what a wonderful thought! And connecting on all levels, love is a beautiful thing. And a part of this is trusting in what love means, and trusting in ourselves to accept this beautiful connection in our lives.

@Audra – Hi Audra. Yes, aren’t the comments wonderful and so filled with love! And I know the source of unconditional love in your life, as well, and that’s such a wonderful and beautiful connection with our amazing God. “Reap what we sow” – Audra, that’s so good to read. And something I too believe very much. To get love, we must be willing to give love. And that’s in spite of all the scars, all the hurts, all of it – that might keep us from feeling like love is there. Love is. Amazing. And you are too, Audra. Thanks so much for the beautiful thoughts today.


Marelisa August 30, 2009 at 3:35 pm

Hi Lance: I think this quote is a great reminder that we need to be kinder to each other and to ourselves. There are a lot of well-fed, well-dressed people out there who are starving for love, and that’s where a lot of the world’s conflict comes from.
.-= Marelisa´s Last Fabulous Post ..Creativity Collage =-.


Sami - Life, Laughs & Lemmings August 30, 2009 at 3:39 pm

Hey Lance, love is often the answer to everything. MORE love equals LESS war, crime, violence, suicide, fear, hate, intolerance, self doubt, pain and a multitude of other things. On that note, lots of love to you my friend!
.-= Sami – Life, Laughs & Lemmings´s Last Fabulous Post ..Friday Question – A Repeat Experience =-.


Karl Staib - Work Happy Now August 30, 2009 at 3:49 pm

“All you need is love.” – John Lennon.

One of my favorite songs of all time. And in love you have compassion, empathy, joy, spirituality, family, friends, and so much more. It’s maybe the most underused emotion to really keep ourselves grounded when life feels frustrating.
.-= Karl Staib – Work Happy Now´s Last Fabulous Post ..What Do You Think of These Videos? =-.


Tess Marshall The Bold Life August 30, 2009 at 3:49 pm

Love is overcoming fear. When withold love we’re afraid of intimacy of being vulnerable of being transparent. Choosing love over fear strengthens relationships. Isn’t that what we all want?
.-= Tess Marshall The Bold Life´s Last Fabulous Post ..What Really Matters? =-.


Daphne @ Joyful Days August 30, 2009 at 8:11 pm


‘Real’ love reminds me of a song:

Let love be real in giving and receiving,
Without the need to manage and to own;
A haven free from posing and pretending,
Where every weakness may be safely known.

Let love be real, not grasping or confining;
That strange embrace that holds yet sets us free,
That helps us face the risk of truly living,
And makes us brave to be what we might be.

I love this song, because it describes what REAL love is – a paradox, a challenge, and what we all need. Beautiful quote, Lance.
.-= Daphne @ Joyful Days´s Last Fabulous Post ..My Baby Turns One =-.


Patricia August 30, 2009 at 9:47 pm

“Love is the opening door, Love is what we came here for…” I can not remember the song but that popped into my head, along with Mother Theresa’s quote “There is bread enough in the world, what is lacking is love and appreciation.”

I have empathy with people’s emotions a few minutes after being with them – often, not always- I rarely pick up love. It is always hiding under many protective layers.
.-= Patricia´s Last Fabulous Post ..Some More Sand in the City Pictures – 2009 =-.


Deb August 30, 2009 at 10:22 pm

Lance –
Seriously…you are one of the most ‘selfless’ bloggers out there…and I just wanted you to know I admire not only your content…but your high standards of living, blogging and being on this earth…
you wouldn’t happen to be that guy in the Dos Equis commericals – the Most Interesting Man in the World? You know…stay thirsty my friend!?
.-= Deb´s Last Fabulous Post ..Go Big or Go Home! =-.


Carla August 31, 2009 at 2:05 am

Its sounds like a cliche, but love does conquer all. I don’t think I’ve read that quote before but its right on. Love is a basic human need besides what we need to sustain our physical life and health. But unlike water, food, and shelter, we often forget we need to give and receive love so as well.
.-= Carla´s Last Fabulous Post ..Brave, Stupid or Both? =-.


Barbara Swafford August 31, 2009 at 3:01 am

Hi Lance,

Such a beautiful quote to start the week off with. It’s a great reminder that others don’t necessarily want material gifts, but the gift of our presence instead.

P.S. The expression on the little girl’s face is precious. She feels the love. 🙂
.-= Barbara Swafford´s Last Fabulous Post ..Is Blogging Fullfilling Your Objective =-.


J.D. Meier August 31, 2009 at 3:11 am

Unconditional love really does cut right to the chase. It’s a firm foundation.
.-= J.D. Meier´s Last Fabulous Post ..Cell That Read Minds =-.


Lance August 31, 2009 at 4:38 am

@Marelisa – Hi Mare. This point you make is one that is so grabbing. What’s on the outside, may not at all represent what’s on the inside. We put up facades sometimes to hide the hurt – our deep need for love. Fancy clothes, a new car, expensive restaurants – none of this can replace our need to be deeply loved – as much as we might try sometimes. So good to think about this, thanks Mare.

@Sami – So, whenever I’m struggling to find an answer, I should look to love? I really believe you’re onto something here! Love is the answer. Such a powerfully beautiful thought. So, Sami, thank you for sending love my way. I’m blessed to have your friendship. Very blessed. And I’ve taken that love in, and now I’m sending it back out – to you! Know that you are loved, Sami…

@Karl – A great song!! And you’re touching upon something here – this idea that love is a way underused emotion. I couldn’t agree more. And that’s not saying that I”m perfect at this, or that I always get what this means. I don’t. I, all too often, drop the “love emotion”, in deference to something else. Something that feels less vulnerable. And yet, love is all there is… So much to think about there…

@Tess – Overcoming fear…I love that thought, Tess! It’s easy to let fear grab hold of us. Yet, what we really have is a lack of love – maybe for ourselves, maybe for what we’re doing, maybe for those around us. When we allow that love to come over us, these fears do start to melt away…

@Daphne – Hi Daphne. Thanks so much for sharing the lyrics to this song. Those words really touch upon my heart this morning. Especially the word “real” and what that means in the context of love. Embracing us and setting us free…very deep words… Love is there for all of us, and it starts with each of us embracing the love for ourselves…

@Patricia – Protective layers. Yes. What a great point. Not wanting to feel vulnerable, we hide that love under layers, so that no one can see it. Why? We think we’re protecting our fragile ego, when we’re really only hurting a spot deep within us…our own soul. Love. Let it out. (so easy to say, not so easy to do…)

@Deb – Deb, I’m not sure how to fully express the deep gratitude I have for your comment today. Know that there are days when I waver, when I question what I’m doing here in this space. Reading your words reminds me of the real answer to these doubts, when they arise. Love. And connection. And okay, I know that guy from the commercials – no I’m not him! (ha!!). And I do remain thirsty…for life and all if offers! Thank you, so much, for your kind and caring words…

@Carla – Love as a basic human need. Yes! Basic and deep within our souls. So, it’s something that when we recieve it, it replenishes us, feeds us at such a deep level of our being. It touches to the core of who we are. And when we give that love back out, it just continues to build in us – such a wonderful concept, giving it away to receive even more. And how wonderful is that!

@Barbara – Material gifts mask that deeper want we all have – the wanting to be loved and cared for. If we can give that gift, then we are giving something that is lasting, precious, and beautiful. What an amazing gift to give! And yes, the little girl in the picture…she is showing just what it deeply feels like to receive unconditional love…

@J.D. Meier – With unconditional love as our foundation, how can we go wrong? That’s a foundation that’s built to last…


Stacey Shipman August 31, 2009 at 6:15 am

This sentiment has been on my mind a lot lately as I think about what truly matters in my life and the garbage I let clog my being sometimes. Love and people. I truly believe that if we are surrounded by people who love us, no matter who they are, then everything else in our lives WILL be ok, no matter how high we climb or how low we fall. Love, people, kindness, appreciation, that’s all we need.
.-= Stacey Shipman´s Last Fabulous Post ..Food for Thought Friday: Lessons in Truth from a 7 Year Old =-.


Mindful Mimi August 31, 2009 at 6:56 am

Love and happiness, the ultimate wish and goal.
You can only give it. And when you give you will receive. You can not ask, or demand. And wishing for it doesn’t bring it either. It is the greatest feeling of all.
What a big thought! Wish you lots of it!
.-= Mindful Mimi´s Last Fabulous Post ..Sunday laugh =-.


Laurie August 31, 2009 at 7:56 am

Unconditional love….that’s a hard one. You may disagree with me Lance (and I secretly hope you do) but I believe mothers can give unconditional love to their children but I’m not so sure fathers can. I think there is some stronger bond created those 9 months of gestation that fathers can’t experience that amps it up for mothers. I have seen many fathers dis-own their child while the mother refuses to. But unconditional love is the goal. Love your neighbor as yourself.

God, thank God (pun intended) that his love is so unconditional. Since God is love I guess that goes without saying. The challenge is, to believe it and to give it back. We live in a fallen world where bad things happen to good people. Many things that bring us pain, we just don’t understand how a God who loves us unconditionally, will allow. But he does. He allows us to make choices because to do that, it allows us the freedom to give him unconditional love. Forced love is no love and God doesn’t want robots. He wants our hearts. One thing I have learned over the years as I traveled some very difficult roads, is that God is true to his promises. He will never leave you nor forsake you and he will take that hurtful, horrible, hellish experience and use it for good some how, some way. Why? Because his love IS unconditional.


Diane, Fit to the Finish August 31, 2009 at 8:16 am

As a Mom to seven beautiful children, a sister, a wife, a daughter – I love this picture. The emotions it conveys are boundless, and covers us with feelings of warmth and security.
.-= Diane, Fit to the Finish´s Last Fabulous Post ..The Closet Eater =-.


Lisa's Chaos August 31, 2009 at 10:06 am

How true, how true, I know as a child I always felt lacking, that the love came with strings and I strived to give my children that unconditional love and I see them as adults now, and thriving! The best medicine in the world!
.-= Lisa’s Chaos´s Last Fabulous Post ..Macro Monday Rings =-.


Mama Zen August 31, 2009 at 10:31 am

.-= Mama Zen´s Last Fabulous Post ..Review: Mom’s Homeroom =-.


Srinivas Rao August 31, 2009 at 11:11 am

Hi Lance,

This was a very inspiring thought for the day. It’s so true that nothing can quite make us feel the way we feel when we receive unconditional love.
.-= Srinivas Rao´s Last Fabulous Post ..Find an Outlet =-.


Lance August 31, 2009 at 12:28 pm

@Stacey Shipman – Hey, I have some of that garbage too… And it gets in the way of what really matters. There’s something about a strong bond with another human being, whether that’s family or not – that can really make life “okay”. And I’m not saying that if you don’t have that, then life’s not okay. It’s just that when you do develop that connection with another person – it’s like there’s a new dimension to life and what is possible. The idea that this can be be anybody is so important – stature is not what’s important here. It’s really someone who is willing to love and accept us the way we are…

@Mimi – Hi Mimi. Or said another way – you get what you give. So, it’s starts with giving. Giving our unconditional love to others, and this will in turn bring that love to us – probably in much greater amounts than we’ve given out. And that’s a pretty wonderful thought. The more of our love we give out, the more we’ll get back to us. And Mimi, I wish for you also, lots of love. I know by some of the things you’re working on, you give much…

@Laurie – I do think mothers probably typically have a stronger bond with their children than their father. Is that always the case? Probably not. Although I do think it is typically the case. Where do I stand on that? I do love my children unconditionally (they don’t always see it that way…). However, even though I love them more than anything, I’m not sure that my love for them surpasses, or even equals that of my wife’s love for the kids. So – I’m basically agreeing with you, and that’s probably not the answer you wanted. God does show the ultimate in unconditional love, and it’s a gift I’m so glad to have. Thanks much, Laurie, for the thoughts here today…

@Diane – Yes, this image really spoke to me as it really seemed to convey a deep sense of love, and as well, a deep sense of safety and assurance in those arms of love. And that’s a pretty great place to be.

@Lisa’s Chaos – And you bring up a great point. Even if we haven’t felt that same experience of love in our lives – unconditional and never wavering – that doesn’t mean that we can’t reverse that experience and offer to those in our life the wonderul gift that a deep unconditional love gives. You’ve done well to give your grown children root deep in love. And that is medicine for the soul…

@Mama Zen – Thank you!

@Srinivas – Hi Srinivas. I think the feeling from unconditional love is one of safety and assurance. And not safety in that we safe from some accident happening to us. More safety in the idea that there’s always a safe place for us to go and feel “safe” and protected…no matter what force are coming down on us. That’s a pretty wonderful feeling…


Robin Easton August 31, 2009 at 12:40 pm

I love this photo and quote Lance. It is so profound because historically on the planet for several thousands of years (at least in most cultures) the feminine or mother aspects of planetary energy have been crushed, repressed, abused and destroyed. And this included the feminine in all men. We all have, both men and women, feminine and masculine energy in us. Slowly the world awakens to realize that feminine energy must be revived, fostered, brought into equality and acknowledge if we as a species are to survive.

Right now on the planet women and children are the most abused, repressed and so forth. Women are also the ones spearheading the environmental movements, peace movements, etc. all over the planet. And this is not something “against” the masculine, but rather something that will revive all parts of the masculine soul. Men have been suffering for some time living in the absence of their feminine side.

This is a beautiful post to share because it fosters that need in us ALL for mother-nurturing and feminine openness that we all, male and female, desperately need to receive AND give….to be fully human.

Thank you my dear sweet friend. Sending you and your amazing family love and hugs, from our home to yours. Robin.
.-= Robin Easton´s Last Fabulous Post ..Emotions: Portals to Soul =-.


BunnygotBlog August 31, 2009 at 7:19 pm

What a beautiful quote Lance. I apologize I am a day late here but the quote if perfect for any day of the week.
Unconditional love is the best kind. I suppose we receive it more from family and dearest friends but it is truly a wonderful feeling- both giving and receiving.
.-= BunnygotBlog´s Last Fabulous Post ..Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Human Needs =-.


Jillian August 31, 2009 at 7:34 pm

Hello Lance,

I have not visited for a while but followed you over here from Megan’s website.

If only we could teach the world to open themselves to love. I guess we can start here!
.-= Jillian´s Last Fabulous Post ..Sports and Boys =-.


Evita August 31, 2009 at 9:42 pm

My goodness Lance – how beautiful is that and what a great thought for this entire week!

I just love how you match the photo and the words so well. It is as if they were made for each other!

And so a wonderful week to you, and all the love and beauty that your heart and soul desire.
.-= Evita´s Last Fabulous Post ..Month in Review: August 2009 =-.


Walter August 31, 2009 at 11:45 pm

Such a very touching thoughts. And the picture tells it all. 🙂


Lance September 1, 2009 at 8:52 pm

@Robin Easton – Robin, you touch upon a very deep need here. That need of love, and something that can get repressed in the ways of our world. Maybe there’s a feeling that showing love is a sign of weakness? I know I can feel that way sometimes -and why? Because really, love is not weakness – it’s real, and it’s what connects us at a deeper level. Such deep thoughts here, Robin, and I know this is something you live – this idea of a deep love. It’s an amazing and beautiful experience to see unfold…you, filled with love. And to you and your family, Robin, love and hugs always.

@Bunny – No need to apologize, Bunny. It’s always great to have you here, whenever you can make it. And unconditional love…really is such a wonderful feeling.

@Jillian – Hi Jillian. Great to have you here today! Being more open to love, something I think Robin has eluded to above also. There’s something about opening our heart that can feel vulnerable, yet also it might just also be the most amazing feeling when we let the love flow, too. And that’s so worht it…

@Evita – So good to see you Evita. Love, unconditional love…is such an amazing thing. And doesn’t this picture just really show that love. A bond between mother and child is one that can really and deeply be an unconditional love. Yet, there are so many other ways, too, for all of us to experience this. And I think that goes to a deep spot in our soul, and connecting us with the love that flows from there. And I think when we can get to there, we get one step closer toward a much deeper love for our whole world. And may your week, too, be filled with amazing love always…

@Walter – Thanks much. And I agree, this photo really shows that unconditional love…


Kaushik September 1, 2009 at 9:08 pm

A beautiful thought!
.-= Kaushik´s Last Fabulous Post ..Our Days of Discontent =-.


Robin September 2, 2009 at 7:26 am

Hi Lance – lovely quote – everyone just wants to be loved, don’t they?
.-= Robin´s Last Fabulous Post ..Janni Lloyd, An Aussie Immortalist =-.


Terrah September 2, 2009 at 7:53 pm

This Sunday thought for the day reminded me of the power of kindness. As she says in the quote above, “You can find it in a simple act of kindness toward someone who needs help.” The power of kindness (and love) for everything and everyone can never be underestimated. There have been many times where just simply saying hello to the cashier at the store puts a smile on their face. Just think, so many people just rush by and not take the time to express kindness.. everyone is just a part of some huge capitalism machine. I would rather not think that. Please check out what I wrote on this Kindness: The Fantastic Natural Drug
.-= Terrah´s Last Fabulous Post ..6 Inspirational Quotes from the film World’s Fastest Indian =-.


Lance September 3, 2009 at 9:02 pm

@Kaushik – Thank you.

@Robin – Love…at a deep level, what we all want, yes. And it’s so good, isn’t it, when we experience that in our lives.

@Terrah – Kindness is love in action, isn’t it – especially if it’s done with no ulterior motives. So good to think about – and thanks much for the link – I will check it out!


Jennifer September 3, 2009 at 9:52 pm

Beautiful quote Lance. I’m certainly no exception to this rule. I’ll take real unconditional love any day over anything else. It’s exactly what God’s love looks like and what connects us to Him and others – just as the quote says. It’s such a blessing to know and feel God’s love. I hope to share it more and more with others. Thank you so much for your very thoughtful quotes and for sharing your unconditional love with the world.
.-= Jennifer´s Last Fabulous Post ..Success or Failure? =-.


Lance September 4, 2009 at 1:05 pm

Unconditional love is so sweet, isn’t it. And God is our true example of this, giving Himself for us, and giving us eternal life. You do share love so freely, Jennifer – your soul shines. It’s a blessing to have you here, in more ways than you know…


Colleen September 7, 2009 at 8:35 am

Love the photo. Reminds me of my 3 year old. She too is very affectionate with her love. But then again, being our 5th child and loved by the other 6 of us, she cannot help but be a cuddler! 🙂
.-= Colleen´s Last Fabulous Post ..Kennewick Real Estate Listings =-.


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