“All journeys have secret destinations of which the traveler is unaware.” ~ Martin Buber
I am recently back from several days away on a family vacation. For us, this was a time to get away from the northern climate we live in, and enjoy some sun and warmth in more southern locales. And this ended up being a wonderful few days away from our normal world as well.
Why Travel?
There are many reasons people travel to both distant and not-so-distant lands.
- See new places
- Experience other cultures
- Relaxation
- Adventure
- Reconnect with family or friends
- Challenge
- Rest
- …and many more
So, we often have a reason or a purpose for traveling, maybe one of those listed above (or several of those wrapped up into one).
And sometimes…travel elicits something unplanned. Today I’ll be discussing something that came up for me, and was fully worth it. We went on a family vacation to reconnect, to visit new places and cultures, to relax, and to mix some adventure in. By all accounts, we did this and more — making our vacation a successful one. However, this journey for me, personally, also brought an unplanned destination. And that place in which I traveled was into my mind.
“The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled.” ~ Plutarch
The thing is, in our daily lives, it’s easy to get caught up in routine. In doing the things we’ve always done. Have you been there? Can you relate?
Life can be busy. And, it seems like sometimes we reach a point where we’re just going through the motions. I’ll give you an example: Get up in the morning. Write a new article to post here. Go to work. Come home. Do any evening family activities that are planned. Go to bed.
Although it’s not exact, this illustrates the point here. Life can sometimes reach a point where we’re just DOING. Doing things because we did them yesterday, the day before, last week, and last year. We’re DOING, although along with that we’ve lost sight of what we’re BEING.
And that’s exactly where this trip took me on our recent vacation — an unplanned destination. I didn’t go into this vacation with the idea that I would take some time to explore the ideas bouncing around in my brain. And yet, that’s exactly where I was led. And this is one of the real beauties of a vacation, or a sabbatical, or even just an hour break from normal activities. When we stop DOING, we have the opportunity to BE. And this can be a good time to look within, to see what our heart is saying. And to really think about how well we’re listening to it.
So, where does that put me? I’ve returned home refreshed and renewed. And I’ve also returned home with many questions bouncing around in my head. Questions that don’t have answers yet. And that’s okay, answers or not. For me, the real benefit was in kindling that fire within my mind. Where this takes me and what this all means — and really if this means any change at all — is unknown right now. What is known is that there are questions — that the fire is burning. I stopped DOING, and in the process reached a state of BEING. And this was a good place to visit.
Your Turn
Do you take time to stop DOING in your life, and examine what you are BEING?
Lance, it’s amazing, really. Absolutely amazing how joyous every minute of life becomes when “being” is our natural resting place. I’m so glad you found yours!! The delightful thing for me is that I’m being almost all the time! Even when I’m doing (depending on what it is), I am able to also “be.” Once you’ve tasted the elixir of “being,” doing is the expression of joy “being” brings. The joy of being needs an outlet!
In this state, even our mundane chores and our have-to’s become pleasurable. I look forward to seeing where this leads you. Vacations are exactly the jump-starts we need, to clear our minds, give us some breathing room, give us perspective… Until we’re in a delicious state of being most of the time—when every day feels like a vacation!
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Lance, I really do know what you mean by this. The relentless cycle of DOING in life is what bores me to tears. It’s what I struggle with the most since I became a parent — routine, mind numbing routine. Travel is a great way to introduce change and it’s true that amidst the unfamiliar we often find it easier to BE in the moment and really feel our life. I think the trick is to find ways to get this in our everyday life. We need to expand our comfort zone and not let life get too predictable. It’s also amazing how much deep breathing can ground us so we can BE anywahere, anytime.
Glad you had a great holiday.
Kelly
Oooh Lance, I so get you! An Easter retreat did the same thing for me. I went to both be and do — the doing part was to check out the venue as I am planning my own retreat there next month. But once there I was less interested in the facilities and soaked up the being-ness of the experience. And I came away completely unsettled, stuff I was suppressing by keeping myself busy “doing” all came to the surface and refused to go away.
That journey has led me onto a completely new one — after two weeks of soul searching I resigned from my job this morning! I have no idea what my new destination is right now, just an idea of what the journey might entail. I’m scared and excited, and plan on “being” so much more than I’ve allowed myself in the past.
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I get it. I live with lots of questions in my head…today in fact I decided I need to not do, but be and see where that takes me. I need some down time to clear thoughts and simply enjoy what is around me. Like a short mid-day hike with my sister, niece and nephew. I can’t wait to just be in nature! We all need a rest, a chance to stop doing and just be in our lives, in each moment instead of off to the next thing.
A great place to visit on vacation!
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Hi Lance,
Because of illness, I have to rest for several hours a day and more on the weekend, so I do spend time just BEING, and I think I spend too much time thinking about unanswered questions. I need to be able to DO more.
Maybe you could share some of the unanswered questions. Who knows, your readers might have some answers.
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lance,
I’m back you are back and you are better than before. I am a huge fan of traveling for personal development and as a matter of fact I just got back from another long trip to Japan and New Zealand less than a week ago. It was an enlightening if challenging trip for me. So I perfectly understnad what you’re saying here.
And about being and not doing, I had a similar intuition during my trip, which ended, of course, in a blog post: To Have Versus To Be.
Traveling is an amazing way of reminding ourselves that we are just on a bigger travel, one that started with our birth and will end with our death. Staying too long in a fixed pattern will break the joy in this travel.
Thanks for sharing
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Fabulous post as always.
I am so glad you came back rejuvinated.
Blessings
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I learned how important our BEing state is, especially with regards to the energy that we exude. The field of our BEing often attracts a like energy resonance. So if we are really hoping to HAVE the things that we desire, it is not really about DOING more. It is about changing our inner state first.
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For awhile my husband and I were just “going through the motions” in marriage. We never made time for ourselves. Everything revolved around work and kids. Be careful of this because it leads to worse things, but we were able to recognize the signs and stop “doing” the routine of marriage we fell into. It takes work. Take time to refresh your marriage as well.
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Hi Lance,
It’s really great you’re back from a brain refreshing vacation.Hope you had a great time there.
I’m also suffering from getting bored with this ‘doing’ circle.But there’s no way out for few months.Actually that’s the reason which lots of people can’t just get off from this doings.There’s no way out.At least for sometime.So the best thing is take the advantage of the first moment that you get to stop ‘doing’ and take a look back.Me too believe that traveling is a great way for it.Especially if you can go without planning. So that all the pressures are out of your mind and you’ll feel like a bird who wander through the sky
Have a nice day !
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I long to travel more than most of my other cravings. I’ve been in the same city all my life and would love even the small percentage of the adventures my wife’s had. One day I will. For now, I love just “being” as well.
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Welcome back and as usual you write from the heart! You’re so right — we are, after all, human BEINGS not human DOINGS yet rarely spend time in quiet moments just being. It’s so critical for our overall well being and yet most people connect with themselves on vacation, but soon get too busy upon return to keep that connection going.
5 yrs ago I had life changing surgery. It wasn’t the surgery but the down time recouping that caused the biggest change. The down time allowed me the opportunity to listen, to be, to re-prioritize. Since that time I have made my “quiet time” a part of my everyday existence, sometimes in meditation or just BEING in nature (weather permitting). I feel blessed even tho it took me decades and surgery to “get” this. The impact that this has had on my “doing” is incredible — more peaceful and more focused and definitely more healthy.
I wish for you continued “being” — its the best and most natural gift you can give yourself!
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Ha! Your post is similar to mine today…in regards to unanswered questions! One reason I took a blog vacation was to stop doing and just be. And it literally took a huge bumble bee to help me out with some things I am questioning. I love the unexpected surprises that happen when you take time off from routine. Great post Lance!
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I love this! YES…I have recently begun to do explore this and myself and what it all means daily. even if its just a 2 minute exploration. it has really helped me to hone in on where i want to go and what things i need to cut out of my life!
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I am just inside my house most of the time. It is very unlikely that I would go outside. I feel more comfortable in front of my computer.
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Hi Lance,
Sometimes I find myself working too hard until I forget all about vacation. It makes it harder to take a vacation when I am enjoying what I am doing. It seems like a dilemma.
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger
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“Do you take time to stop DOING in your life, and examine what you are BEING?” — absolutely, and I only do that while on vacation! Life at home is just too hectic. So that’s a very good reason for us to keep traveling.
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Sounds like a wonderful vacation of your body, mind and soul. Don’t you love Julie. I’ve never met anyone like her “being all the time.” Now that were friends I’m learning! Thanks for another reminder of staying in the present moment, that’s the secret of being for me.
I think it’s the best place to be in our crazy illusional world, “just being.”
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Lance, I can so relate to this, and I often have the same experience. It’s like we have to leave our familiar surroundings, and our familiar mental states, to allow something new to come in, or to germinate there. When I feel really ‘stuck’ even just walking somewhere that I don’t usually go (and I’ve found for me that going somewhere different is part of the key) can ‘unlock’ new ways of thinking about things…
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I don’t take nearly enough time to think about being, but this post is a great reminder. I completely relate, on so many levels, to this: “The thing is, in our daily lives, it’s easy to get caught up in routine. In doing the things we’ve always done.” Like so many people, I get caught up in the day to day living and I don’t think about new things. Sometimes it is when we break out of our molds and try new things that we really learn about ourselves and the world. Also, when we are in new places or doing new things, we focus more on being (at least, I do) then when we are doing the usual things we always do. I think this is a really wonderful post and I really, really liked reading it. Thank you for sharing it!
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When we are just being, like you were, it really becomes a spiritual experience, doesn’t it Lance?
This weekend my canoe and I will be at a retreat in the Piney Woods of east TX. I can’t wait to just be. I am taking my journal to reflect and capture my thoughts. Visualizing just drifting out in my canoe on the lake, letting my thoughts swim in the waters, is exciting!
I can’t wait to hear more about your thoughts from your time of just being.
You have such a gift.….the gift to ask your readers to reflect along with you and find something within we didn’t see before.
I can relate. I do. And do. Sometimes when I just let myself “be”…well, those are the best times, the best moments.
Yesterday after spring cleaning and discovering lost toys, I just sat down for about an hour with the girls and played with them. We dressed dollies, built a tower, and played in the closet
It was so relaxing. I enjoyed that moment with them.
I’m glad you had a great vacation. I’m looking forward to ours at the end of June, God-willing, to the south as well. Days by the river with no time constraints—-I will remember this post when I am there.
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Lance,
How funny and timely. My post today is on Routine and how that can be good or bad. We sometimes have to get out of our routine to just be, experience something new, be mindful. Routine let’s us do things without thinking, because it has become automatic. Driving to work is one of them. We drive without noticing and the mind starts racing to work where we already start making to-do lists etc. When you take another road to work, you have to pay attention, you have to BE in the moment or you’ll miss a turn. It taught me the same thing than what you mention.
Funny how people have the same ideas, experiences at the same time on the other side of the ocean
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Lance — As usual your posts reflect back exactly what I need to hear. You have an amazing talent to synthesize and make relevant all that really is important. In short, you are an INSPIRATION.
I find myself in this situation all the time, the DOING part. With the jewelry business that I have going, my 9pm to midnight passion, I often succumb to the DOING part. But when I get out of the factory mindset and allow the ideas to percolate freely and let them take me where I want to go…the BEING of it all…I find the most relaxed and intuitive state envelopes me and I can create so freely. I am also in the mode of just DOING for my family and kids…the hectic pace of life demands it. I know that I need to find a way to get more balance and I love the idea of taking a brain vacation.…I plan to do that with a two hour + massage tomorrow night! Thank for sharing! Enjoy the day! Erin
P.S. You have the most thoughtful commenters on your blog! I love checking out their blogs as well!
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One of the many reasons why summer is my favorite season. Weekends down the shore on the beach are times when I can just let my mind go. Talking walks on the sand or just sitting in the warm sun with the sound of the ocean is the perfect way for me to let go of the “busy-ness” of everyday life. Although I can do this any day of the year (the letting go part), I have always adored the shore for this.
So excited that time of year is almost here!
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I have done an Easter Sai-lent Retreat for 3 years now as a way of renewal and reconnection to being.
Hi Lance: We do need to give ourselves permission to stop doing and just be. People tend to live as if they were competing on some sort of race. A race to what? Taking a vacation is definitely a great way to declare: I deserve a break and I’m taking it!
It’s good to have a doing/being balance. Yesterday I was in the “doing” process of sightseeing, but I stopped at a little Buddhist shrine and just knelt there and looked at the Buddhas in front of me. It was really peaceful and so nice to just BE.
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Lance,
It’s so good to have you back. And I agree with the other readers that you’re better than before! Someone once reminded me that we are ‘human beings’ not ‘human doings’ and your post illustrated that perfectly.
I haven’t needed or wanted a vacation for a long time, largely because I feel semi-retired and half my time is rest time. I know I’m lucky. Still, I wonder if I would discover more of myself if I were to travel to a different environment and soak in it for a while. Thanks for this food for thought.
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@Julie — You know, Julie — you exude “being”, and I’m drawn in by it. In fact, your words are comforting, always. And I think that’s because of the “being” wrapped within them. “Being” while “doing” — how wonderful is that! Thank you for sharing your sense of being — and how it envelops your life. You are a joy to have here, always, my friend.
@Kelly — Hi Kelly. “Doing” the routine things can seem mostly like doing and not being. Although, as Julie eludes to — is that by reaching a state of “being” most of the time — even these tasks can become more pleasurable. This is one I struggle with also, so I’m excited to see where this can take me. And yes, travel — and maybe the change of scenery — can be just what’s needed to to get back into a state of being. Deep breathing — I’m going to try this — thanks much Kelly.
@Hilda — Isn’t that pretty awesome Hilda! By “being”, you brought up things that had been suppressed. And that’s exactly what was going on for me too. And all unplanned — it just sort of happened. I love the story you’re sharing — about the soul searching you taken, and the changes you’re making in your life! Wow, I really love this! I’m excited for you as well, and really — you’re an example for so many — of taking some chances and really listening to your heart! Hilda, thank you for sharing your story here today.
@Stacey Shipman — Hi Stacey. Questions in our heads — I’ve decided this is perfectly okay. It means we’re actively thinking about our life at a deeper level — and I happen to think that’s a very good thing. So, good for you making today a day of “being” — and really recognizing the need for this, and then deciding to listen to that need. I hope you enjoyed your hike today — sounds fun!
@Dot — Hi Dot. Illness can be difficult. And you bring up a good point — and that is, that this is one of balance. So, I hope that you find more of this in your life — and I know that when we’re limited by things out of our control (illness, for instance) — this can be difficult. I’ll think about that — sharing some of the questions. The thing is, though, that most of them are ones that feel very personal to me and where I’m at. I’ll have to think about this… thanks for the thought Dot.
@Dragos — Hi Dragos. Thanks, my friend! And welcome back to you as well. Glad to hear this was enlightening for you. I’ll be over shortly to check out what you have to say — will be fun to read! Traveling and a comparison of our life journey — this is good! I like it! Thank you, and I look forward to reading more at your site!
@Jeanne — Thanks much Jeanne! It’s good to be refreshed and rejuvenated.
@Evelyn — Evelyn, you have such a wonderful way with your words and making them really come to life! Yes, a state of “being” comes from within, and getting to this core is so important for everything else we do — so that it’s in alignment with who we really are.
@Yum Yucky — Hi Josie. What an excellent point — not to neglect the relationships that matter greatly to us in our lives — and a marriage is a big one. And something we hopefully in for the long haul on — which means this is something we should nurture and grow — and the same way — by finding that state of “being” together. Thank you for this reminder — that it’s not just about our own “being” — it’s also our “being” with the loves in our life.
@Vikum — Hi Vikum. Thanks, it’s mostly great to be back! It is good to be home, although it was also great to get away. We had a wonderful time on vacation. Travel and vacation ended up being a great and unplanned thinking opportunity. And a chance to “BE”. However, I think we can also do this intentionally in everyday moments. Like Stacey said up above — it was a hike in the woods for her today. Or maybe it’s taking five minutes and just sitting in silence. Or taking a walk in the neighborhood. A chance to break away from routine — and in that — a chance to “BE”. I hope you find some moments in your daily life to take the focus away from “doing” and find that state of “being”. It’s there,…
@Writer Dad — Hi Sean. Travel is such a wonderful experience — and a big part of that is in seeing different things — and in that, also seeing ourselves differently. The thing is also — even within our own cities, there are opportunities to break away from routine — and to experience new — and to “be” more. Which I think you are doing so well, my friend. And when the time comes, the world will be yours to explore…
@Suzen — Hi Suzen. I love that — we’re human BEINGS, not human DOINGS. That’s saying a lot right there isn’t it! And I’m seeing a danger sign here — that is — to be careful not to fall back into the pattern of just DOING upon return. And I think that’s such a great point Suzen. If we’re not aware of this, pretty soon we’re back to doing what we’ve always done. And thank you for sharing your story of how your surgery was such a blessing — in helping to bring you much more into a state of BEING. And reaching a peaceful well-being — how great this must feel! Suzen, thank you — I feel very much blessed to be reading your words here tonight.
@Caroline — Hi Caroline! It’s been a busy day (although a big part of this evening has been filled with BEING in a very powerful way) — so now I’m curious of your post — I’ll be over shortly!! Unexpected surprises — what a wonderful way to think about this! thanks much Caroline!
@Rupal — Thanks much Rupal! Doing (or maybe more appropriately — being) this everyday can have such a positive impact on our lives — and really move us in the directions we desire. And you’re so right — this doesn’t have to take a lot of time — a couple of minutes can make a big difference!
@Palabuzz — You bring up an interesting point — and that is one of getting out of our comfort zone — and how hard this can be. I encourage you to find something — maybe a trip outside, or going to a different room — something where you can break away from routine — even if it’s just for a couple of minutes. Try this for just a week — and see if you notice anything different.
@Vincent — Hi Vincent. When we’re enjoying what we do — it is more difficult to take a break. And it is, because we’re enjoying so much what we’re doing. And still, getting away provides so many positive benefits, and a way for us to re-focus and be mentally ready to move forward.
@Vered — Hi Vered. I can relate to home life being hectic! And that really does make vacations a great way to reconnect with our “being”. Still, as mentioned several times — “being” can also come in short bursts wherever they can be fit within the day. A form of micro-being…
@Tess — Hi Tess. Julie is awesome — I consider myself honored to know her (and you too, for that matter). In the realm of being, though, I don’t know anyone who “gets it” as well as she does. Being more in this state of “being” is such a great place to work toward…
@Lisa — Hi Lisa. Thank you for your thoughts on this. I’m especially getting drawn into this idea your bringing up of leaving our familiar surroundings and how this can help us to also leave the familiar mental states we are typically in. And to you your point of walking a diffrent route — I’ve found this also when driving to work — I’ll sometimes take diffrent routes — and it’s not because they’re faster. It’s because they’re different. And I think differently when I’m traveling these “less traveled” roads. Thank you! This is so good, and it has me thinking about both how I do this accidentally already, and how I can incorporate this more into my daily life.
@Positively Present — Glad to hear this helps! Yes, I get caught up in daily living also — in that state of “doing” without “being”. New places seem to foster that sense of BEING — and it’s a great place to get to. Incorporating it into daily life — when we can get here — then we are really doing as Julies says up above — “being” almost all the time, even when doing …
@Laurie — Yes, reaching a really deep state of being does become a spiritual experience — as we reach into the depths of our soul. Have a wonderful experience in the east Texas woods and lakes this weekend Laurie — I’m sure you will experience some very moving moments — and deep states of “being”.
@Annette — Hi Annette. You are too kind to me, thank you! “Doing” can be so easy to fall into — I “do” also. And unless I consciously make an effort to “be”, it’s not all that likely to just happen, especially amongst routine. What a great moment you shared with your girls! And in those moments, of just “being” there with them — I can just see the joy of it! Lazy days by the river — you’ll have a wonderful time Annette!!
@Mimi — Hi Mimi. This is so interesting — as your the third person who has mentioned posting a similar article today. And talking about driving to work — you’re describing me exactly today! And yet — yesterday — I took a different route — and I was so much for into “being” as I observed that around me. Mindful — such a good word here (and one you like quite a bit, eh!!). Are we being mindful of what we have or what is going on in our lives? Good question to think about. And yes, the ocean can’t separate our thoughts can it!
@Erin — Thank you for being here Erin. Your words are so wonderful and kind! I wonder if you are not also “being” while you’re “doing”. This being a real passion for you — the jewelry you make. I love how you’re saying this all — about how when you allow yourself to really “be” — how you enter a very relaxed and intuitive state. How wonderful is that! Having a family — I can relate to days that seem like it’s all about “doing”. Although, I wonder if we really focus on “being” here also — can the “doing” become intertwined with “doing” — similar to what Julie is talking about up above. Enjoy you massage — I happen to think they’re a great way to relax and just “be”. And to your thought about the other commenters — I agree! Wonderful, wonderful souls — all the many visitors here — and so many who take the time to really leave deep and meaningful comments (just like yours Erin!) — which means so much to me…
@Christine — Hi Christine. Weekends at the beach — sounds wonderful! Yes, the beach does conjure up the thought of getting away, and of taking it easy — which can be a great way to reconnect with ourselves. Yes, we can do this everyday — just by taking a few minutes to ourselves — although having a place to go to, one that brings us much peace — is also very powerful!
@Patricia — Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker — Hi Patricia. Your Easter retreat sounds like a wonderful way to reconnect — thank so much for sharing this.
@Marelisa — Hi Mare. Giving ourselves permission — thank you for saying that. When we give ourselves permission, we’re telling ourselves it’s okay to stop “doing” and start “being”. This one’s a hard one for me, so hearing this is so good. Thank you, Mare — so much for this!
@Sagan — Hi Sagan. Balance between doing and being is important — or finding ways to incorporate them together. I hope you’re having a great trip! And thanks for sharing your example of “doing” versus “being” — a wonderful way to balance the two!
@Daphne — Hi Daphne. Thank you, it’s good to be back (mostly!). And thanks so so much for your kind words. Yes, I love that thought — human “beings” versus human “doings” — we tend to forget this sometimes! Daphne, having the opportunity to really focus your time on “being” — how wonderful for you! And I’m really happy that you have this. I think we can discover different parts of us by being in different places, although I don’t think it’s always necessary. If we’re already taking time to “be” — which you are — then you are doing very well. Thanks much for stopping by!
Hi Lance. You went on two adventures. One with your family… and one with yourself. Those wheels never stop spinning do they? Being vs Doing reminds me of how children play. And, it’s ok to not always have the answers all the time. You’ll probably uncover the answers when you’re not even looking. Glad you had a relaxing and refreshing holiday Lance.
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Lance, I am so glad that you had this experience at this time. I remember well your interview about blogging and the schedule you were “doing” in. A vacation does catch us up on what is going on inside. My quest for abundance this year has also taught me that I can take that “being” time in small ways in my week, to break from routine. I hope the answers to some of your questions will come in the form of ways for you to recapture your “being” mind from vacation in an intentional way so that you can have that joy. For me, it required a change in my blog schedule and while difficult at first, I found more moments to to add in those “little vacations” my soul needed without buying a ticket anywhere.
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Hmm..I think I need some holidays…counting the days for school to finish..most likely just spend here..The J-Town aka JAkarta.
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Hi there Lance — glad you got in touch with your inner BE-ER (not suggesting you weren’t before!) I think that like Dot hinted at, some of us need to learn to “do” more, and others need to learn to “be” more — hopefully if we allow ourselves to “be” we’ll get the right inspiration so that when we “do”, it will be effective. Glad you had a good holiday and are feeling refreshed, Lance!
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Lance, I’m so happy you were refreshed and renewed after vacationing and that you enjoyed BEING rather than DOING. For me, BEING is not out there somewhere, but rather what I am. Many would think I’m a nut in rut because I prefer to stay close to home, but I don’t feel bored or restless, ever. I have to admit that traveling is difficult for me, because it seems like DOING and I’m concerned about the environmental impact. That said, my husband is planning for the two of us to visit his parents. It will be our first trip without kids in nearly 30 years.
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Great quotes! Yes, it is very important to take time to kindle the fire and I try to do this daily. Sometimes it is a simple as taking a walk, breathing the fresh air and allowing my mind to be free and allow what flows through it.
We do need to break routine and simply allow for the ideas to flow. Often times things come to me and I don’t know why, I allow them to flow and quite often I see the purpose later down the road.
We must be open to the secret designations that are on the unknown path.
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Lance, how wonderful for you to rejuvenate yourself through travel. I love traveling and new experiences, too. It’s a great tune-up for the senses.
Good to have you back!!
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I always try to make time to get away from the everyday doings of life. Going on vacation is a great way of putting your routine on the back burner, and having some fun. I’m so happy you were able to rejuvenate you and your family.
I try to get rejuvenated everytime I go out with my camera and it works. I love finding new places to go, and new sights to behold.
Hi Lance,
When I was kid, when we used to go on family vacations, my dad would have every minute of the trip planned. So our vacations never felt like vacations. When I became an adult, I decided that whenever I would travel anywhere, I would just go with the flow. I am married and all of our vacations operate on that belief…just go with the flow and see where the journey takes you.
I think there is a lot to be said about doing but I think we do for the wrong reasons sometimes because we are forced to do without thinking. So it is a fine line between doing and being. I think some people are able to do both but that takes a lot of practice. I am all for being and I am working on myself now so that I can be more present. It is so wonderful to be…it is a natural high!
Thank you so much for sharing this important topic. I needed to hear this message today. BTW, I am so happy that you all had a great vacation! Yay!
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I truly appreciate this message. I am one of those “high energy” individuals and I am always “doing”! I have spent time training myself to be able to stop and BE. This is such a good article and a timely one because I have been very busy lately, filling my days with a lot of “doing” so I needed to hear this. Thank you.
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@Davina — Hi Davina. Right! Two adventures, and both were great! The wheels.…yes, always spinning, and here — spinning while in a “being” mode, which was very good for me. And reading this is reassuring, Davina, knowing that the answers may come when I’m least expecting them. I’ll be on the lookout! Thanks much!
@Avtcoach — Hi Coach, thanks! Makes me think there’s something to that idea that things happen for a reason, and that this was the time for this to take place — for me to step away and “be”. What you’re saying is truly what I’m hoping for as well — that I keep this state of “being” alive, and don’t let the things that come up daily that are more “doing”-oriented overshadow the “being”. You bring up an excellent point in that sometimes this all requires some change on our part — and that may not always be easy — although your example is showing that this can reap huge rewards personally. And that is a good thought for me right now…
@Suddenly Slimmer — Hi Alia. It doesn’t have to be a holiday to some far away place. Just exploring a new area near you can be refreshing in it’s own right. Good luck with the end of the school year — and then go out and “be”!
@Robin — Hi Robin! Inner BE-ER — I love it!!! Balance between “doing” and “being” — or finding a way to “be” while “doing” (that’s a lot of quotes I have in there!) — is important toward being and doing what our real purpose and desires are. Thanks much Robin!
@Diane — Hi Diane. Thanks, it was so good to get away and just not be concerned with “doing” everything. I love how you describe “being” for you — and a part of who you are. What a great place to be at! And it doesn’t have to be about travel to reach a state of “being”. That worked for me, because it wasn’t happening before I went on vacation. Getting away allowed me to “be”. That you can get this sense of “being” right at home, that’s awesome. And, enjoy your trip — just the two of you!
@Mark/ToBeMe — Hi Mark, thanks! A daily kindling of the fire — or a daily reminder of “being” is a great state of being to reach. Kudos to you on making this a priority in your life. And you’re reminding me, it doesn’t have to be something grand or big — just something simple to re-connect with self is all it’s about.
@Jewel — Hi Jewel. Our vacation was a wonderful opportunity to see some new places, spend more time together as a family without feeling like we were rushing from one event to the next — and then to just reconnect with ourselves. Good stuff all around. And thanks, it’s also good to be back now too.
@LisaNewton — Hi Lisa. Yes, vacation worked well for me to get away from much of the “doing” of daily life. And I have come back refreshed! That you use your camera at a tool to rejuvenate — I think that’s awesome Lisa! What a great way to “be” in the moments of your life!
@Nadia — When everything is planned — it can feel more like your “doing” all the time. And you can come back from those tired and worn out! Going with the flow, and experiencing the journey as it unfolds — how cool is that! “Doing” without thinking, or where we reach a state of “doing” just to get something done — and we lose any sense of “being” in there. It becomes almost robotic — and the truth that we are not robots. We are living, breathing human beings. All with heart and soul. What are they saying? Finding that, and living around it’s answers really brings the state of “being” to the forefront. Glad this message was helpful for you Nadia. And thank you, we truly had an amazing vacation!
@Keith — Hi Keith. Thank you, I’m glad you’re getting something out of this. Always “doing” — it can be hard to stop, can’t it! And even when we’re super busy, or maybe especially when we’re super busy — taking time to stop and just “be” can be the best thing for us — even as hard as that can be to do.
Thanks for this post. To answer your question, I have a new regular practice while I’m sitting at my desk: I take my attention for a moment off the monitor in front of me, and instead turn it to the space between me and the monitor. That in itself can be a meditation.
Hi, Lance. I am new to your page. Found you tonight through Nadia’s blog and am so glad I did. This post resonated with me. There was a time in my life where I spent more time doing than being. As I began to realize this, I began to make changes, and four years ago I decided to intentionally “BE” for an entire weekend: I checked into a Trappist Monastery for 4 days. I have always been comfortable in my own company, okay with silences, but I was not prepared for the holy scariness of just being. Seriously, I had butterflies in my stomach–I thought about getting in the car and going home! I’m glad I didn’t, because I learned much in those four days and set off on a new path in my life that weekend (even though I didn’t realize it at the time).
That path brought me to Crete, which is where I live now. Life is much slower here and I have a lot more time to just “be.” I know this and appreciate it most days. But there are some days I still forget. My fiancé and I get caught up in our daily routines and things begin to feel confining. When that happens, we stop and decide to do something different. Something unusual for the day. But mostly we just decide to stop.
Thank you for this post. Glad I found you.
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Hi Lance
Welcome back. Another great post!
I enjoy your work…keep spreading your message.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action
I know I’ve been there. I recently went on a trip to New Orleans, somewhat reluctantly. I didn’t want to go because I was afraid that I would miss too much. Boy was I wrong. I was given so much more. By being out of my comfort zone I felt like I grew an extra 3 emotional inches.
Traveling encourages growth and I now realize how much I need it.
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Travel opens up for us a whole new world to discover, to cherrish and to love
One perspective is travel begins and ends in the mind. Geographic displacement is a physical experience and other kinds of travel enable the energy being inside you to transcend time and space. Thanks for such an insightful post!
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I love just being, When I am being rather than doing, life flows, opportunities flow and I know i feel free, joyful and often the creative channnels open to for me.
thanks for your wisdom
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Oh yeah, this really resonated with me! I am the eternal “doer” but I have, in recent years, started focussing more on being. The beach really does it for me. There’s nothing like the sound of the waves to put things in perspective, quieten the mind and get you grounded. Great post — thanks Lance! Welcome back by the way.
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Hi Lance .. it’s good to have you back, while also such an interesting post coming back with you .. What you say is something so relevant to me .. and I am not a human doing — as Suzen says.
I also like that your readers have such relevant comments to make and I’ll be connecting with some of them from here ..
so lots of thanks yous to you!
Keep rested and keep being ..
Hilary Melton-Butcher
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Hi Lance,
Again, welcome back. It sounds like your vacation did you good. It’s often when we’re away from a situation we can look at it from the outside. Although I’m not much of a “goer”, I do enjoy participating in different activities so I’m not tied in front of my computer all day/night. Reducing my posting schedule has helped a lot. Now I find I have time to engage in other hobbies, put my feet up and read a good book, or just do nothing. It’s like taking a vacation at home.
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Hi Lance, Life needs a balance. We need to get away from our routines sometimes, so our mind can get some refreshment.
Thanks for sharing, Lance.
@Chris Edgar — Reaching a state of meditation is an excellent practice to get into — and a great to connect with your “being”. Thanks for sharing this, Chris. I find what you’re saying to be very helpful,and I’m sure others do as well.
@Chania Girl — Hi Chania Girl, it’s great ot have you here! The story you’ve shared is a powerful one, and such a great example of consciously making the effort to reach a much deeper state of “being”. I think we can all pretty easily get caught up in the routines of daily life, at least occasionally. Recognizing this is happening is the first step toward getting more focus back on to your “being”. Thanks again for sharing this story of how you’re reached where you are today. I find so much good thought in all you’re saying…
@Giovanna — Thanks much Giovanna! And…I’ll keep at it, there’s much enjoyment in all of this for me…
@Karl — Hi Karl. Oh, I can relate! Sometimes it seems like we’re going to have to miss so much when we do some sort of unplanned activity — like your trip to New Orleans. Yet, oftentimes — it’s the exact opposite — just as you’ve experienced! Very awesome that this trip was an emotionally growing experience for you, and that you were able to get so much out of it. Traveling is indeed a great opportunity to grow, in many ways!
@Jocelyn — Hi Jocelyn. Yes, travel has many benefits — some of which are necessarily seen…
@Liara — Hi Liara. This is such a great point — about travel beginning/ending in the mind. It does start before we even go, as we anticipate in our mind what our travels will bring. And ends as we review i our minds the travels that have been. And the whole mind connection is where there is so much to be gained. Thanks, as usual, Liara, for your wonderful insight…
@Suzie — Hi Suzie. Good for you — spending time in that state of being. I can see by your words that there is much goodness that flows when you’r in this state…
@Sami — Hi Sami! There is something very calming about gentle waves rolling in onto the beach. I too find this to be very much a spot to connect with “being”. Thanks for stopping by today, and for the welcome back — it’s good to be here again…
@Hilary — Hi Hilary. Thank you, very much, for your wonderfully kind words. Yes, we’re meant to be human “beings” aren’t we. It’s so good for our soul to really “be”. And yes, please do — connect with some of these very great visitors here — so much wisdom and knowledge I get just from the comments. When real sharing goes on, so much can be gained by all. Thanks again Hilary!
@Barbara — Hi Barbara, and thank you! Vacation was a wonderful time in so many ways — including this opportunity to really “be”. That’s a great point — no matter what it is we do in our lives — that we also find time to step away from that thing too. It can be a time to be silent, or a time to do other activities. In either case, breaking away helps to give us perspective, and that goes a long way toward that state of “being”.
@Arswino — Hi Arswino. A balance in our lives, so important. And getting out of our routine is a needed step in keeping us actively “being” in our lives, and not just “doing” blindly. Thank much!
I just LOVE going on vacation, tho haven’t had a “real” one in a few years. California 3.7 years ago. Oh and was it grand!! I go to my parents’ place most every summer in Canada, but am itching for fresh locales. LOVE new places.
All in due time, Jannie, all in due time
Lately I’ve been letting myself just “BE” a lot during my walks / runs on our glorious trail here by the river. Plenty of park benches ‘neath the tall shady trees to sit on while sipping my Chick Filet coffee. Squirrels to talk to and play with. Passersby often stare at me and smile wistfully, knowing in their hearts that in the relaxation department I obviously must kick unmitigated ass!
And I’m not even exactly sure what unmitigated means but I’ve heard it often enough to assume it fits in perfectly in that last sentence.
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Fascinating post Lance! So deep and how very, very true!
It is great to hear that you had such a wonderful vacation, indeed it was fuller than one can hope for — how beautiful!
As for me, I have to admit I have had an April of more doing than being, and I felt it in my spirit. But I have just finished a course I was taking yesterday with the exam I wrote and thus today, with May 1st, I am starting a new month and focusing back on my favourite type of existence — BEING! I cannot say there is any better way to exist!
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I am looking forward to my first alone vacation in 20 years. With this new flower essence therapy I am taking 15 minutes 2 times a day to just breath and be still — even though I am a great meditator and spend quality time in prayer — it is still part of work for me.
I am amazed how a deep breath of fresh air can revive my soul and nurture my condition and life seems better.
I am glad your vacation was refreshing on so many levels
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Hi … I came over via twitter. I am glad you are renewed and I sincerely wish I enjoyed traveling. I like my nest, if I could take my nest along I’d be gone in a heartbeat! The best way I can grab a fresh perspective is to toss everyone out of the nest and be home alone.
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@Jannie — Hi Jannie. I also find that visiting new places is something that deeply resonates with me. Maybe it’s the experiencing of something new and unknown — I think it is for me. All in due time…I like that. It’s coming, my friend… And you’re right, we can “be” right within the confines of our own neighborhood — even when we’re (errr, you’re) talking to squirrels. Which I think is pretty cool. Now, when they start talkng back.… Jannie, you’re throwing big words around here…and my brain is starting to short-circuit!! And I’m starting to see squirrels…kicking unmitigated ass…whatever that means…
@Evita — Hi Evita, and thank you! Yes, in ways I hadn’t intended — this vacation was a retreat for my mind and soul as well as my physical body. And that was wonderful! You bring up a good point — that sometimes we have to forge forward, even when it’s not in a state of “being”, and especially when this is something that resonates with us. The thing of course to remember is that this is short term, and long term we can still focus on “being”. Evita, I believe you do this so well, and your words about getting back to that and it being your favorite form of existence — I really believe this to be true for you. And it’s one of the many reasons I find you such a positive influence in my life.
@Patricia — Hi Patricia. Good for you making time each day to really concentrate on a state of “being”. Deep breathing can be very much soul comforting — the new air giving us peace and comfort. I have found that whenever I am getting anxious, a few deep breaths usually calm those nerves right down. And that you focus on this — how good for you and your soul.
@Candid Carrie — Hi Carrie, and welcome! There’s nothing wrong with liking home. Especially if you’ve created an environment at home which brings you that sense of “being”, then home really is a great place to “be”. And alone time can be very gratifying, especially if you let that time be used to listen to “you”. Thanks for stopping by today!
Maybe I should take a vacation soon, I seem to feel a depletion in my energy levels, but I do have to rejuvenate a bit before I do that, I’m doing that now here at home, glad that the weather isn’t so hot anymore, it’ll be more conducive now for sleep and relaxation. Happy weekend, Lance!
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I travel to see new places, relax and get a chance of being. I have not travelled too far but I make sure that I learn something wherever I move.
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@I Take Off The Mask — Hi Jocelyn. Yes, rejuvenation can happen at home or away. It really depends upon what works for you. Home is great if you can break away for routine to make that happen — so that’s great! I think that for me personally, this takes more discipline — and is something I really need to work on. You too, have a wonderful weekend!
@Lizwi — That’s a very good point about learning. Visiting new places is also a great opportunity to learn something new — sometimes about the place we’re at, and sometimes about ourselves…
Very true and yes I do, but not nearly often enough. Sounds like you had a great vacation!
I love this post, Lance! It’s very true that we tend to just do, probably what we’ve being doing. It’s great that you have some questions going on. It’s hard to answer those questions sometimes. It could be because of fear of changing or even fear of not changing. But when you have questions in your brain that definitely means you’ve got a little fire brewing!
I wish you some clarity, but not too much. Sometimes the adventure in life is taking the road that is all overgrown and you can’t see where it leads! That’s living! 
Good luck Lance!!
Lance, Your words are beautiful and as I read them I had a huge Ah-Ha moment. When I returned from my family vacation in February, it took me a long time to readjust. I called it the post-vacation blues. Reading your post, I’m realizing now that my heart was breaking because I was missing the 24/7 state of Being and resisting coming back to the world of Doing. I sit here this morning re-energized to keep moving forward on my dream business, which includes helping people connect with their state of Being on a regular basis. Cheers to Vacations!
@Lisa’s Chaos — I’m working on holding onto that feeling of “being” now that I’m home. Challenging, now that I’m back to the normal daily stuff, although I am thinking about it more. Vacation was great, thanks!
@Natalia — Hi Natalia. Doing what we’ve always done — yes! And what’s that going to bring us? Probably what we’ve always got. So, I’ll take these questions as good. And work toward some clarity– and see where the adventure take me. Thanks much Natalia, I appreciate your words…
@Stacey/Create A Balance — Hi Stacey. And thank you. Returning from vacation is a readjustment — I agree. I think you experienced something similar to what I did while being gone — a state of “being” that was much easier to step into. And really for me — it wasn’t even all that purposeful, it just sort of happened. And when it did, everything felt right. I’m thinking about this too, now — how I can consciously get back into a state of being more often — being back home. I’m looking forward to where this takes you, Stacey — I believe very deeply in what you are working toward…
The squirrels did talk back today, something about wanting airline almonds.
But shhhh, don’t tell anyone, m-kay?? I have met with nonbelivers on these types of matters before.
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Jannie, almonds…there’s no way I’m giving up my almonds!!! (in fact, I have some in my desk right now) Hmmm…maybe I’m related to these squirrel friends of yours.
But, shhhh, don’t tell anyone that either…
What a clever site you have. It is refreshing to find such positive and inspiring posts. Thank you!
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