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My Journey Through Sugar Addiction | Real Life Spirituality — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 14:01:55 +0000

[…] all want to get rid of the problem ASAP. Even acknowledging the problem is huge. My blogger friend Lance Ekum posted a Post Secret video that claims, “when we are keeping a secret, it is really that secret […]

By: Lance

Lance — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:08:13 +0000

Jenny,
I think that in those moments when we share a secret, or some of the turmoil that might be going on in our lives…there is this fear that we’ll look like we’re messed up, or weak, or we don’t have things together. And the truth is…all of us have these moments of turmoil. Still, I think I know what you are saying…and I can relate. And dropping hints just doesn’t feel right either…when you really want someone to listen. Jenny, I’m not sure if any of this really helps…but I also just want you to know that I’m here if you ever want someone to talk to…always.…

By: Jenny

Jenny — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 15:11:47 +0000

Thanks Lance! Sometimes it's hard to keep up the facade that everything is ok when it's clearly not. That's a secret I keep a lot of the time. I try not to drag friends into my turmoil, even when they tell me I can call them if I need them. Sometimes calling them is the hardest thing in the world and in the past when I have, sometimes it backfires or I chicken out. When I feel like I really need a friend, I try to get them to understand that I need them but usually they don't get the hints I drop or things I show them. An anonymous website where people can tell their secrets isn't such a bad idea, even though they aren't telling someone, just telling it sometimes helps. After re-reading this comment, I hope it makes sense, I'm not all with it this morning! .-= Jenny´s Last Fabulous Post ..Asking for a Miracle by the Pool =-.

By: Lance

Lance — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 20:37:08 +0000

@Anonymous 3 — It takes great courage to share secrets, especially those that touch upon a deeper part of who we are. What I sense in your comment, very much, is that you are in a much better place in your marriage today. And I think we all make some choices that we might later question what we were thinking. The truth is that this relationship happened. That cannot be changed. What you can do, today, is continue to be love in the relationship you have with your husband…whatever that means to you. If that means you share this with him, or not, is a choice in your heart. Just know that you are valued here, and that this is also not a place of judgment. And may you find some peace and comfort from having shared your secret here. Peace and love to you…

@A Anonymous — I first want you to know that you are truly anonymous here. It takes courage to share parts of us that touch upon the deeper being we are. So, what you are doing today is deeply moving to me, that you have entrusted this space to share your secret.

Life is a beautiful thing. And yet, there can be moments when we might wonder — “for what purpose”? Perhaps that is where you are at in these moments of deeper depression. Even if it may not always feel like it, know that you are loved. That people care. That I care. You are a beautiful soul…always remember that. And know that you can share here anonymously at any time. And I also want you to know that I am out here, and if you ever want to talk further, you can reach me via my “Contact Me” page. Anytime.… Peace and abundant love.…

@Jenny — Hi Jenny. It really does take a lot of courage to share those deeper secrets we sometimes harbor inside. And yet, when we do — this can open up the start of a healing process. I appreciate very much, the honesty you have shared here today…a thought that I am sure many people have when it comes to secrets within a deeper part of our soul.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 17:29:58 +0000

Wow Lance! Who knew just by asking that so many people would open up. I'm not sure I could do that, even if it was anonymously. These people have courage that I don't. .-= Jenny´s Last Fabulous Post ..Asking for a Miracle by the Pool =-.

By: A Anonymous

A Anonymous — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 17:25:05 +0000

Wow, can’t believe I’m going to admit this, but if others can admit the sad and unhappy things that they have done or had done, I can do it, besides no one really knows who I am.

When I get really depressed, I cut myself. I generally hide it from people, and those I try to show it to, don’t get it. Even those who know I’ve done it in the past, don’t recognize the behavior associated with it. Sometimes it feels as though I’m invisible to my friends.

By: Anonymous 3

Anonymous 3 — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 17:12:59 +0000

My Secret is that I cheated on my husband, but wasn’t really able to say no to the guy, so I’m not sure if it was all my fault or his. If he ever knew he’d leave me for sure. Things weren’t good then and I didn’t know what to do. Things are better now and I don’t ever want him to find out.

By: Lance

Lance — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 11:38:30 +0000

@Jennifer Lynn — Hi Jennifer. You are so right…talking about sharing a secret and actually doing it are two completely separate things. Even when done anonymously, there is something that can hold us back…perhaps that realization that we are facing this secret within ourselves. Thanks so much for being here.

@Caroline — I’m smiling…Santa and the Tooth Fairy! (those ARE good secrets to keep!) Caroline, you bring up a really great point. Sometimes when we keep secrets from others — if/when they find out, this can create very tense moments. So, that’s a wonderful realization that you’ve had, and I’m sure it will continue to serve you well. There is real benefit to being open.

And — thank YOU (re: the new header)!! I have a real fondness for it, myself!

By: Caroline

Caroline — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 07:18:02 +0000

WOW..again you get me thinking. I don't keep secrets (well besides, Santa and the Toothfairy). But really, I can't. The guilt of hiding something would eat away at me. My Mom kept a secret about being married before my Father...she hid that from me and my brother...I found out through my step-mother when I was 15. I was really angry. And I thought...why keep that? p.s Loooove the new header!!! .-= Caroline´s Last Fabulous Post ..Becoming something... =-.

By: Jennifer Lynn

Jennifer Lynn — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:21:42 +0000

Powerful message. Secrets have power. We give them power. The power to protect us and erode us at the same time. Letting them go is not easy or trivial....even the small ones. Giving them voice makes you face the issue, hurt, and truth......easier said than done, even anonymously. Great post, Lance!! .-= Jennifer Lynn´s Last Fabulous Post ..Kentucky has more than banjos! =-.

By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 11:03:00 +0000

@Anonymous (Mike) — Hi Mike. And that is what can hold us back from sharing secrets of our own…this idea that people might use them behind our back, gossip about them, or ridicule us because of them. In an ideal world, this wouldn’t happen. And yet, it does. I really believe that’s what makes the normal “postcard” method of secret sharing — as done typically by the Postsecret project — so meaningful. It becomes a way for people to share their secrets anonymously, without the fear of what might happen because someone knows. Anyway, great thoughts, and very true what you have shared.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 03:50:53 +0000

Hey Lance, my secret is this: It’s actually Mike from LearnThis… Seriously though, this is a cool article and its amazing to see how selective people’s secrets are in fact. The risk of secrets is gossip and so it can be a dangerous game to play when they are told selectively.

By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 03:44:53 +0000

@Zeenat — Hi Zeenat. This is such a wonderful project, this Postsecret project. Just by sharing a secret, people all over the world are able to feel even just some relief from the hell that they may be dealing with on the inside. And it touches others, too…those reading these secrets…and seeing maybe themselves in others. And in that, not feeling so alone. The comments shared by both of the anonymous commenters here was a real act of courage. The words were hard to read…hard in that it touched upon the human soul…a hurting soul. So, maybe we can’t help everyone. We can help one, though. Right. Many one’s. And you are, Zeenat. I know you are. Your heart is overflowing with love and compassion. So, know that I DO lift you up in prayer, dear friend. And I know that so many will continue to receive the compassion of your heart, your hands, you. Love and peace to you, sweet friend…

@Jenn– Jenn, it is my hope that you are able to set that heavy burden down. What I see in you is filled with a deep love for the world. Maybe there are moments that you don’t feel like you are at your best. And we all have those moments. That’s okay. You still shine such amazing care and love…and just know that it is sustaining. (and I fixed the site). Peace, dear friend.…

@Scheng1 — It’s a journey for each of us…down this path of maybe sharing our secrets, and then moving on to what the next step is (which might be forgiveness, or maybe reconciliation, or support, or a myriad of other possibilities). thanks much for the thought.

By: scheng1

scheng1 — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 14:42:11 +0000

I think the next development will be the seeking forgiveness part. After sharing the secrets, the sharer will want to seek forgiveness and live with a clean conscious. .-= scheng1´s Last Fabulous Post ..How to save money with healthy eating habits =-.

By: Jenn

Jenn — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 14:30:22 +0000

oops that is not my site above
.-= Jenn´s Last Fabulous Post ..Mondays: Choose Your Tea Leaves and Your Dreams =-.