What Does All Of This Mean?

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"A candle loses none of its light by lighting another candle." ~ Anonymous

Note:  This post is a collaborative effort between myself and Lisis, from Quest for Balance.  Lisis' contributions appear in the shaded boxes.

I recently had a conversation with Lisis, who has become a wonderful blogging friend this past year.  In the course of that conversation, she said something that was deeply touching to me.

"When I started blogging, I wanted to be just like Seth Godin (reaching the masses, and having them think each and every word I wrote was brilliant). Now, almost a year later, I want to be more like YOU. It's not ABOUT having people admire my writing. What matters is that people want to feel heard, and appreciated."

I let those words soak into my soul.  And I started to think about what this all really does mean to me.  Today I share these words from Lisis with you, as she and I talk about what this blogging experience has come to mean to each of us.

I think back to when this journey here begin for me, to the spring of 2008.  Blogging…an outlet to write.  And so I did.  And I did this under a veil of anonymity.  No pictures of me.  No full name or location disclosures.  And I wrote with this idea that maybe someone might find some meaning in my words.  What I didn't think about at the time was how deeply connecting the sharing of words, the writing of stories, could be.

Blogging is a way for me to share my heart with others, to reach out to people, and help them find their way through difficult situations.

So, I see life as a journey, one that is filled with many bends along the way.  Part of this journey has become this site, and all of you who come here and read these words.  Maybe they do touch upon something for you.  See, that's something I'll never know for sure, the full impact of what I have written.  Maybe you read these words, and find some meaning as you go about your day, your week, your life.  Perhaps there's something here that touches something deeper for you. 

The only writing I've ever done is in my personal journals, and the reason they are now online is because someone else may find comfort in them. Blogging is my announcement to the world that says, "I'm here, I care, and I'm a really good listener… you are not alone."  If I can get that message across, and make a difference in someone's life, then I've accomplished what I set out to do.

What began as just some anonymous writing, has become much more about that deeper connection with what matters in life, about that desire I believe that we all have to feel connected, appreciated, cared for, loved. If I can somehow leave you with any of this, that is success. 

There are so many blogs that cater to readers who are basically getting by in life, and aiming to become hugely successful. Quest for Balance is my way of reaching out to readers who are just trying to get by at all, struggling to get through each day, because their real (or imagined) challenges are a burden too great to bear alone. When I find people who feel they are in total darkness, I try to provide a glimmer of hope, a tiny light that shows them there IS a way out. Sometimes, that's all it takes to find the strength to move in a whole new direction.

Blogging has evolved to be a very personal and connecting experience for me.  If I have somehow, touched another soul, through these written words, that is enough.  It matters not how many subscribers I have…if the words I share have not touched upon something deeper and more meaningful.  If this message is one that someone has experienced in some personal way, then having created this blog has been good. 

One of the greatest benefits of blogging, which I never could have anticipated, is meeting so many wonderful, loving, caring, compassionate people from around the world. If I had the means, I'd go visit every one of them to thank them for their uplifting presence in my life. In my effort to reach out to others, all sorts of new friends in distant places have in turn embraced me, and made my world infinitely brighter.

This is what blogging has come to mean to both Lisis and I.  There is no one right way,  and this is only one experience, of many.  

A very special thank you to Lisis, for sparking the idea for this post, and sharing her own personal and meaningful thoughts.  Lisis writes from her heart and connects very deeply with her readers.  Keep up with her by subscribing to her blog and following her on Twitter.

Lance writes stories from his heart, aiming to inspire and motivate, as you align more fully with YOUR true peak. When he's not here, you can find him hanging out with his family, riding a bike, or just generally acting goofy.   Sign up for the Thoughts from the Treehouse newsletter and get additional inspiration in your email inbox!
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Positively Present December 22, 2009 at 6:03 am

What a fantastic post! I love the way you had this one written. It’s brilliant! I just RTed it and I know others are going to come over here, read it, and love it as much as I did. Great job, you guys! 🙂
.-= Positively Present´s Last Fabulous Post ..we are snowflakes: how to celebrate uniqueness in others =-.


Peggy December 22, 2009 at 6:13 am

Isn’t this the truth about the wonderful blogging community we’re a part of? The willingness of so many to share for the sake of sharing. To reach out and say “you’re not alone,” “I understand.” To reach so many with a kind word or an “a-ha” lesson. To teach through our own experience.

Much love to you and Lisis!
.-= Peggy´s Last Fabulous Post ..Your Moment of Bliss =-.


Jeanne December 22, 2009 at 6:17 am

Thanks for this post and your blog.
Merry Christmas and blessings to you and yours
.-= Jeanne´s Last Fabulous Post ..Happy Birthday my dear Sister Debbie =-.


Marisa (Loser for Life) December 22, 2009 at 6:25 am

Fantastic! And so true. When I first began blogging, it was to share my weight loss struggles and my love of good food. I didn’t realize how it would affect me in such a positive way. I became part of a community of people who share my same struggles and passions! They have become an integral part of my daily blogging.
.-= Marisa (Loser for Life)´s Last Fabulous Post ..Cookie Day For One =-.


Keith December 22, 2009 at 6:43 am

Hi Lance,

Great, great article! Isn’t it amazing how one’s perspective will change when personal growth takes place. I began my blogging journey with a certain mindset too, but this past year has seen several changes in me so I now have a different “mission” and I desire different things. Like you and Lisis, my chief aim is to have my life and my writing benefit others. To give them a word of encouragement when they need it, a motivational boost when they get weary or just a knee-slapping laugh when they are feeling a bit down. To extend my hand to another human being as there have been many times when a heloping hand has been extended to me. I want to pay it forward, backward and sideways. I am blessed to have come to know people like you, Tess, Lori, Megan and so many others.

Thanks Lance and Lisis! I feel ready to face this day now, better equipped and inspired to be the difference that I desire to see in the world. 🙂
.-= Keith´s Last Fabulous Post ..It’s Time To Get Real! =-.


Jay Schryer December 22, 2009 at 6:58 am

Well, I, for one, feel incredibly blessed to know both of you, and that would not be possible without our respective blogs. Both of you have written so many things that touched me, or made me think, or just entertained me, and the worth of that is incalcu…err…immeasur….errr well it’s a lot. Just because I can’t spell how much it means doesn’t mean that it doesn’t mean a lot! Or something. I think I may have to re-evaluate my need for coffee in the morning….
.-= Jay Schryer´s Last Fabulous Post ..A Christmas Story =-.


Trish @IamSucceeding December 22, 2009 at 7:29 am

I LOVE the blogging community!! Thank you for shareing this!!
.-= Trish @IamSucceeding´s Last Fabulous Post ..Whole Wheat Streusel Coffee Cake =-.


Mama Zen December 22, 2009 at 7:36 am

Such a beautiful, unselfish view of blogging! I love it!
.-= Mama Zen´s Last Fabulous Post ..I’ve Got Your Spirit Finger! =-.


Lisis December 22, 2009 at 7:42 am

Lance, I love how you put this together! Only you can take an ordinary conversation between friends and turn it into a beautifully extraordinary and meaningful story to be shared. I look forward to reading the comments and learning what blogging means to others.

Thanks for this written dance, my friend!

Jay, seeing as you’re and editor, and all, I really think you should consider adding coffee to your morning routine! 😉


Rocky | R O C K O N O V A.COM December 22, 2009 at 7:57 am

“I’m here, I care, and I’m a really good listener… you are not alone.”

pure awesomeness from the both of ya! great stuff!
.-= Rocky | R O C K O N O V A.COM´s Last Fabulous Post ..Giving Yourself Props For What You’ve Done =-.


Hilary December 22, 2009 at 8:01 am

Hi Lance and Lisis .. great to hear where your ideas came from and how you’ve both developed quietly along the way. The way you both put your ideas over make for a great ‘about’ page – so the reader can find out your journey.

Lance you do really draw everyone in, and engage with your comment replies – and that’s a great attribute. Lisis to be able to help others and guide them through their darkness, so they can see some light and perhaps a smile – says a million things.

We all need you both at this time of year – and your authenticity rings true .. the friends will stay and be with you on your journey – how lovely that you both ‘met up’ and talked and connected that way too ..

Enjoy the season – blessings to all
Hilary Melton-Butcher
Positive Letters Inspiratonal Stories
.-= Hilary´s Last Fabulous Post ..Kissing under the Mistletoe – how did it all begin? and Asterix! =-.


Evelyn Lim December 22, 2009 at 8:01 am

Love the buzz of this post: love, friendship and connection! Way to go, Lance and Lisis!

You’ve certainly evolved, Lance, along with the site! Now that you mention, I recall the early days when I first come to your blog. Yes, I remember a time when I have no idea how you look like. At first a photo, you started to shine as your true self unfolded. Glad to have known you, Lance!
.-= Evelyn Lim´s Last Fabulous Post ..Christmas Greetings From Singapore Botanic Gardens =-.


Sharmila II December 22, 2009 at 8:40 am

Lance, I love this post so much!! 🙂
Thank you to you and Lisis for sharing! You made a lot of very good points that resonated deeply with me and are in divine timing! I think as a writer I feel more expectations and often need to lighten up and move them aside to let the inner child play and just do what I love naturally 🙂 I’m learning … mostly, I love connecting as you shared and I appreciate you and some other wonderful people I’ve met through networking and my heart is so filled with gratitude for this community bond! 😉 Many blessings to you as you continue to blog and inspire! You are a natural and I enjoy hearing what you have to say often! I respect you so much! many blessings, Jen
.-= Sharmila II´s Last Fabulous Post ..A Quick Healthy Lunch Idea for Two!! 🙂 =-.


Evita December 22, 2009 at 9:04 am

That is so beautiful you two!

You both made me reflect on how I would answer and approach the same themes of why I write, etc.
What I find most amazing is how so many of us can be out there in the “blogging world” today, and some of us could write about the same stuff, yet each of us will say the message differently, and each of us could be doing it from so many different personal reasons, and yet we all touch people in some way.

Thank you Lisis and Lance!
.-= Evita´s Last Fabulous Post ..It’s A Wonderful Life and Your Role In It Is Irreplaceable =-.


Daphne December 22, 2009 at 9:25 am

Lance and Lisis, both of you have made such a big difference in my life. I started blogging because I knew that I needed help, I needed community, and I needed to protect my identity while doing it. Little did I know what a wonderful community I would discover, full of caring, understanding, and giving people like both of you. I am also happy to report that my blog has evolved into something similar to what you describe. I get so much enjoyment out of thinking that my words and experiences might help support others, so that I am not only getting, I am also giving. ‘Tis the season, after all.

Happy Holidays!
.-= Daphne´s Last Fabulous Post ..My First Blog Award =-.


Laura Hegfield December 22, 2009 at 9:35 am

all of what you both shared resonates for me! it certainly isn’t about being famous or perfect or brilliant…for me, blogging is about being REAL and connecting in deep and meaningful ways with others. blogging has become a way for me to find community, to be release, reveal, be heard and in turn to look, listen, see, hear the longings/passion/compassion/humanity of the sojourners I have met and befriended along the way. Blogging is often a writing meditation and healing ritual for me. I am so grateful to be part of this world wide community of loving souls.
bright blessings to all,
.-= Laura Hegfield´s Last Fabulous Post ..Darkness Provides =-.


suzen December 22, 2009 at 9:35 am

Hi Lance and Lisis!
Fantastic! You both spoke for so many of us! I just feel so phenomenally blessed by the connections, and the way people respond to my blogs. Like you both said, we are not alone! I USED to say, writers write in the dark. That was my experience anyway. I would write an article for a magazine and wait so long to see it in print – and even when I did I never ever knew if what I wrote resonated with ANYone! (hence the darkness). There was no feedback, no comments. It was really kind of lonely.

Here, in the blogosphere, is just WOW – WOW – WOW! Each person I’ve “met”, each comment that is left, ALL brilliant shining stars that light up my life! It is precious beyond words.

Thank you both for a wonderful post!
Holiday Hugs
.-= suzen´s Last Fabulous Post ..Happy Winter Solstice! =-.


Sagan December 22, 2009 at 10:09 am

This is so true, Lance. It’s amazing how blogging changes over time and how our position with it alters… sometimes our blog grows into something completely different than we expected. And that can be wonderful!
.-= Sagan´s Last Fabulous Post ..Day 22 of the 200 Reps Challenge =-.


Lance December 22, 2009 at 10:23 am

@Positively Present – Hi Dani. Thank you for all your support! Working with Lisis on this, it really brought out the thoughts of what this all really means for me.

@Peggy – The community that develops is really the one big thing that I never expected…and has been so amazing! It reminds me that our world is filled with many deeply caring souls. Peggy, thank you for being here, and for sharing your love so freely.

@Jeanne – Thank you, Jeanne. And Merry Christmas to you and your family too!

@Marisa – To watch that all unfold, to see the unplanned positive affects that come from typing some words onto a screen – wow! There is something very connecting about the community that develops from these words – and that supports, and that shares in our journey’s. And it’s great to have you here today Marisa!

@Keith – Hi Keith. And I see that from your writing. Your comments always feel conversational. It’s like I’m sitting down, talking with you. And that really is what I think makes this so great – what started as a place out on the great big Internet, has become a place that feels like a home with friendly visitors – new and old alike. So…as you go forth today, Keith – know that you DO make a difference…always.

@Jay – Jay! So…you know Lisis too??? Actually, you two have even met, right! That takes this all to an even different level, making these friendships even stronger. Those are some big words you are …err..trying to type! Question? Would I even understand them (I’m really good with three letter words…). Jay, it’s great having you here, and even more – knowing you. It’s time for coffee (for both of us!)

@Trish – The blogging community that develops is all sorts of wonderful…just like YOU! Thanks, Trish, for being here today!

@Mama Zen – Thanks, Mama Zen!


Lance December 22, 2009 at 10:32 am

This never would have happened, had you not shared your wonderful-ness in an email a couple of weeks ago. So…extraordinary, well…that, awesome friend, is YOU! And I think it all speaks very much to your heart, and how much of it you share so openly. Lisis, you shine at making deep and meaningful connections. And it’s because you care. Really, I think it is all so wonderful to see – you, in action. And that’s an action that touches other’s souls. If you ask me, that makes you a hero. I mean that very much. You have a real knack for seeing the good, speaking your truth, touching upon matters of the heart, and bringing sunshine and laughter along with it all. It is an honor to be dancing here with you today…


Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker December 22, 2009 at 10:50 am

Lance and Lisis, like you both I have been truly amazed at the wonderful bloggers that I have become friends with through the writing of my blog and visiting other blogs online. Lance, your blog is always a Light in my world. You have such a big heart and it is always a compassionate heart. We need more people like you in the world. You really care about others.

Lance, I would have thought that you had been blogging for years. I must have stumbled across your blog just after you started blogging. I have actually been a blogger longer than you have. I posted my first blog article on June 1, 2007. Since then my blog has evolved into writing mostly about my experiences in recovery from incest and the family disease of alcoholism. My blog has always been about my spiritual journey through life. Thanks for making it a brighter place to be in.
Merry Christmas to all.
.-= Patricia – Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker´s Last Fabulous Post ..The Spirit Of Christmas =-.


Lance December 22, 2009 at 11:09 am

@Rocky – It’s great to have you here, Rocky! Lisis…she’s the one who really brings out the awesome!

@Hilary – Hi Hilary. Your words are wonderfully kind. Thank you. And really, Lisis does this so well – connecting and engaging the active community on her site. And that’s testament to her caring spirit. And I see that in you, too, Hilary – your comments are always meaningful. Know that I appreciate you.

@Evelyn – This post just seemed to work so well as a joint post. And it came together so beautifully. You have been a long-time supporter, Evelyn, and know that I appreciate that very much. So…yes, you have seen some of this evolving that has taken place. All part of the journey, and so good to be on. Evelyn, your spirit always connects me back to a deeper spot within, and today is no exception. It is so good having you along on this journey…

@Sharmilla II – Hi Jen, and thank YOU! I would say we are all learning on this journey we’re on – whatever path that is taking us down. And I also think that deep within our souls, there is a yearning for that connection, for all of us. Seeing that unfold here, through words shared – has been very special. Having you here is special. May you continue down this path, Jen, filled with the love you share so wonderfully…

@Evita – Hi Evita. The words you share speak volumes to the person you are. You shine such love and light into the world, having you here is a real gift. Always. And I find it amazing, too, how the same message, spoken by different people, can really expand our own thinking. Lisis has done this beautifully with a recent piece on “Net Worth vs. Self Worth: The Passion Paradox”, inviting others to share their own perspectives on this. A powerful example of how there can be such an expansion of our minds and hearts, from words that at first blush appear to be similar to something else we may have read. Evita, know that your being here is a gift, and one that brings much joy…

@Daphne – Daphne, your words are humbling, and touch upon my soul. It is an honor to have you here, and share so openly. And the community that develops – it really is so deeply good. And as we start to see this, certainly as I started to see this – an evolution did take place, slowly and over time, to where I am today. So good to hear you are experiencing this same love. And yes, it’s a two-way street – and has been for me, always. To know that my words have somehow helped someone else feels so good, and at the same time – there is so much I draw from everyone who shares here, and on their own sites. And that also feels so good… Happy holidays Daphne!


Jodi at Joy Discovered December 22, 2009 at 11:27 am

Hi Lance!
This is a lovely piece. It is wonderful that you and Lisis could communicate on such a heartfelt level–and that you shared that here with us! Your blog has touched my life; your words, your images, your comments, all of that has touched my life in a huge way. I am glad you decided to break through the cloak of anonymity; it is wonderful to know you, it is wonderful to know what you look like and to see your smiling face in some of your lighter posts! Keep up the good work! 🙂
Happy holidays to you, my friend! Cheers to another good year ahead! Jodi
.-= Jodi at Joy Discovered´s Last Fabulous Post ..Love, Love, Love =-.


Akemi - Yes to Me December 22, 2009 at 11:49 am

I love this!
Blogging has a way to change life, both for the writer and the readers. I started my first blog (I closed it after launching Yes to Me…) in Sept 07, and somehow quit my corporate job in two months. Ha! (This seems to happen quite often, so look out.)

And I love your heart-centered approach. There are so many blogging “advice” how to attract subscribers, etc. When a blog is tied to a business, I do understand the need to promote. But there is also this genuine need to express ourselves and to connect with others. This post is an excellent reminder for this.

Happy Holidays, love and joy to you both, and all readers here,

.-= Akemi – Yes to Me´s Last Fabulous Post ..Motivation vs Inspiration =-.


Louise@TheIntentionalWorkplace December 22, 2009 at 1:30 pm

Hello Lance and Lisis,
Can’t thank you enough for this wonderful post! As a BRAND NEW blogger, it is so wonderful to get some insight into your personal pathways on your blogging journey. You have expressed here, beautifully, so many of the thoughts and feelings I have experienced embarking on my own quest. I was just reflecting on how deeply personal the motivation must be to reach others authentically — and how so much of what is “out there” is done purely for commerce. Reading through the many loving and supportive comments also paints a welcome picture of a caring and supportive blogging community that I look forward to becoming a part of. This has reinforced for me, that there is something deep and real going on that goes way beyond the stats that drive so much of blogging. While all writers want readers – touching others is ultimately what is meaningful.
Joy and the Happiest of Holidays,
Louise – The Intentional Workplace’s last (and only 2nd post!)


Lance December 22, 2009 at 1:47 pm

@Laura – Being REAL, that is what it’s all about. And when we are real, and open – that is when those connections are the strongest. Laura, you have said it so, so well – it’s this two way sharing and connecting on the journey’s through our life – and that is so touching upon the soul. Reading that there is healing in your writing, Laura, is so beautiful to hear. Your love shines through, always…

@Suzen – Hi Suzen. It is so interesting to read about your magazine experiences. That’s something I am not at all familiar with, and reading it – I feel this coldness. Not that magazines are bad – it’s just that I have really connected with the humanity of words written here on the Internet. Suzen, you see those brilliant and shining stars, because that is exactly YOU! And your presence here is precious. Happiest of holidays ahead for you and your family…

@Sagan – I do believe that, probably with everyone who does this, there is an evolving process as we learn and grow. And sometimes that leads to new directions, new ideas, and wonderful new friends…like YOU!

@Patricia – Spiritual Journey of a Lightworker — Patricia, I am humbled by your words here today. Know that they mean the world to me, and when I read this, I know that what I am doing is right. Thank you. And see, you have been blogging for ever in Internet terms! I know the subject matter you write about, and I really believe this is so important – everything that you share. You give words to what sometimes gets buried and not discussed…and that is deeply good. Thank you for making this world better…you do.

@Jodi – Hi Jodi. I have know Lisis for a while now, and ever since our first encounter…I’ve just felt there was this level that we were both at. And then an email conversation between us really led to this idea, which seemed so fitting, especially this time of year. And when I look back over the last year and a half…there really has been a lot of change. It’s really been about these relationships, like with you, that have made breaking that cloak of anonymity so much easier. And it feels right. Jodi, your support and caring have been wonderful, and you shine love into my world. I look forward to what the future holds for you, wonderful friend…

@Akemi – Thank YOU!!! Blogging is transforming, and I suppose that’s to the extent which we allow it. Which, I think, has a lot to do with our open-ness to sharing. And I think this applies really to many genres of blogs. Akemi, you are a real example of this transformation – 2 months! Wow! (Okay, I’m on the lookout now…) So, yes, I have chosen a heart-centered approach (or, I certainly try to do that), and it works well for me. It feels right. And other blogs fit more of an advice type of approach. Or other types, even. And it’s all good – and it’s all part of what rings true for each of us. I think we are drawn to what speaks to us. Akemi, having you hear is wonderful, as I feel that connection, and the genuine-ness in your voice. Happy Holidays to you…

@Louise – Hi Louise. First off, welcome! And as a new blogger, seeing you here today is wonderful. These comments are packed with wisdom, from so many who are out there, doing this, living this – connecting at deeper levels. In the end, I really think it comes down to what matters to you. Seeing the support and care of so many amazing people is something that I have found both moving and touching. My hope is that you experience this, too – there are wonderful people out there – and the Internet brings them all closer together. Happy holidays!


Audra Krell December 22, 2009 at 2:33 pm

I thought I was the only one who secretly wanted to be Seth Godin. ha ha. It is all about being yourself, finding your own voice and staying true to it. You and Lisis have both done an excellent job with that!
.-= Audra Krell´s Last Fabulous Post ..Santa Save Me =-.


Julie December 22, 2009 at 2:58 pm

Isn’t it fabulous how we’ve each evolved individually, right here online, and found our community of like-minded loved ones? I completely related to everything both of you said, Lance and Lisis, and I think it’s marvelous that we’ve all found such support, such a place of welcome belonging, where—as Evita said—we all convey the same messages of love and growth and acceptance, understanding and compassion…and yet by saying it in different ways—our own unique ways—we fill in all the tiny little gaps caused by nuances and perspectives. We all contribute to a beautiful whole.

And we learn. We learn from each other. It’s possible because we’re approaching this, as Akemi says, with heart. That speaks volumes, and is the invitation for us all to open our arms a little wider—for ourselves and for others, too.

Lance, I’m SO glad to call you dear brother-friend and, Lisis, I’m looking forward to becoming more acquaianted this coming year. The best of holidays to you both!
.-= Julie´s Last Fabulous Post ..Nothing =-.


Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord December 22, 2009 at 4:08 pm

I loved reading both of your takes on why you blog and what writing & connecting means to you. I really resonate with various parts of what you both wrote, and like you, feel so grateful for the incredible people I have met in this past year. Life is really good, and that’s due, in large part, to every blogger whose words find me at just the right time and inspire me in the most perfect of ways.
Blessings of love and joy to you both!
You are both treasures in our world.
.-= Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s Last Fabulous Post ..Funny Cookies =-.


Angelia (Texas) December 22, 2009 at 5:25 pm

Lance and Lisis,

These are my sentiments exactly. How wonderful that you put to words what so many of us yearn to express through our hearts and writing. I really do wish more could experience the intense fulfillment that blogging brings. The connections, the tears, and the absolute support. I am blown away by it, and most especially by the kindness extended to all.

Thank you for sharing and thank you for reaching out.

Blessings to you both!

.-= Angelia (Texas)´s Last Fabulous Post ..A Stunning Christmas =-.


Lori December 22, 2009 at 6:04 pm

“If this message is one that someone has experienced in some personal way, then having created this blog has been good.”

Lance, YES! You’ve shown me the way – grabbed my virtual hand, and I stand before you all today a changed woman compared to this time last year.

“When I find people who feel they are in total darkness, I try to provide a glimmer of hope, a tiny light that shows them there IS a way out.”

Lisis, YES! You’ve shown me the way – grabbed my virtual hand, and I stand before you all today a changed woman compared to this time last year.

The blessings the two you have brought me in 2009 are immeasurable. If you’re ever feeling you need a boost or a reason to continue your efforts here in the this space – give me a call and I’ll start listing all the days you made my life more inhabitable.

And thanks for giving me this opportunity to publicly thank you both for your compassionate work. Imagine me bowing in respect and acknowledgment.
In Peace and Love,
.-= Lori´s Last Fabulous Post ..Audio Greetings =-.


Karl Staib - Work Happy Now December 22, 2009 at 7:27 pm

I thank the universe every day for the blogging platform. Maybe I should donate to WP. 🙂

The connections that I’ve experienced has changed my life. It’s made me more compassionate and appreciative of the things in my life.

My favorite part of blogging is the self discovery. I’ve never worked so hard on a project as I do on my blog. I put my sweat and tears into my blog and I’m rewarded every single day. I don’t know how writers who wrote to masses without this direct feedback did it. They wrote and hoped it would strike a chord. We write and within minutes/hours we know if we touched someone’s heart. That is a beautiful thing.


Tim December 22, 2009 at 7:38 pm

Hi Lance:

As I read your post, I could identify with the reason you blog. I, too, started an anonymous blog not really sure where it would take me. I assure you that, your stories, topics and especially your friendship and support have made an impact with me and I also believe that your enthusiasm for your topic and especially the way you support and encourage a lot of us bloggers is deeply appreciated, too. Lance, I wish you and your family an awesome holiday season!

Lisis, I’m still getting to know you and I’ve really enjoyed what you’ve written on your blog. I know what you mean about the friendships that you’ve gained…I really feel the same over at my blog and it really gives me a great deal of energy and deep sense of gratitude. Thank you for doing what you do and I wish you and your family a great holiday as well!
.-= Tim´s Last Fabulous Post ..Weekend Musical Diversion: Ray Charles =-.


vered December 22, 2009 at 9:01 pm

It’s always interesting to hear about how different bloggers view bloggers and the meaning they give to their blogging journey. As always, fascinating – thanks to both of you, lance and Lisis.


Caroline December 22, 2009 at 9:05 pm

Blogging has changed my life. Really! I too had dreams of reaching the masses…but then as I evolved it became a special home to create, explore and grow as a person. The people that comment on my blog have lifted my spirits and touched my soul. I had no idea this would ever happen…and it’s been an amazing part of my life.
.-= Caroline´s Last Fabulous Post ..2009 wrap up =-.


FatFighterTV December 22, 2009 at 9:17 pm

Thanks to both of you for sharing this post. I set out to help others with my blog, and I’m amazed every day by how much I learn from those who visit my site. So glad to have connected with you in this vast blogosphere, Lance!
.-= FatFighterTV´s Last Fabulous Post ..Lookin’ good… =-.


Lance December 22, 2009 at 9:21 pm

@Audra – Ha!! Well…you and Lisis…(and, hmmm….maybe, just for a day…me too!). So true, Audra – this idea that it’s about finding your voice. When we do find our “voice”, we speak much more from the heart and about what truly matters to us. And there’s passion in that. So, thank you for your wonderfully affirming comments to both Lisis and I. And know that I see all of this in you, too, and in the beautiful message you always share.

@Julie – I think we are drawn to that which resonates with us. I’m sure I didn’t see this at first, and it was definitely not something I even thought about. To see it beautifully unfold, though, has been such an amazing experience. Julie, I love the last line of your first paragraph – “We all contribute to a beautiful whole.” In this journey through life, our paths have crossed for a reason. And reading this sentence you shared – I think this is it. We all help to shine our light at a little different angle, and that all adds so much to our life experiences. Julie, know that my arms are always open…and they are most definitely always open to you. Your wonderful and deeply caring friendship is treasured.

@Megan – It’s about the people…Megan, there’s so much beauty in that statement! In a world where bigger is better and more equals power – it can be easy to get wrapped up in how many visitors I have, or how many subscribers, or where do I rank. And seeing those numbers improving can feel good. I think, though, it feels better when you are able to touch someone in a very special way. Megan, I’m sure you also feel this way, and I believe that based on how I’ve witnessed you connecting with people on your site. So, know that I think the world of all the beauty and joy you bring to the world…and knowing you and calling you friend is an honor.

@Angelia – Angelia, I see you sharing so openly. And that is your heart speaking. That is so fulfilling, isn’t it. Especially when you do this, and connect with another soul. Friends without any borders. And to the kindness…I also believe that you get what you give. I know you give kindness in such a meaningful way, both online and offline. You are a shining star!

@Lori – Lori, I am deeply moved by your comment. These words you have spoken touch upon my soul, and only strengthen the beautiful friendship we already have. And knowing that you share these words with Lisis, too, makes them even more meaningful. I’ve witnessed Lisis and her beautiful soul, and your beautiful soul. So, to share these words…Lori, thank you. I know that’s not enough. And I know also that you are saying that I have somehow helped you. That brings much joy to my heart. And I am also deeply humbled by these words. Know, too, that you have been a beautiful and shining beacon of light in my life. And I will always hold a special place in my heart for you. Love and light to you, dear friend.


Lance December 22, 2009 at 9:44 pm

@Karl – What is really so amazing, when I think about it, is how the blogging platfomr has really made the world smaller. Wow! We can connect with people from all over the world! What a great way to bring together like-minded people! What you have experienced, I have also, Karl – these connections with others have made me more compassionate and caring in all aspects of my life. What a beautiful gift! Putting in the long hours, discovering what works and what doesn’t, forging these meaningful connections – this all takes our time and effort. When it’s something we really connect with, though, there’s great joy in that. Karl, it is so good to call you friend.

@Tim – Hi Tim. It’s all part of the journey, isn’t it. Reading your words tonight, I am deeply moved. To hear those words – “…your friendship and support have made an impact with me…” – Tim, this touches me at my soul. Thank you. And know also that this is so much a two-way street – and your presence in my life has meant the world to me. And I wish you a very happy and joy-filled holiday season!

@Vered – Vered, thanks so much for being here. It is a journey, in so many ways – not just a journey into what blogging is, but really it’s also a journey into ourselves. And that’s a great journey to be on.

@Caroline – We have this vision when we start out, whatever that happens to be – from small to grandiose. And having a vision is great, but with all things new, there is also a time of really getting beyond the honeymoon. Once we do this, the journey really begins to unfold, and that can be completely different from our vision. It certainly was for me. And we evolve. Much like you have (and I have too), and you find that spot that makes your heart sing. What a place to be! And then…to connect with others in this whole process…beautiful. Like you, Caroline, and your spirit….

@FatFighterTV – When we are open to it, it really is amazing how this all becomes so much of a two-way street. And I think that is pretty awesome! Sahar, these feeling go both ways. Your spirit always shines and lifts me up, and I am deeply grateful for that.


Daphne @ Joyful Days December 22, 2009 at 10:56 pm


You’re a blogging hero to so many. I remember when I first started blogging and wondered how you built up such a loving community here. You’re still the only blogger I wanted to interview 🙂 Lovely post, you and Lisis.
.-= Daphne @ Joyful Days´s Last Fabulous Post ..The Gift of Forgiveness =-.


Hulbert December 23, 2009 at 12:33 am

Hey Lance. Really cool article here. I like the mixture of thoughts from you and Lisis. Both of you guys point out that blogging isn’t just about how many people you have, but how you guys touch each reader on a personal and more meaningful level. I really appreciate that and it is inspiring to know that although there are thousands upon thousands of bloggers out there, some of them don’t write just for the heck of it. Thanks for this article. 🙂


Tess The Bold Life December 23, 2009 at 5:45 am

Lance and Lisis,
Thanks for sharing your wisdom, light and joy with all of us. You two are inspiring everyone to take notice of their inner light and power. What an amazing world we can create as we share our wisdom, caring and love throughout the blogoshpere and beyond. Happy Holidays to both of you and may you be surrounded by the love and light you bring to everyone.
.-= Tess The Bold Life´s Last Fabulous Post ..True Peace In A Difficult Situation =-.


Lisis December 23, 2009 at 11:10 am

Lance, I wonder if we can bottle up all the love and positive energy your readers have created in these comments? I believe we could ease all the worries of the world with this much kindness!

Thank you, again, for sharing your space with me. 🙂


Hayden Tompkins December 23, 2009 at 11:29 am

“One of the greatest benefits of blogging, which I never could have anticipated, is meeting so many wonderful, loving, caring, compassionate people from around the world.”

Oh my god, I can’t STAND how true this is. I’ve met the most amazing people. AMAZING! They (you!) are truly a blessing in my life.
.-= Hayden Tompkins´s Last Fabulous Post ..The Magic of Christmas – Literally! =-.


Lance December 23, 2009 at 2:17 pm

@Daphne – Daphne, you are so sweet, thank you! All of this, speaks volumes to the beauty of your soul…something that has always shined through in such amazing ways. Having you here today is a wonderful gift.

@Hulbert – Hi Hulbert. There are different reasons for different sites, and I respect that. And it’s all about finding what works for each of us. For me, and I know I speak for Lisis here, too – it has really come to be about the conversation, and the connections that develop. And that is people like you, adding meaning and value – which is so appreciated, thank you!

@Tess – Hi Tess. What is really amazing to me is how these words, typed on a computer, can somehow touch and impact a life halfway around the world. Tess, you always shine beautiful light here, and what a wonderful presence you are. It is so good to know you…

@Lisis – I would have been over to reply to the comments earlier today, except I’ve been trying to get all these comments into that bottle you talk about (it’s not working so easily…the comments are overflowing!). On a more serious note – kindness would go a long way toward making our world a much better place – and the kindness of everyone who visits here makes this little place on the world wide web a whole bunch better. Lisis, you are a sweet and kind soul…it’s an honor to have your presence here.

@Hayden – The world is filled with so many amazing people, and the Internet (and blogging, in this case) has the power to bring the amazingness together in really wonderful ways. Hayden, know that your presence makes me a better person, and I am deeply grateful for you being here.


Jannie Funster December 23, 2009 at 5:21 pm



This is soooooooo wonderful, I have read it, but am out the door of this library in a minute with Kelly to meet a friend and take our girls to the 37th Street Lights.

So, you might just have to see me back here later. I want to read all the comments and perhaps even comment further!

And a guest post at Christine Kane’s?!?! YES!!! That to look forward to too. You are so smart. Can I be YOU when I grow up? I mean — IF I grow up???

Everybody wants to be like Lance — but can you blame us???

Well, but I’d still be a girl. I like my girlness. 🙂
.-= Jannie Funster´s Last Fabulous Post ..A Peanuts Christmas Song For You =-.


Walter December 24, 2009 at 7:35 am

I have never expected that blogging would have this benefit. Having someone appreciate your work and connecting with many people, it is more than enough. Entering into the blogging world is the greatest thing that happened into my life. 🙂


Liara Covert December 24, 2009 at 11:17 am

Life is always what you choose. Your thought, perception and free will shape every stage of this meaningful journey. Pleasure to share the ride with kindred spirits. All roads lead back to the true self.
.-= Liara Covert´s Last Fabulous Post ..How are you a conduit? =-.


Lance December 24, 2009 at 2:40 pm

@Jannie – The 37th Street lights, I bet they are pretty! How do they compare to the 38th Street lights? Jannie, what I really love about your site is how you add a whole bunch of merriment and joy to the comments – which makes them so fun to read! And…don’t grow up Jannie – you are wonderful just the way you are!

@Walter – When you find something that you really connect with, and then – as well, feel those connections with other – wow! What a great feeling, isn’t it! So good to hear how this has touched you.

@Liara – And Liara, it is so good to have you here. Your words are always so filled with wisdom, and what an assurance that is. These are roads that I very much connect with, and having you along for this ride is a gift – thank you.


Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills December 24, 2009 at 2:51 pm

Truly exceptional post Lance. It felt like we were listening in on a wonderful and insightful conversation between two close friends. The flow and tone were extraordinary and yet casual and inviting. Impressive!
.-= Jonathan – Advanced Life Skills´s Last Fabulous Post ..The True Essence Of Giving =-.


J.D. Meier December 24, 2009 at 4:33 pm

Well put, there is no one right way. It is about experience … I think that’s the heart of life … when you stop experiencing, what’s the point.
.-= J.D. Meier´s Last Fabulous Post ..8 Ways to Be Heroic =-.


Lance December 26, 2009 at 7:03 pm

@Jonathan – Thanks much Jonathan. And that’s the thing, how some words on a screen can become so much more. I do feel a close connection to Lisis, and that is because of her open-ness and sharing so freely. I appreciate all your support!

@J.D. Meier – What works for one person is not necessarily what works for another, and that is perfectly okay. Great, as always, having you here!


Black Belt Blogger December 27, 2009 at 10:39 am

Hi. Lovely post. We’ve had the same sort of thoughts expressed by many of our students (we run a writing course on blogging) but you express it so well, we might link to you and send our students over.

One nit (being an educational nerd). Your opening quote I believe is:

“Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” Buddha (563-483 BC)

( I just read this on quotes list the http://www.yogarevelation.com website so its fresh in my mind)


Lance December 28, 2009 at 4:43 am

@Black Belt Blogger – Thanks much for visiting! It is interesting, the journey that blogging can take us on. It certainly has been for me, a journey that has been so, so good. And perhaps the quote I have at the beginning is a take off of the Buddha quote? I really do love this quote you have shared, thank you!


lisaschaos December 28, 2009 at 2:33 pm

I think you reach many, just by being you! :0) Hope you had a wonderful holiday!
.-= lisaschaos´s Last Fabulous Post ..Tiny Turtle =-.


Lance December 31, 2009 at 5:54 am

Thanks so, so much! Happy New Year to you and your family!


Jannie Bannie January 2, 2010 at 11:01 am

Lance! Subscriber count matters not one whit (wit?) to me either, tho I do have so much seeing how I can lower my Alexa rank by trying different things on my blog.

I too LOVE the connections and friendships too. Your visits to my blog are special highlights, with your sweet light heart.

I guess it all goes back to one of your Sunday Thoughts, about giving your sweet best to the world will shine the joy right back at ya! Was paraphrasing there, but you know what I mean, right?

.-= Jannie Bannie´s Last Fabulous Post ..“Doll Bed With Wine,” “For A Dear Friend” & “Kelly’s Korner, About Two Hours Ago” =-.


Jannie Bannie January 2, 2010 at 11:21 am

“fun” seeing, I meant to write up there.
.-= Jannie Bannie´s Last Fabulous Post ..“Doll Bed With Wine,” “For A Dear Friend” & “Kelly’s Korner, About Two Hours Ago” =-.


Lance January 2, 2010 at 8:44 pm

Jannie Bannie,
Jannie, you are filled with so much sweetness and play in your words, and that just really helps to bring that out in me. It’s what also brings me back over and over to your posts…knowing I can write something off the wall, and you’ll respond in kind. You are a sweet and dear friend…. Hugs (the big bear kind) back to you…


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