The Real Deal About Shining

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Don't Let Haters Keep You From Being Your Best

Listen. There are haters everywhere. And by haters, I'm referring to people who get jealous of your success, do not want to see you rise, and who are intimidated by your greatness.

The truth is, your greatness is a constant reminder of what they are not doing in their lives. You can either shrink and crawl into your dark hole when you are amidst jealous folks, or you can stand in your power and keep shining on.

It can be scary at first to shine 100 percent despite what people are saying or thinking about you (which by the way you have absolutely no control over). But I promise you this: you standing strong in all of your awesomeness will create a space for others to do the same in THEIR lives.

Three things to remember:

  1. Not everyone will like you or be happy for you. This took a long time for me to understand. As someone that just wants love and affection (as we all do), I never quite understood why some people didn't dig me, or want to be my friend. I now get it. And I also know that it's neither my job nor my soul purpose to get everyone to love me. All I can do is BE the love – wherever I go and with whomever I meet.
  2. Don't brag about your success. There is a huge difference between acknowledging your accomplishments and being humble versus rattling off a list of all your accomplishments every time someone asks you, "Hey how are you doing?" Be proud of the work that you have put in. Be proud of honoring and cherishing your gifts to make a difference in the world. And, remember that you are still awesome in spite of it.
  3. Keep on keepin' on. No matter who or what crosses your path, positive or negative, your only job is to keep it moving. Remember you have a purpose here on this planet. And, if you're going to let haters, evil eyes, jealousy, and all the baggage that comes along with people feeling inferior or insecure stop you, then you need to reconnect with why you are here, who you know yourself to be, and keep it moving.

You are loved. You always have been. Cherish the people who support, love, and honor you. And never forget just how amazing you are.

About the Author: Licensed master social worker Vasavi Kumar coaches people to "get past their past" to take charge of their future. A certified life coach, she holds dual master's degrees in social work and special education. Vasavi is co-author of the best-selling book Succeeding in Spite of Everything and appears regularly on Kansas City Live as the "Keepin' It Real Guru" answering viewers' life questions. Learn more at

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vishakha Singh May 19, 2013 at 6:57 pm

A beautiful post Vasavi and probably won’t be wrong if I refer it as a spiritual one. šŸ™‚


Vasavi Kumar May 23, 2013 at 11:53 am

Hey Vishaka!!!! Yes, it is absolutely a spiritual one with a flavor of Keepin’ It Real šŸ˜‰

Glad you enjoyed it!!!



peter May 20, 2013 at 5:08 am

Haters gonna hate, there is nothing to do with that, the most important thing is to handle them the right way. They cannot affect on your shining, it must only depend on your inner emotional status quo. And it can be trained as well, so you really can (and have to) learn how to shine bright like a diamond;)


Vasavi Kumar May 23, 2013 at 11:53 am

YES YES Peter!!!! Keep on shining. The world needs your sparkle!!!!

Love, Vasavi
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Gabi May 20, 2013 at 5:48 am

Haters gonna hate, you only need to handle them the right way. And they mustn’t affect on the brightness of your shining, it only must depend on your inner mood…


Vasavi Kumar May 23, 2013 at 11:55 am

right on gabi!!!!!

Your life was put here to make a difference in the lives of others. keep dong your thing šŸ™‚

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Lori Gosselin May 20, 2013 at 12:01 pm

“…and never forget how amazing you are.” – yet we do – why is that?
I love this Vasavi and especially this: ” No matĀ­ter who or what crosses your path, posĀ­iĀ­tive or negĀ­aĀ­tive, your only job is to keep it movĀ­ing.” Keeping it moving
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Vasavi Kumar May 23, 2013 at 11:56 am

Hey Lori!!!

It’s so easy to forget how amazing we are because we’ve been trained to look at what’s NOT working rather than to be grateful and appreciate what IS working. And totally…keep it moving!!!!!!

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Paul Odafe Akpomukai May 28, 2013 at 5:26 am

There will be plenty of times on our road to success and achievements that we shall have to believe more in our own abilities, more in our own imagination of creation and have more faith in who we are and what we can accomplish; more so, than people in this world will have in usā€¦

If you can sustain, persevere the challenges of adversities, and at times bare the cold harshness of many peopleā€™s indifferences or neglects towards your dreams; then your chances of succeeding will become immensely real. And there could be no predictions on how far your dreams could take youā€¦

Yet it starts with the little bridges of talent and skills, build the little bridges first, and when you have mastered those, go on to build bigger bridges; till one day, you will have build a bridge so phenomenal that it will give you the opportunity to walk on over from where you are, to where you always dreamed to want to be..,


Wafa May 29, 2013 at 8:37 pm

Hello Dear Vasavi,
I love your positive spirit! I can feel your positive energy ! You are a wonderful woman! Please tell me, how about when the hater is a biological sister who keeps draining you down, and unfortunately you have to see her everyday because you are sharing the same business.


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