What Is Love, Really

by Lance Ekum on · 92 comments


"Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so." ~ David Grayson


That strong emotion we all have.  It comes from a spot deep within our soul.

Lying in the grass and looking at the sky.

Flying a kite with your child.

A campfire.

A walk with your sweetheart.

The smell of freshly baked apple pie.

Love can encompass a whole number of different things.

How often do we really recognize what it is in our lives that we love?

The #Lovelist Project

This is the crazy-wonderful idea dreamt up by Kristin Tennant, writer at Halfway to Normal.  Kristin writes very much about subjects that have a deep personal connection for her, and she speaks with love and honesty that is real and refreshing.  Recently, Kristin wrote about this idea she's penned The Lovelist Project, and what this was.  Check out that post, it's filled with so much goodness and ways you can be a part of this project.  And there are a number of ways to participate, some very active, and some much more passive.  In the end, it's all about helping you to recognize that which you love in your life – in a deeply connecting way.

In My Words

The Lovelist Project is really you, identifying those things in your life that evoke this feeling of love.  That's a feeling we all have, and it's one I believe is at the core of who each of us are.  The thing is, none of us are the same.  And what we love is not the same.  So, there isnt' some "standard" list out there.  This list is a very personal list for each of us. 

And think about this – let's say we identify something we love:

Why is it that we love that thing?  Not just "on the surface love", that deeper more meaningful love. 

So this concept by Kristin is all about identifying those things in your life that you love.  Simple things.  Complex things.  All of it.  And then to think about the deeper meaning why.  Why is it that these things have deep meaning for you?  What is it that you're connecting with?  And through this whole mini-journey into the many loves in our life, we're getting closer to the core of who we each are.

What it's not:  It's not just sitting down for a half hour and cranking out a list (that doesn't sound too love-filled).  It's about deliberately being aware of those things in your life that really evoke that feeling of love.  And then identifying them and why you love them…in the moments of your day.

That List

I'll go first.

I love chocolate chip pancakes on a lazy Saturday morning
I love getting into a sun-warmed car on a cool fall day, and letting the warmth work it's way through my body.
I love seeing fog  develop, right before my eyes, on a crisp autumn evening

Your Turn

What does love mean to you?  What might be on your lovelist?  Feel free to share on Kristin's site, here, or on Twitter (using the hashtag #lovelist).  And follow Kristin's blog, where she's highlighting #lovelist entries each Friday, and encouraging others to add their own at that time too. 

Note:  At the same time, what we love can be deeply personal, and not something we're ready or want to share.  That's perfectly okay, too.  Sometimes it's just thinking about what it is that we love, that helps to connect us to a deeper part of our soul.  And then sometimes it's just plain silly stuff that just lightens our spirit.  It's all good, and it's all real. 

Keep up with Kristin by subscribing to her blog right here, and following her on Twitter.

Lance writes stories from his heart, aiming to inspire and motivate, as you align more fully with YOUR true peak. When he's not here, you can find him hanging out with his family, riding a bike, or just generally acting goofy.   Sign up for the Thoughts from the Treehouse newsletter and get additional inspiration in your email inbox!
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John September 29, 2009 at 7:27 am

Sweet! Great idea for a post Lance. Here are a few of my loves.

I love going after the things I desire.
I love going to the beach and soaking up some rays.
I love relaxing on my recliner during a slow summer day with the sun shining through the windows.

I’ll check out Kristin’s site too. Until next time my friend.
.-= John´s Last Fabulous Post ..How to Keep Moving Forward =-.


Joanna September 29, 2009 at 7:34 am

My turn…: )

I love my family with all my heart.
I love pajamas, pink hooded sweatshirts, big chunky rings, and gym clothes.
I love cupcakes especially when they are made in the company of my niece.
I love clean sheets and freshly vacuumed carpet.
I love a good workout and challenging my body.
I love God who saves me every single day.
.-= Joanna´s Last Fabulous Post ..Goal Keeper =-.


Suzie Cheel September 29, 2009 at 8:13 am

I love watching the sunrise
I love meditating at the beach with the sun rays flowing into my heart
I love curling up with a good book
I love fresh clean sheets against my body
I love the revitalising feeling that swimming in the sea givesme
Thanks for wonderful thought as I head to sleep
.-= Suzie Cheel´s Last Fabulous Post ..How An Attitude of Gratitude Can Attract Abundance! =-.


Hilda September 29, 2009 at 8:24 am

I love it when a plan comes together. Especially when I’ve let go of having to have it 😉
I love cuddles
I love it when I recognise an amazing synchrocity
I love good company, good food, laughing with people I love

Wow, Lance, as I was writing the above I felt really good, and more and more things come to mind. It reminds me of the gratitude list exercise I used to practice. (Time to resume that methinks) This is a great idea! I’ll be sure to check out Kristin’s site.
.-= Hilda´s Last Fabulous Post ..Do things differently =-.


Laurie September 29, 2009 at 8:43 am

I love when I am in God’s sweet spot for me. When I know he is there, I can feel him.
I love connecting on a soul level with my hub and others.
I love connecting with nature.
I love adventure.
I love laughing.
I love giving.
I love Lance and his blog!


bobbi September 29, 2009 at 8:52 am

I love being GODS child.
I love my Hubby
I love Bosco
I love my Familia
I love my friends
I love laughing
I love LOVE
I love PB
I love PIZZA
I love LIFE!


Jay Schryer September 29, 2009 at 8:59 am

I love laying in a warm bed on a cold night.
I love watching the sunset over water.
I love long conversations with dear friends.
I love sitting quietly together, doing separate things.
I love reading.
I love writing.
I love my kid!!!


Danny Clayton September 29, 2009 at 9:13 am

I love the end of a family dinner when the boys SHOULD be off to their homework and my wife and I SHOULD be starting the dishes or changing the laundry—but instead we sit and talk and laugh and tease. Everyone has momentarily forgotten their responsibilities and is just that small, tight, irreplaceable family unit.
.-= Danny Clayton´s Last Fabulous Post ..Shut UP! Let me wallow. =-.


Srinivas Rao September 29, 2009 at 9:19 am

I love the feeling of glass ocean water early in the morning
I love the feeling of catching a wave and shredding it up
I love the feeling of riding waves to the end of the shore
I love the peacefulness I find in the ocean

Great post.
.-= Srinivas Rao´s Last Fabulous Post ..Operate from a learning perspective for massive success =-.


Evita September 29, 2009 at 9:20 am

I LOVE talking about love 🙂

What a great post Lance and great idea from Kristin too!

So what evokes a feeling of love within me….
Spending any time, thoughts or moments with my husband
Spending any time in or with nature – all of it, every single piece of it and every species in it, truly evoke a feeling of love within me.
I love freedom, being myself and helping others.
Sometimes a simple smile exchanged on the street between a stranger, evokes an amazing feeling on love within me.

I have to say, I am trying to keep it short and summarize, but love to me is such an infinite subject and these days, it is harder to find things that I don’t love, than love – it seems love is more abundant today for me more than ever and I love that alone 🙂
.-= Evita´s Last Fabulous Post ..Enter To Win a Copy of the Children’s Book Yndico Is =-.


Keith September 29, 2009 at 9:57 am

Hey Lance,

I love this idea!

Here’s just a few things I love:

*I love watching a smile form on my girlfriends face, my daughter’s too.
*I love being out early in the morning and watching the sunrise.
*I love thunderstorms
*I love sitting on the beach at night, playing my Native American Flute, w/ waves crashing
*I love giving and receiving an “I love you”
*I love to read, learn and write
.-= Keith´s Last Fabulous Post ..Don’t Quit! =-.


Chania Girl September 29, 2009 at 10:19 am

What was so lovely about this post today was being able to receive from others the love they feel as they share their own lovelists. When it’s love, it just keeps on giving, doesn’t it?

Here are a very fewof the things I love:
I love Lance and his blog and the feeling of coming here in the middle of my busy work day and finding peace.
I love the early morning.
I love watching the little sparrows hop from branch to branch on the trees in my garden.
I love getting letters in the mail.
I love bright flowers.
I love low-hanging clouds over the mountains I see from my porch.
I love the first crazy rain in Crete, when summer’s over and winter’s coming: the crashing of the waves, the ferocity of the sea, the bite in the air, and the sting of the rain -> It makes me feel alive.
I love when my husband squeezes me so tightly I squeak.
I love his tacos de queso.
I love this amazing incredible world.
I love me.
I love you.

Thank you, dear Lance.
.-= Chania Girl´s Last Fabulous Post ..Note on a Late Summer Morning =-.


Positively Present September 29, 2009 at 10:20 am

This sounds awesome. Thanks for sharing Kristin’s project with us. Things I love right now…

I love looking at the picture of my dog on my desktop.
I love the wind blowing the leaves around outside.
I love that Halloween is only a few weeks away.
I love thinking about things I love.
I love that I have a whole book of happy things.
I love having an awesome guest post on my site right now.
I love doodling little pumpkins everywhere.
I love be happy and smiling and laughing.
I love this post. 🙂
.-= Positively Present´s Last Fabulous Post ..the filmstrip: a new way to look at presence =-.


Yum Yucky September 29, 2009 at 10:25 am

I love the quite calm of the morning just before dawn. It’s my favorite time to pray.
I love seeing my children play and laugh, and they don’t even know I’m watching.
I love to give.
I love discovering brand new fulfillment and joy in non-material things.
I love that Lance is my friend.
I love my list.
Lovely, isn’t it?
.-= Yum Yucky´s Last Fabulous Post ..Taste Test: Log Cabin Syrup with ZERO Corny-ness =-.


Daphne September 29, 2009 at 10:38 am

I love finding something new to try from inspired bloggers. Thank you for sharing this!
.-= Daphne´s Last Fabulous Post ..More Inspiration =-.


Lynn September 29, 2009 at 11:23 am

I love the many differences in the personalities of my friends and family.
I love fall air.
I love the sound of a football game in another room.
I love sending off a birthday card.
I love when my dad calls me “sugah.”
I love my mother’s sense of humor.
I love when I wake up and can hear my cat gently snoring nearby.
I love the moment I finally can sink into the sofa after a long day.
I love the positivity of this blog. Thank you Lance, for that. 🙂
.-= Lynn´s Last Fabulous Post ..Mr. Keillor, The Writer’s Almanac and sing along =-.


FatFighterTV September 29, 2009 at 11:41 am

I love my husband – who is also my very best friend – with all my heart.
I love chocolate.
I love cuddling with my BFFF (Best Feline Friend Forever) – Chancey.
I love being a journalist.
.-= FatFighterTV´s Last Fabulous Post ..Special offers from FFTV sponsors (you could win $$$) =-.


Carla September 29, 2009 at 12:19 pm

Love is,

Looking at a beautiful rose in bloom after the rain.
The colors of fall.
Holding hands with a good friend.
A kiss – romantic or platonic.
Looking into the eyes of someone you’re fond of.

Great idea, Lance!
.-= Carla´s Last Fabulous Post ..Arachnophobia =-.


Erin Brooks September 29, 2009 at 12:39 pm

I love spending time with my husband who makes all my troubles go away.
I love playing with my silly cats and cuddling with them
I love baking for others.
I love reading in the late afternoon.
I love the little things that make people know they are appreciated and loved.
I love doing things for others and making them smile.
I love the blessing I have for friends who are there for me no matter what.
.-= Erin Brooks´s Last Fabulous Post ..Getting Out! =-.


Tabitha@ichoosebliss September 29, 2009 at 12:42 pm

This is SO up my alley Lance! I am so in love with keeping lists of the things and people I love and why I love them. (:

Love is:
My daughter tickling me just because she wants to hear my snort. My hubby driving across town while still at work just to check on me. A grandma and grandpa who SHOWED true love and inspired me to be who I am. Wanting to see everyone who hurts smile, so you do whatever it takes to bring them that smile.

I could go on and on (-:
.-= Tabitha@ichoosebliss´s Last Fabulous Post ..Moments of Gratitude =-.


Davina September 29, 2009 at 1:01 pm

Hi Lance. I can keep this really simple, which is unusual for me 😉 … I Love having someone to Love. Someone to share things with. Someone to do things for. Someone to hug. Someone to appreciate. Someone to laugh with. Someone to love with.


Diane Fit to the Finish September 29, 2009 at 1:13 pm

I love my life.
I love my family.
I love my God.
I love my freedom.

There are a lot of loves in my life. Thanks for the reminder to celebrate and appreciate them!
.-= Diane Fit to the Finish´s Last Fabulous Post ..Are Secrets Hindering Your Success? =-.


Yum Yucky September 29, 2009 at 1:40 pm

….and I love JESUS. I can’t leave Him out.
.-= Yum Yucky´s Last Fabulous Post ..Taste Test: Log Cabin Syrup with ZERO Corny-ness =-.


Laurie September 29, 2009 at 2:25 pm

@Yum Yucky- You go girl! You’re right, we can’t leave Jesus out! Afterall, He’s the reason for love!


Jodi at Joy Discovered September 29, 2009 at 2:40 pm

Hi Lance! I like your list!
I love spending time with my extended family.
I love the smile on my boys’ faces when they try out a new vocabulary word.
I love when my kids make jokes that are really hilarious.
I love laughter.
I love the feeling when inspiration strikes.
I love the feeling of connection between me and like-minded friends and acquaintances.
I love the blogging community we’re all part of!
.-= Jodi at Joy Discovered´s Last Fabulous Post ..My Happy Place, Your Happy Place =-.


jonathan figaro September 29, 2009 at 2:53 pm

I love this blog
I love my life
I love my positive mind set
I love being able to move my mom out this house into a mansion
I love being free , financially
Did i day i loved his blog….
.-= jonathan figaro´s Last Fabulous Post ..Re-buliding Your Soul By Melting Your Heart =-.


Marelisa September 29, 2009 at 2:54 pm

I love: eating Indian food; going for a jog on a path near my home that winds along the ocean; watching cartoons with my two little nephews; waking up late on Sunday mornings; going to the beach, sinking my toes in the sand, and taking in the sun rays.
.-= Marelisa´s Last Fabulous Post ..Lessons from “The Science of Getting Rich” (Part 1) =-.


Karl - Work Happy Now September 29, 2009 at 3:10 pm

I love. I mean I really love…
– Giving my wife a surprise gift.
– Laughing so hard with a close friend that tears come out my eyes.
– Going for a walk with my dog.
– Cleaning the dishes in the sink and seeing every clean as a whistle.
– Writing a creative post for my blog.

I could keep this list going for ever. Thanks for making spurring the creative juices for a future blog post.
.-= Karl – Work Happy Now´s Last Fabulous Post ..21 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Every Monday =-.


Jan September 29, 2009 at 3:15 pm

Lance, I love so many things, my list would stack as high as the sky. What I love right now more than anything is people being REAL; us taking off our masks, being vulnerable, and saying what matters most, speaking what is in our hearts. This post truly touches MY heart. I believe that when we aspire to love, feel love, orient ourselves toward love, we begin a very profound journey to BEING Love — that’s Love with a capital “L”—the Love that we come from and that we return to.

I love it when we keep our hearts open to one another. When we can read through this whole list of everyone’s loves and say, “Cool!” instead of “Oh, he is so weird,” or “She is such a loser.” When we love one another with wide open hearts, my heart does a big, happy dance.

Ok, one more. I do love chocolate and wish I had a hunk right now. It would just top off a perfect afternoon…Dark, not milk. Love to YOU! Great post. And I will check out Kristin’s site. 🙂


Julie September 29, 2009 at 3:17 pm

Oh my, it’s impossible to make a list. It would never, ever end! Everywhere I turn, my senses readily see things to love. …tiny moments captured in time-stands-still capsules of space where pure delight and wonder and appreciation nearly overwhelm me.

An example of things that evoke this in me:
– a fuzzy caterpillar, feeling wondrous amazement as I watch it move along;
– the smell and taste of the fresh apple I just bit into, feeling such deep connection to the earth and all growing things;
– peaceful silence blanketing me as I sit under the stars in the predawn light each morning, feeling bathed in the soft glow from the stars, the stars the givers and me the recipient—and being amazed at the immensity of existence and equally appreciative of that;
– the sound of a child’s happy laughter, feeling their joy as my own that still bubbles within me;
the feel of my horse’s breath and soft skin as she nuzzles my face, relishing the communication we share, knowing each other as beautiful, living beings…
– and ditto Davina’s response. 🙂 First, to feel it all within ourselves and then to share it with another, share the love, the appreciation, the connection, share the sharing…

I could go on for hours! This, Lance, this is truly “smelling the roses.” Once one gets the hang of it, it becomes second nature.
.-= Julie´s Last Fabulous Post ..Honor Redux, with a Twist =-.


Wilma Ham September 29, 2009 at 3:58 pm

I love increasing love in my life as it is strengthen the heart.
I love waking up slowly, seeing the sun rise and sipping my coffee.
I love the smell of coffee wafting through the air.
I love the smell of the grass.
I love the feel of teh sun on my face.
I love the sea and feeling my body being moved by the waves.
I love hugs.
I love life.
I love us.
Thanks Lance, I love saying what I love.
.-= Wilma Ham´s Last Fabulous Post ..Regrets, mindclutter and weakness in completion. =-.


Stacey Shipman September 29, 2009 at 4:06 pm

I love it when my cats crawl on my lap and over my keyboard around 2 or 3pm signaling for me to take a break and snuggle.
I love how light I feel after my yoga practice
I love a walk on the beach – 12 months out of the year
I love sitting on the back deck with my husband, a glass of wine and a fire in the outdoor fireplace.
I love laughing until I cry and my belly hurts.

Awesome…I could keep going!


Amanda Linehan September 29, 2009 at 6:01 pm

Hi Lance – I would love to add a few things…

I love opening the windows in the house on a cool day
I love laying on the couch reading a good book
I love spending time with close friends not doing much of anything
I love the way the afternoon sunlight shines in the windows

I could go on for a while, but I’ll leave those for now and continue on my own. 🙂
.-= Amanda Linehan´s Last Fabulous Post ..Discover Silence =-.


Tim September 29, 2009 at 6:17 pm


I love this post and Kristin’s project…great idea!
I love making chicken tortilla soup in my Crock Pot on a Sunday morning and eating it while I watch Sunday night football on Sunday night.
I love LMAO!
I love hanging out with friends.

Yep, I can go on…great post to get this all started Lance.
.-= Tim´s Last Fabulous Post ..Too Much Advice? =-.


Jennifer September 29, 2009 at 8:05 pm

I love God who is way better to me than I deserve.
I love the thought of Heaven.
I love peace.
I love my hubby.
I love being with friends who don’t judge me.
I love feeling safe enough to share my inmost thoughts and feelings.
I love being believed in and believing in others.
I love SFT Awareness.
I love making a real difference in people’s lives.
I love art.
I love sipping on coffee.
I love crawling in a warm bed on a cold night.
I love sleeping.
I love laying on the beach and watching/listening to the ocean.

And along with Laurie, I love Lance’s blog.
Thank you for this post. I feel good now. 🙂
.-= Jennifer´s Last Fabulous Post ..What Do You See? =-.


vered | blogger for hire September 29, 2009 at 8:06 pm

I love typing away at my computer and hearing my kids play in the background. I love listening to their little feet running around. My little one is humming to herself right now as I am typing this. I love her so much.

Thank you, Lance.
.-= vered | blogger for hire´s Last Fabulous Post ..Internet Addiction Rehab Center: Do We Really Need It? =-.


Angelia Sims September 29, 2009 at 10:12 pm

I love the waves crashing on a beautiful white sand beach.
I love sunsets and sunrises.
I love to look upon a sleeping child.
I love kissing my dog’s nose.
I love cold rooms and hot coffee.
I love hugs.
I love smiles.
I love laughter.
I love life each and every day.
Living. Loving. Laughing.
.-= Angelia Sims´s Last Fabulous Post ..Timely moments =-.


Stacey / Create a Balance for Moms September 29, 2009 at 11:18 pm

Love the idea of a lovelist!

I love blogging. I love the creative process, the connections, and social media excitement.
I love cuddling with my children when I put them to sleep each night.
I love my morning hugs from my boys.
I love when it’s 72 degrees and sunny outside.
I love Vermont.
I love my parents beyond measure.
.-= Stacey / Create a Balance for Moms´s Last Fabulous Post ..Type-A Mom Conference – Bringing It Home =-.


BunnygotBlog September 30, 2009 at 12:05 am

I love God, my husband, family, and friends.
I love SPENDING relaxing MOMENTS WITH MY HUSBAND listening to Classical music. Beethoven’s 7th especially.
I love cooking up a feast to share with close friends.
I love achieving goals in business and person life.
I love to travel and see the beauty of this world and all the people in it.
I love the natural high I get when I come up with a new idea.
I sitting on the terrace with my husband late at night and sharing comfortable silence.
I love hearing the little girl across the street singing as she plays outside in the morning.
I love singing childhood songs with my husband in different languages.
I love the Ethiopian restaurant that my husband takes me to when we are in Stuttgart. It is custom there to feed each other the food and the cuisine is so good.
This is a wonderful post. I enjoyed it very much.
.-= BunnygotBlog´s Last Fabulous Post ..Garbaolge! =-.


Tess The Bold Life September 30, 2009 at 3:41 am

I love my family.
I love life.
I love laughing.
I love running.
I love hiking.
I love being outdoors.
I love the sun and blue sky.
I love the beach.
I love nature.
I love reading new books.
I love writing.
I love being grateful.
I love being happy.
I love being joyful.
I love my husband’s jokes.
I love Southwest Airlines.
I love New Balance shoes.
I love my grandchildren in fact there is nothing I don’t love about them. I’ve never had any feelings except deep love for them. (don’t know if I realized that before!)
I love my blogging buddies.
I love connection.
I love being honest. OK I’ll stop now!


Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord September 30, 2009 at 5:29 am

Wow, this is great. Such a beautiful exercise to do first thing in the morning. An exercise for my heart unlike the cardio I usually do!
Here goes:
– I love sincerity and how it makes me feel when I hear it in another’s words.
– I love autumn, and the bittersweet memories it holds dating back as far as I can remember.
– I love being loved… Deeply, securely, to the core of who I am.
– I love giving love, which is the best gift I’ve ever offered or received, bar none.

And of course, I love reading the things you write, Lance.

Have a phenomenal week! I’m headed to the mountains where (gasp) snow is expected… !
.-= Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s Last Fabulous Post ..The Unique Gift Awakening Brings =-.


Lance September 30, 2009 at 8:11 am

Thank you for creating this concept and for allowing me to bounce ideas off of you as this post was created. You’ve created something very special here, and something that so many people can connect with – love – that feeling deep within each of us. It’s our common denominator, it’s something we all have in common. Love in the depths of our soul. Your creating this #lovelist is such a great avenue for us all to express that love! Know that what people have shared here would not have happened had it not been for the vision you had for this project and for taking it to where it is today. Kristin, it’s an honor to have shared all of this here!



Lance September 30, 2009 at 8:12 am

To all of you (friends near and far),
I am deeply moved by all that you’ve shared. Your words inspire me – inspire me to dig deeper into myself and what love means, inspire me to seek out the beauty in our world – every day, inspire me to slow down and really be more consciously aware of all that is around me, inspire me to see the love in others all around me, inspire me to be more spiritually awake, inspire me to see the love in the ordinary of every day, inspire me to connect more deeply with my own soul, inspire me to live with love pouring out!

You’ve all spoken from spots deep within your heart, and your words all have deep meaning. I feel very much that what you’ve each written, was written with great care and with deep love. Today, my world is brightened, brightened by each one of you and the love you put out there for the world to know about! And I know (KNOW) that our world is a better place today because each one of you is here on this planet! You exemplify love in so many beautiful ways, each of you in your own unique form. And what I see is each of you shining your amazing light into the hearts of others! And that is a beautiful gift you all give!



Lance September 30, 2009 at 8:13 am

To my family,
You are the wind beneath my wings! Lora, your unwavering support, care, and love have been the rock upon which I stand. Without you, none of this matters. I see in you – love, always. And a deep caring for humanity. And that’s a beautiful gift for me to witness. Because you’ve shone your light upon me, I’m who I am today.

And to my three children – each of you, in your own unique ways – have been love in action (hmmm…sometimes maybe too much action!). As much as I hope I’m providing for you a direction into the world, know also that you each help me to see the world through a different lens – the lens of childlike wonder. And that’s a deeply meaningful gift from each of you…

And to my parents, you’ve given me the life, and support through all of my years. No matter what, you’ve always been there. You’ve lived a life very much worth emulating – a life filled with love, deep caring, and giving hearts. I am blessed…

And to all friends and family – you all have made an impact in my life – and that has been a wonderful gift to have received! Know that I am honored to know each and every one of you!

With love,


LifeMadeGreat | Juliet September 30, 2009 at 9:25 am

Hey Lance

I’ll just add one – the one that is right here with me:

I love it when my dog snuggles up next to me and I feel her warm trust.

.-= LifeMadeGreat | Juliet´s Last Fabulous Post ..Socrates: The Test of Three =-.


The Exception September 30, 2009 at 9:48 am

Wow, I love so many things that others love too – I am going to read more of these but here is mine:
I love the warmth of my daughter’s hand in mine – the curl of her fingers and the warmth of her skin. It matters not what is happening in our lives as hand in hand, we work through them together.

I love the first bite of a tree ripened peach. The juice wetting my lips and chin and the fruit seems to truly melt in my mouth. It is a taste of the sweetest part of summer.

I love sliding into a freshly made bed and pulling up the patchwork quilt on a cool night – the night warm enough to have the windows open but cool enough to require the warmth of the hand sewn quilt.
.-= The Exception´s Last Fabulous Post ..Happiness and Believing =-.


suzen September 30, 2009 at 10:13 am

What a lovely concept – I like the positive nature of this since we are often very preoccupied with things we DON’T like! Wow, I love so much it would take up too much space here! I’ll strive to keep this simple while I hold the thought in my head all day long as I work.
I love my cup of coffee and journaling time in the morning – alone.
I love way paint rolls on the wall (this is what I’m doing all day)
I love your blog
And I love thinking about all the many things I love!
Thanks for this! As always, you bring us the best “assignments”! haha
.-= suzen´s Last Fabulous Post ..5 Inspirational Tips from My Archives =-.


Jannie Funster September 30, 2009 at 10:58 am

Ahh, what a sweet post. To me it means giving my husband the better-looking steak, my daughter the fattest cob of corn. It means seeing the best in all people. Holding a door for a stranger. Letting some one into my land in traffic. And when in doubt, smiling.

Now for me I LOVE morning coffee, trees, solitude, writing songs, hugging my kitty. And eating donuts.

The little things.
.-= Jannie Funster´s Last Fabulous Post ..Like a bord on a wire, 11– Funny Typos =-.


Lori September 30, 2009 at 12:50 pm

I loved reading all the comments here, Lance! Oooohhh, goosebumps!
I definitely need to add my piece:

I love the moment when people take the time to make me laugh out loud.
I love sending hand-made cards via snail mail.
I love writing and reading that paragraph that knocks my socks off.
I love my friends, family, and blogging community (and your blog!).
I love grilled vegetables and olive oil.
I love feeling the warm sun on my body.
I love finding a sand dollar on the beach.
I love exercising (well, maybe just the endorphins…).

Cheers and warm hugs!
.-= Lori´s Last Fabulous Post ..Find a Passion for Writing =-.


Audra Krell September 30, 2009 at 12:57 pm

I love that I can barely type this because I’m already crying about the things I so deeply love.
@Danny – We had the same evening just last night. We should have been doing dishes, boys had hours of homework (Trigonometry!) and we just sat around the table and laughed our heads off.
@Yum Yucky and @Laurie Amen ladies! Jesus is the reason I love.
I love cool sheets on endless hot Arizona evenings.
I love that my husband loves me so much, he seems to love me even more when I’m at my very worst. The best picture of grace I know.
@Lance I’m really lovin the jungle and your friendship!
I really, really love, when my 16 year old son plays acoustic guitar and our 13 and 10 year old boys join in the on bass guitar, in my living room. When they play “Glory to God Forever” by Steve Fee I wonder if life could get any better. Don’t think so.
.-= Audra Krell´s Last Fabulous Post ..Loved this Beautiful Mess =-.


Kaushik September 30, 2009 at 3:16 pm

oh, it’s all of it, I love life, I love the unknown energy that drives it all, I love family, friends, being alive, awareness, letting go…
.-= Kaushik´s Last Fabulous Post ..Floating… =-.


Sami - Life, Laughs & Lemmings September 30, 2009 at 3:20 pm

I love my partner and my family without question.
I love feeling inspired.
I love to laugh.
I love the beach.
I love freedom.
I love the blogging community (and your most excellent blog Lance!).
I love carrot cake.
I love love.

PS. I TOTALLY loved the comments you left to friends and family Lance. Right back at you.
.-= Sami – Life, Laughs & Lemmings´s Last Fabulous Post ..An Interview With The World’s Strongest Librarian =-.


Kristin T. (@kt_writes) September 30, 2009 at 4:16 pm

Hi all! I’ve been stopping by periodically to read all of your love list comments, and each time I’m filled closer to overflowing. I knew good things would come from us each making love lists, and I knew it would be good to encourage one another, but I really didn’t anticipate how powerful it would be to read so many things that so many people love! Amazing.

Now, if you want to take it a step further, the challenge is to keep adding to your lists as these moments occur to you, to push yourself further by asking what exactly it is that you love about these things, and then to examine your life and see if there are ways to fill more of your life with the things that you love. And keep me posted along the way! Don’t forget to stop by Halfway to Normal on Fridays to read more of my thoughts, some guest posts, and to share your own discoveries!

Lance, I can’t thank you enough for getting excited about this idea and spreading it so much farther and wider than I ever could on my own. May you be blessed richly by all this love!
.-= Kristin T. (@kt_writes)´s Last Fabulous Post ..Telling Jesus stories at the KGB =-.


Jeanne September 30, 2009 at 5:21 pm

Love is all you need
What a fabulous posting

May we all be showered with love, love and more love
Love Jeanne?
.-= Jeanne´s Last Fabulous Post ..Precious Child =-.


Liara Covert September 30, 2009 at 8:33 pm

Love is all there is. Everything and everyone are love. It is constantly nurturing and expanding.
.-= Liara Covert´s Last Fabulous Post ..Life is not what you think =-.


Suzanne September 30, 2009 at 8:44 pm

I love seeing my two year old’s face first thing in the morning even though I’m not a morning person.
I love a hot bath and a diet dr pepper after a long run.
I love the smell of lavender and clean laundry.
I love the excitement of starting a new book.
I love that I had the childhood that every child deserves: where I had limits and freedom, love and discipline, and where all of my needs were met.


Micah September 30, 2009 at 8:50 pm

Great post! This is very helpful. I’m sure I’d visit your site more often. Anyway, you can drop by my favorite online hang out too, at UK Student Community. Thanks!
.-= Micah´s Last Fabulous Post ..choosing your university.. =-.


VeRonda September 30, 2009 at 10:40 pm

Wow… this is powerful. It’s actually right on time b/c I’m finding myself loving something new that is so great and scary and wonderful all at the same time. For the time being I can share that I love my mom’s mac & cheese and yams. I will say, I love the why you find yourself connecting to that thing question… I’m all about the “why”. Great post.
.-= VeRonda´s Last Fabulous Post ..Ain’t No Mountain High Enough… =-.


Yira September 30, 2009 at 11:27 pm

This is such a great idea, so I’ll add “a few of my favorite things…”

I love it when my hubby sends me sweet notes via any electronic means available, no matter where in the world he might be.

I love it when my 19 y.o. boy call me “Mommy Dearest” because it reminds me of a time when we watched the movie and laughed until we cried as we tried to immitate Joan Crawford.

I love it when my 15 y.o. girl and I sing while riding in the car…we usually end up laughing mainly because I can’t sing as well as she.

I love it when my 7 y.o. cuddles next to me early in the morning and shares her dreams.

I love it when my 2 y.o. says “I love you more” after I tell him I love him.

So what I’m saying is I love to laugh, I love to sing, I love to hear sweet stories, and I love to be loved!

This feels….soooooo Good! Ahhhhhh! I feel happy. Thanks Lance, the timing was perfect.
.-= Yira´s Last Fabulous Post ..Outdoor Wednesday- Glass & Wine =-.


Lizwi October 1, 2009 at 8:16 am

The thing I love most is being loved.
I also love helping other people, as long as I can afford to help.
I love nature very much, especially plants. The smell of plants heels my soul.


Lance October 1, 2009 at 10:11 am

All of your continued sharing of what love is, and where/how you experience love continues to be deeply moving for me to read. And I know that the words shared here are also affecting others who read them, in very profound ways. Today, as I continue reading here, I’m reminded of a quote:
“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart.” ~ Helen Keller



Sara October 1, 2009 at 11:58 am

Lance — I visited Kristen’s site and I think is such a great idea. The odd thing is that I had already started this list and forgotten about it. I just pulled it up again and was amazed at how many things I had already put down. I loved reading it again. Here are some of the things I love:

My kids
The evening sun shining through the leaves of a tree
Dolphins playing in the Gulf
People who make me laugh
Taking photographs that surprise me
Watching horses running loose in a field
People who keep on trying

As I commented to Kristen, I am ever so pleased that you both reminded me of this list:~)
.-= Sara´s Last Fabulous Post ..When You Need a Hug =-.


Nadia - Happy Lotus October 1, 2009 at 2:09 pm

Hi Lance,

Love used to be a romantic thing for me but then as I grew, I came to see love as a way of life and that is what I strive to do. I really try to be love and spread love everyday. I also love the fact that I am alive and that the world is truly a beautiful place.
.-= Nadia – Happy Lotus´s Last Fabulous Post ..What You Can Learn from a Burger =-.


Hilary October 1, 2009 at 3:07 pm

Hi Lance – I’m 66th .. or perhaps 32nd .. or which ever number you chose .. I can’t think right now .. just here – love to me right now – is seeing my uncle through to his near end …. he always said to me “love is all” – when I was and continue to look after my mother 2.75 years in ..

My uncle has had a very sudden decline .. four weeks .. and so love is all – for both of them ..

Thanks – love to you all .. we need it ..
Hilary Melton-Butcher
Positive Letters Inspirational Stories
.-= Hilary´s Last Fabulous Post ..Relocating – to Melbourne, to a Lily Pond, back just 156 feet ….? =-.


Joy October 1, 2009 at 6:06 pm


Amazing post! When I read the title, I thought how appropriate…currently in my life my heart has been busted wide open (in a good positive, joyful way) and I am wrestling with the whole concept of love…my list of all there is to love, that I truly love is very very long, and I am extremely grateful for that. Here would be a snippet:

I love my children–everything about them, their little nuances that make them unique, their laughter, their beauty…precious angels.
I love my boat. all that she stands for, all that she currently is.
I love that I can learn and grow and just be. that the universe contains such abundance and I can truly just ask and remain open and it is all right there in an amazing flow.
I love nature..the vast ocean, the beautiful mountains, the night sky, the morning sky, water holes, islands….and all that is in and around it.
I love myself. all that I am currently right in this moment. my essence, my nature, my faith.
I love chocolate…
I love genuine sharing with others. words, thoughts, activities, laughter, food, kindness.
I love that encouragement and inspiration can be found in many forms and if I have a quesiton or thought I am wrestling with, some form of inspiration is then given if I am quiet and mindful (and often even when I’m not!).

I love the feeling that reading the above posts and comments evokes–such pure hope, love, joy is reflected in all of the words; it’s absolutely contagious and heart warming:)


Lisa's Chaos October 1, 2009 at 6:35 pm

I love the smile on my grandchild’s face – the joy that lights in their eyes when they see me!
I love being outdoors.
I love finding surprises in nature.
I love the feeling of accomplishing the dishes, dusting, etc – pretty much anything I do, when it’s done – love that feeling!
.-= Lisa’s Chaos´s Last Fabulous Post ..the awkward stage =-.


Diane AZ October 1, 2009 at 10:20 pm

Nothing could be more uplifting than thinking about things we love. For sure, I love the smell of pineapple upside down cake baking. I feel we all are unconditional love itself. Great post, Lance!
.-= Diane AZ´s Last Fabulous Post ..Skywatch – Around the Track =-.


Hayden Tompkins October 2, 2009 at 5:22 am

.-= Hayden Tompkins´s Last Fabulous Post ..The Awesome Post of Awesome =-.


Peggy October 2, 2009 at 6:13 am

Hi Lance,

What a fabulous post!

(Late to the great party as always)

I love waking up to the smell of coffee
I love when the tempature changes from summer to fall and breathing in the crispness that’s in the air.
I love going to the pumpkin patch and finding the right pumpkins for Halloween
I love the moment right after my yoga practice when everything is still…including my mind.

I hope you have a fabulous weekend!
.-= Peggy´s Last Fabulous Post ..Favorite Childhood Books =-.


JenX October 2, 2009 at 8:48 am

Don’t you just love a brilliant new hastag? Wonderful of you to expand something so inspiring, Lance. Your heart at work again!! I bet your kids love flying kites with you.

My lovelist this week – the annual birthday call from my brother. He’s as Anglo as they come, but speaks perfect Spanish and sings to me in that vain. Then, in his WASPy way he tells me, “You’re old.” =)
.-= JenX´s Last Fabulous Post ..gen x halloween [casper the friendly ghost] =-.


Mama Zen October 2, 2009 at 12:53 pm

First, I love this idea!

I also love steaks on the grill, reading stories to my little girl, and losing myself in a really good movie.
.-= Mama Zen´s Last Fabulous Post ..Exclusive Interview =-.


Lance October 2, 2009 at 4:37 pm

Thanks so much, everyone, for continuing this on! Love is an amazing thing, and is something we can all relate to. On so many different levels, there is love. Fun love, serious love, romantic love, caring love, friend love,… And it’s all so good to express and share! You all have, and it continues to brighten my days, just reading these love-filled thoughts!


Chris Edgar October 3, 2009 at 2:45 pm

Thanks for this Lance. Recently I’ve been focusing on loving being alive, without focusing on any thing I want or goal I have. It’s amazing how my mind resists this — “no, it’s not enough just to be alive, you need to accomplish this and that!” Moments when that judging part is quiet and just existing is okay are wonderful to me.


Rose October 3, 2009 at 7:03 pm

Great idea for a post. Thinking back to earlier today……………I love the rainbow after the rain.
.-= Rose´s Last Fabulous Post ..Popular Halloween Costumes =-.


Mya the shih-tzu October 3, 2009 at 7:04 pm

I love peanut-butter and I love my Mommy.
.-= Mya the shih-tzu´s Last Fabulous Post ..Banana Peanut Butter Pupcakes =-.


Jannie Funster October 4, 2009 at 1:43 am

WHAT?!!?? I’m not even on your Top Talker list anymore??? See what happened when I Mach-Seventeened-ed off to Bulgaria and lost 3 days??

This will NOT do.

I’m blaming Hermann Shinglemeister on this one, that olde comment diluter!
.-= Jannie Funster´s Last Fabulous Post ..Hey, How ‘Bout A Show Tune! =-.


Jannie Funster October 4, 2009 at 1:45 am

Plus, no Sunday Thought For The Day yet, and I well and truly believe it is Sunday in many parts of the world, including Wisconsin and Texas.

Okay, I’ll keep F-5-ing for another 15 minutes then I’m hitting the hay.
.-= Jannie Funster´s Last Fabulous Post ..Hey, How ‘Bout A Show Tune! =-.


Jannie Funster October 4, 2009 at 1:46 am

Oh, that was fast!

I’m top talker now.

.-= Jannie Funster´s Last Fabulous Post ..Hey, How ‘Bout A Show Tune! =-.


Chris Edgar October 4, 2009 at 2:11 am

Oh, geez, Jannie, now someone’s going to see your three comments and raise you four.


Chris Edgar October 4, 2009 at 2:38 am

That was meant to be a joke, by the way. (This is why Jannie writes the funny blog and I don’t.)


Lisa October 5, 2009 at 7:04 am

I love life, learning and writing stories. 🙂
.-= Lisa´s Last Fabulous Post ..At the Window =-.


Lance October 5, 2009 at 7:42 am

Again, thank you, everyone, for continuing to share what love means – in so many beautiful ways! You are all awesome! And you are all loved here!

Jannie and Chris – you two put a whole bunch of fun into the love here too! And fun love is another awesome kind of love!!


Angel October 12, 2009 at 11:33 pm

Hi lance,

What an interesting topic.. Well i really like this subject i should say… nice job… 🙂
.-= Angel´s Last Fabulous Post ..Moving on =-.


Love's Leading Companion October 29, 2009 at 1:53 pm

Dear Lance, this is such a great inspirational blog! Thanks for sharing and delving further into this topic on love! 🙂 I love life, and I adore the memories that I carry with me in my heart 🙂 They have shaped me, softened me and inspired me and comforted, even soothed me and I count them a treasury collection! 😉 Lately, I love those things that stretch me to be all that I can be, and I love this new feeling of courage and birthing something new, that even still I do not yet fully realize, but somehow I’m learning to be okay with that. I love heart stuff everything! 😉 I love God, my hubby and my bunny companion, my family. I love journaling! As long as I have my journal and pen and well maybe a few books.. I’m so at home in Nature ~I love HER! 😉 Well, I better stop or I could fill up the entire box! 😉 I appreciate your friendship in my life also! Your blogs are such encouragement and always filled with ‘spirit’ 😉 blessings to you, Jen
.-= Love’s Leading Companion´s Last Fabulous Post ..Love in a Time of Global (Uncertainty)~Awakening: =-.


Lance November 2, 2009 at 3:54 am

@Angel – Thanks so much for stopping by!

@LLC – I love the energy you’ve shared in this comment, Jen! Love is so connecting and beautiful, isn’t it. And when you make that connection to love at a deeper level – wow! Jen, I’m the one who’s uplifted here today, and that’s your comment touching upon my heart…


anonymous February 7, 2010 at 9:54 pm

i love waking up on a saturday at five or six AM to a loud thunderstorm and then curling up under my blanket reading a good book and listening to the rain

I love those pillows you put in the microwave then you put on your face that smell like lavender


Lance February 9, 2010 at 6:33 pm

@Anonymous – Rain,, and a good thunderstorm sure can be so soothing to our souls (they are to mine!). Thanks so much for sharing a bit of what love means to YOU!


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