The pathways through our life…there are many.
What will it be? Today. What are you choosing? Do you feel that joy in your heart?
“Joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls.” ~ Mother Teresa
I'd like to introduce a very special friend today. Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord!
I've known Megan for about a year, and in that time I've witnessed her open her heart up to what is right and good in her life. Through all of this, what Megan has given me is a deeper appreciation for life and love and heart-connections.
What does all of this really mean, though?
Please join me, as Megan and I sit down for a conversation on life…
1. When I think of you, I am drawn to the “JoyGirl!” moniker. Explain that to us, how it came about, and what it really means to you.
First of all, “moniker” is such an awesome word. (smile)
The nickname “JoyGirl!” came about through my friend, Steve. He started calling me that from the first day we met. I rather liked it and decided to make it stick. To me, it’s aspirational, descriptive of who I am at my core, and better yet, it’s memorable! I mean, who walks around calling themselves JoyGirl?!! It’s FUN!
- Laugh a lot.
- Draw chalk messages on their friends’ driveways as birthday surprises.
- Fly across the country to spend a long weekend with soul sisters they met online.
- Smile easily; compliment people; encourage others; live from their heart; want the best for the world; feel at peace most of the time… The list goes on.
- Ultimately joygirls just want to have fun (thank you, Cyndi Lauper!).
Lance's Commentary: Aspirational! Now, there's an awesome word!! And those sidewalk chalk creations…Megan…YOU are a chalk Picasso!
2. There’s a saying “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”. Would you share one of those steps you would like to take, yet maybe hold back from doing?
I love this question, but I’m going to answer it backwards. (smile)
I just recently became involved in helping to build what will become Upstate New York’s largest spiritual healing and retreat center. I’m working with two other incredible women on it, and we’re feeling our way through each step since none of us have done anything like this before. The amazing thing is, resources are showing up exactly as we need them to!
A year ago, though, I never could have imagined myself in this role – I would have pushed it off on someone more qualified and motivated. That one step idea would have been lost on me, but now I know I can do this!
And my philosophy, in general, is “If it feels good, do it. If it doesn’t, then don’t.” So I measure the steps taken by how good they feel in my heart. My journey, as you can imagine, has NOT been a straight lines!
Lance's Commentary: The Universe provides! And I also just think Robert Frost as I read this…"I shall be telling this with a sigh. Somewhere ages and ages hence: two roads diverged in a wood, and I – I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference."
Megan, I think this is such a wonderful project for you – building a spiritual healing and retreat center. It really just feels so fitting for what I feel is the essence of who you are. You connect at such a deep level, and in that your heart shines!
3. I draw a whole lot of joy from your presence…so the “Joygirl” name is very fitting. How about those moments, though, when you are not feeling all that joyful?
Another great question; thank you, Lance. I come from a legacy of “not always joyful.” I was a sullen girl for a significant part of my life, and I’m no stranger to dark moods. I still have days when I fall flat. There are times when all I want to do is stay in bed! The difference now, though, is that those not-so-joyful moments don’t last very long, and they’re not nearly as sticky. I don’t get sucked into them the way I used to.
Now I can let myself have a down day, feel however I’m feeling, and then rebound the next day wiser from whatever it taught me.
What’s more, I’ve learned to embrace the idea that everything in life ebbs & flows, and it’s all so very good!
Lance's Commentary: Megan, I love how you both acknowledge these moments AND see them as such a part of you. Such is life…for all of us. That you so openly articulate that here…what a true blessing.
4. Tell us one unexpected thing that has happened to you, from going down this path of starting It’s All About Joy?
(note: All About Joy is Megan's former blog, which she has currently set aside as she works on other projects)
Honestly, I never expected to meet such incredible people, many of whom have become friends. It’s like a beautiful extended family, with tremendous support, encouragement and love flowing to and from one another constantly.
I feel closeness with people who live all over the world; that’s nothing I expected when I started writing my little 500-word posts a few times a week!
Lance's Commentary: That closeness with people from all over, from all walks of life…such an amazing and wonderful thing! And that all leads me to thoughts I have about our world – and how, when we come from a place of deep connection with self, we also find people that lift us up, help us, guide us, walk with us…all in such amazing and caring ways. Megan, know that you have been all of this and more, to me.
5. Deep-down, Megan, what makes you, "you"? And what does a typical day for you involve?
Deep down I have a love for, and curiosity about, life. I also believe everything is possible, and that our beliefs are the only things keeping us from all that we desire. I’m also a pleasure-seeking individual. Even my addictive tendencies hang off of that (avoid pain, seek comfort). All of those things make me “me.”
As for what a typical day involves, I start each day giving thanks. I bow down to the Universe for all the gloriousness in my life, and then I internalize the notion that “I Am God.” Once I can feel that in my cells, I fire up the laptop and get cracking: emailing, writing, reading, creating, connecting, loving…
I run three to six miles just about every day, too, which is made easier by a dream job I recently manifested as a personal assistant to a great guy who’s done well for himself. So throughout the day, I field requests from him, his clients, etc. and help him manage his business and personal lives, all from the comforts of my home — sometimes in my workout clothes, sometimes in my pajamas. Such joy and flexibility!
Lance's Commentary: Life is glorious! Starting your day that way…and I have an even better understanding why that "JoyGirl!" moniker is so fitting!
6. What are you "letting go" of today, to move toward the deeper voice in your heart?
For starters, I let go of my blog. I kept getting the prompt that it was time to take a break, so I did. Doing so meant facing the fearful “what ifs?”, especially since my blog shaped how people came to know me in our community. When the fear – those “what ifs” – arose, I had clarity: I wasn’t blogging because it soothed my heart anymore as much as I blogged to feed some part of my identity. That’s when I knew it had to go.
I also started letting go of other personal goals that were centered around strengthening “Megan Bord,” the brand. Things like publishing a book, being “well known” for something (anything!), accomplishments, validation, etc. It’s less about me these days – or at least, the “me” that I’ve always known. There’s a bigger sense of community – of oneness – that I’m aligning myself with. I don’t quite know what that means yet, but it’s okay!
In this letting go, I feel clearer and free. And that, along with being here today, feels good.
Thank you for sharing your space with me, Lance, and for demonstrating love in everything you do.
Lance's Commentary: Megan, this is all beautifully okay…as you align more deeply with what your heart speaks. As I read what you've written here, I KNOW that you are traveling on your own path…and a path that is such a right place for you to be.
7. What does LOVE mean to you?
In my eyes, love is the ultimate wisdom, and it’s an energy that can be felt in the body: as warmth, as pulsation, as healing, as assuredness, as the original source of joy. Love is all-knowing, and it connects everyone and everything on this planet.
Love is the universal currency:
Without it, we are poor.
But if we have love and nothing else, we have everything we need.
Lance's Commentary: This is truly YOU. And I really believe this, just by the way you "care". I've felt that in every conversation we've had. I always believe that what I'm saying to you…it matters. And in that, I feel deep love. You ARE currency for the world!
Closing Thoughts: Megan, you embody what is right in our world…embracing all of life…and wrapping it in love. And in doing that, I feel this deeper connection with you, and even more – a deeper sense of how amazing and beautiful our world is when we embrace that oneness…the collective heart…the whole of humanity.
Megan, it is such an honor to call you friend, to have you here in this space, and to know that your beauty goes deep and wide.