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There are a lot of traits required to be successful at dating and being in a loving relationship, but one resonates the most:
It is needed in all stages of love relationships.
Without courage one cannot be successful in finding a partner and being a part of a loving, healthy relationship. So many express possessing a lack of courage to date again after a painful breakup, but at each stage in a relationship it is essential to have courage if being happy with the right person is the goal.
It takes courage to become vulnerable, to open oneself to the prospect of dating. Some refuse to date because of the rejection that comes from the process of finding a partner. This will be an impediment for many in meeting prospects and dating.
Others are able to take those initial steps to find a partner. The trial-and-error experience of meeting new people and first dates is not daunting. But once in a relationship that is comfortable, when both partners have settled in, there can be discomfort in expressing needs and desires to feel fulfilled. Maintaining harmony becomes paramount while rising discontent from not having needs met begins to settle in.
On another level, there are those who have little fear of the dating process and possess solid communication skills, but fall short in another area. Once comfortable in a relationship, it is hard to move forward if the relationship should end. There could have been a discovery of a non-negotiable trait the partner possesses or hurtful behavior that should not be tolerated, but the relationship is comfortable. It has become like a habit; not necessarily happy with it, but unable to break away.
There are times in a loving, successful relationship when one can become deeply hurt by the other. A partner could have been unfaithful, disconnected emotionally, chose not to be physically present, or withheld affection. Anger and resentment can set in. By shutting down and not being emotionally accessible, there is definitely a way to minimize the pain felt, but no way to be open to reconciliation.
Without courage one is robbed of great joy.
Be courageous in love.
It’s worth the risk.