Relationship Success: A Labor of Love

by Kelly Sajonia on · 3 comments


To be successful in a relationship requires hard work.

This is something often said as advice or is an observation of what it takes to achieve a level of greatness in a relationship. It's true, but "hard work" as a description sounds exhausting, negative, and possibly frustrating; it doesn't sound fun.

Does this mean one should not work at our relationships?

No, of course not.

But instead of reading the statement as an act of drudgery, it should be seen as what it truly is: an opportunity to put forth an effort into something that is worth the work involved. It is best to turn around the perception of the work as something happily accomplished.

As for the work required in a loving relationship, it's easy most of the time. Work means remembering to say "I love you," being kind and considering, and expressing love in more ways than words. These few examples of "tasks" keep relationships successful, but also feel good for both people involved.

Sometimes the work is a bit more difficult. It might mean saying "I am sorry," forgiving a partner, or choosing compromise over a win in an argument. Like the easier work, these too lead to relationship success.

Similar to the work required in relationships, it's also hard work training for a marathon, learning to speak a foreign language, giving birth, completing a higher education degree, and raising kids. Ask anyone who has accomplished one of these rewarding endeavors if it was hard work, but also rewarding. As the cliché goes, it was most likely a labor of love for those who have achieved one or many of these undertakings.

Do the work-regardless of the level of difficulty–and enjoy the positive results.

It will be worth it.

by Kelly Sajonia

Kelly Sajonia is a writer for many sites, but spends most of her time writing for her award-winning blog Naked Girl in a Dress. Her inspirational blog celebrates rediscovering life and love at any age. Kelly also has a full service social media marketing business, runs a social media site for writers, teaches blogging, and occasionally takes a professional photography gig.
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Yum Yucky February 25, 2013 at 3:02 pm

I think about the first 4 years of my marriage and how difficult it was (and even beyond that). There’s so many who call it quits within 5 years or less. If they would just stick in there.. it’s sad to see people give up. I’m totally invested in my marriage. Giving up is not an option.
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Jen March 4, 2013 at 9:31 am

Love this article. Thanks for a valuable reminder that anything worthwhile is worth fighting for.
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bonooobong March 6, 2013 at 10:38 am

Hi Kelly, I totally admit it, it is really inspirational and motivational if you and your partner work on the same thing. It is some kind of competition, but the whole process is very very constructive and it increases the efficiency of the teamwork (in a good relationship of course). I speak about my own experiences, I am an architect/designer and my wife is an interior architect; we often work on the same project when it is about complex design. And I always enjoy to work with her, just like at the university when we had been students…
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