The Best Path to Follow for a Successful Relationship

by Kelly Sajonia on · 19 comments

There is a well-worn path for peo­ple in their 20’s and 30’s. After an edu­ca­tion has been com­pleted it is time to build a career, find some­one to marry, and start a fam­ily. This often involves dat­ing sites, speed dat­ing events, meet-ups for sin­gles, and blind dates from well-meaning friends.

For those whose mar­riage ends in divorce, there is another well-traveled path often fol­lowed: a rush to the altar a sec­ond time. Too many times this hap­pens quickly after a divorce is final­ized with lit­tle time spent con­tem­plat­ing what went wrong the first time and what a good part­ner should pos­sess for a suc­cess­ful rela­tion­ship to be pos­si­ble in the future.

The expec­ta­tion that life is not com­plete until there is a spouse and chil­dren often leads to mak­ing bad deci­sions in choos­ing a life part­ner. Sim­i­larly, the pres­sure post-divorce to do it again is often not a wise path to fol­low down a sec­ond time.

So how is it pos­si­ble to make bet­ter choices, lead­ing to more reward­ing, longer-lasting relationships?

It’s sim­ple:

Step off the beaten path and date your­self first.

In a rush to fol­low where oth­ers have tread before, there is not often a well thought-out plan or cri­te­ria for the ideal part­ner. This is impos­si­ble to accom­plish with­out first know­ing your­self well.

  • Get com­fort­able being alone.
  • Take your­self out to din­ner and a movie.
  • Enjoy your own company.
  • Spend time think­ing about who and what makes you happy.

Once you are happy and com­fort­able dat­ing your­self, you are ready to date oth­ers. When you begin to date again, be mind­ful of what you like and dis­like in each dat­ing and rela­tion­ship expe­ri­ence. This will help in choos­ing the right part­ner. Also, the time you spent dat­ing your­self will ensure the fear of being alone will not be the deter­min­ing fac­tor in find­ing a partner.

Step off the path and seek hap­pi­ness first with your­self and then with a partner.

It’s the best path to choose for a ful­fill­ing rela­tion­ship and happy life.


by Kelly Sajo­nia

Kelly Sajo­nia is a writer for many sites, but spends most of her time writ­ing for her award-winning blog Naked Girl in a Dress. Her inspi­ra­tional blog cel­e­brates redis­cov­er­ing life and love at any age. Kelly also has a full ser­vice social media mar­ket­ing busi­ness, runs a social media site for writ­ers, teaches blog­ging, and occa­sion­ally takes a pro­fes­sional pho­tog­ra­phy gig.
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