The Courage To Love

by Kelly Sajonia on · 20 comments

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There are a lot of traits required to be suc­cess­ful at dat­ing and being in a lov­ing rela­tion­ship, but one res­onates the most:

Courage

It is needed in all stages of love relationships.

With­out courage one can­not be suc­cess­ful in find­ing a part­ner and being a part of a lov­ing, healthy rela­tion­ship. So many express pos­sess­ing a lack of courage to date again after a painful breakup, but at each stage in a rela­tion­ship it is essen­tial to have courage if being happy with the right per­son is the goal.

It takes courage to become vul­ner­a­ble, to open one­self to the prospect of dat­ing. Some refuse to date because of the rejec­tion that comes from the process of find­ing a part­ner. This will be an imped­i­ment for many in meet­ing prospects and dating.

Oth­ers are able to take those ini­tial steps to find a part­ner. The trial-and-error expe­ri­ence of meet­ing new peo­ple and first dates is not daunt­ing. But once in a rela­tion­ship that is com­fort­able, when both part­ners have set­tled in, there can be dis­com­fort in express­ing needs and desires to feel ful­filled. Main­tain­ing har­mony becomes para­mount while ris­ing dis­con­tent from not hav­ing needs met begins to set­tle in.

On another level, there are those who have lit­tle fear of the dat­ing process and pos­sess solid com­mu­ni­ca­tion skills, but fall short in another area. Once com­fort­able in a rela­tion­ship, it is hard to move for­ward if the rela­tion­ship should end. There could have been a dis­cov­ery of a non-negotiable trait the part­ner pos­sesses or hurt­ful behav­ior that should not be tol­er­ated, but the rela­tion­ship is com­fort­able. It has become like a habit; not nec­es­sar­ily happy with it, but unable to break away.

There are times in a lov­ing, suc­cess­ful rela­tion­ship when one can become deeply hurt by the other. A part­ner could have been unfaith­ful, dis­con­nected emo­tion­ally, chose not to be phys­i­cally present, or with­held affec­tion. Anger and resent­ment can set in. By shut­ting down and not being emo­tion­ally acces­si­ble, there is def­i­nitely a way to min­i­mize the pain felt, but no way to be open to reconciliation.

With­out courage one is robbed of great joy.

Be coura­geous in love.

It’s worth the risk.


by Kelly Sajo­nia

Kelly Sajo­nia is a writer for many sites, but spends most of her time writ­ing for her award-winning blog Naked Girl in a Dress. Her inspi­ra­tional blog cel­e­brates redis­cov­er­ing life and love at any age. Kelly also has a full ser­vice social media mar­ket­ing busi­ness, runs a social media site for writ­ers, teaches blog­ging, and occa­sion­ally takes a pro­fes­sional pho­tog­ra­phy gig.
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